i know you probably don't care much abt the latest wave of ""discourse,"" especially not something that was done to be deliberately petty/to get attention, but. just to catch you up while you've been busy, at one point, ppl who want to exclude us tried to redesign the ace and aro flags. shit's gotten /that/ ridiculous.
this ask is 2 months old and i have not been paying any attention to ‘discourse’, so who knows what’s happening now because i sure as hell don’t. i will say, though. that i’m not surprised to hear that at one point that happened. to me, shit’s always been /that/ ridiculous…
to anyone being negatively affected by ‘discourse’ on this site:
please be sure to take a break from Tumblr when you need to. please take care of yourself and don’t let this site’s negativity consume you. log out every once in a while– even temporarily uninstall the Tumblr app off your phone and block the site on your computer. spend some time catching up on a good book, game or Netflix series; take a walk and revel in the fact that whatever trolls happen to be wasting their time doing, in that moment you are entirely beyond their reach. extend that moment for as long as you’d like– take up a new hobby, start a project, fix the chain on your bike,
finally finish something you’ve been meaning to do,
Tumblr can be overwhelming, but remind yourself of the positivity that exists both on and off Tumblr and how what happens on Tumblr isn’t exemplary of LGBTQIA communities at large. hell, the trolls themselves really are relatively few in number compared to those who are supportive of people like you and me; trolls just happen to be loud– as cries for attention often are.
but most importantly, remember that you’re never, ever alone. lots of people have your back. <3
okay but lena “i have no experience with genuine friends and i have no idea what i’m doing” luthor and kara “what are social cues” danvers inviting each other over for netflix and chill and not knowing what that actually is and literally just watching netflix together until one of them mentions some documentary they were watching while netflix and chilling and everyone just freaks the fuck out and alex chokes on her wine
Supercorp au where Kara swears when she’s stressed and her favorite phrases are “fuck” and “fuck me”. So much so that Lena has gotten accustomed to answering internally, thinking things like “yeah” “sure when” “your place or mine” “I really do want to dear, but I’m quite busy at the moment” and that one time she says it under her breath and Kara hears her, goes up to her and says, “did you just understand kryptonese?” “Yes” “and did you just reply ‘I want to’?” “Uh y-yes”
How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: Don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.
Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.
If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:
“You look so healthy!” is a great one.
Or how about, “You’re looking so strong.”
“I can see how happy you are — you’re glowing.”
Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.
Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.
Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.
Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say, “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.
Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.
Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.
Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.
Teach your daughter how to cook kale.
Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.
Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.
Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.
Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.
It features a canon lgbt relationship between a gay boy and a demisexual boy, a relationship that isn’t even a main focus of the books but still manages to contribute to both the plot and the character development.
A same-sex relationship that doesn’t end tragically, that shows these two characters staying together for years to come and leading a healthy domestic life with two cats, an apartment and a joint career.
A relationship that may not start out well, that is anything but love at first sight, but grows so much through personal struggles and mutual respect, and results in something worthwhile.
A relationship that places heavy emphasis not only on mutual consent, on learning and supporting, on protection and respect, but also on individual independence.
A relationship that doesn’t cast other characters to the sidelines, that isn’t the main character’s only source of happiness, because it takes more than romance to develop a character.
A relationship with a goddamn happy ending that feels entirely deserving for both characters because this is how they love, this is how they overcome their past, this is how they grow, not dependent on each other but side-by-side.
Just a goddamn happy same-sex relationship that doesn’t end in death or separation and that involves characters actually learning to respect and love each other basically???
It kneels at the site of the destroyed Skyhold with a shield raised over his head, on top of it shattered ‘eluvians’ and the landscape of the Fade, revealed to the mortal world through the sundering of the Veil by the hands of the Dread Wolf.
There is no name carved at his feet, no dates. Only a man in pale stone with his shield with his back at the sky, kneeling in front of us the mortal, living spectators with reverence.
Only one sentence can be found, worn away from the winds: “Your springs and rivers are poisoned will our blood.”
The last of us are dying, but we fought for our world to the bitter end.