Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will learn what inspires you. You will cultivate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity. And when you do meet the right person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it because you are sure of yourself.
When you’re on a plane and you’re listening to your favourite music and you watch all the colours of the sunset transition like a lava lamp until darkness arrives like a blanket. When you sleep knowing you love someone and they love you back. When you’re with friends and you feel things you never thought existed… a fuzzy sense of belonging and meaning you didn’t know you could feel. Watching the dust swirl in the late afternoon light. Climbing into a soft bed, listening to music and sleepily thinking back on good memories from the day. Being close to someone that feels like home…You never thought you could love anyone this much. Reading something and it’s so real and beautifully written that it changes something in you. After you do your skincare and everything feels clean and smells nice. Laughing so much with someone and for a rare moment, every cell in your body is happy. Putting your face into your warm towel after a long shower. Seeing someone cute and you briefly fall in love with them. When it’s evening and you’re on the balcony looking over the city lights and the stars and the moon seem to smile at you and you feel so insignificant but in a comforting way. Looking at someone and thinking “this is why I love them." Looking at someone doing normal things and they’re so beautiful you’re lost for words. Falling asleep on the car ride home after a long day of adventures. The excitement of arriving at the airport in a new city. When the sunlight looks nostalgic and it feels like you’re in a happy memory. Looking back on cute photographs and being transported back to that day. Being excited to see someone and they’re excited to see you too. Random moments you think to yourself "you have to remember this moment forever." When someone does or says something nice and you’re so surprised and thankful and your heart is blushing. When you open the curtains in the morning and it’s sunny outside and the light floods into your room. Misty mornings where the world’s edges are soft and blurred. Chewing the sweet pearls in milk tea. Going home on a Friday. Feeling the breeze on your face and red leaves swirling around you while riding a bike down a boulevard. When a song is perfect for your mood and it understands. Being with someone that makes your heart feel warm, and you finally know what it’s supposed to feel like. When you’re lying on the grass watching the clouds and seeing animal shapes in them. When you can’t stop thinking about someone. Taking the first bite of something delicious and all the flavours and textures mix perfectly. Wearing your favourite clothes and feeling pretty when you look into the mirror. Hugging someone you love and feeling happy inside and safe.
Avoid people who mess with your head. Avoid people who intentionally and repeatedly do and say things that they know upset you. Avoid people who expect you to prioritize them but refuse to prioritize you. Avoid people who can’t and won’t apologize sincerely. Avoid. Avoid.
Sometimes you just need to slow down, remain calm and simply let life happen. Take a deep breath and focus on the simple important things: you are alive, you’re breathing, you’re enough as you are. You can do this.