normal occurance

I’m usually pretty particular about the sorts of traits that get assigned as humanity’s “special thing” in sci-fi settings, but I have to admit that I have a weakness for settings where the thing humanity is known for is something tiny and seemingly inconsequential that it wouldn’t normally occur to you to think of as a distinctive trait.

Like, maybe we have a reputation as a bunch of freaky nihilists because we’re the only species that naturally has the capacity to be amused by our own misfortune.

Alien: Why are you happy? You’ve been seriously injured!

Human: *struggling to control laughter* Yeah, but I can imagine what that must have looked like from the outside, and it’s pretty hilarious.


B U R N O U T  1 0 1 // what it is and how the fuck to fix it 

So, you’ve been really stressed/anxious/exhausted and all of a sudden you’re feeling unmotivated/apathetic/frustrated? Congratulations, it’s looks like you’ve burned yourself out!

What is burnout?

Normally, burnout occurs after an extended period of excess. The breaking point is different for everyone; some may cave after a week of finals, for others it may take months or even years. Symptoms of burnout include, but are not limited to:

- Apathy/disinterest

- Short attention span, difficulty concentrating, switching between tasks frequently 

- Frustration with others, your work, or yourself

- Depression, low mood, anxiety 

Shit, that’s me! How do I solve it?

- Start small, and ease yourself back into the swing of things 

  • Make note of the stuff you absolutely unavoidably have to to do with immediate urgency. Order in terms of immediacy as well as workload. So give credit for tasks both urgent and time consuming. If it doesn’t need to be done (either partially or completely) right this very minute, don’t worry about it. 
  • Break big tasks down into little tasks and tackle them one at a time. Reward yourself upon completion, but keep it reasonable. One episode of Parks and Rec is okay; a whole series is not. 

- Reestablish a routine

  • As insanely fantastic as it is, laying in bed all day is not going to get you anywhere. Set a routine, and stick to it; wake up at a consistent time and actually get out of bed, accomplish a few things each day (but they don’t have to be academic - laundry, taking a walk or vacuuming your bedroom) and stay out of bed except for when you’re sleeping. 
  • Naps are ok too though, but keep them short and don’t start after 3pm because you won’t be able to get to sleep at a human hour that night. 

- Take care of yourself

  • Give priority to maintaining healthy and normal sleep, eating, and self-care habits. You’re going to be useless if you’re exhausted, hungry, and grimy. 
  • Try to identify why you’re burnt out. Yes, you had two weeks of back-to-back exams. But is there anything you could have done differently? Could you have started studying earlier, made revision materials as you went, reduced or delegated other commitments? While this isn’t necessarily cure for burnout, it’s crucial to preventing another episode further on down the line. And after all, they say prevention is the best medicine. 

- Ask for help!!

  • Counsellors (academic and therapeutic) are there for your use. Take advantage of them, especially if they’re provided free of charge by your institution! They’ve got a lot of experience, and could impart some seriously useful wisdom about managing workloads, maintaining your sanity and resources if you really are struggling.
  • Supportive family; not everyone is lucky enough to have one, but if you do, make sure they know you’re under duress and see if they can help in anyway - letting you get off chores or offering to help with your place if you’ve moved out, providing sustenance, or just offering an ear for you to moan and rant and talk it out. 
  • Make sure there’s nothing underlying that’s causing your anxiety/depression/low mood, and if you suspect there is talk to your doctor!

The Not-Quite-Normal but Still-Totally-Awesome OTP 30 Day Challenge

Day 1: On a Swing Set

And a very happy birthday to the one and only petals42, whose beautiful mind created this entire thing. We’re going to be doing this whole thing together, her writing, me drawing, and in a convoluted way of testing our theory that we have a long distance mind meld going on, we won’t know what the other did until we post, so strap in!

Petals’ lovely story.

anonymous asked:

if not gun control, then what do you think would help with the situation in the us right now? im genuinely wondering just cause it feels so hopeless lately

You mean about gun violence? I think a large part of the problem is not even information about safe gun handling or respect for firearms or even necessarily access to firearms, but a uniquely American culture centered on and accepting of violence as a normal thing. I think Americans are just uniquely violent, period.

So the answer is functionally cultural revolution, frankly. A culture where violence isn’t seen as a normal occurance or inevitability. A culture where domestic violence and other forms of male violence are actively challenged and socially, not just legally, punished, but wherein a man can’t just be a rapist and have a normal career. Things like that are crucial. These are the kinds of things I’d like to see mandated as cultural programs under socialism.

I also think it is very recent that we’ve had a “gun violence” issue in the way that we think of it now, and it relates to the American upstate constsntly being at war such that warfare has permeated the public mindset (popularity of camo, war video games that I myself love playing, American cultural focus on warfare in film, etc) that of course a violent culture and a violent state lead to violence being seen as a general, neutral fact of life. Because for all of my life it HAS been, though it doesn’t need to be. And I also think there is something uniquely post 9/11 about the use of violence specifically as a means to a political end thay has permeated American gun violence as it relates to mass shootings- shoot up a planned parenthood, murder an abortion provider or threaten to, murder a bunch of gay people to instill fear in them, murder a bunch of random women to show that they can and it is their fault for not fucking you, etc. That there is a particular profile for these things I’d never brought up- there’s a male violence problem, and specifically a white male violence problem, that leads to the kinds of events that make headlines. These events are very new- aside from the Oklahomo City bombing, it’s hard to think of a list of similarly political attacks before very recent years. And there have been millions of guns here for a long time. So SOMETHING changed and I think that is largely cultural.

But those kinds of shooting make up a tiny fraction of gun deaths per year, frankly. Most is interpersonal violence, gang violence or otherwise criminal violence, and suicides. All of that can be addressed at the cultural level but not until you acknowledge it.

To be clear, it’s not that I oppose all gun control measures but it’s obvious that people who want blanket “gun control” have few policies in mind that would work. Background checks are already implemented and can’t possibly catch everything. Safe gun storage would prevent several accidental deaths per year, and I agree any house with a child or someone who shouldn’t use firearms should hsve a secure safe, but that’s a tiny portion of gun deaths per year. What do you want to do about the close to 400 million guns already in the country? You can’t track them all down. Even if you could, confiscation would start a civil war. Ban “high” capacity magazine? There are already thousands, almost definitely tens of millions, in circulation. Automatic weapons are already banned. Banning semi autos is both absurd and useless when criminals are not going to have a hard time finding one of the many millions already in existence. So I get 10 rounds in a bolt action to defend myself against someone coming into my house with 30 rounds semi auto? What sense does that make? You see that many places IN THE US with strict gun laws have high gun crime rates. You think Chicago gang members have their firearms ID like I do? Or paid the hundreds of dollars it takes to get a carry license like I did? They’re just already too available for you to implement controls that would actually affect people who shouldn’t have guns and already have them.

You can control all you want moving forward but with more than a gun for every single person in the country, I think we might just sort of be past the point of no return and that nothing but lasting cultural change will make that big of a difference.

Things in Dishonored that I find inexplicably hilarious
  • The beginning of The Brigmore Witches when you import a high-chaos save. Someone wakes Daud up from a nightmare, and Daud responds by throwing him to the ground and drawing his sword, only to find that it’s one of his own men. One would think that he would let the guy go after he realized his mistake, but no, he keeps him pinned to the ground with a sword at his throat, while the Whaler gives his report in a perfectly level voice, as if this is a completely normal occurence. Apparently high-chaos Daud is not a morning person.
  • The fact that the Overseers took the time to redecorate the Whalers’ base.
  • Corvo talking about how ~vulgar~ the Crown Killer is.
  • Sokolov asking if it was really necessary to slit every throat between Karnaca and Dunwall.
  • Corvo’s very Keanu-esque “Whoa” when you find Emily’s doll during the final mission.
Dissociation in Traumatized Children and Adolescents: Notes

Dissociation, the absence of awareness, is a very normal process when it occurs from time to time.

          Normal Dissociation

o   Fantasy stories and friends take on a separate reality

o   Imaginary friends may be an enjoyable fantasy, expansion of experience, a way to fill loneliness or boredom. They can also be a process for working out fears and ambivalent feelings.

o   Adults may experience a similar type of dissociation when driving but their minds are preoccupied with other thoughts.

o   Adults and children may experience depersonalization—seeing or experiencing themselves as if from the outside—when they are caught in a frightening situation (i.e. getting bitten by a dog, being in a car accident, etc.) or going through a particularly stressful time.

o   Dissociative experiences that are part of the normal development do not cause a fragmentation of experiences or self.

o   The child can be aware of what happened and can talk to others about what happened.

o   If the child’s experience continues to be frightening or nonsupported (not having an opportunity to process what happened), dissociative experiences are likely to continue.

o   The more dissociation continues, the more it affects the child’s perceptions, feelings, physical sensations, or knowledge of the world that is stored outside of the active awareness.

o   Problematic dissociation rarely occurs alone. It is often present with other things such as posttraumatic stress, childhood depression or severe anxiety.

o   Dissociation can often look like Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD), a conduct disorder, a reactive attachment disorder, a bipolar disorder, or may be comorbid with one of these disorders.

o   Dissociation in a child may be mild, moderate, or extreme.

          Mild Dissociation

o   Presents as a type of “spacing out” which is different from lethargy from depression or withdrawal from anxiety.

o   Abrupt changes in emotion or behavior may occur with mild dissociation.

o   Most children who become upset experience a building of distress or other negative feelings to the point where the child no longer has complete control over her or his behavior.

o   The child with mild dissociation is more like an infant or toddler who moves directly to extreme states of reacting: the mid-states of moderate emotion are missing or minimal.

          Moderate Dissociation

o   Children with moderate dissociation may experience a numbing of emotions or body sensations.

o   The child can block out frightening experiences, strong emotions, body states, emotional needs, and even severe pain.

o   The child may have the feeling that a situation is not happening, that her or his surroundings or events are not real—this is known as derealization.

o   Depersonalization and/or derealization usually first occurs during a frightening event, and it may reoccur whenever something in a child’s world is similar in some way the frightening event.

o   New frightening experiences that remind children of the original frightening experience trigger a fright response and consequently triggers the protective response of dissociation.

o   Depersonalization and derealization are used to avoid distress.

          Extreme Dissociation

o   This occurs when, in order to feel safe, the child needs to separate the emotions, physical sensation, or experiences so completely from her or his awareness that the child, outside of consciousness, “creates” separate parts of herself or himself to hold these emotions, sensations, or experiences.

    §  These are known as dissociative parts or dissociative self-states.

o   Children may experience these parts or self-states as voices telling them what to do or experience a shift insides themselves or such that the children are consumed with the emotion or sensation or reexperiences the age of they experienced the frightening experience(s).

o   The difficulty is that while in a dissociative state the child may be unaware of all the other learning and experiences that the child has had in her or his life.

o   The child may be unaware that years have passed and that she or he is now in a safe place.

o   Fear, anger, and sense of loss all may be experienced without any moderation.

o   What a child does in a dissociative state will not necessarily be remembered when the child is not in that state.

o   Each state (the emotion-state, the younger child state, the “now” state) is likely to have separate memory.

    §  There is, however, an awareness within the child that there are other states or ways of being. The diagnostic term for this level of dissociation is known as Dissociative Disorder Not Otherwise Specified (DDNOS) (American Psychological Association, 2009).

o   The angry or deprived-feeling child may steal or break things, but later in another state—perhaps, the part of the child that wants to be close to others—the child may not have access to the memory of lying and acting irrationally, while the child feels misunderstood and mistreated.

    §  This type of interaction together with the intense emotions associated with feelings mistreated will often end of intensifying the use of dissociation.

o   New experiences are not necessarily experienced across all dissociative or self-states. Therefore, infant or toddler parts are not modified by later experiences held in the child or adolescent part.

    §  For some children, there are numerous parts within each age group. One part may be loving while another is fearful.

o   The child’s facial expressions, movements, and general demeanor can vary greatly from state to state. Therefore, the child appears as if she/he are separate people.

o   The child is not capable of recognizing when in one state or that other parts exist.

o   This makes it difficult for the child to control which part is present at any given time.

o   The switches between parts tend to be very sudden and often without the child or the people around the child being able to recognize what triggered the switch. This is referred to as Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) (American Psychological Association, 2000).

Children may or may not give specific names or other defining attributes (age, gender, feelings) to these parts.

Source:  Wieland, S. (2010). Dissociation in traumatized children and adolescents: Theory and clinical interventions. New York: Routledge.

Tenth Time Lucky

The first time Steve decided to ask Tony to marry him, he made sure to plan everything out perfectly.

A fancy restaurant- Tony’s favourite place, just a few minutes out from the Tower. It was small and no-nonsense and served the best Italian food Steve had ever tasted.  He’d set everything up- made sure to inform the restaurant owners and get them to keep away any paparazzi that happened to be lurking around the place, and told Tony to dress fancy. 

It was going to be perfect. Steve wanted it all to be perfect.

They’d eaten their desserts, and Tony had been laughing loudly at something Steve had said; his face creased with lines of happiness that Steve adored. The box in Steve’s jacket pocket felt heavy- and he knew that he had to do it tonight. Wanted to do it tonight. 

“Tony?” He grabbed at the hand that was resting on the table, mentally steeling himself. He knew that the question would undoubtedly illicit some sort of reaction from Tony- and that reaction would undoubtedly be an… interesting experience to deal with. But hell- Steve wasn’t expecting anything less, and it had been months since anything even vaguely resembling ‘normal’ had occurred in their lives anyway. Steve was used to it. 

Tony looked over to him, raising an eyebrow. “Mm?” He replied softly.

Steve opened his mouth, wondering what the hell he was actually going to say. He had planned it all out, yeah- but there was a difference between theorising all this shit and actually asking someone to spend the rest of their life with you.

“Tony,” he said again, and his throat felt dry with nerves.

“Steve,” Tony answered, equally serious, but with an eyebrow raised in amusement. Steve didn’t blame him- he probably looked like an idiot right now, with his mouth working up and down like some sort of stupid fish-

“Listen,” Steve said, “I have something I want to-”

Of course- that was when all the windows blew out.

The world shook and Steve automatically reached out for Tony, pulling him into his chest as they went flying across the room. There were screams heard outside on the streets, and Steve sighed in dismay and tiredness. 

Trust aliens to attack right now. If they hadn’t noticed, Steve was kind of fucking busy.
Absolutely fucking typical.

They both landed on the floor with a thump, and Steve rolled them expertly under the cover of a booth. “You didn’t happen to bring your suit, did you?” He hissed into Tony’s hair.

Underneath him, he felt Tony grin against his collar, popping a quick kiss there absently. “Nope. You got your shield?”

“Where the fuck do you think I’d be storing a shield?”

Tony shrugged. “Fair enough. Looks like we’re just going to have to improvise then, aren’t we?” He asked, rolling up his sleeve and revealing his gauntlet watch from under the fabric.

Steve sighed. “Yep. Looks like it.”

Okay. Another time, then. He could wait.

For now, there were plenty of aliens to take out his anger on.

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what i love abt the intro mission of Dishonored is how Emily says “let’s go play hide-and-seek first, run with me” and the Lord Protector, who only put foot on the ground for the first time in weeks, does actually run after her at high speed in that dark romanticism goth longcoat and fully armed with a sword and a pistol, in front of several witnesses, including a guard, Sokolov and Campbell, none of whom comment on the situation in any way whatsoever, making it clear that this situation is such a normal occurance it’s not even worth their attention

There are 5 types of post-traumatic stress disorder: normal stress response, acute stress disorder, uncomplicated PTSD, comorbid PTSD and complex PTSD.

Normal Stress Response

The normal stress response occurs when someone has been exposed to a discrete traumatic event. They experience intense bad memories, emotional numbing, feelings of unreality, bodily tension and distress. Individuals usually achieve complete recovery within a few weeks.

Acute Stress disorder

Acute stress disorder is characterized by panic, mental confusion, dissociation, severe insomnia, suspiciousness, and being unable to manage even basic self care, work, and relationship activities. Treatment includes immediate support, use of medication and brief therapy.

Uncomplicated PTSD

Uncomplicated PTSD involves persistent reexperiencing of the traumatic event, avoidance of stimuli associated with the trauma, and emotional numbing. It may respond to group, cognitive-behavioral, pharmacological, or combination approaches.

Comorbid PTSD

PTSD comorbid with other psychiatric disorders is actually much more common than uncomplicated PTSD. PTSD is usually associated with at least one other major psychiatric disorder such as depression, alcohol or substance abuse, and anxiety disorders. The best results are achieved when both PTSD and the other disorder(s) are treated together rather than one after the other.

Complex PTSD

Complex PTSD (sometimes called “Disorder of Extreme Stress”) is found among individuals who have been exposed to prolonged traumatic circumstances, especially during childhood, such as childhood sexual abuse. These individuals often are diagnosed with borderline or antisocial personality disorder or dissociative disorders. They often exhibit behavioral difficulties, extreme emotional difficulties, and mental difficulties (such as fragmented thoughts, and dissociation). Treatment often takes much longer, and may progress at a much slower rate.

anonymous asked:

Can Wizards have physical traits from their monster parents? If not, does that mean wizards can only be humans with open souls?

Wizards can inherit traits, but not anything that wouldn’t occur normally in a human. Think of it like Asari in Mass Effect. They’re a species who can reproduce with any race by combining their DNA and a second set of DNA that’s like a re-shuffled version of the first using the father as a template. That’s what it’s like in wizards, since monsters don’t have DNA. The second set of Chromosomes is like a version of the monster parent if they were human.

So like…. if… say… Asgore had a wizard kid, they could easily be blonde, brown eyed, and very tall. But they wouldn’t have horns or floppy ears.

The brain above illustrates the degenerative changes and atrophy caused by Creutzfeld-jakob Disease, a form of transmissible spongiform encephalopathy. When ‘mad cow disease’ is transmitted to humans it is classified as a varient of CJD. Typically CJD is transmitted through exposure to infected tissue usually through medical procedures, however there can be a other causes - such as hereditary CJD. A person is infected with a type of protein known as a ‘prion’, these occur normally within humans but the infectious form is folded in an abnormal way, which then alters normal, healthy prions in the cells of the host.  It is thought that the neuronal loss and damage is caused by a build up of these proteins in the brain.

CJD is marked by a quick onset of neurological symptoms and a rapidly progressing dementia and decline of neurological functioning. Initially, individuals experience problems with muscular coordination; personality changes, including impaired memory, judgment, and thinking; and impaired vision. People with the disease also may experience insomnia, depression, or unusual sensations. As the illness progresses, mental impairment becomes severe. Individuals often develop involuntary muscle jerks called myoclonus, and they may go blind. They eventually lose the ability to move and speak and enter a coma. CJD is fatal, and there are no treatments for the condition. 

There’s a graphic that goes around every now and then that has Batman’s thoughts on all the different Robins and one of them is “Dick saw being Robin as a thrill, that must be why he grew out of it” and up until now my general reaction has just been a heartfelt no, but I think I finally found the words to explain why that quote bothers me so much

Because there’s no way Dick only saw Robin as a thrill. Dick made Robin, Dick began Robin, Dick took what he had of his old life and poured it into Robin. Robin was Dick’s expression of grief in a time where nothing else would really work, and yeah, Tony Zucco was put away fairly quickly and he got closure, but that doesn’t mean the grief just stops once he’s given closure. It just means the source has been stemmed. Grief is the house is on fire. Closure that people have stopped lighting more fires the moment you put one out; there are now a finite number of fires to control. They might grow bigger or go out on their own, but new ones aren’t just springing up out of nowhere. Recovery is you still have to pick up your charred house and put out any leftover fires.

Robin helped him do that. Robin was born from grief (his mother’s name for him) and helped bring about closure, giving him back his agency in the face of death, and Robin served as support for his recovery by continuing to give him reasons to keep putting out the fires, even after the main blaze went out. Robin helped him clean up the rubble and put it together and build a new house.

And that house is Nightwing, and the Batfamily.

That’s why I think Dick grew out of Robin. He still misses his family, but they aren’t the sole reason he’s doing things. Robin was tied so tightly to them and their memory—Robin was like Batman, created to do what the one behind the mask could not—and I think at a certain point, Dick realized… he wasn’t that kid anymore. He wasn’t like Bruce, he was content with what he had. He could escape the shadow of grief, of his parent’s death, but Robin was a constant reminder of it and even though he’d largely been able to move on, that didn’t mean he wasn’t still sad and traumatized. But having the constant reminder when he was finally starting to feel more okay about things was probably painful. Robin had served its purpose, had fulfilled its duty as much as it possibly could. There wasn’t any further in healing that Robin could take him. So Dick hung up the cape and became Nightwing. Grew up. Let it go.

That’s why it still hurts when Jason takes up the Robin mantle. Because even though Dick isn’t using it anymore, that’s a mantle of grief, of his grief, for his family, and damnit, that’s sort of personal?

He has to get over it eventually, because Jason changes the meaning of Robin and makes it his own, the same way Dick will later do to the Batman mantle. The meaning doesn’t change entirely, but it’s tweaked just enough to be noticeable.

Because Robin to Dick means ‘life after death,’ the same way robins signal the renewal of spring after winter.

To Jason it means ‘belonging,’ because what is a more powerful symbol of affection to a kid who has every reason to expect betrayal than giving the mantle of your most beloved, most trusted partner? Which is why Jason’s so upset about Tim getting the mantle—not because Robin was replaced, Jason was the first replacement Robin, but—it means that his place at the manor’s been taken. If he’d come home and found the Robin position still unoccupied, things may have been very, very different, whether the Joker was still alive or not. Because Robin could’ve been the first step to healing him, too.

Tim sees Robin as ‘legacy,’ but for a kid who’s been shrugged off and left on his own for most of his life, his reasons for wishing for Robin are probably way more similar to Jason’s than either of them would ever like to admit. Because tying yourself into a legacy is just one of many ways to say you belong.

Damian’s much similar, also tying in Dick’s meaning of ‘new life’ along with Jason and Tim’s ‘legacy’ and ‘belonging.’ Because Robin is his chance at being a different person than he was raised to be.

And all of these meanings of Robin can translate into ‘recovery.’ Whether it’s recovering from being alone, or death, or the way you were raised, Robin has become the hero you are when you’re drowning, and you can make it if someone just throws you a rope, a life preserver, a log, a stick, anything. If they just give you a stick, you can fight your way out of where you are.

You can recover. Bounce back from anything.

You’re Robin.

And Dick Grayson started all of that.

(THEORY) Mystery May Have Autism


So what Makes him Have Autism

He Hates Most vegtables and he could be a fussy eater which some autistic people are,And he also dosen’t like relaxing Drinks For Some People who dont know What relaxing drinks are

here are some Relaxing drinks

  • Warm Or Hot Milk
  • Tart Cherry Juice
  • Herbal Teas
  • Oat Straw
  • Green Tea
  • Honey-Infused Drinks.

He Also Gets into Agressive Behaviour Which People which Autism do sometimes As it  often cause a great deal of difficulty, he also nonstop attacks as well, he is also mentally unstable which he also has hallucinations

He Also has digesting Problems which also cause him to throw up 

This could be a  reflux which they usually occurs when the stomach contents reflux or back up into the esophagus and/or mouth. Reflux is a normal process that occurs in healthy infants, children, and adults. Most episodes are brief and do not cause bothersome symptoms or complications.

@sleepy-kinq i hope this is Good

was going to say that ever since i stared directly @ the sun plants have started to sprout/bloom & flourish behind me everywhere i walk but then i remembered that’s just a normal thing that occurred long before ever staring @ the sun, so.. false alarm