norm a

i would never ever be MAD at someone for wearing makeup, but like why is there SO MUCH FOCUS on a woman’s right and ability to wear makeup and how ~radical~ it is to wear makeup … and how you should wear makeup to show how much of a real woman you are blah blah the list goes on…

when thats always been the fucking norm, women are told they look unprofessional without makeup and dont get jobs without wearing it, or they’re fired for not wearing it, women are never portrayed in media without wearing makeup, female politicians are always encouraged to wear makeup and ostracized when they dont, women are mocked and harassed when they don’t wear makeup women are shunned when they dont wear it. etc. 

yall can point all day to twitter users who are like “i prefer a woman without makeup” but at the end of the day their reference photo for a woman without makeup is just a woman with “natural” makeup on. They simply don’t want to hear or notice that work goes into performing femininity. 

like… why is there such a focus on supporting something that’s already encouraged by society …. when we could also [as in at the same fucking time] support women who ARENT wearing makeup and not doing things they have been told they should be doing since forever. 

again, not saying “hey don’t wear makeup” but … saying … maybe support women who don’t wear makeup, or can’t wear makeup just as much as you support women who do wear it? and maybe not fucking PRESSURE people to do something they don’t want to or can’t do?

anyway cis women have been dominating these spaces for all of history. these uterus drawings and vagina power slogans go way back. to act like trans women have to wait and take a backseat in the discussion of reproductive rights and womanhood (when it has been the norm for decades lol) is fucking exclusionary, no matter how much yall wanna word vomit about how it’s not lol. trans women have the right to be suspicious and reject this genital-specific rethoric in modern libfem spaces because it is harmful! and what we collectively NEED to do in order to properly represent and respect womanhood as a whole is to stop! centering! it! around! genitals! lol! 

if all these cis women with these slogans and drawings KNEW and didn’t center the whole conversation on their genitals as the One True Expression of womanhood and respected trans women as their equals, uplifted them and let them take their rightful place in the conversation instead of taking up all the space available with their bullshit rethoric then we could BEGIN talking about respecting the ‘multiplicity of womanhood’. but that ain’t the case so i don’t see how this argument is that different from the terfy ass “u don’t have a vagina so u don’t get a say!!!!111” bullshit i see on the daily lol. but i’m sleep!

like i don’t get why it’s so hard to understand that for this multiplicity to be respected equally, understanding and inclusion must come first. we need to take a step back and evaluate ourselves collectively. trans women need to be at the front too, not behind yall shitty signs and cissexist chants, waiting until the o’ holy vagina is done speaking so they can have a say. while genital-specific talk is important, it doesn’t need to be at the expense of trans women. yall can take a rest and stop acting like they’re villains for demanding inclusion in these talks and calling yall out on your shit lol.  

It was weird, CNN was intentionally trying not to talk about Trump’s little crowd size stunt because they viewed it as an intentional attempt to sway media coverage away from the protests. That only lasted like an hour though because talking about Trump is way better ratings. 

So now we get talk about how silly Trump is breaking Democratic norms that his supporters will blow off as “CNN lul fake news” and further dive into their holes.


Instead of talking about the MILLIONS AND MILLIONS OF PEOPLE WHO OPPOSE DONALD TRUMP AND EVERYTHING HE STANDS FOR.

politico.com
From Obama to Trump: No Ordinary Lurch
The ceremony might have looked smooth, but it’s hard to imagine a more abrupt change in the American presidency. By MICHAEL GRUNWALD

The presidential inauguration of Donald J. Trump mirrored the traditions of inaugurations past—the giant flags in front of the soaring Capitol Dome, the bipartisan pageant of shivering politicians, the rhetorical tributes to America’s peaceful transfers of power. Republican Senator Roy Blunt quoted Thomas Jefferson and Abraham Lincoln about national unity, reminding the crowd the event was “not a celebration of victory, but a celebration of democracy.” And the Trump supporters who had been so raucous during his rallies generally respected these ceremonial norms of civility, mostly refraining from booing Barack Obama and even Hillary Clinton.

But Trump was Trump, even though he had just become President Trump. He is no ordinary politician, and his inaugural address—a pugilistic, nationalistic, campaign-style screed that made America sound like an unbearable dystopia—was a harsh reminder, if one were needed, that this was no ordinary transfer of power.

Historical hinge points are not always discernible in real time, but America’s dizzying leap from Obama to Trump—from the first black president to the leader of the movement that questioned his citizenship, from a globalist who pushed an opening with Asia to a populist who echoes the angry rhetoric of ethno-nationalists in Europe—is an obvious one. It’s an abrupt shift not only from a Democratic technocrat who pursued progressive policies to a Republican billionaire who has vowed to undo them, but from no-drama to melodrama, from cerebral and methodical to impulsive and chaotic, from the pedantic intellectual who loathes cable news and quoted V.S. Naipaul in an exit interview with the New York Times book critic to the brand-savvy entrepreneur and reality-TV host who incessantly watches cable news and does not seem to read books at all. It’s also a shift from the optimistic hope of “Yes We Can!” to the bombastic darkness of “I Alone Can Fix It.” And while recent U.S. presidential politics has tended to lurch across the ideological spectrum every eight years—from Bill Clinton to George W. Bush to Obama—this inauguration did not feel like an ordinary lurch.

Read more here

so CNY is coming up and i’m not at all looking forward to the “why don’t you dress more like a girl?” and “do you have a boyfriend yet?” and “if you dressed more like a girl you would have a boyfriend” comments from my relatives (wtf i am unarguably femme you just gotta grow out of that straight girl aesthetic) SO

new year at hasetsu headcanons!!!

  • yuuri helping out around the inn to get it ready for the new year so mama katsuki takes viktor out to shop for new year clothes
  • viktor is super excited. like SUPER.
  • mama katsuki fondly calling him vicchan is very important :>
  • viktor sees this kimono in the window of a shop and its so pretty like?? its cherry red and its got all these pretty flowers embroidered all over and its got these long flowing sleeves that are almost to the ground and its just PERFECT????
  • shopkeepers like hmm are you sure you don’t want this one its very popular and points him to a perfectly plain looking navy yukata
  • viktors like but this one makes my waist look slimmer and its way prettier and he’s just so excited so everyone is like okay and he gets his kimono
  • on new years day viktor puts it on and shows it off to yuuri and yuuri is like??? and pulls mama katsuki aside
  • “mom why did you let viktor buy a furisode?!!”
  • “oh but you should have seen how excited he was, sweetie, does it really matter?”
  • so yuuri quietly tells viktor that furisodes (particularly of that design) are usually worn by young and single girls when they come of age so he’s basically in the equivalent of a dress and sorry mama katsuki apparently didn’t say anything??
  • viktor is like oh okay but it’s so pretty and i like it
  • so yuuri just shrugs and accepts it, and everyone just shrugs and accepts it
  • off they go for the new year festival with yuuri in his yukata and viktor being excited and happy in his gloriously pretty furisode
  • he gets lots of compliments from strangers at the festival :>

Of all the tweets, posts, and articles that I’ve seen in my attempt to make sense of what’s really going on with this whole presidential shit show, this is one that has resonated with me the most.

Transcript:

If you are puzzled by the bizarre “press conference” put on by the White House press secretary this evening (angrily claiming that Trump’s inauguration had the largest audience in history, accusing them of faking photos and lying about attendance), let me help explain it. This spectacle served three purposes:

1. Establishing a norm with the press: they will be told things that are obviously wrong and they will have no opportunities to ask questions. That way, they will be grateful if they get anything more at any press conference. This is the PR equivalent of “negging,” the odious pick-up practice of a particular kind of horrible person (e.g., Donald Trump).

2. Increasing the separation between Trump’s base (1/3 of the population) from everybody else (the remaining 2/3). By being told something that is obviously wrong– that there is no evidence for and all evidence against, that anybody with eyes can see is wrong– they are forced to pick whether they are going to believe Trump or their lying eyes. The gamble here– likely to pay off– is that they will believe Trump. This means that they will regard media outlets that report the truth as “fake news” (because otherwise they’d be forced to confront their cognitive dissonance).

3. Creating a sense of uncertainty about whether facts are knowable, among a certain chunk of the population (which is taking a page from Kremlin, for whom this is their favorite disinformation tactic). A third of the population will say “clearly the White House is lying,” a third will say “if Trump says it, it must be true,” and the remaining third will say “gosh, I guess this is unknowable.” The idea isn’t to convince these people of untrue things, it’s to fatigue them, so that they will stay out of the political process entirely, regarding the truth as just too difficult to determine.

This is laying important groundwork for the months ahead. If Trump’s White House is willing to lie about something as obviously, unquestioningly fake as this, just imagine what else they’ll lie about. In particular, things that the public cannot possibly verify the truth of. It’s gonna get real bad.

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Finished Watching Season 2

I don’t know why there’s so much negativity about, I for one thought it was pretty good.

There were some things they could’ve done better and improved upon, for me it seemed a bit rushed but that could’ve been just me binge watching it.

For the most part I think people expected too much and got their hopes up thinking it was going to be something phenomenal and going to “break norms” at least, and I think that’s where people were disappointed.

I know not to expect much from season 3 though

But the main given is more Lance, I want more Lance and more Lance and Keith relationship building, honestly all they had to do to show improvement upon their relationship was maybe add few more lines to the other that’s literally it. It just seemed like the whole thing with them bonding was completley fucking forgotten, like it was only supposed to be Lance forgetting the moment not the writers.

And I would love to not have Hunk reduced to a food joke. Honestly I feel like it got really fucking ridiculous in the episode where their all standing and Pidge asks what they’re thinking about. That was beyond unnecessary.

Poetry and Pomegranates

I was tagged by @maya-doolali, @tafkas77, @hangingoninquietdesparation@anexplorationofcharacter (and quite possibly a few more - my apologies if I forgot you in the shuffle) to discuss pomegranates. No, wait. That was the other tag game. This is about poetry.

What subject matter would you like to see covered by poetry? Pomegranates. The world needs more poetry about pomegranates. A while back, several wonderful people wrote some excellent poems about pomegranates. I would enjoy it immensely if more people would join the fun.

What is the purpose of Tumblr? To promote deviancy as the norm. I am the norm.

What do you think is the purpose of poetry? Poetry is the art of language. It makes the abstract concrete and stretches the physical into something intangible. It galvanizes people behind a cause. It rouses emotion and engenders critical thought. Words are powerful in the hands of a poet.

What kind of poetry do you like? I enjoy poetry that isn’t obvious. I like words that provoke thought and reflection on ideas I might not have considered before. Poetry that makes me use my dictionary app or uses words in an interesting way is swoon-worthy. The abstract appeals to me because it’s often new and unique.

What is your opinion of therapy and poetry/writing as a therapeutic tool? I’m assuming this question is about the latter and not therapy in general even though it’s phrased that way. Writing as a therapeutic tool is certainly a thing. It’s talking therapy, but with pen to paper (or fingers to keys). Tumblr is teeming with this type of diary poetry. I’m not convinced my opinion matters on this topic.

What is the purpose of this blog? This blog is evolving. Originally, it was to be a place for me to put my word-hoard. It is still my vault. However, it has become a place to meet likeminded individuals. To read their words and be enlightened and inspired by them. More so, to become friends. I have made many friends here and would be thrilled to make more.

Why do you have this blog? Because pomegranates.

The last time I tagged people no one did it. Of course, I only tagged them yesterday, so there is that. Perhaps they are in the throes of pomegranate poetry. In which case, I forgive them.

I tag the last ten people in my activity feed. That means you. Yes, you who are reading this right now. Just do it. You know you want to. Unless you’ve already done it. In which case, I forgive you for not waiting until I tagged you.

anonymous asked:

I'm so tired of black girls like you who revert back to sticking to black men instead of exploring other races of men. So what a black girl loves white boys? There are plenty of black men (if not most) who unapologetically love and openly state their preferences for other races of women. You are playing yourself by adhering to norms in the black community that state black women cannot prefer nonblack men. Smh very disappointed, it seems you have imbibed black patriarchal beliefs.

LMFAO you made me laugh😂 who said im reverting back to black men. Im attracted to white guys yes and im proud of that but im not going to be confined to only like white guys but if i met a black guy or a man of a different race that i liked and made me happy i wouldnt reject him is what i meant so stop being a little bitch and stop whining

bugcthulhu  asked:

Honestly it's very refreshing seeing someone who puts a whole lot of work into their made-up setting AND is not afraid of making it sound as decadent and depressing as the real world can be. Major props to you

I guess I always worry when I make something depressing or ~pessimistic~ to some extent cause there was a time when any sort of non optimistic and light media was dismissed on on here and deemed “edgy” even when it wasn’t.

My rule of pessimism and “darkness” in my stuff is that it should be on the relm of realism (aka shitty stuff people do+ how grim the natural world is) and not just excessively miserable 100% of the time.. a rule that I’ve broken several times by now WOOPS.

Also this is more general advice, but if you are making an intentionally shitty society be conciously critical of said world and its norms in some form, cause riding off “well this is just realism” alone just makes your stuff seem complacent at best and idealizing/indulgent a lot of the time

@not-a-lizard: Yeah, maybe it’s different people exerting pressure and different people expecting you to lie?  Or they exert pressure first and then only later stop believing you?

Me: I feel like it’s a game being played by different people with different interests.

@not-a-lizard Honestly I don’t even understand how norms like “when someone compliments you, you should immediately compliment them back” get established, because that’s HARD and non-obvious and seriously what even

@not-a-lizard but apparently that’s a thing, did you know that?

Me: I did, yes.

Me: And it seems perfectly correct and natural to me.

@not-a-lizard: … huh, okay

Me: Reciprocation: It’s A Thing :p

Me: Though, like, I don’t find it hard, because things I like about people are usually more salient than things I don’t.

Me: Maybe this is just an Agreeable People thing :p

Me: Like, it would be Hard for me to meet a person and not be able to come up with an honest compliment for them, which is why I find compliment memes on Tumblr easy.

@not-a-lizard: How do you manage it, though? Like, someone compliments me something I’m wearing, and then my options are 1) try to think of something I like about what they’re currently wearing, which involves obvious looking around and thinking and being awkward, or 2) go with a generic and probably transparently fake “You look great today too!” compliment

@not-a-lizard: Ah, okay, you’re just inherently ready with compliments, I suppose that makes sense ;)

Me: Though, sometimes, it might be hard to come up with a socially acceptable one, because I might come up with something like “I like how autistic you are” and then not be able to think of any more :p

Me: Because I usually generate them one at a time.

Me: I mean, like, I usually don’t have a hard time looking around for a thing.

@not-a-lizard: … yeah that’s just so strange

Me: And, also, this is why when women are complimented they’re expected to draw out the phrase “Thank youuuu”.

Me: You’re using the extra time to think of a return-compliment.

Me: Though I’ve never seen a non-gay man do the prolonged “Thank youuuu” thing leading into a compliment, because men who sleep with women can’t into compliments, for some reason???

Me: Maybe there are bi men who can, but I haven’t met them either.

@not-a-lizard: But yeah for me this is a terrible social norm that I am going to continue to ignore because any other options only end up MORE awkward.

Me: Fair enough!

Me: Meanwhile, I will continue being the most stereotypically feminine person ever :p

@not-a-lizard: And the other problem with various compliment-expecting social norms is that occasionally it results in people complimenting me and me mistakenly assuming they MEAN it

@not-a-lizard: (although you’re right, they’re probably just people like you who do mean it but it’s a different level than when I mean it)

Me: [nod nod]

Me: Like, if you just leave me unrestrained, I’d compliment people continuously.

Me: But this is socially Weird, so I don’t.

Me: Which I think is part of what compliment-prompting is for?

Me: It lowers the activation energy.

Me: It pulls down the social barrier to paying compliments.

Me: Otherwise you might end up like smol!me before I learned that Real Men Don’t Like Things and used to compliment people all the time and have them look at me like I was a WEIRDO.

@not-a-lizard: I mean, this is very rarely a problem because generally I have an extremely low level of paying attention to what people think, but I’ve had a couple of cases where someone generic-complimented me twice and I thought that meant they idk liked/valued me more than average but a friend had to explain to me that it didn’t XD

@not-a-lizard: Awww, smol!you sounds so cute though

Me: So, there are these scenes that sometimes show up in girl!media where two women meet and they initially don’t like each other, but then one of them says “I like your top.”
And then it goes something like -
Woman 2: Thanks. I like your shoes.
Woman 1: Thank you. I love your hair.
Woman 2: Thank you! I love your necklace.
[iterate a bit]
And then they end up BFFs.

Me: And this kind of social interaction just seems intuitively Correct and like the way Proper Humans work.

Me: Then I learned that 1) Boys are not Proper Humans, and 2) I was supposed to be one of those.

Me: It did not end well…

@not-a-lizard: … Yeah I am definitely not a Proper Human XD

@not-a-lizard: But yeah for me compliments about appearance/objects are usually pretty close to value-neutral unless they’re from someone whose opinion I already care about

Me: But, like, paying enough attention to someone to know what things you actually like about them is supposed to be a signal of caring about them! So, friendship-signalling!

Me: This is important, tho

@not-a-lizard: hmm, good point about friendship signalling. Maybe I should try to remember that in case of future compliments.

@not-a-lizard: (I’m generally not very good at realizing that things mean stuff other than their surface meanings. This is a problem with social interactions.)

Me: Yeah, fair :)

Me: I like how autistic you are :p

Me: But, yeah, this fails when prompting people for specific compliments, though! If you say “I’m pretty, aren’t I?” and then give someone a Pointed Look, then what they say is meaningless because, if they disagree with you, they’ll just lie.

Me: Compliment prompts have to be open-ended or they’ll be bullshit.

@not-a-lizard: Yeah that’s just terrible

Me: Or you could ask for an honest assessment of a trait like prettiness but, like, don’t actually expect honesty from anyone but your closest friends and/or people who are inhumanly tell culture.

Me: Or ask anons on 4chan. They’re also inhumanly honest.

anonymous asked:

I really like Star vs The Forces of Evil and I am glad that you are livebloging it. But I have to say that in my opinion the show has Ups and Downs with episodes that feel meh-ish and following the norm.

This might sound like a dickish thing to say but considering this is a disney show it doesn’t really surprise me. Like… don’t get me wrong I love Disney but their cartoons have this tradition of having really high highs and really low lows. Which isn’t bad, just… different. I’ve enjoyed the first episode if that makes you feel better.

I didn’t write this. I don’t have a source but the information is invaluable.

This is an interpretation. But it seems to me like a good one.

“”“
If you are puzzled by the bizarre "press conference” put on by the White House press secretary this evening (angrily claiming that Trump’s inauguration had the largest audience in history, accusing them of faking photos and lying about attendance), let me help explain it. This spectacle served three purposes:

1. Establishing a norm with the press: they will be told things that are obviously wrong and they will have no opportunity to ask questions. That way, they will be grateful if they get anything more at any press conference. This is the PR equivalent of “negging,” the odious pick-up practice of a particular kind of horrible person (e.g., Donald Trump).

2. Increasing the separation between Trump’s base (1/3 of the population) from everybody else (the remaining 2/3). By being told something that is obviously wrong—that there is no evidence for and all evidence against, that anybody with eyes can see is wrong—they are forced to pick whether they are going to believe Trump or their lying eyes. The gamble here—likely to pay off—is that they will believe Trump. This means that they will regard media outlets that report the truth as “fake news” (because otherwise they’d be forced to confront their cognitive dissonance.)

3. Creating a sense of uncertainty about whether facts are knowable, among a certain chunk of the population (which is a taking a page from the Kremlin, for whom this is their preferred disinformation tactic). A third of the population will say “clearly the White House is lying,” a third will say “if Trump says it, it must be true,” and the remaining third will say “gosh, I guess this is unknowable.” The idea isn’t to convince these people of untrue things, it’s to fatigue them, so that they will stay out of the political process entirely, regarding the truth as just too difficult to determine.

This is laying important groundwork for the months ahead. If Trump’s White House is willing to lie about something as obviously, unquestionably fake as this, just imagine what else they’ll lie about. In particular, things that the public cannot possibly verify the truth of. It’s gonna get real bad.

anonymous asked:

I was so in love with the good girl imagine you did for Pete would you do imagine if you were a good girl with baron Corbin

Thank you my sweet lil nugget!
You have a type. Guys that wear button up shirts, drive dependable cars, and get you home on time were the ones you went after. There had never been any deviation from that norm, and you were fine with it. You preferred it that way. You were the same as them, anyway. Wearing sensible clothes, driving a simple four door sedan, never being out past “socially acceptable” hours. You were a bonafide good girl. And like attracts like, and all that, right? 
But opposites attract, as well, as you quickly found out upon meeting Baron. Baron, with his long hair, leather jacket, and a motorcycle, came into your life and effectively ruined you for anyone else. Soon, you were turning in your sensible loafers for boots Baron had given you, to help protect you when he took you on rides on his motorcycle. You were staying out later, not even doing anything “bad,” just sitting out on the pier, watching the stars reflected on the water with Baron’s leather jacket draped over your shoulders so you wouldn’t get cold.
It was a weird match up, that’s for sure. But you wouldn’t have it any other way. Baron made you wilder, gave you more freedom than you ever thought to give yourself. He helped you live. And you? You helped keep him grounded, helped get him to relax, take things slow. He was exactly what you needed, and you were what he needed. 
And you were convinced that abandoning your “type” and never looking back was the best decision you could’ve made.

In a rare and stunning reversal of the norm, A Series of Unfortunate Events seems to be IMPROVING on the books.

Expanding out that subplot, and the visual medium opens up a lot more potential, plus they seem to remember that there actually was some humor to the books, and the series actually built on the brand of humor they used. Well played.

We’ll see how the rest of the episodes play out.

“Remember. It happened again. The word was painted in red in the street down Mariveles. I wonder who it is now. Is it a father of two? Perhaps even seven. Maybe it is the communication student who had been working in Mcdonald’s. How I wish, though, that it was Mr. Tandayan. His loud speakers have been bugging me for ages.

They coined a term for it- collateral damage. The tragedy is a norm now; but as a protest still, we have created a culture out of it. We have been painting the word “Remember” in red in the exact place where the victim dies, and we can only hope- we can only hope- there won’t come a time when all the streets were already red. “

-s.j.m.

Tag-game

Rules: Answer the questions & tag 9 people you want to get to know better! thank you @ash-castle​ for tagging me :)

How old are you? almost 29

What is your current job? research assistant in clinical psychology, therapist in training

What are you good at? putting furniture together, also writing papers and organizing things.

What’s a goal you’re actively trying to achieve? Writing my stupid thesis before my internship starts in May

What’s your aesthetic? Books, big coffee cups, cheaply printed journal articles (not entirely by choice), small fluffy dogs, words scrawled on paper. 

Do you collect anything? Books, Succulents (you know the flower things?), more books, dvds (don’t care if they’re practically obsolete now!).

What’s something you’re always willing to talk about? Oh… Harry Potter (and a bunch of other franchises), social norms and problems, video games and gaming psychology, psychology in general, fun sarcastic little quotes 

Pet peeves? when people try to talk to me while I read or listen to something on my laptop (seriously I’m not wearing headphones to make a fashion statement!!!) 

Good advice? Why? Would? You? Ask? Me? That? I’m a freaking psychologist, I don’t have *one piece* of good advice… um… take care of yourself, allow yourself to breathe, make sure you have a little time each day to do something you love. 

Three songs you recommend?

Antebellum by Vienna Teng

Miserere Mei Deus, Gregorio Allegri (I listen to classical collections on youtube while I do my statistics, don’t ask :P)

Slow me down by Emmy Rossum


I’m tagging @curiouselfqueen, @jules-millicent, @crmediagal, @kreeblimsabs

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SO there has bin a bit of the Discourse™ about Pidge and the bathroom scene about whether it was a joke about alien bathrooms and her not knowing the customs, or a hint that the gender issues weren’t over. 

The creators are very aware of every discussion we have. Whether its shipping, or gender, or even last name. So they know were going to interpret that scene as talking about gender. 

If they wanted to make a joke about alien culture and gender norms they wouldn’t have don’t it with Pidge. Not if they wanted there point to be clear. With her largest character arc being partially centered around her gender why would they mean anything different? 

They obviously want us to remember to keep thinking about her gender. 

Now this might not mean shes trans, or a boy or anything BUT it could mean she is still holding on to that. 

Maybe its because she spent so much time having everyone see her as a boy, maybe its her missing that, maybe it is her wondering if the aliens have different gender norms than on earth, different ones where she might be more excepted if she did feel some type of way about her gender. 

But she was definitely thinking of it in terms of herself and her own gender, there has been to many points on it for them to casually mention it again and not mean something. 

Also this is a show made for children, they wouldn’t include some underlying complex thought on culture in a show meant to be interpreted by them.