not really but it was not working out trying to equalize them all

It’s not easy being a jock, man.  You’ve got to work out a lot, shop right, eat right, beta males never treat you like an equal or with any decency because they’re always so jealous and insecure, you want to fuck constantly which makes it hard to do some lame office job… people don’t really realize.  I catch guys staring at my biceps and chest all the time, but they don’t even pass on a compliment, they just look away like I’m too dumb to see them look.  It’s hard to find a hot guy to hook up with, as most people don’t even try or take care of themselves very well.  Fuck, so tired of this shit tonight.  Wish there were more guys like me in my neighborhood.  I could go with a tight, hard ass to fuck with…another red-blooded American male under me, grunting and groaning and telling me that I’m a stud or hot as fuck.  A lot of these losers just want you to come over and do all the work for them.  They’ve got hardly anything to say in chat…one sentence or two, a few abbreviations, idiotic emoticons.  Their abs and pecs are a joke, just like their haircuts.  Weak, whiny voices; they want to sigh and moan while I manhandle them.  Not interested.

okay but what if jungkook used to tease jimin by not calling him ‘hyung’ because he wants Jimin to see him as someone equal as him not as the youngest member in the group, because he don’t want jimin to love him as a baby brother he don’t want jimin to love him because he is cute and because he is the youngest among them, because he wants jimin to see him as a man that he could love and could love him back too so thats why he always making fun of Jimin also thats why jungkook works out a lot because kids are not supposed to have muscles right? kids are not supposed to look sexy right? that way maybe his jimin hyung will look at him as a man

anonymous asked:

Wasn't really trying to set up a gotcha, was more trying to work out my own bafflement about the existence and success of feminism.

I don’t think most feminists think of themselves as trying to favor their own interests over men’s. They buy into the privileged/oppressed scale, and they want to make things “equal” in a vague sense that breaks down if you try to actually examine it. More well-thought-out strains manage to avoid this, of course, but the rank and file really doesn’t. We can’t just have advocacy for male abuse victims without hand-wringing over whether or not they’re oppressed.

While we’re at it, I think the category of “women’s issues” isn’t all that useful either. Rape is bad, harassment is bad, access to contraception is good, forcing gender roles on people is bad. There are gendered dynamics surrounding those things that are important to keep in mind when trying to address them, and many disproportionately affect women, but it’s not clear to me why we should think of them primarily as “women’s issues,” with the obvious exception of abortion.

if you find yourself on multiple occasions typing things like “how to get your partner to love you” into google… leave them. you are not responsible for teaching someone how to be with you. it should be easy being with you. when plain communication of “i need X, you need Y” isn’t working? the fact is that they’re not really trying. don’t waste your breath talking in circles. don’t have the “i need you to do better” conversation again. find someone who is better. love is a give and take. when you are constantly having to beg for a gift, it ruins it. when you have to be the one to facilitate all the emotional bits of the relationship, it is not an equal situation. get out. the person who will want to make you happy - who will mess up a lot but will try - is out there. and you deserve that.

anonymous asked:

I've never finished (or gotten passed the third chap) a book I write and bc of that ive trashed great ideas. Writing prompts don't work for me at all! I really have no idea what else I can do ideas?

Have you tried outlining? Sometimes outlining can be just as hard as writing a first draft, but if you’re able to sit down and think through an outline, it can really do wonders. You’re able to focus on the content of what you’re writing instead of wondering what will happen next. I recommend Googling “story outlines” and try out a couple of formulas to see what works best for you.

If you have tried outlining with equally unsuccessful results, then let’s try making it a simpler process. Think of 3 scenes for your story. Three scenes. That’s it. 

Scene 1: Introduce your characters and give them a problem. 

Scene 2: Imagine the absolute worst way that this problem could escalate and write it happening. 

Scene 3: Decide how the problem solves itself (whether happy or sad), and then brainstorm what the characters do after the problem is over. Write a scene showing that. 

Forget transitions. Forget foreshadowing, subplots, backstory. I want you to focus on 3 parts of the story that are usually the most fun to write and enjoy writing them. 

  • The First Scene

We like beginnings, especially ones that start in the middle of everything. It’s like when you’re watching a TV show and someone walks in that’s never seen it before - it’s fun to see how they respond to a world they know absolutely nothing about. Do they think the characters are funny? Are they intrigued by the plot? Do they care about conflicts that they don’t fully understand (yet)? Write your world as if you have no need to explain anything. Assume a reader needs no backstory and can follow whatever you do. (I discussed this tactic more in a post from August)

  • The Second Scene

This is your climax. This is the moment when the protagonist is put to the ultimate test, and this is the moment where the antagonist almost wins (and sometimes does!) and it’s the moment where a conflict gets to a point that it can no longer continue - it has to be resolved in some form or another. The climax is the part that a lot of us dream of writing about. It’s the scene we constantly think about as we’re brainstorming, and this act of fantasizing the climax keeps us inspired and engaged in our story. Write it as your second scene. 

  • The Third Scene

Take your climax, and then jump ahead to a week after. What has happened to your characters? What did the climax do to their lives? How have they adapted? Have the events of the climax left them devastated or broken? Are they stuck with no idea where to go next? Consider what has happened to your characters and write the last scene of the novel. Where do you leave these characters when the reader closes the book? This is your falling action, or your denouement. This is the conclusion. 

Instead of focusing on beginning, middle, end, focus on beginning, climax, resolution. Imagine scenes for these three things, and then write them! There are lots of outline plans out there that ask you to figure these three things out, and then to go back through and outline the rest. Forget outlining the rest. Just write these three scenes. 

Once you’ve written those scenes, choose one and build off of it. If you choose the first scene, you could write a follow-up scene (or scene 1.5). If you choose the climax, you might decide to write a scene that comes before the climax, or you might choose to explore what happened during that week between the climax and the resolution. 

The key here is that if you write those three scenes, you’ve written a complete narrative. You’ve got a beginning and an ending. It’s a draft, believe it or not. Then you just have to decide if it’s a draft you’re willing to work with, or if you want to start over with three new scenes. 


If none of this works for you, don’t get discouraged. Sometimes you just have to keep experimenting with different ideas until you find one that you really, really love. If you find characters you’re attached to, however, just keep putting them in different situations until it gets interesting. Characters can be harder to develop so if you’ve taken time to create characters, don’t throw them in the trash. Keep using them with different ideas until you find the perfect one for them. 


reblog if you equally stan ot9 and love each and every one of them

we really need to stop excluding lay/yixing from the members. remember when he said that his only wish is for the exo members to be happy? or how he bought lucky charms just for each of them to bring propserity? or how he cried because he felt like a disappointment to his fellow members and exo-l’s for not participating in most of their schedule.  

he vowed to not leave the members without at least one chinese member to represent them as a group with a certain degree of diversity. he vowed to go with the members all the way and wish to work with them eternally. it’s these kind of things that make him such a loyal human being. look at how he talks about his members, the language and manner he uses shows his admiration and appreciation for them. yet, assholes out there find it amusing and the right thing to do is to bash him or even crop him out of a picture. 

stop trying to take granted of the internet as a platform where you can just chastise people when you don’t personally know who they are, their background and their feelings. stop making up shit about a person when you know nothing. 

stop it. it isn’t a joke. it’s rude. 

In addition the supporting cast, including Kit Harrington, Taron Egerton and Colin Morgan additionally present likable, sympathy-provoking characters that work well together on screen to portray young Oxford school friends whose lives change dramatically due to war. These characters are individual, distinctive characters that clearly have their own depth within the film. This attracts the audience, and affects them even more as they become invested in their lives and their stories as well as Vera’s. Harington, Egerton and Morgan, all displayed a clear sense of progression in their characters and how the war changed them… The three males all showed the ability to convey what their characters were thinking without using dialogue. When any were conflicted or trying to hide something, it was clear for the audience to see, which I found really gave a deeper insight into those characters, enforcing more of a connection between character and audience.

Colin Morgan’s ‘Victor’ stood out as a smaller character with so much likability. His story, to me, was equally as tragic and provoking as the others. Morgan presented Victor in a way that made the audience feel sorry for him; not because of unrequited love, but of what he, too, suffers during the war. Morgan’s ability to tell the audience so much more about his character than the visuals and dialogue does is mesmerising, and at specific moments in the film, you can pinpoint what he is thinking and why he has said or done a certain thing, which really steals the scene.

—  Jade Morris, Film reviewer of Testament of Youth (x)

anonymous asked:

Can I please get some advice. My sibling came out as trans to me and would now like to be called male pronouns. I don't have any issue with it, but after 17 years of using female pronouns it's a bit of a habit. I'm really struggling to get my brain to drop the habit so I can be more supportive but it's not working

I understand your situation as recently my own sibling came out to me as gender fluid and started using they/them pronouns and a name they feel comfortable with. All I can really tell you is that it takes practice and commitment. I started by changing their name in my phone to the correct name and saying it out loud when I see them, when I talk about them, and when I think about them. It is really hard, and it won’t change over night. But your sibling will see you trying and that will mean something to them. After a while it gets easier and then it just becomes the norm for you. Good luck, and congrats to your brother! 

-The Daily Feminist 

Right now I’m really hoping FYZ has some motivation from inside, the promise of getting tickets, pictures with the boys, some merch, IDK, a sandwich. If they’re doing all of this for free they’re a very sad bunch.

Let us pray for their souls.

I’ve made a male character who’s gonna seem like a “player” at first glance, but the readers learn that he is actually a really doting, polyamorous sweetheart who is dating like 6 people simultaneously, because he adores them all equally

and he has a dayplanner (that ppl mistake for his “black book”) until one day, someone trying to ruin his reputation sees a date where he literally goes out to the movies with like all his partners at the same time and they think he’s being a bold cheater

but really he actually IS dating all of those people at once and they all are aware of and super cool with it and the petty person has LITERALLY been told/given hints that he is happily polyamorous since the beginning

also the hilarity when “going out with the boys” literally means going out with all of them. on a date. at the same time

also all of this works because his “quirk” in the story is that he’s immensely good at budgeting his time, (scarily so) so he almost always knows how to balance multiple jobs, school, and/or relationships in a really efficient manner. And because of his day jobs (and upringing tbh) he’s financially well off enough to buy nice things for others and make ends meet.
He’s always had/earned what he wanted or needed growing up that he doesn’t spend frivolously for himself, and his thing, like everyone else’s, in this story, is figuring out what’s “missing.” For him, it’s finding out that he can love more than one person, and it’s not weird.