How to Adult: Lesson #2,375
THIS IS HOW YOU INVITE:
Hey, do you want to come to this specific event at this specific time and place?
THIS IS NOT HOW YOU INVITE:
Hey are you busy on such & such day?
Give your friends and acquaintances the opportunity to bow out gracefully or even come up with a polite little white lie if necessary. If I tell you I’m free on the date you propose, and then whatever you invite me to is of absolutely no interest to me and/or with people I don’t want to hang out with, now I have to be the asshole who goes “nevermind, obviously I’m not busy, but now I have to tell you why I don’t want to go.” It’s much more pleasant for everyone if you give all of the information and the recipient of the invite can decline upfront with a general “no thanks” without further discussion.