not romantically though

A story from the line at McDonald's
  • Me: okay so my sexuality's a complicated deal so let's just call me queer as hell
  • Friend: nono I wanna know can't you explain it
  • Me: well ok mainly I am asexual which means I don't want to do the do nor do I long for it, so it has nothing to do with lack of confidence or anything like that, I simply don't find anyone sexually attractive
  • Friend: right right
  • Me: but I'm also bi romantic. The sexual and romantic attraction are different, and I still fall in love and want to have physical contact with my partner, I just don't need the hanky panky
  • Friend: right cause you have a girlfriend that's pansexual right
  • Me: exactly and as long as we're both happy with not doing the rumba naked, that's a valid relationship
  • Friend: I get it, I get it... I didn't know the entire sexual and romantic orientations were different
  • Me: yeah I know it was an eyeopener for me when I found ou-
  • Lady behind us in line: excuse me so sorry but I couldn't help but overhear but I didn't know half of what you just said and I was just wondering what that thing your girlfriend was is, pansexual?
  • Me: *awkward glance at friend* oh uh I'm not an expert or anything and uh ok so basically it's similar to being bisexual, but there's less value in what gender the one you're attracted to is, at least as I understood it. So a bisexual would be attracted to a person despite their gender, a pansexual wouldn't really care at all in a way uh I'm sorry I'm bad at explaining
  • Lady behind us in line: that's alright I can look it up myself later you gave me a general idea! So where did you find out these things, you're pretty young?
  • Me: well, Internet. Once you're a bit confused about what you might be you usually go looking for explanations...
  • Lady behind us in line: so uh in theory... It's fine if you don't know, I just want to check with you... Is there a thing called aROMANTIC? like you're asexual, is there a equivalent to the romantic orientation you mentioned?
  • Me: oh yeah, absolutely! You can be both asexual and aromantic, or aromantic and heterosexual, literally all combinations are possible!
  • Lady behind us in line: *smiles LIKE REALLY GODDAMNED GENUINELY* thank you so much, I did not know that. *fishes up phone from pocket* now if you excuse me, I'm going to call my mother and tell her I'm not crazy for never having been married or stayed with one guy for long despite being 50+ but still has three children! *steps out of line and walks off while dialing*
  • Friend: wow that was... Amazing
  • Me: see how happy she got? That's the power of right information.
  • And that's why I've been smiling since this happened.
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Because no one plays with Min Min when it comes to food (∩˃o˂∩)♡

How I imagine BTS sexually:

A drabble no one asked for, lol. This is my opinion (influenced by astrology). Let me know who you think you’d be the most sexually compatible with. 

Jin: Nurturing, makes you feel safe. Likes emotional connection, finds it difficult to not get attached to someone he sleeps with. Sensual, tender and romantic. Not very adventurous but wants to please. Traditional but can use sex to make himself feel wanted. Not vocal about what he wants. Loves breasts. Likes to be in charge.

Yoongi: Daddy kink. Younger partner kink. Mixture of dominant and tender like saying gently but demandingly, “Cum for daddy.” Tells you what he wants. Bold, abrupt. Does things like push you onto the bed roughly but then kisses you sweetly. Is quicker to get to the point. Likes spontaneous sex, like especially a quickie in a strange place. Can get turned on by spanking.

Hoseok: Literally down for anything, so experimental. Really eager to please, like, he gets his kinks from pleasuring you. Very kinky. Has a thing for phone sex. Foreplay is in the mind, likes to build up mentally for a long time before fucking. Has a thing for quirky people. Can get bored, wants to keep bringing in new things. Can also be very romantic though. Will love your body and praise it. Very verbal. Loves a great ass.

Namjoon: Daddy kink. Wants to feel like he’s taking care of you. Romantic, wants to spoil you. Likes it rough, light BDSM. Dominant but will be submissive every now and then. Gets turned on easily. Likes the whole body but especially the breasts. Definitely prefers being in a relationship to have sex. Very passionate. Experience may be extremely intense.

Jimin: Thinks about sex all the time. Really is walking sex with an innocent smile. Prefers relationships. Experimental. Dominant and submissive. Gets a kink from you denying him his orgasm, but gets even more turned on by making you beg. Powerful sex. Passionate. Needs sex often. Likes playing mental games, likes to think he has the upper hand mentally. Loves blow jobs. Small things about a body can turn him on but he’s an ass guy. Eye-contact. Takes his time, really experiences it. Long foreplay.

Taehyung: Kinky, like very kinky. Dominant af, like even when he’s trying to be submissive he’s in charge. Major stamina. Loves taking you from behind and has a major love for asses. Can control sex drive to play games. Likes a partner who knows what they’re doing. Instantly picks up on sexual vibes from people. Patient. Gives a lot and wants a lot. Gets kinks from discretion, doesn’t want people to know about your sexual relations. Matureness turns him on. Makes love for a long time. Likes spanking. Moans loudly. Likes build up.

Jungkook: Can be awks at first. Boy is sexual af. Always horny. Loves oral- like loves blowjobs so much. Wants you to beg. Can be primal- fucks hard. Likes all positions. Foreplay is key, can go for so long. Actually low-key romantic when in relationship. Sex is intense and he doesn’t want a partner who giggles or makes it seem like it’s light-hearted. Very taboo, will try all sorts of things. Sex is a huge part of his life and he associates a lot of power with it. Wants to develop sexual relationships and try new things. Possessive. Needs privacy. Don’t tell other people about what you do behind closed doors- it’ll piss him off. Can let sex consume him. Grabs your ass roughly. Wants you to be tender to him. Snuggles after.

anonymous asked:

Not sure you got my ask about the last coldflash scene, about the poking scene. I want to know your thoughts about that. It was such a sweet moment from len it totally caught me off guard.

Originally posted by vixenvibe

It gets me, anon. It really does. 

Like here Len is giving Barry advice. Acknowledging there’s a dark side to him and agreeing that it’s what allows them to get along. That it’s what makes so they can understand each other. We know that Barry inspires Len (thanks to the speedforce), and has an impact on him, especially as of 2x03. But the last time Len saw Barry, he was still in denial of that, of wanting to be a hero.

Originally posted by dailycaptaincold

For Len, assuming this is a Legends S1 Len, that was only a few months ago. He wasn’t ready to commit back then. But then Barry comes along and again asks for his help, this time purely for the “true love” motive of saving Iris, and Len actually gives in and says yes this time. He comes along. He helps Barry while demanding nothing in return, except the joy and satisfaction of breaking into ARGUS and pissing off Joe West, presumably.

And it’s so interesting to me, that he’s gone through these stages, of denying he wants to be a hero and denying he has good in him, to going on the Legends trip while pretending (including to himself) that he has ulterior motives, to accepting that… what Barry sees in him is real. That the good part of him is real, however he tried to hide it. 

And that leads to this understanding that maybe why Barry could get through to him in the first place, why he ended up having a soft spot for the kid and making sure he didn’t die (despite betraying him) and why he made a deal with him in the first place, just all of it… maybe that came about in part of because what he sees in Barry. What they understand about each other.

Because Len puts his bad face out to the world and Barry puts his good face out. And Len sees underneath and around that happy mask Barry sometimes wears. In the woods, Barry threatened him, said that if Len goes after his family again, he doesn’t care, he’ll take Len down.

Originally posted by flashallens

There was a mutual understanding there, and I think Len saw it then, but didn’t quite understand fully what it was, yet. Barry’s capacity to be ruthless.

But now… now they’re in different positions. Barry doesn’t just have that latent potential, he’s starting to act on it, and Len sees it. Sees that Barry picked him for this job in part because of it, because he didn’t expect Len, of all people, to call him out on being ruthless and willing to kill.

But of course, Len is contrary and has gotta defy expectations,right? Because as the guy who was inspired by Barry in the first place, that’s troublesome. The heroes, the guys like Barry, are supposed to try and be better. They’re supposed to be what you aspire to.

But it’s also understandable, because he’s been there, he gets it. So when Barry doesn’t leave him behind, proves that the good in him still outweighs the darkness Len knows, has felt, can feel, he takes a little risk in expressing his relief, in his own way, and reminds Barry of the important role he fills, as a hero.

Originally posted by comicbookdaily

The role that he fits in Len’s life, though he doesn’t say it, as an inspiration to him. The Flash is a hero. Should stay that way. You should stay that way, Barry. Leave the killing to guys like me. Your suit doesn’t need the dust and tarnish, let me clean off those specks of lint and help keep your image clean.

Right?

It’s just a lovely moment, highlighting all the ways that they foil each other. And it surprised me with the openness, but given just how open Barry’s been with him, and how Barry’s seen him at some of his most vulnerable, and how Len’s in this kind of different place and recognizes that their dynamic has evolved and he’s in a position to affirm Barry and admonish him and also, maybe, do some inspiring of his own, to keep Barry on the path of the light? He takes that chance. He repays the trust Barry has in him in kind.

From the absolute bottom of my heart, I want to thank the a-spec community for always being there when I needed it.

When I didn’t have an account yet and sent asks to blogs for a-spec people, asking to learn, asking for help because I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. And they told me that nothing was wrong, that I might be like them and I belonged if I wanted to stay.

When I was a terrified kid who thought I had know everything about myself right away or else I was faking, tearing myself apart with contradictions. And I looked in the ace and aro tags, and I calmed down when I saw people saying that it was okay not to know, that it didn’t make you wrong to be unsure.

When I came face-to-face with my debilitating fear of attraction and sexuality and pushed all of it down so deep I nearly forgot about it, I found the label aroace. And I used it, delighted to have a word to describe myself even though it didn’t quite fit, secure in the knowledge that I belonged somewhere.

When I called a suicide hotline and bawled about being aro, ace, and agender, because I thought no one would ever love me, only to have my dad call me a nothing who loves nothing to my face right after. And I cried to bloggers through asks, and they told me that he was wrong, that I would be loved and I could love, that I was not subhuman and cold for my orientation.

When I explored my identity more and experimented with romantic attraction, trying demirom and panrom, asking ace bloggers if it was okay to change my labels like this. And they said that if I felt like a label no longer fit me, I could do some thinking and try another one as many times as I needed until I found one that was right.

When I had my first squish and fell into a crisis because I thought it was romantic or even sexual attraction that I felt. And they explained to me, lovingly and patiently, about QPRs and platonic attraction, telling me it was normal.

When I switched back to aroace after three years of identifying as panrom ace because I understood that I never felt romantic attraction even though I love my fiance more than anything. And I happily told my favorite bloggers about my discovery, to which they replied that they were proud of me.

When I used the discourse as emotional self-harm and dissociated because of the disconnect between what I was reading and what I had lived through. And the community gathered around me and protected me and helped me even as I broke down.

When I rediscovered my fear of attraction and sexuality and finally understood the root of it, pushing through until I truly knew myself. And they were happy for me, even though I left behind the community that has been with me for so long.

I’m a gay trans man who has struggled with internalized homophobia and a horrific fear of sexuality to the point that I essentially forced myself not to feel any kind of attraction. I’m not completely comfortable with myself yet. I don’t quite fully understand my identity yet. I could be grey ace or demi, but I also could not.

Aphobes love to use people like me as some sort of twisted pawn, but they don’t see the whole story.

Yes, I identified as a-spec because of internalized homophobia, but if I had never found the community, I would still be that terrified little kid who thought he was broken, cold, wrong, subhuman, and dirty. I would never have discovered as much about myself as I have. I would never have been able to openly, happily, proudly call myself gay without the a-spec community’s love, support, and encouragement to learn and grow.

I probably wouldn’t even be alive.

Thank you all so, so much. I love every one of you, and I am so sorry this discourse is still going on, because you don’t deserve it. They don’t understand what this community means to people, even to those who quite possibly no longer fall on the a-spectrum.

With everything I have, with all my love, thank you so much for always being such a wonderful community of caring individuals.

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So I really wanted to draw Keith in a female disguise and it kinda turned into this Rival Spy AU where Shiro and Keith work for different sides (Voltron and Galra). I have plenty of headcannons I want to draw in the future but basically for now, they have secret romantic rendezvous (though, most of them are unplanned like shown above) and Keef just seriously needs a chill pill (he’s a paranoid bby)…

Keith just came from an undercover mission and he’s still on the edge. Poor Keef is stressed okay? Shiro is cute but isn’t helping…

Sheith!Rival Spy AU: (1), (2)

I don’t hate Kate.
I hate the fact that Telltale are REALLY trying to push this romance, and in episode 3 they basically made it cannon that Javi has feelings for her. So much for having a choice, huh?

anonymous asked:

When do you think Lexa started having feelings for Clarke? Btw I looooooveee the stuff you write <3

I have no doubt that this is when Lexa developed feelings for Clarke. Before their “adventure” with Pauna, the way I see it, Clarke had already evoked intense feelings in Lexa, though not romantic. Everyone has a different opinion about Clarke and Lexa, but no one can say they were ever indifferent to each other. 

Lexa is captivated by Clarke from the moment they meet. She is wary but she is intrigued, she is interested, she is fascinated. This young woman fallen from the sky is her enemy and yet Lexa can’t deny the similarities between them. That interest quickly turns into respect. After Clarke kills Finn, Lexa stays with her during the whole funeral and at the end she opens up to Clarke, sharing her painful past and her way of trying to cope with that pain. Love is weakness. We know that in reality Lexa feels A LOT, but that’s not my point here. My point is that, in the only way she knows, she tries to support Clarke. Lexa’s philosophy in later episodes is analyzed in relation to both hers and Clarke’s leadership roles, but in that scene the focus is curiously on their personal feelings. Love, pain, grief. And sure, Lexa is such a wonderfully nuanced character that she manages to also tackle the struggles of leadership during her brief exchange with Clarke, but her first and main focus there is on Clarke’s feelings. She offers her what little comfort she can by revealing to Clarke that she experienced that same loss, that same pain, and by giving her a suggestion to deal with that pain. Lexa wouldn’t open up like that with anyone. She feels a connection with Clarke, right from the start, and probably stronger than she even realizes. That funeral scene is a game changer. It’s a step towards something, but no one knows what that ‘something’ is yet.

It’s not a coincidence that at the beginning of the following episode, this happens.

And then Lexa saves Clarke’s life and Clarke saves Lexa’s and they end up trapped together and Clarke tends to her wounded arm and I could go on forever listing everything that happens between them in that episode. As they are stuck together Clarke proceeds to amuse Lexa with her stubbornness and fire, to impress her with her intelligence and resourcefulness, to touch her with her kindness.

And after Clarke finds a way to get them out, they stop to rest and Lexa spends the night watching over Clarke. She is injured and in pain, but she stays awake and alert and ready to protect Clarke. I can’t get over how beautiful this entire scene is, how intimate. From Clarke’s immediate concern for Lexa. “How’s your arm?” to Lexa admitting to Clarke she was wrong and recognizing her value and strength. I won’t talk about that here, I’ll leave that for another post. But by the end of the scene… we get this.

And this is the moment I believe Lexa realized she had feelings for Clarke. PS. I remember Kim, I think, making a comment about how the heart-eyes were at least in part in the script, so this look is intentional. Yeah, Lexa tries to close her heart and not to care, but you can literally see in her eyes that she realized it’s far too late not to care about Clarke.

anonymous asked:

Honestly when I saw the picture of Dean looking up at Cas next episode, the first thing I thought about was Dean looking up and seeing Cas when he came to save him from hell. Maybe it was something with the lights or with Dean's expression, I don't know, but that's the first thing I thought about and I was reminded how incomprehensible Cas must have seemed to Dean at the time... It's such a romantic and heroic story

I know what you mean, but given that Dean doesn’t remember it, it’s hard for me to think of that part of their relationship as romantic… but yeah incomprehensible would definitely be it if he remembered!!

You know what IS romantic though and a standard trope in romances? (And I can’t help but think of all the times that balcony and those stairs are associated with Cas, even when the brothers come down the stairs talking about him…).

1. The Romeo and Juliet Balcony / Lovers trope.

Annnnnnd I’m gonna leave this one right here for fun too :)


2. The lovers gaze up trope in a range of other forums.

Originally posted by joleenalice

Originally posted by gifthesilverscreen


3. The lover’s gaze up in SPN, but let’s be fair you know, I’m sure they aren’t aware and this is a total accident.

Bela & Dean

Originally posted by castielamigos

Dean & Cas

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Cas & Dean

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DEAN & CAS 12x19

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So, umm…..

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