not experienced enough

heh 

#YesAllWomen because I shouldnt have to hold my keys in fear & check over my shoulder every few seconds when i walk at night
because the odds of being attacked by a shark is 1 in 3,748,067, while a woman’s odds of being raped are 1 in 6…
because when Malala Yousafzai was 14 she was shot in the head for trying to go to school.
because we always have to watch our drink when we go to bars and parties.
because guys say “buT NOT ALL MEN!!!” but all women are bad drivers and all women are moody and all women are emotional and all women get to be painted w the same brush but dont u dare generalise men thats unfair!!!!
NO ONE actually thinks “all men”.
just TOO MANY men.
just ENOUGH men to be afraid.
just ENOUGH men that ALL women have experienced it.
just ENOUGH to make it a social problem and not a personal one.
BECAUSE if she is “too young” to be wearing “those clothes”, she’s also too young for you to be sexualizing her body for wearing them ???
because we NEED to be the generation who will teach our sons to act respectfully instead of teaching our daughters to beware.
Because i care about the problems of men?? you’re allowed to wear pink. you’re allowed to hate sports. you’re allowed to cry. you’re allowed to be small and scrawny. you’re allowed to be confused as hell when your car breaks down. you’re allowed to wear makeup. you’re allowed to express your feelings. you’re allowed to be afraid of spiders. you’re allowed to love romantic comedies. you’re allowed to hate the gym. you’re allowed to play with barbies. you’re allowed to not have abs.
Because it is not just about me, bc it is not just about anger, bc it is not just a JOKE, bc it is not just about the fact that gay men are “fags” but lesbians are “hot,” bc it is not just about pics of thin white girls being the only google image results for “beautiful women”, bc it is not just about what she was wearing or how many times she said yes before she changed her answer to no.
And because.. jesus chRIST why is equality so hard to grasp!!! like
I AM A PERSON
YOU ARE A PERSON
WE ARE EQUAL
FIN.

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After some thinking, I want to politely point out a few things to those of you saying Touka and Kaneki’s sex scene was rushed and meaningless.

Did kaneki and touka rush into having sex? Yes. But that’s entirely the point - in no way does that make it meaningless or perverted.

Kaneki and Touka have seen all of this happen before. Their hideout has been found. Their faces have been unmasked. Kaneki is the most wanted ghoul in Japan, and this is pretty much the beginnings of war for them. People are going to die. And they both know it can be either one of them at any time. Neither of them were going to wait for the “perfect moment, ” not when there’s a good chance that neither of them will live to see it.

What you’ve got to remember is that people don’t always make the best decisions when it comes to sex. More often than not, people get caught up in the moment and do it before they should do. This rushed nature is actually quite realistic. Even with Yorirko’s life hanging, Touka is keeping cool because she knows jumping to conclusions and being rash will do no good - she’s seen this before with Hinami’s mother.

Touka has experienced enough loss to know that she has to live for the living, and do whatever she can to keep those people alive. Sure, she’ll fight to protect kaneki, but that isn’t always what it’s about; with kaneki being suicidal in the past, she’s trying her best to give him an incentive to live. She’s letting Kaneki know that he’s loved even though she struggles to express anything other than her primal emotions. Kaneki needs to know that he’s loved right now. If there was anything more about Hide right now, it would be a bad turn for kaneki since he’d be living for the dead. It’s so important that he learns other people than Hide care for him that I’m shocked that people actually want Hide related stuff instead of this. Even though Touken wasn’t my favourite ship, I’m so happy because this is such an important hurdle for Kaneki’s character being overcome.

So yes, they rushed into having sex. However, I honestly feel this was a perfectly natural action for two broken people under pressure. They weren’t going to wait when there is a good chance there wasn’t going to be any other time for them. They both wanted to do it. Even if this is a sort of humorous thing to add remember they were virgins in their twenties as well; touka has done enough waiting on Kaneki, haha.

Please stop saying that their relationship is meaningless compared to his and Hide’s because it just isn’t true. The only other time Kaneki cried during a happy time was their first visit to :Re when he was so relieved to see Touka alive and he thought about what a beautiful person she was. After this, Haise gazed at her the same way Kaneki gazed at Rize - which Kaneki didn’t deny. If this doesn’t show how much Kaneki loves touka then I don’t know what will.

I’m honestly so proud of Touka for being so bold and collected here. She’s developed in so many ways. Sometimes, when written well, sex can really bond characters in books. While it remains to be seen, I’m really excited to see their relationship change and, hopefully, kaneki opening up to her by learning that people other than Hide love him. This is a good turn of events for both of them.

The public censure of women as if we are rabid because we speak without apology about the world in which we live is a strategy of threat that usually works. Men often react to women’s words–speaking and writing–as if they were acts of violence; sometimes men react to women’s words with violence. So we lower our voices. Women whisper. Women apologize. Women shut up. Women trivialize what we know. Women shrink. Women pull back. Most women have experienced enough dominance from men–control, violence, insult, contempt–that no threat seems empty.
—  Andrea Dworkin, Intercourse
Astrological Counseling based on Your Most Afflicted Planet

For those of you still learning, afflicted means that a planet is receiving hard aspects. For example, if your Uranus has squares, a quincunx, semi-squares, and an opposition to it, this is afflicted.

Moon: You have to experience your emotions fully and acknowledge each hard aspect and how it plays out in your life. Use your moon sign to express your feelings. Exhale all the times you’ve been hurt and nurture your inner child without letting it come out as immaturity. Inhale the love of the universe and visualize it wrapping around your soul.

Sun: You’ve been made to feel inadequate or that you don’t matter. Build yourself up from within, pursue creative projects when you are all by yourself so you have no concern for others’ criticisms. You can even literally stand in the warmth of the sun and visualize your self-esteem building. Exhale all your moments of embarrassment and inhale an acceptance that many things weren’t as big of a deal as you made them out to be.

Mercury: Realize that all the times you were made to feel dumb were just because those around you didn’t understand the way your mind works. Keep your intellect sharp by challenging yourself to read stimulating information, do word games, anagrams, Sudoku, puzzles, math equations, and logic exercises to create new mental pathways. Spread your ideas to those who listen, brush off those who don’t. Every time you get an idea, write it down so that it doesn’t slip away. Don’t cling to a hope that your thoughts and ideas will be recognized, the universe appreciates you even if that novel of yours hardly sells any copies. It is worth it to put your projects out there.

Venus: Realize that current beauty standards are based in perversion. You are a goddess full of grace if you choose to find it and embrace it. Your femininity could have been wounded by trauma or just having been made to feel like you don’t fit what women are expected to be. You can break free from gender norms and find yourself. Release guilt and allow yourself to experience pleasure. In a man’s chart where Venus is afflicted, the way he perceives women is tainted by all the times that women lied to him or manipulated him. He must learn to not project his hurt onto women.

Mars: You feel like you’ve had to fight all your life. Others may not give you a break but you can give yourself a break. Make time in your day to release anger thru physical activity, exhaling frustrations, going into nature to inhale peace. You are exhausted because this world expects you to be full of drive and ambition. Realize that aspiring to excel might not actually bring you fulfillment. You may always feel the need to do more, but release expectations, worry less about accomplishment and more about health. Allow yourself to get more than enough rest, this competitive world is not the way humans are meant to live.

Jupiter: Your capacity to have “abundance mindset” has been squashed by all the times you had to ration your resources. You can learn healthy indulgences and be reasonable about cutting down on what is unnecessary. You are hesitant to be generous because you have experienced not having enough. When you receive positive aspects transiting your natal Jupiter, you’ll be able to lighten up (I can tell you when these happen)! Gaining more knowledge hasn’t happened as well as you’d like. Jupiter afflicted makes it difficult to have an optimistic disposition but you can choose to find light in many situations.

Saturn: You feel like this world is constantly beating you down and you rarely get cut slack. Use this to find compassion for those who are struggling and learn to be lenient with them, realizing that they may not have as great capabilities as you do. You’re tempted to judge others because you had people treat you harshly and now you feel frustrated at those who take it easy. You feel resentment towards people who don’t realize the same things you’re aware of. You can find the balance between diplomacy and being realistic, despite your tendency to point the finger at peoples’ faults. You’ve had to work hard and you subconsciously dump your hardships on others whom you think had less strife than you. Find the lightness in your heart, consider all angles of a situation instead of coming down on someone else. Work thru your inner angst, allow yourself to feel what you have suppressed.

Uranus: Chaos has brewed inside you because you didn’t get the chance to experience your wild side in a healthy way. You were taught that stepping out of line would get you in trouble, so you felt like you had no choice but to obey, even when the rules felt unnecessary to you or when the leaders were controlling you out of their ego instead of based on what is best for everyone. An example of this is if a child is taught to go along with what parents say, not question and not talk back, these children grow up with very little self-worth and incompetency at thinking for themselves. Remind yourself that questioning and rebelling doesn’t make you disrespectful, it makes you a free thinker. In your adult life you feel compelled to do crazy things because of how boxed in you were before, and you have the choice to be wise about letting out your Uranian nature and finding healthy outlets.

Neptune: Life circumstances have prohibited you from fully experiencing your connection to the divine. Having to act practically without getting the chance to develop your intuition has dimmed your soul. You feel like something is missing in your life but you’re not sure what. It is possible that you went thru a phase where you were seeking your next high, to lose yourself in altered consciousness out of your overwhelm of the real world pounding on you. Make time to develop your soul, attending an organized retreat would be beneficial to you. Spend time in nature, feeling how the dirt between your toes connects you up to the sky. Silence your mind while holding stones and allow yourself to slip into other dimensions. Hypnotism would be therapeutic for you. You can discover your connection to spirituality by learning to let life be as it is, then opening yourself to the vastness of the unknown. Meditate on that concept alone.

Pluto: The times you had your power taken away from you has built up inside you as a compulsion to make others feel less powerful. You dominate conversations and like to psychoanalyze others. Realize that just because you may have studied psychology does not mean you are correct about the motivations behind someone’s actions. People aren’t as manipulative as you may project them to be. Learn to be gentler about what you perceive to be someone’s faults. You can be the Phoenix rising from the ashes if you choose to be.

If you want to learn how to use astrology for personal development, please message me. AcaiPsycheLife.tumblr.com  

I give readings to anyone who’s interested! I can write 12+ pages all about your natal chart, your upcoming transits, your love life, and more!

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“You have to love yourself if you want others to love you” is such utter bullshit because if you were never taught how love towards yourself looks like you can’t know how to.

If you were cursed with abusive parents who taught you that forcing you to endure abuse is “for your sake” and “to make you stronger” and that being kind towards yourself will make you weak, a wuss, incapable, worthless, how would you be able to figure out which one is love? If you were taught from the start that brutality and punishment and harsh cruel criticism and contempt were done to you out of love and to help you be better, what other kind of love would you possibly be able to offer to yourself? You could be starving for kindness and at the same time believe it will make you weak and that you don’t deserve it so you would reject it! Self love isn’t innate, it is taught, what ever bullshit they sell you under the name of “love” is what you end up believing love is!

So until you are experienced enough to realize that abuse is hatred and destruction of you and that you’ve been lied to, and that kindness and patience and support is actually helping you grow and establish as a person, you can’t know which does what. And even once you do realize it, it’s hard! It’s still going to be hard to try to convince yourself that you are lovable and worthy of love when nobody has ever loved you! It’s still going to be hard to keep telling yourself that you deserve better when everyone treats you like crap! It’s still going to be hard to ignore all the triggers and perceived evidence that makes you doubt yourself, your value, your worth and potential, if nobody in this world is willing to try and prove otherwise to you, how are you supposed to do it on your own?

Self love is fucking hard and people who act like if you’re struggling with it you’re somehow less worthy of love, or even worse, to be completely abandoned by everyone until you figure it out, are fucking liars who don’t give a shit about you and what life does to you. Someone is supposed to get you used to being loved, someone is supposed to show you that you can be consistently welcome in their life and on this planet, that you can expect warmth and kindness and that there’s no doubt that you deserve it, that anything else being sold under the pretense of love has been a lie.

Tournée du Chat Noir - Yoongi

MASTERLIST

Genre: Smut, Cathybrid! AU

Word count: 2k

pairing: Suga x reader

Warnings: rated M, sexual content, language, cat/human hybrid

A/N: part of cathybrid!BTS miniseries!

others: Taehyung   |   Jimin

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Crush

Summary: Everything about Bucky Barnes drives you wild…that’s basically the plot…

Warnings: smut, sexual tension

A/N: I spent today writing my own mini thesaurus, by hand, and I came up with this idea during my breaks.


“Fuck!” Your back slammed down against the thick mat, air shoot out of your lungs.

“If you’re not paying close attention to your enemies you’re going to get yourself killed. What the hell has you so distracted?” Steve stretched a hand out, helping you up.

“N-Nothing.” You huffed, avoiding eye contact with the super soldier in front of you.

That was a lie, a big fat lie. You were completely distracted by the man across the room, the one with the glistening metal arm and the chocolate brown hair. Motherfucking Bucky Barnes. 

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I know with ideas on the internet and content creators here, some trends start picking up and we all unwittingly draw on certain things that make its way into our work, but this has been happening often enough recently that I’d like to address it:

if you’re using one of my edit formats, concepts, or layouts as inspiration, please try to tag me, or at least attribute the post that was used as inspiration (a small (insp) with the link is enough and common practice!)

I’ve really appreciated the people who have asked straight up; I put work and time in coming up with different concepts and layouts and I’m always happy to have people draw inspo from them when asked!

while I’m flattered that people are enjoying it to the point where they feel inspired by it, I would like to know of any instances, particularly when they are very similar to the original edit itself, rather than happening across them

It just doesn’t sit right that there have been times when very clear copies of edit formats have been posted with no okay-ing with the original creator.

Men often react to women’s words—speaking and writing—as if they were acts of violence; sometimes men react to women’s words with violence. So we lower our voices. Women whisper. Women apologize. Women shut up. Women trivialize what we know. Women shrink. Women pull back. Most women have experienced enough dominance from men—control, violence, insult, contempt—that no threat seems empty.

Safety Tips For Tourists In Australia

(all of which are based on things I see tourists doing every single year. You frighten us. Seriously. We know you haven’t been taught any better, so this is an attempt to help)

  • I know not everyone is swimming between the flags at the beach. I know. It’s because locals know what a rip looks like, know where all the rocks are, and know when the tide is going in or out. And you know what? We still find ourselves in trouble. But we’re all usually experienced enough that we can stay afloat on the rare occasions we actually need rescuing, and everyone knows you’re an idiot and calls you such when you get out. You do not, and you’re also in the way of surfers (surfboards, by the way, do not have brakes). Stay between the flags.
  • Watch your children at the rockpools. Seriously. Tell them that looking is fine, but under no circumstances are they to put their hand in the water, and they DEFINITELY shouldn’t try to pick anything up. If you’re driving home from the beach and your kid (or anyone) is unusually tired, GET THEM TO A HOSPITAL IMMEDIATELY. They may have been bitten by a blue-ringed octopus, in which case they’ll need emergency treatment.
  • Those blue jellyfish-like things that wash up on the beach? They’re a Portuguese Man O’ War, or bluebottle. They’re not dead – just stuck until the tide comes back. Don’t touch them – their sting HURTS. Hot water helps. You shouldn’t need a doctor, but it won’t hurt to get it checked out if you think you’re having an allergic reaction. Also, don’t pop the tops of the little guys – that’s just cruel.
  • Similarly, don’t stomp on the little molluscs and things growing on the rocks. I’ve seen so many kids make a game of this. They’re not dangerous, but they are living creatures. (Also, don’t walk near them barefoot. Trust me - I’ve made that mistake myself)
  • It’s recently been brought to my attention that other countries don’t have this, so I’ll add it here – if you hear a continuous horn/beep/siren at the beach, that’s a shark alarm. It’s a good idea to get out of the water at that point.
  • The size or hairiness of a spider has nothing to do with how venomous it is. See: huntsman spider vs. redback spider.
  • If it’s summer, wear sunscreen. I don’t care if it’s overcast. Skin cancer is one of the biggest killers here, and that’s for people who are used to our sunlight. Not to mention that it IS possible to get so sunburnt that you can’t even wear a shirt. I remember attendance at my school dropped 50% after one carnival because no-one could get their uniform on.

Feel free to add more in reblogs! I will be doing so as I think of them.

Dinner Party

Warnings: Smutty, language, and a  good, fun time.

A/N: This was inspired by an episode of Game of Thrones, enjoy!


“I can’t believe you did that!” You shouted as your friends roared with laughter around you.

Harry was hosting a small dinner party for his close friends which, of course, included you.

You had only known him for a short amount of time, maybe six months or so. You had met at a birthday party of his hair stylist, Lou, who also happened to be your boss at BLEACH. Admittedly, you were a little intimidated at first, but that soon subsided when you realized just how sweet he really was. You had your fair share of celebrity clients at the salon, but being around them so often still took some getting used too.

Nick, a mutual friend of both you and Harry, had just finished telling an absurd story about the first festival he had attended which included sex, drugs, and rock n roll.

“Swear to it.” Nick held his hands up in surrender.

“You’re absolutely fucking insane.” Harry quipped up as he laughed.

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huffingtonpost.com
Doctors want to learn about trans healthcare but lack the training, study shows
Transgender patients, meanwhile, have serious complaints with the care they receive.

A groundbreaking survey was released last week. Developed by the Mayo Clinic and Endocrine Society, it’s the first-ever report measuring American doctors’ “confidence levels and willingness to treat transgender patients.”

It’s a well-known fact that transgender people face huge disparities in healthcare access, from being mistreated or misgendered to not having access to any health services at all. Not surprisingly, the survey of more than 400 clinicians and program directors found that most hormone doctors – 81% – had never received any kind of training on treating trans patients. 

Among program directors, 72 percent said they provide some kind of education on transgender health topics, and 94 percent said this training is important. However, the program directors said they struggled to educate their fellows on these issues because they don’t have enough experienced faculty to teach the subject. […]

Of the minority of doctors who said they did receive training, only 4 percent said they got it during medical school, while only 7 percent said they were trained during their residency. The majority of teachers who received specialization got it during their endocrinology fellowship (58 percent), while 53 percent learned more at local, national or international meetings.

Obviously, a lack of training is no excuse for treating a transgender patient with disrespect (or worse). As more and more trans people come out and seek medically necessary, sometimes life-saving healthcare, it is a doctor’s responsibility to know what steps to take to help, and to take those steps with compassion. It’s time for med schools, residency programs, and doctors who don’t think before they speak to get with the picture. 

November Third (part eight (a))

@o0o-chibaken-o0o this is getting long so I had to split up the year into TWO PARTS (but I’m sure you won’t mind since it just means +++content). 

bingo l part one l part two part three l part four l part five part six l part seven l part eight (a) l updates to come…

Draco didn’t want to play. But it was an hour until November third. And he knew something was bound to happen with Potter anyway. Better it be under the disguise of a game than something with more weight. They’d never addressed their unconventional conversation the previous year. Understandably, it had been lost amongst greater concerns, what with Harry Potter saving the world and all, not to mention Draco’s life.

It was a game of truth or dare, but, somebody (bloody Pansy) had brought enough veritaserum for everyone. So the stakes were raised.

Draco had already decided there was no way he was choosing truth. That no matter how awful a dare, there could be nothing more awful than being forced to reveal the truth of his feelings. Because that was the only question anyone ever asked in these stupid games. And Draco wasn’t a fool.

But before he was given the spotlight, the content of the dares made the choice a little bit harder. Draco wasn’t fussed that Weasley had been dared to take off his pants or that Pansy had already kissed Luna twice - once on her turn when she dared Luna to kiss her, and then once on Luna’s turn when Luna did the same thing back. (It was technically against the rules to dare someone who had already had their turn - but with Pansy in charge, no one was going to question it.)

What Draco was fussed by, was the dare Potter received from Seamus just after midnight. (The traitor - Draco had thought they’d become good friends this year.) 

“I dare you,” Seamus said without even asking Potter his preference - no one was picking truth anyway, “to give Draco a hickey.”

Draco’s head darted over to see Potter’s reaction so fast, he thought he might have given himself whiplash. Potter was already staring back at him too.

The room was silent - for once - as everyone waited to see how Potter would respond. He could always say no. Pansy had made it clear at the start of the game that anyone could, and should feel free to leave at any time without any repercussions. The veritaserum had been optional too, but no one wanted to be the only one who refused - not drinking it would be telling in itself. 

Draco waited impatiently, scanning Potter’s face for any tell of how he might choose. Potter was still staring back - not giving away anything. Until he raised an eyebrow - as if asking Draco: Is this okay?

Draco shifted his head in the slightest nod - that he hoped no one else would notice - to confirm his consent. He kept his face impassive so Potter wouldn’t mistake his willingness for eagerness, despite the fact that it totally was.

“Okay,” Potter said quietly to Seamus. “I’ll do it.”

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