A Perspective On Gossip
Most social issues stem from gossip, in High school and in college. Gossiping is one way to break someone’s image, and as teenagers our image or reputation is something we like to maintain.
But as we grow older, some people stop caring of what other people think about them. Why is that? In a recent conversation with a friend, he told me of a quote which said “Let people talk about who they think you are.” - Anonymous
He said that he found the quote funny because it was enlightening and deceivingly beneficial at the same time.
I asked him how he found it that way, and he said “Because taking the quote as it is, it’s like talking about someone that doesn’t exist. Think about it, these people are most likely judging a person based on something they think is happening to him/her, and this thing might not even be happening to the person at all. It’s like shadow boxing but hitting as if someone is really there and saying that you are a better fighter. It’s like a bridge made with unstable material, because it’s all theory and projected perspective.”
So I asked him, “But what if you were the person in that gossip? Wouldn’t you be offended because of the lies that are being fed to people you haven’t even met?”
and he answered “See that’s the thing, I’m a person who believes in the truth, the logical truth, moral truth, and emotional truth so it doesn’t bother me because just like you said. It’s a lie! It’s something that can be easily stepped on by the truth.”
It made me think for a bit, then I asked. “But what if the information they passed around was the truth? Wouldn’t you be offended?”
He sighed and answered, “My friend, if a truth about you is something you wish not to be. Then this is where you start to live a lie, remember that the truth is not what you want it to be. It is something that exists whether you like it or not, you must bend to it’s power or live a lie. That was a quote by Miyamoto Musashi. When you apply this in your life, it’s like he’s saying that there is a choice when you are facing the truth. We can only be offended by a truth about ourselves if we wish to be offended by it, it usually depends on your perspective and attitude.”