#YesAllWomen because I shouldnt have to hold my keys in fear & check over my shoulder every few seconds when i walk at night
because the odds of being attacked by a shark is 1 in 3,748,067, while a woman’s odds of being raped are 1 in 6…
because when Malala Yousafzai was 14 she was shot in the head for trying to go to school.
because we always have to watch our drink when we go to bars and parties.
because guys say “buT NOT ALL MEN!!!” but all women are bad drivers and all women are moody and all women are emotional and all women get to be painted w the same brush but dont u dare generalise men thats unfair!!!!
NO ONE actually thinks “all men”.
just TOO MANY men.
just ENOUGH men to be afraid.
just ENOUGH men that ALL women have experienced it.
just ENOUGH to make it a social problem and not a personal one.
BECAUSE if she is “too young” to be wearing “those clothes”, she’s also too young for you to be sexualizing her body for wearing them ???
because we NEED to be the generation who will teach our sons to act respectfully instead of teaching our daughters to beware.
Because i care about the problems of men?? you’re allowed to wear pink. you’re allowed to hate sports. you’re allowed to cry. you’re allowed to be small and scrawny. you’re allowed to be confused as hell when your car breaks down. you’re allowed to wear makeup. you’re allowed to express your feelings. you’re allowed to be afraid of spiders. you’re allowed to love romantic comedies. you’re allowed to hate the gym. you’re allowed to play with barbies. you’re allowed to not have abs.
Because it is not just about me, bc it is not just about anger, bc it is not just a JOKE, bc it is not just about the fact that gay men are “fags” but lesbians are “hot,” bc it is not just about pics of thin white girls being the only google image results for “beautiful women”, bc it is not just about what she was wearing or how many times she said yes before she changed her answer to no.
And because.. jesus chRIST why is equality so hard to grasp!!! like
I AM A PERSON
YOU ARE A PERSON
WE ARE EQUAL
After some thinking, I want to politely point out a few things to those of you saying Touka and Kaneki’s sex scene was rushed and meaningless.
Did kaneki and touka rush into having sex? Yes. But that’s entirely the point - in no way does that make it meaningless or perverted.
Kaneki and Touka have seen all of this happen before. Their hideout has been found. Their faces have been unmasked. Kaneki is the most wanted ghoul in Japan, and this is pretty much the beginnings of war for them. People are going to die. And they both know it can be either one of them at any time. Neither of them were going to wait for the “perfect moment, ” not when there’s a good chance that neither of them will live to see it.
What you’ve got to remember is that people don’t always make the best decisions when it comes to sex. More often than not, people get caught up in the moment and do it before they should do. This rushed nature is actually quite realistic. Even with Yorirko’s life hanging, Touka is keeping cool because she knows jumping to conclusions and being rash will do no good - she’s seen this before with Hinami’s mother.
Touka has experienced enough loss to know that she has to live for the living, and do whatever she can to keep those people alive. Sure, she’ll fight to protect kaneki, but that isn’t always what it’s about; with kaneki being suicidal in the past, she’s trying her best to give him an incentive to live. She’s letting Kaneki know that he’s loved even though she struggles to express anything other than her primal emotions. Kaneki needs to know that he’s loved right now. If there was anything more about Hide right now, it would be a bad turn for kaneki since he’d be living for the dead. It’s so important that he learns other people than Hide care for him that I’m shocked that people actually want Hide related stuff instead of this. Even though Touken wasn’t my favourite ship, I’m so happy because this is such an important hurdle for Kaneki’s character being overcome.
So yes, they rushed into having sex. However, I honestly feel this was a perfectly natural action for two broken people under pressure. They weren’t going to wait when there is a good chance there wasn’t going to be any other time for them. They both wanted to do it. Even if this is a sort of humorous thing to add remember they were virgins in their twenties as well; touka has done enough waiting on Kaneki, haha.
Please stop saying that their relationship is meaningless compared to his and Hide’s because it just isn’t true. The only other time Kaneki cried during a happy time was their first visit to :Re when he was so relieved to see Touka alive and he thought about what a beautiful person she was. After this, Haise gazed at her the same way Kaneki gazed at Rize - which Kaneki didn’t deny. If this doesn’t show how much Kaneki loves touka then I don’t know what will.
I’m honestly so proud of Touka for being so bold and collected here. She’s developed in so many ways. Sometimes, when written well, sex can really bond characters in books. While it remains to be seen, I’m really excited to see their relationship change and, hopefully, kaneki opening up to her by learning that people other than Hide love him. This is a good turn of events for both of them.
A groundbreaking survey was released last week. Developed by the Mayo Clinic and Endocrine Society, it’s the first-ever report measuring American doctors’ “confidence levels and willingness to treat transgender patients.”
It’s a well-known fact that transgender people face huge disparities in healthcare access, from being mistreated or misgendered to not having access to any health services at all. Not surprisingly, the survey of more than 400 clinicians and program directors found that most hormone doctors – 81% – had never received any kind of training on treating trans patients.
Among program directors, 72 percent said they provide some kind of education on transgender health topics, and 94 percent said this training is important. However, the program directors said they struggled to educate their fellows on these issues because they don’t have enough experienced faculty to teach the subject. […]
Of the minority of doctors who said they did receive training, only 4 percent said they got it during medical school, while only 7 percent said they were trained during their residency. The majority of teachers who received specialization got it during their endocrinology fellowship (58 percent), while 53 percent learned more at local, national or international meetings.
Obviously, a lack of training is no excuse for treating a transgender patient with disrespect (or worse). As more and more trans people come out and seek medically necessary, sometimes life-saving healthcare, it is a doctor’s responsibility to know what steps to take to help, and to take those steps with compassion. It’s time for med schools, residency programs, and doctors who don’t think before they speak to get with the picture.
Men often react to women’s words—speaking and writing—as if they were acts of violence; sometimes men react to women’s words with violence. So we lower our voices. Women whisper. Women apologize. Women shut up. Women trivialize what we know. Women shrink. Women pull back. Most women have experienced enough dominance from men—control, violence, insult, contempt—that no threat seems empty.
Astrological Counseling based on Your Most Afflicted Planet
For those of you still learning, afflicted means that a planet is
receiving hard aspects. For example, if your Uranus has squares, a quincunx,
semi-squares, and an opposition to it, this is afflicted.
Moon: You have to experience your emotions fully and acknowledge each
hard aspect and how it plays out in your life. Use your moon sign to express your
feelings. Exhale all the times you’ve been hurt and nurture your inner child
without letting it come out as immaturity. Inhale the love of the universe and
visualize it wrapping around your soul.
Sun: You’ve been made to feel inadequate or that you don’t matter.
Build yourself up from within, pursue creative projects when you are all by
yourself so you have no concern for others’ criticisms. You can even literally
stand in the warmth of the sun and visualize your self-esteem building. Exhale
all your moments of embarrassment and inhale an acceptance that many things
weren’t as big of a deal as you made them out to be.
Mercury: Realize that all the times you were made to feel dumb were
just because those around you didn’t understand the way your mind works. Keep
your intellect sharp by challenging yourself to read stimulating information,
do word games, anagrams, Sudoku, puzzles, math equations, and logic exercises to create
new mental pathways. Spread your ideas to those who listen, brush off those who
don’t. Every time you get an idea, write it down so that it doesn’t slip away.
Don’t cling to a hope that your thoughts and ideas will be recognized, the
universe appreciates you even if that novel of yours hardly sells any copies.
It is worth it to put your projects out there.
Venus: Realize that current beauty standards are based in perversion. You
are a goddess full of grace if you choose to find it and embrace it. Your
femininity could have been wounded by trauma or just having been made to feel
like you don’t fit what women are expected to be. You can break free from
gender norms and find yourself. Release guilt and allow yourself to experience
pleasure. In a man’s chart where Venus is afflicted, the way he perceives women is tainted by all the times that women lied to him or manipulated him. He must learn to not project his hurt onto women.
Mars: You feel like you’ve had to fight all your life. Others may not
give you a break but you can give yourself a break. Make time in your day to
release anger thru physical activity, exhaling frustrations, going into nature
to inhale peace. You are exhausted because this world expects you to be full of
drive and ambition. Realize that aspiring to excel might not actually bring you
fulfillment. You may always feel the need to do more, but release expectations,
worry less about accomplishment and more about health. Allow yourself to get
more than enough rest, this competitive world is not the way humans are meant to
Jupiter: Your capacity to have “abundance mindset” has been squashed
by all the times you had to ration your resources. You can learn healthy
indulgences and be reasonable about cutting down on what is unnecessary. You
are hesitant to be generous because you have experienced not having enough.
When you receive positive aspects transiting your natal Jupiter, you’ll be able
to lighten up (I can tell you when these happen)! Gaining more knowledge hasn’t
happened as well as you’d like. Jupiter afflicted makes it difficult to have an
optimistic disposition but you can choose to find light in many situations.
Saturn: You feel like this world is constantly beating you down and you
rarely get cut slack. Use this to find compassion for those who are struggling
and learn to be lenient with them, realizing that they may not have as great
capabilities as you do. You’re tempted to judge others because you had people
treat you harshly and now you feel frustrated at those who take it easy. You
feel resentment towards people who don’t realize the same things you’re aware
of. You can find the balance between diplomacy and being realistic, despite
your tendency to point the finger at peoples’ faults. You’ve had to work hard
and you subconsciously dump your hardships on others whom you think had less
strife than you. Find the lightness in your heart, consider all angles of a
situation instead of coming down on someone else. Work thru your inner angst,
allow yourself to feel what you have suppressed.
Uranus: Chaos has brewed inside you because you didn’t get the chance
to experience your wild side in a healthy way. You were taught that stepping
out of line would get you in trouble, so you felt like you had no choice but to
obey, even when the rules felt unnecessary to you or when the leaders were
controlling you out of their ego instead of based on what is best for everyone.
An example of this is if a child is taught to go along with what parents say,
not question and not talk back, these children grow up with very little
self-worth and incompetency at thinking for themselves. Remind yourself that
questioning and rebelling doesn’t make you disrespectful, it makes you a free
thinker. In your adult life you feel compelled to do crazy things because of
how boxed in you were before, and you have the choice to be wise about letting
out your Uranian nature and finding healthy outlets.
Neptune: Life circumstances have prohibited you from fully
experiencing your connection to the divine. Having to act practically without
getting the chance to develop your intuition has dimmed your soul. You feel
like something is missing in your life but you’re not sure what. It is possible
that you went thru a phase where you were seeking your next high, to lose
yourself in altered consciousness out of your overwhelm of the real world
pounding on you. Make time to develop your soul, attending an organized retreat
would be beneficial to you. Spend time in nature, feeling how the dirt between
your toes connects you up to the sky. Silence your mind while holding stones
and allow yourself to slip into other dimensions. Hypnotism would be
therapeutic for you. You can discover your connection to spirituality by learning
to let life be as it is, then opening yourself to the vastness of the unknown.
Meditate on that concept alone.
Pluto: The times you had your power taken away from you has built up
inside you as a compulsion to make others feel less powerful. You dominate
conversations and like to psychoanalyze others. Realize that just because you
may have studied psychology does not mean you are correct about the motivations
behind someone’s actions. People aren’t as manipulative as you may project them
to be. Learn to be gentler about what you perceive to be someone’s faults. You
can be the Phoenix rising from the ashes if you choose to be.
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I give readings to anyone who’s interested! I can write 12+ pages all about your natal chart, your upcoming transits, your love life, and more!
(all of which are based on things I see tourists doing every single year. You frighten us. Seriously. We know you haven’t been taught any better, so this is an attempt to help)
I know not everyone is swimming between the
flags at the beach. I know. It’s because locals
know what a rip looks like, know where all the rocks are, and know when the
tide is going in or out. And you know what? We still find ourselves in trouble.
But we’re all usually experienced enough that we can stay afloat on the
rare occasions we actually need rescuing, and everyone knows you’re an idiot
and calls you such when you get out. You do not, and you’re also in the way of
surfers (surfboards, by the way, do not have brakes). Stay between the flags.
Watch your children at the rockpools. Seriously.
Tell them that looking is fine, but under no circumstances are they to put
their hand in the water, and they DEFINITELY shouldn’t try to pick anything up.
If you’re driving home from the beach and your kid (or anyone) is unusually
tired, GET THEM TO A HOSPITAL IMMEDIATELY. They may have been bitten by a
blue-ringed octopus, in which case they’ll need emergency treatment.
Those blue jellyfish-like things that wash up on
the beach? They’re a Portuguese Man O’ War, or bluebottle. They’re not dead –
just stuck until the tide comes back. Don’t touch them – their sting HURTS. Hot
water helps. You shouldn’t need a doctor, but it won’t hurt to get it checked
out if you think you’re having an allergic reaction. Also, don’t pop the tops
of the little guys – that’s just cruel.
Similarly, don’t stomp on the little molluscs and
things growing on the rocks. I’ve seen so many kids make a game of this. They’re
not dangerous, but they are living creatures. (Also, don’t walk near them
barefoot. Trust me - I’ve made that mistake myself)
It’s recently been brought to my attention that
other countries don’t have this, so I’ll add it here – if you hear a continuous
horn/beep/siren at the beach, that’s a shark alarm. It’s a good idea to get out
of the water at that point.
The size or hairiness of a spider has nothing to
do with how venomous it is. See: huntsman spider vs. redback spider.
If it’s summer, wear sunscreen. I don’t care if
it’s overcast. Skin cancer is one of the biggest killers here, and that’s for
people who are used to our sunlight. Not to mention that it IS possible to get
so sunburnt that you can’t even wear a shirt. I remember attendance at my
school dropped 50% after one carnival because no-one could get their uniform on.
Feel free to add more in reblogs! I will be doing so as I think of them.
Summary: Hoseok is kind, charming and friendly, but there are some lies behind the blinding smile of this strip club owner. Jungkook is a mysterious, passionate musician- and don’t you know that you need to sacrifice in order to achieve your dreams… sometimes even your morals?
“I don’t like it.” Bruce’s eyes follow you as you pace. “I have a bad feeling about this. I don’t like the idea of my babies in there.”
Bruce let’s out a long breath, “You’re becoming a helicopter mother.”
You scowl, “I let them go on dangerous missions, and face super villains on a regular basis. That is the exact opposite of a helicopter parent!”
“Y/N, it’s a training mission.”
“A no win training mission. A mission where they have been set up to watch their friends die.”
“They know it’s fake.”
You rub at your arms, “I just don’t like it Bruce. They’re too young. They shouldn’t have to face this.”
Bruce pulls you into a hug, and out of the corner of your eye, you watch J’onn smile. A moment later the alarm goes off. Your eyes go wide as you watch M’Gann’s body begin to float. “What’s happening?”
“The loss of Artemis has shocked M’Gann’s mind. Her mental abilities have made the children forget the scenario isn’t real.”
Your head whips around towards Bruce. You see the panic in his eyes, and you turn back to J’onn. “Get them out.”
“I’ll have to go in.”
Your teeth grind together, “Then go!”
The minutes it takes for J’onn to disappear into the reality are some of the longest of your life. The minutes it takes for your kids to come out of it is even longer. When they finally come awake, jack knifing on the table, you allow yourself to feel some semblance of relief. Your heart doesn’t calm down until you’ve checked them all out personally.
They’re quiet, pensive, and the exact opposite of how they usually are. You don’t like it, and you make that known. You watch as your kids wander off to different parts of the base before turning on Bruce. “I told you I didn’t like it.”
“We didn’t know this would happen.”
“They’re kids, Bruce. They shouldn’t have to deal with death, or super villains, or any of this craziness. They should get to be kids. Do sports, join clubs, do sleepovers. Stuff like that.”
“They’ve chosen this path.”
You throw your hands in the air, “They’re kids. They don’t understand the consequences Bruce. They think they’re invulnerable, just like you do.”
“I’m perfectly aware of my vulnerability.”
“Are you Bruce? Because it sure didn’t seem like it when you went up against Riddler the other month.”
“What do you want me to do? Quit? Start coaching baseball on the weekends? Drive a mini-van?”
“You make it sound like the worst thing in the world!”
“Are you kidding me? We don’t get normal Y/N, it’s not how we were raised.”
“You can’t tell me, you’ve never dreamed of normal!”
“Normal went out the window when my parents were murdered, and Ra’s took you on your first hunt.”
You stand your ground, “Does that mean our kids can’t have normal?”
“Considering one is an Atlantean, one is a Kryptonian clone, one is a Martian, one is a speedster, and the rest are all trained in combat, no I don’t think they can have normal. Normal is not an option.”
You stare at him before turning and walking away. You hear Bruce call out your name but you ignore him. You keep walking. You find yourself on the beach right outside the cave. It’s so dark, you can only see the outline of things. You scrub your hands against your eyes, before letting out a scream.
A second later arms wrap around you from behind. You smile at M’Gann and pull her into a hug. You hold her as she cries, “You died too.”
You stroke her hair back, “I know.”
“It was so real. And it hurt, so bad. And Robin … the look on his face when Batman was
killed and then you. He’d lost his whole world. I could see it on his face.”
You close our eyes, “I hate that simulation. The idea that everything can be taken away from you in an instant is a cruel reality. A true one, but so cruel. Bruce and I grew up with that reality. I don’t want that to happen to you guys.”
The sniffles ease a moment later, “We made this choice.”
“You haven’t experienced enough to make that choice. It’s part of the reason I joined the team. Why Bruce is on the team. But one of these days … I fear that it won’t be enough. That I’ll lose you kids. And that …that will kill me. As sure as I breathe that will kill me.”
You stay there for a while longer, until M’Gann decides to go back in. You stay on the beach, too weary to move. Arms wrap around your shoulders, and lips press against your cheek. You turn to your husband.
Quietly you admit, “I know we can’t have normal.”
Bruce pulls you into his lap, “Not completely. But we can make more of an effort.”
You snuggle into his chest, “How?”
“Give them a chance at a home. A real home, not a base.”
You meet his gaze, “Seriously?”
“Alfred is preparing rooms as we speak. Anyone who wants to come is welcome.”
You let out a deep breath, and say “Thank you Bruce.”
Summary: Shy boy Jungkook is ready for his first time. Kind of. Sequel to 50% Cotton
Word Count: 5.75k
A/N: SECOND WARNING this is literally just fluff-smut. If that’s not your thing, I understand and now’s the time to leave ;) I won’t hold it against you~ otherwise, please enjoy!
Jungkook presses his nose into the soft material of his jacket, a drug addict, inhaling like the best of them. The pleasant, vaguely floral smell is already fading and it’s only been four days. He’s going to need to start thinking of a new plan to leave another jacket with you, but that’s going to be hard after what happened last weekend.
He’d popped a boner after kissing you.
It was just a kiss and his stupid dick betrayed him. You probably think he’s a creep or a pervert or… well you did chase after him. You said you would wait. What does that mean? Sex? He blushes at the thought. Why would you ever want to have sex with him? He was ridiculously shy, had no experience, and would likely just jizz his pants if you so much as touched him.
He groans at the familiar stirring in his crotch. What the hell. Just the thought is turning him on. Your words echo in his mind clearly, as if you were in the room repeating them.
“I’ll wait for you.”
But how long would you be willing to wait? A week? A month? A… century? Why can’t he just be brave like his friends? Like Namjoon and Seokjin and… Hoseok.
Jungkook’s phone buzzes and he looks up from the textbook he is supposed to be reading for a final exam tomorrow. Obviously, he isn’t really studying at all. He’s thinking of you.
Hobi: Know you got a final tomorrow kiddo but you down to go to the mall at 5?
He sends a second message seconds later.
Hobi: SHE’LL be there ;)
Really, Jungkook could have texted you himself. He has your number, but he’s far too nervous to initiate anything. The two of you have hardly talked since he visited your dorm last weekend (and when you did talk it was only about the trivial, “weather” topics) but he hopes it’s simply because of exams… not because you finally realized how pathetic he is.
Looking back on your past, your life has never been anything out of the ordinary. Although your parents had left you on one mysterious night, leaving you little to no explanations, you live out the rest of your years residing in a new town under the custody of your aunt. That is, until you return to your hometown to investigate the whereabouts of your parents during your senior year in high school. It was that fateful decision that led you to find a boy collapsed on your front porch one night, wounds gaping and life fading when your entire life is spun out of control. Somehow being dragged into a life of crimes in the underground business of his, you discover the twisted secrets hidden behind the world you thought you had known all along.
dismissing adolescent experiences simply due to age because “they’re oversensitive” bc “they havent experienced enough” is bullshit for many reasons but primarily because if they “havent experienced enough,” then if anything their threshold to handle pain is lower and thus their experience is all the more real — that is more real and full and vivid than it would be for someone with said “experiences”
Without going into details of spoilers, one of the main topics of discourse in ACOWAR is the obvious attempts SJM has made in it to increase her representation of diversity, of both race and sexuality (although I believe currently the latter is the one causing controversy).
And I don’t feel knowledgeable or experienced enough in this field to decide whether or not it is good representation. My two cents on the matter is this: Very few people go from ‘shit’ to ‘perfect’ in any field within the space of a year, or say one book. It is rare that you make one bad thing, then the next is flawless. And this applies to the field of diversity and representation.
Regardless of how you view the representation, it does show one thing for definite: SJM is trying. She is listening to her audience, and is now actively working to improve in this area.
That does not mean we should not critique her efforts. On the contrary, we should take courage and keep examining, keep finding flaws and strengths because it seems at the moment that SJM is listening, and thus speaking up is more important and productive than ever. And when an author and a fandom collaborates in such a way that their skills, experiences, and identities can all be considered kindly and creatively, we are all more capable of bringing a product into the world that everyone enjoys more. We can all learn from one another.
Fandom is an amazing space that enables us to hear people vocalize what upsets them, what excites them, what triggers their rawest emotions, and also what a lot of very intellectual, critically-thinking (not to be confused with pessimistic) individuals are able to get out of a piece of art, and also how they think it, and future art, can be improved. It is a unique environment where people crowd-source the ideal outcome without seeking payment or thanks. It is work born out of pure love for something (even if it can make us pretty outraged).
So keep highlighting issues.Keep making your experience heard. But also take strength when people disagree with you. Not everyone experiences things the same way, or interprets the subjective media of art the same way. And no one can make something perfect. The beauty is that there is always room for improvement - always room for fandom to build on something and create art and critiques and meaning that makes a simple collection of words printed on paper worth something so much more.
- Special thanks to @abookandacoffee for highlighting how in times of turbulence and upheaval, it’s worth remembering what we love about fandom. To get pretentious and quote Dumbledore:
“Happiness can be found in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.”