I can tell you've been through a bad breakup, what did your ex do for you to leave him? I've been following you for years and you're always so positive so I hate to see you down..
Our last encounter he locked me in a room for two hours and verbally abused me, damaged my shit, threw my phone and fucked it up so badly I had to get another one, at the same time he hit me and head butted me, and only left when I threatened to call my mum. I had a bruise on my head for over 10 days. He texted my mum abusive shit claiming I’m a hoe because I reblogged a guys picture on tumblr and even tried to turn my friends against me by telling them all the “bad things” about me. Which didn’t work - it just made him look foolish. I called a uber to take me to london to fix my phone and it happened to be a guy I went to school with. He stayed with me for 4hours and didn’t charge me. He brought me food, reassured my mum I was okay and even calmed down some of my male friends. An hour after my ex left, his mum then sent me abusive messages calling me “the angel of death” because I wouldn’t take her son back. The manipulative emotional shit he/ they did during the entire relationship only resonated recently. It was literally a nightmare disguised as love. If I ever see him with another woman I will warn her too and so will my friends regardless if they’re with me or not. I recently spoke to one of his old ex’s and she confirmed that that was the reason why she left too. So I’m glad I walked when I did. I felt stuck and knew shit would get worse. He apologised via email a few weeks later and then 2 weeks ago sent another email blaming me for everything lol. He’s still playing victim online too. It’s hilarious but scary at the same time. He was much older than me, so there’s really no excuse for his behaviour/ his reluctancy to change and seek help either.
I have 5 brothers and the only reason why I didn’t involve them, is because I know what they are capable of and they’re all in a good place now. Plus he really isn’t worth it. I informed the police and they have reassured me that if anything happens, they will take full force. My God brother is a police officer.
I’m in a great place now though. It’s been 3 months and I’m completely over it. My life is gone back to being stress free and light. Heartbreaks are difficult. Walking away from a narcissistic and sociopathic person is even worse and repairing the damage could be a long process for some. But it isn’t the end of world. I’m back to being me again and I’m happy. I feel beautiful again. I’m being introduced to/ meeting some amazing prospects lol. But this summer I’m just living and going with the flow. There are some amazing men out there and I’ll be damned if I let this fuckery prevent me from experiencing love in its truest form.
Emotional and physical abuse is very real and if you find yourself in that situation, put yourself first and run. These types of people will never give you the closure you need as they thrive over the power of controlling you emotionally and they will continue to portray themselves as a victim to whoever listens. Let them. Who gives a shit. You’re free and life will open up and become light and beautiful again.
In an attempt to stay positive in the midst of some not-so-great times and a bout of exam-period anxiety, I’m channelling my inner Fraulein Maria and reminding myself of my favourite things in the bad times (some of these are more superficial than others - actually never mind, they’re all pretty superficial). These are a few of my favourite things:
my phone, which is nice but actually isn’t working at the moment so I can’t use it
a half-burned candle that I couldn’t be bothered to light just for a photo (go figure, considering I staged the rest of this photo) but it smells nice and looks nice
my watch, which I literally wear everywhere I go
my laptop, which I depend on even more than the aforementioned watch
a cute pen that has featured in basically every other picture before this
a super warm chunky knit cardigan which doubles as an aesthetic throw blanket of sorts (just for the ’gram!)
and last but not least, one of my favourite feel-good books because (heaven forbid) it’s one of those fluffy trashy romances - if you look closely (or maybe not because of my terrible phone camera quality) you can read about my #1 fictional crush who I legitimately am in love with. I am in love with him to the point where if he somehow broke the fourth wall and jumped off the pages of this book into real life, I would marry him in an instant.
things i’ve learned to do when things don’t feel right:
watch something that makes you feel good, not sad!
warm tea, cozy sweater.
FOOD! specially really buttery and full of flavor foods. i’m not saying eat your feelings or even over eat but give yourself the ability to eat and just focus on the different tastes, savior every bite. (my grandpa taught me this, it works.)
showers and baths, to make you feel refreshed and clean.
cleaning up and making your head feel clearer.
crying is very good and it helps you release emotion, after you cry your brain will try to release endorphins making you feel relieved and no longer upset, you just have to accept it.
lush facial masks (or any facial mask).
remind your brain to practice self control, turn off your phone.
books! Barnes and Nobles! go be surrounded by a maze of stories and different people finding comfort or just read and relax at home!
nice aromas are comforting to the brain, light a candle!
if you’re not wearing socks put some on.
draw! paint! write! find comfort in the arts and put your feelings on paper!
hug someone, spend time with someone, vent.
pet your pets, spend time with them, vent to them.
go to a park and sit there, not thinking about bad things but try to be aware of your surroundings.
find nice blogs and look at pretty pictures!
find good new music, listen to a new band. research stuff that interest you!
people seemed to like the headcanons I posted a few months back so here are some more *shoves some fluff at you and runs away*
Otabek is a hipster who likes to listen to music on vinyl
also he makes Yuri mixtapes “Beka, can’t you just make me a Spotify playlist?” “no.”
Yuri has an entire photo album on his phone of blurry/zoomed in/unflattering pictures of Otabek to use as reaction pictures and occasionally blackmail
Otabek has an arsenal of bad puns that he can deliver with a straight face
whenever Otabek is getting dressed to DJ, he snapchats Yuri to get approval on his outfit
whenever Chris someone makes an inappropriate joke Otabek always pulls the “You’ll understand it when you’re older” shtick even though Yuri understands most of them
Yuri wears crop tops
Otabek totally has a shirt that says “This is what a feminist looks like”
whenever Otabek has sunglasses on his head Yuri will snatch them bc “only douchebags wear sunglasses on their heads”
Yuri is fluent in Russian, English, and French, and he likes to read Otabek poetry in French just to watch him get flustered language kink much?
Otabek has social anxiety. He’s always nervous around new people and gets overwhelmed by large crowds of people trying to talk to him
bc of this, they have a code so if Otabek needs to leave an event Yuri knows where he went or/and if he needs company
they go jogging together a lot
the first time Otabek flew to Russia to stay with his boyfriend, Yuri cried in the airport and didn’t stop hugging him for a solid minute
most of their dates involve napping together
Otabek wears eyeliner and looks damn good
the first time they said “I love you” it was some random morning. They were just walking around St. Petersburg and while Otabek was telling a story about DJing, Yuri kinda interrupted him and just blurted it out.
It is a big part of sugar baby’s lifestyle to be comfortable go out on dates with their SDs to high-end restaurants, opening galleries, charities, fundraisers, and balls. What most newbies do not know/lack is the proper etiquette habits.
For those men who surround themselves with successful people 24/7, would be a big turn off to be with a young lady who does not know how to behave and know the unspoken rules in the public. It is important for all sugar babies to know how to act classy and elegant, take your time, don’t be in a rush, be sophisticated and be a mystery for your SD.
When you are dating a millionaire, the right manners and ways of conducting yourself assume an even a greater importance since they indicate grooming and class – qualities which are important in the upper classes.
Here are a few tips on dating etiquette if you are seeing someone rich and successful and wish to come off as his/her ideal partner.
#1 How to Communicate
Not every thought that comes into your head should come out of your mouth. Vet your thoughts. Speaking your mind does not mean sharing every thought. Some thoughts are not appropriate and could cause irreparable damage to your relationships.
Never gossip. Most gossip is bad, negative and damages relationships.
Look everyone in the eye for no more than 5 seconds at a time, then divert your glance for another 5 seconds. Practice will turn this into a habit.
Make eye contact with people you speak with.
Never criticize, condemn or complain about anyone to another relationship. It’s a giant red flag. People will assume that you are bad mouthing them and will try to stay away from forming any strong relationships with you.
#2 Focus on your partner
When dating a rich man , it is important to let them know you value the time and effort your partner is spending on you. And one of the best ways to do this is by being attentive to your date. Maintain steady eye contact with him and listen actively to what he has to say. Smile often and present a positive body language. Also avoid fiddling with our phone (do not take pictures of the food, take snapchat of yourself, etc. do not present yourself as immature girl.). Unless you’re on call at a high-pressure job, you have no excuse for frequently checking your PDA. Flashing expensive technology makes you look self-absorbed and immature. If you must take a call or check a text, apologize for being rude, and tell your date why it’s necessary.
#3 Eating Etiquette
Believe it or not, most people don’t know how to eat. In the adult world of the successful, you need to know how to eat at social settings. Let’s go down the list:
As soon as you sit in your chair take the napkin off the table and drape it over your lap.
Never begin eating until everyone has their meal.
Never chew with your mouth opened.
Never talk while you’re chewing your food.
Never dip any food you’re eating into a sauce everyone is using.
Don’t wolf down your food. Eat at the same pace as everyone else at the table.
Never hold a spoon, fork or knife with your fist.
Outside fork is for salads, inside fork for the meal.
Never make gestures while your utensils are in your hands.
Never reach for anything like salt and pepper. Always ask someone to pass things like that.
Don’t slouch at the table. Sit straight up.
After the meal, excuse yourself and go to the bathroom and make sure you don’t have any food in your teeth. Carry a toothpick or something similar in your wallet or purse wherever you go.
If your date orders, compliment his choices, whether it is his choice of dessert or the wine. At the end of the dinner, thank your partner for inviting you out and don’t leave it for the next day.Focus
#4 Dress Etiquette
When dating a millionaire, it is crucial to turn out in a classy and elegant manner. Adopt a personal style which highlights your best features and above all, get the basics of grooming right. Even though you may not be able to afford a Louis Vuitton handbag or a Cartier watch, ensure that whatever you are wearing is suits you and is appropriate for the occasion.
Work and Job Interviews – Some professions have special purpose clothing like construction, roadwork, electricians etc. If you work in an office, dress like your boss or your boss’s boss. In some offices it’s business casual, in others, it’s a suit and tie for men. For women its slacks, or skirts with open collars, heels or no heels are ok.
Weddings, Wakes, Funerals – In most cases, this will be suit and tie for men. For women, it’s the same as work clothes but many women like to wear more formal gowns or a more stylish cocktail dress, usually worn with heels. Some cultures have special dress codes you need to be aware of.
Formals – Usually formals are black tie optional, black tie or white tie for men. Optional usually means a dark suit, tie or black bow tie, dark shoes. Black tie means black tuxedo, dark shoes, white tie means black tailcoat, white wing-collar shirt, white bow tie, black shoes for men. For women, it’s a long formal gown or short cocktail dress or dressy long skirt and top, usually worn with heels. White ties are very rare.
#5 Introducing Yourself
In life, you will be forced into situations where you will meet new people. This is an opportunity to develop valuable relationships.
There are 5 basic rules to making introductions:
Make Eye Contact
In one sentence explain who you are, why you’re there and who you know at the event
Ask Questions About the Person You are Introducing Yourself to.
#6 Basic Manners
Be punctual (Being punctual is especially important when dating the rich since for them time is money, and as soon as they find you tardy, they will see you as a waste of time.)
Excuse me when interrupting or entering a conversation
Don’t interrupt someone while they are talking
Don’t roll your eyes when someone says something you disagree with
Don’t look away when someone is talking to you
Never check your cell phone when talking to someone
Stay positive and keep criticisms and negative comments to yourself
Compliment, compliment, compliment
Thank anyone hosting an event, dinner etc.
Never curse or use inappropriate language during social events
Never be rude
#7 Learn to handle embarrassing moments
No one is born with perfect manners and it is all a matter of practice. So while dating your SD if you realize that you have committed a faux pas, make as little of it as possible. Ignore whatever you did or didn’t do and force your mind onto something else. Go on smoothly as if nothing happened and very soon people around you will do the same.
When Ngozi posted this picture yesterday of young post-draft Tater “trying his darnedest to answer press questions in English,” I thought, “You know, I could make a play fic out of that.” Which is what led to the following 2700+ words about Tater and his ESL tutor.
Many, many thanks to @ktheunready for being my Russian authenticity consultant and beta!
Georgia Martin stood at the back of the media scrum and
watched Alexei Mashkov stumble his way through his post-draft interview, saw
the way his fingers kneaded the brim of the brand-new Falconers’ cap he’d been
handed for the initial official photos, saw the way his eyes widened and stayed
intently glued to whoever was asking him a question, like he was afraid he’d
miss some key bit of meaning if he blinked.
She pulled out her phone and made a call.
«No, Mama, I promise, my room is very nice. The family is
very nice. Everything is very…»
me guess, nice? »
Alexei sighed. «Yes.»
«You know I don’t doubt you, right, Alyosha? I’m not worried
you can’t do this. You will be fine.
But I know this is your first time to live in another country, with none of the
boys from your teams here. It can be… hard, sometimes. I know.»
«Yeah, Mama, I know. You told me.»
«Are you telling me you’ve heard the stories of my youth too
many times?» she asked in mock outrage.
«No, no!» he laughed. «Of course not.»
«Good. I should think not.» He could picture her face
exactly, and it made him smile. «I’m glad your host family seems nice, Alyosha.
I’m sure you will have many friends in no time.»
He flopped back on the bed again and stared at the ceiling. «I
«We’ll talk again soon. Love you, son.»
«Love you, too.»
He hung up and let his phone rest on his chest. He’d been to
America before. He’d thought he’d known what it would be like, that it wouldn’t
be so bad. Different, yes, but there would be so many interesting new things to
see, and new teammates, and he certainly knew how to play hockey. What he had
failed to take into account, apparently, was how exhausting it was to try to function in English all day. For a US
hockey team, the Falconers’ roster was shockingly low on Russian players, so
his host family was one of the French Canadian ones. To their credit, they did
speak some Russian, but it was hardly
enough to have a real conversation. Alexei felt like he’d been practically mute
I couldn’t help myself. Sorry it’s not perfect, I’ve done it during break at work and I don’t have tablet of my beloved software (manga studio) here.
And I’m annoyed by those pillows again. Why? Because they again making money out Sormik after treating them so bad in anime. If they doing things like that, at least they could give us some kind of ova or anime reboot with plot from game… Then they can make money out sormik and other characters as much as they want… But with things like this… Ughh.
Let’s look at this precious picture and imagine that anime doesn’t exists.
I’m away from home until
, I don’t have much MB on my phone internet left so I’m not sure if I manage to read reviews of last episode of anime… I just pray for it to not cause more harm to Zestiria story and characters.
Really, we should make petition for anime remake. It won’t get us anywhere but maybe we should show Namco that we aren’t happy with what they done to story and characters.
• he stares at you in awe a lot
• you do the same cause he sexy
• “my boyfriend bad as fuck!” you playfully smack his butt
• “yo chill y/n, im supposed to do that to you ” he just laughs at you
• he has hella pictures and videos of you doing stuff or random things on his phone
• texting all day
• video chatting when he’s away just to see each other’s face cause y'all miss each other so much
• falling asleep on the phone
• you get piggy back rides everywhere
• playing in his hair
• sharing flat irons
• he likes to talk about you to the other members all the time
• he buys you stuff but not everything you want cause it’s “a waste of money”
• “kiss me”
• you tease him a lot
• playful relationship
• randomly lyao (laughing y'all’s asses off)
• “what the fuck is even funny?”
• ^asked by members 24/7
• sharing drinks
• long tight hugs
• kisses on your forehead
• “you’re so beautiful, you know that?”
• “i know, you’re beautiful too baby”
• movie nights
• watching the sunset
• studying together
• reading educational books cause being educated on various things is sexy and lit
• “stop smiling you’re making me smile”
• he adores your smile
• he’s your bestfriend
• your sexy caring funny bestfriend 🌚…
• hella orgasms
• expect his fingers in your pants a lot
• he literally doesn’t give af about where he is
• if he wants to do sexual things, he’s gonna do it
• dirty talk
• he turns you into a screamer and a sheet gripper
• soft kisses while he effs the life outta you
• he has a daddy kink
• so ofc you calling this boi daddy
• morning sex
• he laughs at you and teases you when he notices your limp that he obv caused
• “shut your yellow ass up johnny!”
• other than all of that, he buys you hella sweets
• he also writes little poems for you
• it’s really cute
• if y'all were to break up, you’d most likely get back together in a week’s time
• you can’t get enough of each other
• the bond is too strong
• Cuddling all the time
• Cute kisses on the nose or the forehead
• Movie nights
• Saturdays in PJs
• Random Dates
• Cute nicknames
• Calling you princess
• Late night adventures…
• …To McDonald’s
• Him being goofy when you are in a bad mood to cheer you up
• Him being very protective
• Taking baths and showers together
• Lots of rough or romantic sex (I just had to)
• Taking goofy pictures and videos together
• Him showing you off
• Long talks
• Good morning and Goodnight texts
• Him buying you pizza
• Butt grabs (I had to, I’m sorry okay!)
• Traveling together
• Late night FaceTime and phone calls
• Random kisses
• Sometimes meeting only to take a nap together
• Him taking cute pictures of you while you are not looking
• Ethan walking in while you two are making out
• GET A FUCKING ROOM
• Playing with his hair
• Watching the sunset/sunrise while cuddling under a blanket on the roof
• A lot of tickle fighting
• Constantly being tagged and told you two are relationship goals
• Meeting his parents and Cam and feeling very nervous at first but they are too sweet
• Him meeting your parents and absolutely freaking out
• But they like him anyway
• Taking care of you when you are ill/ on your period
• You taking care a of him when he’s ill
• A lot of random “I love you,” text messages
•Sending each other memes
• “Accidentally” moving your butt all the time while spooning
• Therefore giving him a boner (may someone give me holy water please)
• Doing a basic white girl voice like omg seriously losers stop it
• Pranking each other a lot
• Watching horror movies
• Grayson not wanting to sleep with the lights off “just in case you get scared”
• “Send nudes,” snaps as a joke
• But not always
• Ethan always teasing you about you two having sex
• Reading smut stories about him to him
• Creating playlists for each other
• His “secret” way of asking to have sex is “LET’S MAKE BABIES,”
• Breakfast in bed
• Chewing loudly to piss him off
• Rewatching old vines
• A lot of hickeys everywhere
• Calling him “daddy,” to annoy him 😂
• Freaking out when he takes his tshirt off because holy damn have you seen those muscles like omfg!
• Massages when you are stressed
• Him cooking dinner when you come home late or for a date in
• Random kisses
• A lot of random “I love you,“s
Hey guys. I’m a completely new account, so I’m sorry if it’s not that good 😬 Also, I’m open for any requests ☺️
Hey so April’s coming up so I thought it’d be good to have some activities to do! I’ve seen other people do these (most notably for me @uniqueaspergirl had one that I did a few of last year!) and thought I’d set one up!
Under the cut is a list of the days (also listed in the picture) and descriptions of what each one is because a few words aren’t always the easiest to understand even when you wrote them.
I would like to say first though that - despite me keeping the descriptions of each day mostly positive, negative submissions and additions are absolutely accepted. Everything isn’t sunshine and daisies. Most of the things are general enough that they’ll apply to anyone, but if one doesn’t work for you feel free to treat it as a freebie!
Submit by submitting to the blog directly, tagging us ( in the @ kind of a way) or by tagging it #walkinredinstead (which I checked, it’s empty) and I’ll post and reblog as many as I can!