not following a fad

So I watched To the Bone on Netflix and it was actually great in my opinion. I watched it as soon as I woke up.
I think that Luke was a great character really, he was literal sunshine in the darkness and i think it somewhat showed how he wanted to get better, but still struggled to. I loved his personality, even when it came off as annoying to some.
(Spoiler ahead!)
At the end when eli woke up and realized she wasn’t dead was really a eye opener for me, personally. She went back to make herself better and it made me realize that it’s not healthy at all and I’m slowly dying. At first it was sorta triggering, it was almost thinspo for me. But then as i watched on, I realized how scary a eating disorder can be, and once I reach my goal weight, it’s not really the end. I won’t stop, because I’ll continue to starve myself until I’m dead.
I also liked it because it shows guys can struggle with eating disorders. In the beginning I didn’t know Luke had one (although I should’ve known because where Eli went and the treatment place, but I’m stupid so) but he didn’t look clichely sick or act that way. I also like how they showed eating disorders in different ways. They had a girl who was african american and she wasn’t thin, which in real life people wouldn’t think she had a problem. Also one of the girls look really young? It kinda shows an eating disorder can take place young or old.
Also I know some people are upset with the use of words like “retarded” and the phrase “calorie aspergers.” I don’t blame them, although it is a movie and they could easily avoided those words, I think it shows how people won’t filter themselves in the real world. They’ll say what they want, offensive or not, they won’t sugar coat it. Of course some people do avoid those words but not everyone is as careful.
Another thing, Eli was 20 years old, I think that was good because a lot of people (or people I know) think it’s some fad for teens to follow, when it’s not. Although Eli wasn’t much older, it still sorta shows that eating disorders can take place in the young or older. This post was a wreck of my thoughts but, I recommend people watch it, not everyone obviously, but I really think it was a great movie.

@liannegetsfit submitted: 

 13 weeks and 7.5kg weight loss in between these two pics! My height is 166cm. I followed the BBG workout regime from Kayla Itsines, and made sure that this time I didn’t follow any fad diets. I eat whole, natural foods most of the time, but allow myself to eat small amounts of WHATEVER I’m craving. I never restrict myself if I really want something, because I want this to be something I can continue doing for the rest of my life.

See more Before and After weight loss pictures  or  SUBMIT yours.

Right, so now that I have revealed myself to be actual Ladybug trash, time to make this one post that’s been on my mind for a while. If you don’t follow me for Miraculous Ladybug stuff (a.k.a. all my followers) then sorry about this.

So, a big fad throughout the fandom at the moment is giving Miraculouses to the supporting cast, and I am SO BEHIND THIS. It would develop the show beyond the status quo and freshen it up spectacularly across seasons, because if it keeps being a magical girl monster-of-the-week show with wacky antics ad nauseum then I’m going to probably lose interest fairly quickly. Some of the most popular miraculous assignments are Alya receiving the fox miraculous, Nino receiving the turtle miraculous ( @thelastpilot ) and alternatively Lila receiving the real, actual fox miraculous. I’m going to throw my two cents in on what thematically would work with the rest of the show.

First of all, we know three miraculous holders for definite and one for almost definite. Marinette is Ladybug, Adrien is Cat Noir, Master Fu is the unnamed turtle hero and the likelihood is Gabriel is Hawkmoth/Papillon. The thing is, if you look at miraculous holders and their miraculouses, a pattern of character starts emerging.

Let’s start with Marinette.

Marinette is, in short, a clumsy klutz with terrible luck, who normally you wouldn’t trust with giving an ounce of responsibility to – not because she wouldn’t take it seriously, but because she seems totally incompetent. The ladybug miraculous, on the other hand, is the miraculous of luck itself, with the most responsibility of all the miraculouses – and indeed, when Marinette transforms into Ladybug, almost all her clumsiness goes straight out the nearest window and she gains HUGE amounts of responsibility – she’s the one responsible for cleaning up the mess after an Akuma attack. The miraculous is not given to Marinette because she’s the best person for the job – far from it, she acknowledges in the origins episode Alya would be a far better fit. However, what’s important is that she has the capacity to grow into the role of Ladybug – and she well and truly does.

Now, let’s look at Adrien.

Adrien is a rich kid who’s incredibly lucky – he’s had everything fall into his lap from a young age, and has had competence (fencing, multilingualism etc.) drilled into him, at the cost of not being able to loosen up and socialise. His miraculous transforms him into Cat Noir, the poster boy for destruction and bad luck, with a kwami, Plagg, who’s constantly getting himself into the kind of destructive shenanigans you’d expect from Marinette through his own hedonism. See the pattern? Adrien and Marinette both receive the miraculouses that don’t represent them – they represent everything they aren’t – but everything they could be if they developed.

Now let’s look at Master Fu and Gabriel, because they’re a little different, but equally as important.

Master Fu, on the surface, seems like an ideal fit for the turtle in terms of alignment. The turtle in symbolism represents age, wisdom, protection. Master Fu stands for all these things – but Master Fu is a miraculous holder beyond his prime. He is at the end of his development. I have a feeling if we ever saw young Fu, we’d see him as a figure of youthful energy, who just wants to let loose and have fun, possibly even be anti-authoritarian when it comes to adults. This should sound true of another character in the show, and I’ll get back to that.

Gabriel, if everything is hinting at what we think it’s hinting at, however, does not fit the butterfly miraculous at all. The butterfly represents stages of life, and change, moving on, transformation. It’s heavily hinted Gabriel’s wife is dead – at the very least, Hawkmoth/Papillon has Adrien’s mother’s picture in his locket. Hawkmoth/Papillon’s goal now seems to be to attain the miraculouses so he can resurrect his dead wife. He’s not accepting death, and he’s not accepting the creed of his miraculous – he’s rejecting it, twisting it, corrupting it, thus becoming the supervillain who uses his Kwami’s powers against their will.

When a miraculous is granted to an owner, they can choose to learn from it, or reject it. But most importantly, they are granted to people who lack the qualities their miraculouses represent – their character flaws are what the miraculous works to iron out. That being said, let’s look at Lila.

Lila is a compulsive liar. Her Akumatised form is presumably the actual hero that emerges from the fox miraculous – a hero of lies and illusions. This is unhealthy for her – the miraculous isn’t helping her overcome her weaknesses, it’s only accentuating her character flaws. Lila will never grow as a person if she truly becomes Volpina.

So who actually needs secrets, lies and illusions in their life? Well, it’d be someone for whom truth is all-consumingly destructive. Someone whose self-destructive pursuit of the truth puts not only herself, but other people in the line of fire, and whose Akumatised form represents truth at all costs. I’m talking, of course, about Alya.

This is why fox!Alya appeals to me so much – because Alya would be able to learn and grow from the fox miraculous, because it represents traits that she needs to attain. Now, let’s look at the other popular miraculous assignment – turtle!Nino. That thing I mentioned earlier? Here it comes again.

Nino is the epitome of youthful vigour in the show – everything from his style to his DJing to his horribly outdated slang in the English dub (seriously, who the hell is a Totally Radical Dude in the 21st Century!? No-one. No-one is who.) His Akumatised form is Bubbler, a childish clown who tries to exile all adults. If there’s one person in the show who NEEDS the turtle miraculous and its traits of wisdom, age and protection, it’s Nino. This miraculous was MADE for Nino – right down to the outdated slang, providing an added meta bonus to the English dub that Nino becomes a massive allusion to the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.

This is why I love fox!Alya and turtle!Nino – because they work thematically with who has already received miraculouses. This begs the question – what happens to Lila?

I’d like to suggest something I think no-one else has thought of. I present, a digression: Peacock!Lila.

Peacocks are about vision, kind-heartedness and integrity – the peacock miraculous represents everything the fox miraculous doesn’t. If Lila became the peacock miraculous hero, she’d learn and develop SO MUCH MORE than if she became Volpina. She’d truly have the redemption and character arc that she needs – she’d learn there are more ways to solve a problem than lies, and that truth can be just as valuable. Likewise, this is why Peacock!Alya would actually be unhealthy for her – because it would only drive her even deeper into her already destructive drive for truth and justice.

This is what I call the Miraculous Character Development Theory. I dunno, it was just a thing that occurred to me.

tl;dr: fox!Alya and turtle!Nino work thematically and so does the rather outlandish peacock!Lila. Sorry this has been a mile long post about a god damn kids’ show. I have… several problems.

The lords and: Modern Fashion


I just felt like I needed to make this.

Inspired by @lady-of-oshu 

tagging @han-pan


- Expensive tastes, this one.

- works hard to be fashionable.

- really likes capes, though.

- Tailored suits, always. 

- No chill. 


- Prefers glasses to contacts

- matches his ties to his socks, always

- king of the *rolled up sleeves on a dress shirt* and *well fitting slacks* look

- He wears matching pajamas at night and it’s adorable.

- Sometimes forgets to fix his hair in the mornings, so he has that messy hair look.


- Casual clothes are better than everything.

- Wears sports-themed clothes 

- probably wears cargo shorts

- loves converse shoes

- and raybans

- somehow his look always works.


- sweatpants slung low on the hips (I mean low)

- you can also see the outline of his, uh, ehem. ya know.

- Basketball shorts, yesss.

- dresses like he really lives the #gymlife

- tanktops

- is walking eye-candy and doesn’t even realize it


- He has an extensive collection of scarves.

- and sweaters/cardigans.

- basically a fall/winter centric wardrobe.

- also prefers his glasses to contacts

- in the summertime, he still wears pants until someone (hideyoshi) stops him. 

- Hipster coffee-shop vibe is strong in this one.


- his clothes are always tailored perfectly

- even his casual wardrobe 

- He favors patterns like houndstooth and plaid but prefers them in shades of gray. 

- Wears fashion glasses, he’s got almost perfect vision. 

- But he does use reading classes.

- Has expensive accessories; his wallet/glasses/sunglasses/ jackets/ etc are all name brand, and he stays classic as opposed to following fads. 


- He likes vests, and jackets. 

- Layers are his favorite.

- Skinny jeans as well. 

-Has an overall more casual wardrobe.

- He likes comfort over fashion. 

- His fashion gives off a cozy vibe. 


- He dresses much like Mitsuhide. Slacks, dress-shirt, rolled up sleeves. 

- prefers his shirts and his slacks just a bit more tight, though (Which none of us mind).

- Always smells like smoke and sandalwood. 

- After work, he takes off his tie and wears his shirt with just enough buttons undone. 

- sometimes wears a robe at home. 


- effortlessly fashionable??

- literally always looks good.

- he too has fashion glasses. 

- A walking men’s fashion magazine.

- Doesn’t necessarily spend that much money on his clothes (he’s thrifty). 


- unironically wears crocs till Saizo intervenes, poor one.

- dresses a bit like a 14-year-old boy, cargo shorts, and comfy tees are his favorite if he’s just hanging out.

- Outside of that, he’s actually pretty good with fashion. He favors comfort, but he knows what looks good.

- He has the most varied style, he likes to dress for the situation.


- Lots of clothes handmade for him.

- Loves patterns

- Also loves traditional clothes.

- He owns lots of high patterned silk robes that he wears at home. 

- Dresses like art because he is art. 


- Dresses high profile because he is a high profile person.

- HOWEVER, on his downtime, he likes to show off his body.


- DOES own a tiger striped robe

- Also owns a tiger striped blazer

Bushwick's Brittany Snow on Pitch Perfect 3, recovering from self-harm and her new action film

Those who only know Brittany Snow as ditzy Chloe Beale, one of the Barden Bellas in Pitch Perfect, are in for a surprise when they see post-apocalyptic thriller Bushwick, which sees the actress play a college student who turns into an action heroine after the hipster Brooklyn neighbourhood comes under military attack.

Whereas in Pitch Perfect Snow has to play dumb as her character doesn’t want to graduate, in Bushwich playing college student Lucy she is faced with a stark dilemma when she exits a subway station and discovers that New York is under attack from Texans wanted to secede from the United States.

“Lucy is a girl who has to utlise her intelligence and adjust to her surroundings in order to survive,” says Snow. “It poses the question, what would you do in that situation if you had no prior experience of being in a violent atmosphere, would you stand up and try to save others and yourself or would you just lay down? I don’t know what I would do.”

In Bushwick, Lucy does what anyone would want to do when under attack, she teams up with Stupe, played by muscle man Dave Bautista, best known for playing Drax in Guardians of the Galaxy.

As she ventures through Bushwick, she gets attacked form all sorts of people, including locals complaining about gentrification. For the actress, the leading role offered a departure from the type of characters she’s been playing ever since she became a child star appearing in shows such as Guiding Light, American Dreams and later on Nip / Tuck.

“The things that people know me for are more light and fun, I guess, I sing in a lot of things,” says Snow. “But this movie is definitely different to what people have seen before, because I’m shooting guns.”

It forced the 31-year-old to get out of her performing comfort zone, something she admits that she struggled with at first. She says she butted heads with directors Cary Murnion and John Milott over the kitschy tone of the action sequences. “ I wanted to gear towards it being grounded [in realism]. They knew that this needed a heightened element to the action, where it’s also sort of funny, and maintaining that tone and - I hate to call it a B-movie, I can’t because I’m in it – but that sort of genre of film was planned and very specific.”

But we shall soon be seeing her singing again as the third instalment of Pitch Perfect will reach cinemas in time for Christmas. She reveals that Chloe will be even stranger this time out. “I can tell you that I have a love interest this time,” she says tantalisingly. “I think, weirdly enough, that Chloe is even more weird in this movie. They let me do a lot of improvisation and let me do what I really wanted to do, so I just ran with it.”

Just as Bushwick has seemed to hit the zeitgeist with its look at the divisions of society in Trump’s America, Snow argues that Pitch Perfect was the perfect film to tap into the desire for more female empowerment in the movies: “It was definitely lightning in a bottle of so many things that happened simultaneously that had the right synergy with the cast actually getting along rather well and also Pitch Perfect being about letting your differences bring you together.”

She waxes lyrical about the franchise; “It’s about a bunch of misfits and I think us girls work well together because we are so different and people really like to see different types of women, different sizes, different comedy styles and different appearances. It’s refreshing because that’s how the world is, and you don’t get to see that enough in film.”

Born in Tampa, Florida, the actress had her first modelling job at the age of three. Yet she admits that despite the successful start to her career she always felt like an outcast. “I was definitely not a popular person and didn’t go to school,” she says in stark contrast to Chloe who tries everything to stay in school.

“I only went to one year of high school before I moved to LA to do American Dreams, so I was definitely not with a group of friends and I felt like I had to make my own quirky habits and things like that. So I definitely related to Pitch Perfect and I think a lot of girls do, even if they are part of the cool group.”

She was schooled on set, of which she says, “It got very confusing shooting at the same time as doing chemistry. Am I acting, or am I blowing something up in chemistry class?”

Through her teenage years Snow battled with anorexia, depression and self-mutilation. At the age of 12 she began following fad diets. After an intervention by the Guiding Light producers she began eating again, but this led to depression and after she went to work on American Dreams she began cutting herself.

She says of overcoming her anxiety and illness, “I know this is going to sound really cheesy but probably being an example for my nieces and for my friends and for people that have gone through similar things that I have gone through and trying to be strong for them, even though shit gets tough. I think that is maybe some of the most fearless things I’ve done.”

More recently, she’s been inspired by Pitch Perfect director and producer Elizabeth Banks; “I started a production company a couple of years ago and directed a couple music videos and she’s helped me a lot, actually, and we have been talking about working together.”

They have already collaborated on a web series called Temporary, which is written by fellow Pitch Perfect star Chrissie Fit. “So Elizabeth is definitely an inspiration for me when it comes to knowing it can be done and that it can be done with intelligence and in the right way.”

‘Bushwick’ is in cinemas from 25 August and available on digital download from 28 August

anonymous asked:

any member of an abrahamic faith that tries to appropriate wiccan culture or steal from the craft deserves to be shunned, hexed, or publicly labeled a witch in earshot of their own church. fuck anyone from those violent desert cults who spent millenia hunting and murdering us that thinks it is now ok to join in. they dont want to join the craft, they just want a new hobby or fad to follow because their creator god leaves their hearts empty and their minds lusting for true purpose.

Anyone can be a witch, you’re acting like a child not getting what you want. I’m pretty spoiled myself and to hear that from me means you’re pretty bad. Witchcraft is not a religion, Wicca may have troubles mixing with Christianity since it’s a religion itself. Witchcraft is a practice and anyone can partake in it if they choose, the majority of witches before the dawn of new age were Christian and there’s nothing you can do about that.

silentishtar  asked:

In celebration of magikarp jump, what's some good info on magikarp competitions?

I haven’t had a chance to check out Magikarp competitions personally. However, I do know a female Magikarp named Kiki shocked most of Hoenn by winning all categories of Master Rank Pokémon Contests in 2007. Pokémon centers reported a surge in Magikarp ownership in the following years.

[Submission] The District Sleeps Alone Tonight

Author: AriesParadise
Length: Chaptered
Status: On-going
Rating: M
Genre: Angst (with happy ending!), Smut, Romance, Dystopian AU
Summary: The year is 3076 and Simulation Portals are the latest trend of the ruling class. They can bring any fantasy to life no matter what it may be with just a few words and a touch of a button.

But Chanyeol has never been one to follow the latest fads, resenting his position in the most powerful district, surrounded by flashy gadgets and superficial personas.

That is until the night Baekhyun, his forbidden lover from the slums, disappears without a trace, leaving nothing behind but the scent on his bedsheets.

And as the months pass by without a word from him or the police on his case, Chanyeol grows more desperate. He finds himself in possession of the Portal, and when his simulation of Baekhyun comes alive, he can’t help but feel that it’s all just too…real.

Reason for submitting: I am a huge fan of dystopian AU and this fanfic totally captivated my heart from the start! The suspense just keeps piling up each chapter and it just makes you want to keep on reading. I kid you not every chapter just leaves you on the edge. (My heart aches for pcy in here though sobs bc highkey feeling the desperation that pcy has for bbh to come back :( )
but anyways, this fanfic deserves some recognition bc it’s very beautifully thought out and written! Sooo, If you’re looking for an angsty and and suspense-filled fanfic with romance, I highly recommend this fanfic. I promise you won’t regret it 👌🏻


the anti love triangle ya book masterpost

are you done with reading a young adult book that springs a love triangle upon you and you HATE IT SO MUCH (i might be a little more passionate about my hatred than is healthy…) and you just wish you could find good books that incorporate romance without love triangles??? your wish is my command :-) to make it easier for you, i’ve organized the list by genre under the cut  (and yes i realize there are more books than this but i’m lazy and it’s hard to find these bc honestly i think love triangles are like the annoying fad)

* all books with series are followed by the number of books in the series in parenthesis and are listed by the name of the first book, which is guaranteed love triangle free. i tried my best to only pick series where the entirety is free of love triangles, but i may have slipped up and made a mistake here and there

** this list was, sadly, hard to put together :-(

*** i am extremely apologetic for the lack of science fiction books. blame authors

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What i like most about tumblr is that it’s like a small window into other perspectives, a bunch of people who you wouldn’t usually have deep conversations with but get to see their intimate concerns, fears or issues. Who aren’t in your social cypher or simply follow fads you don’t have around your city and it all gets glued by sarcasm, self deprecating humor and memes.

anonymous asked:

Why do you think the Duggar girls stopped tanning as much? They practically stopped. Why do you think that was the fad? Even Jana who usually follows more classic/preppy trends and Hunger who was the boho/hipster before I made her preppy. I wonder what other trends the girls followed, like perms!

I think they realized that they have overdone it big time, just like with the crunchy hair.

When the kids got bigger the family started to venture out a tiny bit and the kids probably noticed that even good, godly church friends didn’t have to wear prairy dresses, crunch their hair and tan a whole lot. So they stepped up their style game and Jing became the Duggar style queen.

As to other trends: Here is a fun little Duggar family style chronology until Jill’s wedding:


Asian-Americans experience, in disorienting moments, the shock of the mirror’s reflection. They see they are not like everyone else around them, but somehow they embody the rise of the East in the fall of the West. Non-withstanding a family resemblance to other Asians, they boast cultural affinities to other Americans.

When they travel to an ancestral homeland as a tourist, their senses conflict. Their eyes register that everyone looks like them. Their ears hear, as soon as they try to communicate in the language that is assumed to be in the blood, that they betray themselves as foreigners or idiots (if there is any meaningful distinction between the categories). They belong only until they try to make themselves understood and then they are instantly fakers. Others are embarrassed for them for having lost their heritage, as if it could be misplaced like a childhood forgotten toy.

Returning home to where the hearth is, their self-perception and others’ perceptions conflict. They forget that they cannot be part of the crowd however carefully they follow the fads. They can be invisible to others on the street, but they can becomes conspicuous at the wrong moment. At best they are greeted as diplomatic dignitaries from ancient civilization and at worst they are marked as inept social climbers. The more successful they are, the more threatening they are as the Yellow Peril.

Whoever they may wish to be and whatever they aspire to become, they share set of stories. The Asian American condition is to lack control over one’s own identity.

—  Frank H Wu (Foreward in “Looking for Asian America by Wing Young Huie)

concept for a Fate/ heroic spirit that type-moon is sleeping on: charles-françois felix

charles-françois felix was basically the man who paved the way to surgery being viewed as a viable medical option, and it all started when king louis XIV of france developed an anal fistula (probably related to the fact that like everyone back then, he vehemently refused to bathe) - and i’m gonna put this under a readmore at this point because it goes into the logistics of slicing open buttholes

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anonymous asked:

Do you know of any Shiloh shepherds or king shepherds that have gone on to doing bite sports?

I do not, no. Most don’t seem to have the temperaments for that kind of work. As that is kind of the purpose behind Shilohs, they’re supposed to be a lower drive, calmer alternative to the GSD. As far as I’m aware King Shepherds are not a breed and more so a fad of people trying to “fix” what they thought were issues in the GSD but ended up worsening them due to a lack of understanding. (Tend to be people following the “Old fashion straight back” fad).

Ed, Edd n Eddy: Edd [ISTJ]


Introverted Sensing (Si): Edd is obsessed with the tiny details of things and keeping things in order. He adheres to a strict routine, and cracks if things do not go according to his plan. When he cannot begin his day with a shower, his mental state slowly begins to deteriorate. Edd is never one to follow a new fad, or be easily persuaded against what he already knows to be true. He is also shown to have trouble sleeping in unfamiliar environments.

Extraverted Thinking (Te): Edd always tries to complete his tasks in the most efficient way possible. When his parents assign him chores, or he is assigned schoolwork, he is driven to complete them. Edd is often the one in charge of applying Eddy’s wild scams, and always outlines and organizes how they will be done, and sticks to his plans.

Introverted Feeling (Fi): Edd remains loyal to his close friends and his family, no matter what they do. He is quite genuine in his interaction, and always tries to do good. Whenever his parents assign a chore to him, he will complete it immediately. In the Big Picture Show, we see Edd break down as he has to leave his family and the things that are important to him.

Extraverted Intuition (Ne): Edd will often shun a new idea that he considers to be absurd, such as Eddy’s experience with the cursed telephone, as it contradicts what he knows to be true. He is not one to try new things. However, he is fascinated with discovery, like when the Eds stumble into alternate realities in “One+One=Ed”, and has been shown to conduct experiments for seemingly absurd hypotheses.

I was watching The Cool Kids videos, “Bundle Up”, “Rush Hour Traffic” and “Summer Jam”and it brought me back to how Chuck Inglish & Sir Michael Rocks really pioneered and started how many cats like to dress to today. They started the rocking vintage style back in 2007, rocking the old school styles of the late 80′s & early 90′s, Starter Jackets, Vintage snapback hats, old school windbreakers, gold herringbone and dookey rope chains and the shirts with old logos of sports teams. They didn't follow trends or fads, they were influence by 1980′s  and 1990′s hip hop, it was organic for them. These cats were really ahead of their time and many haters were straight dissing the their style. Their style was unique and refreshing from all that bullshit fashion at the time. It didn't catch on because they weren’t mainstream cats and the haters and music critics claimed it as a fad and opposed it. In 2010, Tyga and Chris Brown and the rest of the hip hop industry completely style jacked, claimed it as their own and the haters and critics turned into hypebeasts and dick riders of the style of the vintage style and vintage sports gear that we see being worn today in hip hop and today’s generation. Regardless of what the hypebeasts and followers say, The real ones know who “Started It”. Sir Michael Rocks and Chuck Inglish need their props and respect. These cats need their credit for what they did for hip hop, fashion and style.

I’ve come to realize there’s a definite ableist undercurrent to people ignoring that maybe there’s a medical reason to avoid certain foods.

People often react to me talking about my allergies with outright suspicion, like someone responding to being told I can’t eat strawberries with a suspicious expression and “I’ve never heard of THAT before” as if I’d make up an allergy as an excuse instead of just saying I didn’t like strawberries

(which isn’t true, I love strawberries, that’s how I found out they make my throat swell in the first place)

That’s part of a pattern:  “It’s not that you CAN’T walk more than thirty feet without help, it’s that you’re LAZY.”  “It’s not that you CAN’T hear, it’s that you don’t want to pay attention.”  “You can get over your mental illness if you just TRY hard enough.”

“It’s not that this food is actively making you sick, it’s that you don’t LIKE it and won’t ADMIT to it/it’s because you’re following some kind of FAD DIET.”

(There are other layers to this: People giving my mother diet soda because she’s fat when the reason she asks for regular is an allergy to aspartame; that’s pretty blatant fatphobia.)

Like, why is it some other person’s business how I get through my day or what I put in my body?  Even when I’m purchasing something from them.

And the reason is mostly “I don’t like that you don’t fit into my perception of reality.”