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Toxic Idol Culture

Anyone who’s followed me for a long time knows that I have… my issues with idol culture. I know this can possibly sound ironic considering I’m very popular here but at the end of the day I can’t help that so bear with me.

The reason I say “toxic” in the title (asides from being a strong word that immediately conveys a message) is because I’m addressing a specific subset of idol culture where people will vehemently defend someone’s horrible actions simply because they have a large following and/or pretend to care about topical issues like social justice and trans-rights (the latter being extremely important to my family, my friends, and recently myself).

It’s a shame because tumblr in general does seem at least somewhat more clued-in on how people abuse power (this ranges from world politcs to small corners of youtube), but this knowledge never seems to be applied to tumblr itself. There’s a cycle here, where someone is given disproportionate about of praise for arbitrary things (being a feminist, anti-nazi, or mildly funny, etc - all fine things on their own but hardly noteworthy), they get cocky and play into the role more, then start abusing others (doxxing, harassment, etc, usually of minors ironically enough).

This is partly why “funnymen” being outed as legitimate perverts and pedophiles is becoming increasingly common (or, at best, don’t believe the stuff they pedal out). Ultimately, it’s the person in question’s fault for being a scumbag of course, but tumblr’s unnecessary idolization of people who simply don’t deserve it has a large impact on what these people think they can get away with.

A large reason why this seems to happen is because nobody here seems to want to ask questions. A perfect example of this is when I receive messages warning me about an OP of a post being disgusting in some way, but when I investigate it turns out to be false.

However, it’s hard to fault anyone particularly for being a little bit gullible because ultimately we all want to be part of something. We all want to be liked, loved, and acknowledged. Asking questions, or otherwise being “difficult” can harm this so sometimes one might feel safer by saying “ok i’ll delete the post” rather than “can you show me some proof?”

It’s also a shame because, memes asides, tumblr is a pretty enjoyable website. At the moment of writing, there isn’t anything quite like it, but the experience is marred by people (and their imitators, especially) looking for cheap notes by exploiting serious political issues, where it is nearly impossible to say anything outside of ineffective self-indulgent feelgood “activism” without someone aggressively hating you for it.

For a website that houses a lot of people who claim to want to protect minors/transfolk/etc, there’s a startling neglect of how these people can be taken advantage of by the very same blogs that claim to help them. Anyone on this website can say anything but to actually practice what you preach is an entirely different story.

Interestingly, this is why you get certain “Hellsite” moments like someone complaining about getting hate after telling someone to kill themselves, or people posting things like “just be nice but also fuck [inoffensive group of people]”. Anyone who’s followed my blog for a while (or even just pays attention a little) know that this is hardly a rare occurrence. I think the term for this ‘cognitive dissonance’. This stuff makes good joke fodder, but it’s pretty sad that this stuff happens in the first place.

Toxic idol culture isn’t contained to just social justice circles either. Even opposite groups have become victim of this (maybe they always have, in retrospect). You may know that an ex-friend of mine recently shared suggestive photos of a 16 year old. Long story short, me and a lot of others were uncomfortable with this and promptly dropped them but I was mortified at how many anti-sjws came out in this dude’s defense over something that can only be considered objectively predatory and creepy. The person in question used tumblr’s liberal usage of bold accusations to wave-off what he had done, and his followers ate it up. It served as a important reminder that you can essentially get away with anything, as long as you have a significant follower count and frame your dissenters in a harsh, unrealistic light.

To anyone that defended/defends this guy, you should be ashamed of yourselves.

Some are not above co-opting important social justice issues for internet points. A lot of time, it’s merely an avenue for them to be the very bullies they once hated but since it’s masked, the bullying is often ignored or encouraged. It’s easy to call someone a transphobe for an arbitrary reason, but it takes a considerable amount of effort to actually help a trans person in need. We should be doing more to support people who do the latter, rather than the former.

Anyway, the point of this post isn’t to make you paranoid, or to hate anyone with more than 3k followers (popular blogs make easy enough targets for hate anyway), but just to be a little more cautious and a little more critical of these kinds of people (who will inevitably get mad at this post and make passive-aggressive vagueposts about anyone who agrees), and to generally stop glorifying hateful blogs who’s main shtick is attacking people.

I realize, in the grand scheme of things like social justice and such, this is a small slice of the pie, but this is definitely something that needs to be thought about more.

A WORD TO THE WISE: IF YOU CAN’T REASONABLY BE EXPECTED TO PUT OUT AT LEAST HALF OF YOUR PARTNER’S PROMPT LENGTH FOR THE FIRST REPLY, DON’T EVEN BOTHER TAKING THE PROMPT. THIS ISN’T EVEN ABOUT BEING A LENGTH SNOB, IT’S BEING FAIR TO THE AMOUNT OF WORK THAT WAS PUT INTO CREATING A STARTING PROMPT. 

IF SOMEBODY HITS THE DOUBLE DIGITS CRAFTING AN ELABORATE SCENARIO FULL OF DETAIL AND GIVES YOU ENOUGH TO WORK WITH FOR AN OPENING, GIVING THEM A SINGLE PARAGRAPH IS A SLAP IN THE FACE WHEN THEY PUT IN A GREAT DEAL MORE EFFORT THAN YOU, LOOKING AT THE BARE FACTS. 

SAY YOU FIND A PROMPT THAT’S 8 PARAGRAPHS, YOU REALLY LIKE IT, YOU KNOW IT’S FOR YOU, AND YOU WANT THAT SUCKER, SO YOU TAKE IT. YOU KNOW YOU CAN’T MATCH LENGTH, BUT YOU ASK WHAT THEY WANT ANYWAY. BE PREPARED TO WRITE AT LEAST 4. I DON’T CARE IF THEY AIM LOWER, THEN IT’S THAT MUCH LESS WORK FOR YOU, BUT BE PREPARED TO WRITE AT LEAST HALF AS MUCH IF YOU NEED TO, AND DON’T COMPLAIN ABOUT IT, DON’T TRY AND NEGOTIATE, BECAUSE I GUARANTEE IT WOULD BE WELL WITHIN THEIR RIGHTS TO DEMAND THAT YOU MATCH THEIR WORDCOUNT EXACTLY. 

THERE’S NOTHING WORSE THAN HAVING YOUR EFFORTS LOWBALLED AND GIVEN 15 MINUTES OF WORK FOR SOMETHING THAT TOOK HOURS OR DAYS OR EVEN WEEKS OF YOUR TIME, SO PLEASE HAVE SOME RESPECT FOR PROMPT WRITERS AND EITHER SHOW THEM THEIR EFFORT WAS WORTH SOMETHING OR PICK PROMPTS THAT CATER MORE TO YOUR PREFERRED LENGTH. THEY’RE OUT THERE, I PROMISE.

beta-pop  asked:

When writing a first person story, is it always completely necessary to describe what the narrator looks like? Sometimes I want the reader to paint them in their own image because their appearance doesn't have any sort of effect on the story.

Not at all! If you don’t describe the narrator, the reader will automatically fill in the gaps, even when it comes to gender. I won’t tell you how many times I started reading a first person novel, only to discover the gender was the opposite of my assumption when it was confirmed on page 5 or 6. If you’re okay with readers making assumptions about your character’s appearance, I don’t think it matters. 

However, we tend to place so much emphasis on “painting the picture” of character appearances that it does take on a connotation of being a necessary task, a chore, or a mandatory ingredient to a good story. What we forget a majority of the time is that character appearances do make their way organically into our writing without us even realizing it. 

Character actions can indicate their appearances. When a character pushes hair from their face, reaches for something up high, gets sunburned, squeezes through a narrow passageway - you are inadvertently revealing details about their appearance. In addition, while you don’t want to overdo deprecating language, your character’s self confidence or lack thereof might stem from their appearance, which rounds out your character and gives them even more depth. 

Also, regardless of the amount of physical descriptors you include, people will still make their own assumptions. When film adaptations are made, there is invariably fans who disapprove of casting, even if an actor’s appearance doesn’t conflict with descriptions in the book. And that’s fine! It’s wonderful when readers have vivid enough imaginations to create clear pictures of characters. 

So while you’re writing your story, don’t make a conscious effort to include descriptors. Just write it how you feel like. Those descriptors will come out without your realizing it, and that’s the most natural way to describe a character anyway. And while it might seem like a character’s appearance doesn’t matter, it can sometimes impact how the character views themselves, and therefore how they behave, which can affect their efficiency in achieving their goals, and it can also impact how they’re treated by other characters, good guys and bad guys alike. 

This was a great question. Thanks for asking!

-R

Followers: Do you enjoy knowing what a character looks like? What does it do for you?

Pet store pet peeve:

When customers call and ask us to bag feeder fish/crickets and have them ready at the register

ESPECIALLY when it’s a small amount. Like I understand calling ahead of time to ask if we have enough if you want 400 crickets, but don’t call on the phone to ask me to bag 12 if you’re coming in anyway. Take the extra effort to walk back there, interact with me and walk your own crickets to the register. Rather than making me do it, wasting my time, and coming in and snatching your bugs up and leaving. 

I suppose I also wouldn’t mind if people were like…polite about it, but these people that do this just come off as really demanding :S

hilary’s smartass guide to the episode: 5x06

right, well. i can safely presume i will never be watching that one again. ouat is usually a highlight of my day to watch – that was a chore. i kept checking to see how much time was left because really. eck.

that said, important stuff (including some VERY important stuff) did happen among the vomitus, so there you go. also if you’re a belle or rumple fan, you might want to stop reading now, because i can assure you this is not going to be kind to them.

  • because literally belle. “emma and rumple are the same!!! totally the same!!! i don’t want to help emma if it might hurt poor rumple! who has totally not hurt everyone in this town a thousand times!!!” thank you, killian, for putting “ur wrong bitch” in about the most diplomatic terms imaginable. also important to remind us: rumple has had many, many chances, and he has failed at each of them. he failed at this one too, but in a more complicated way than before. we’ll get to that.
  • belle flounces off, nobody misses her. lol.
  • awww regina you’re being downright nice to killian this episode. the worst thing she called him was “pirate” and never with a snappy tone. you like him. i know you like him. it’s cool.
  • surprisingly poignant scene between emma and zelena. emma brings up the fact that she knows what it’s like to be pregnant and alone in jail; zelena warns her of the dangers of alienating your own child and what it does to you (speaking from experience re: cora). emma tries to offer her a deal: wield merlin’s wand and she’ll let her go free.  i have a strong hunch as to what emma wanted zelena to DO with the wand, but we’ll get there in a second. also, zelena had the DING DING DING ARE YOU PAYING ATTENTION line in the episode: “the difference between me and you, emma, is that i don’t mind being alone.”
  • that right there is what this is going to come down to. zelena likes being by herself. emma hates it. emma hates being apart from her family and friends and loved ones, and it ultimately is going to be what pulls her back from the brink. emma doesn’t deny it; she can’t. she didn’t set out to be DO to be alone; quite the opposite. she was trying to KEEP her family and friends, and it isn’t working.
  • merida’s hot ginger brothers: definite highlight of the episode. yeah, it was one of those where standards were low.
  • king arthur was shady as per usual, everyone FINALLY twigged on that he’s a pretty asshole, and henry had a good line about recognizing that the DO is NOT emma, and that his real mother is in there somewhere. so he has perspective on it, and also proves that zelena is wrong (ding ding ding). zelena says some things can’t be forgiven, but henry is ready to show that even these kind of deeds CAN. not in a “you never did them lalala” kind of way, but in using love and compassion to help emma overcome the demon.

now, onto the rumple/merida/belle stuff because that really needs its own section and because this is the part of the episode that needed paying attention to, or at least some of it:

  • sorry, but not even for analysis purposes can i sit through RB and rumple weeping about how he’s a terrible person who made terrible choices (but you know, he ain’t wrong). plus belle is so wildly contradictory within the same episode; her writing is as shit as usual. at the start she won’t help the heroes if it threatens rumple; in the car with rumple trying to book the fuck out, she won’t stay with him because “there are people we care about still in this town.” lol what people????? the ones who you just ditched because everything they’ve gone through at rumple’s hands wasn’t enough to make you stick with them?? belle you give me headaches. i was actively rooting for merida to eat your ass when she turned into a bear, and/or shoot you in the face. this is not how i am supposed to feel but YOU’RE JUST SO INFURIATING.
  • okay so. MOST IMPORTANT TAKEAWAY FROM THIS EPISODE IS THIS. THE DARK ONE/EMMA KNEW THAT RUMPLE COULD PULL THE SWORD OUT. remember, a) rumple is neither hero nor villain, he is nothing. he has no moral effect one way or another. we had it established again last episode that excalibur’s power depends on its wielder. otherwise, it’s just a “broken sword” that can’t hurt anyone.
  • so the reason emma gave merida’s heart back and said “i’m done with this” is because she had successfully forced rumple to make the absolute minimum amount of effort (lying on his back blindly throwing sand at merida, to which belle of course was like “you saved meeeeee!” LITERALLY BELLE SHUT UP anyway i am getting distracted). the whole point of this is that RUMPLE IS A FAKE HERO. nothing he did in the entire episode was by his choice. it was him being pinned with his back against the wall blindly flailing to do just enough to pull the sword out without turning to ash. it doesn’t have his name on it; he has no effect. excalibur is out, but it is useless. it has no power to destroy light or dark. rumple, the pawn, did his job.
  • THIS IS WHAT THE DARKNESS WANTS. SO READING THIS AS RUMPLE BEING AN ACTUAL HERO IS THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF WHAT HAPPENED. THE DARKNESS GOT WHAT IT WANTED BY MANIPULATING HIM. also LOL rumple. you’re not stopping emma. nice try, though.
  • THIS IS WHY EMMA WANTS ZELENA TO WIELD THE WAND! SHE WANTS ZELENA TO PUT MERLIN’S MAGIC BACK INTO THE BROKEN SWORD! emma knows that all she needed to do was to force rumple to be just good enough to get the sword out. now she wants to put the magic in it with the wand. SHE IS DOING ALL THIS TO TRY TO AVOID PAYING THE REAL PRICE (A LIFE… COUGH COUGH KILLIAN’S LIFE) AND IT’S GONNA BACKFIRE!
  • if excalibur is going to DO anything, whether destroy the light or the darkness alike, it needs real power. (aka killian). killian is the one who has already been drawn to it; we saw regina stopping him from grabbing it last episode. we saw rumple grabbing it this episode. THEY ARE FAKING YOU OUT.  THAT’S BECAUSE NOTHING IMPORTANT HAPPENED WHEN RUMPLE GRABBED IT AND SOMETHING IMPORTANT WILL HAPPEN WHEN KILLIAN DOES. remember, THINGS ARE NOT AS THEY APPEAR. this is continuing the idea that rumple is going to be the one to wield it: he’s not. he has done what he needed to do. REMEMBER, EXCALIBUR SUPPOSEDLY THOUGHT ARTHUR WAS A HERO! ARTHUR! ARTHUR IS NOT A HERO! SO THIS IS NOT SOMETHING TO GO BY!
  • once again: excalibur is just a broken sword, except now it’s out of the stone. that is the only thing that changed. emma can use it as a nice paperweight; that’s all about it’s currently good for. she wants zelena to use merlin’s magic to put the sword halves together. she wants to do all this trying to cheat the price.
  • THIS IS A BAD IDEA EMMA. YOU’RE GONNA REGRET THIS.
  • that’s why they brought up merlin’s warning/had emma remember it. trying to use lies and dark magic to trick her way into reuniting excalibur is going to have the gravest of consequences. she has to lose her TL ahem.
  • speaking of which: i am increasingly convinced that nimue is indeed the caster of the dark curse, and she used merlin’s heart (noooo). when merlin was talking about “the dark one” finding him, everyone thought it meant emma. killian says “what the hell did emma do to him.” but methinks this doesn’t mean emma, it means nimue herself, the original DO. remember, henry was just there to make the separation between the person who ripped out violet’s heart (the dark one) and emma herself, who he knows would never have hurt him like that.
  • DUN DUN DUN DUNNNNNN
  • (BROCH)
  • (oh merida i’m so sorry you deserve better than that dishrag)
  • (no but belle put my teeth on edge this entire episode SHE’S SUCH A WASTE OF A GOOD WARDROBE, WHYYYYYYY)
  • (LITERALLY RUMPLE MAKES THE TINIEST AMOUNT OF EFFORT BY BLINDLY THROWING SAND AT MERIDA WHILE WHIMPERING AND YOU’RE LIKE “YOU A HEROOOOOOOOOO”)
  • just…. go away belle, please
  • preferably forever

Happy birthday kynimdraws! I hope you had a great one <3

Sorry that I’m too late and that this isn’t as polished or just good in general as I’d want it to be, time contraints are kind of mean, so is school, and whatever else haha lolJKI’mjuststupidandslowandterrible

And anyways, I know I haven’t mentioned this nearly enough but the sheer amount of effort and detail you put into your nuzlocke series is just outstanding! I just wanted to say thank you for this amazing source of fabulous art and enterainment. Not to mention, food for thought :D

Good luckies!~ <3

       ‘Glasses.

            Where are my glasses?’

                 The boy started to reach around, only to wince as the slightest movement sent pain coursing through his body and made him groan with pain. Everything was unfocused and somehow he knew he needed to find his glasses. For some reason, that was all that mattered at the moment, and when he found them he slid them on one-handed despite feeling the plastic under his fingers be bent and cracked (enough that he doubted they’d hold up for too long).

                   Once the world was in focus again he looked around, it looked like he was in a van that had rolled and was lying on its side. He couldn’t stand upright, not that he felt he could really stand anyway, but he managed to get part-way up leaning against the roof of the van and looked around the empty area and spotted the damage to the windshield. It took a considerable amount of effort considering how he was feeling but he managed to force himself up through the driver’s area and (after failing to push through the damaged windshield) worked his way up to the driver’s side door to climb out.

                   He landed, rather ungracefully, on the ground and just laid there for what felt like hours before managing to get to his feet. The boy was vaguely aware of something dangling from the wrist of his more wounded arm as he stumbled and used every tree he could to stay upright. He didn’t even know where he was going, but he managed to find himself (somehow) by the side of a road.

                   The kid must have looked like quite a sight; partially broken glasses askew, a mixture of dried and wet blood in his hair and dripping down the side of his head, a set of handcuffs dangling from one wrist with the other cuff hooked onto a metal ring not unlike those that could be found in police stations, and barely able to stand there the way he was in the dirty torn clothes. 

                   The only thing he could think of was trying to find help, looking to see if he could figure out where the closest town was but then stopping when he heard something that seemed familiar. It sounded like… His suspicions were confirmed when he saw the headlights, he tried to yell but for some reason his voice came out raw as if he had been screaming a lot. But he didn’t remember yelling, he didn’t really remember much of anything. His less-wounded arm went up into the air, if he couldn’t yell to get the driver’s attention, waving an arm around and trying (trying being the operative word, since he was barely even able to stand without a tree to support him) to approach the car might work out better. All he could do was hope that the driver would stop, that the driver wouldn’t swerve to avoid hitting him and keep going.

Funny Like a Funeral (2)

Caroline is every bit the beaming ray on sunshine his assumption conveyed, she not even missing a step in her circle when he wanders up and introduces himself, trying for James Dean cool even when his stomach flops from cheap beer and a pretty face.


“Stefan Salvatore I presume,” she replies off his single name introduction.

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