hey baku, would it be weird if as a cis girl i wanted to use they/them pronouns? im pretty secure in my gender identity but something about people referring to me as ‘she’ makes me god damn uncomfortable and the thought of people referring to me as ‘they’ is nicer. i just wondered if this was a bit.. off... because im not trans?
first of all im not too keen on cis people deviating outside of their pronouns. trans people have to fight blood and iron to get their correct pronouns used, while cis people using different pronouns just for fun is.. you know.
i don’t think that’s the case for you. i’m not going to sit here and say that you’re trans. you’re gender identity is up to you. but if you find yourself uncomfortable with being called ‘she’ despite feeling like a cis girl, i would say that maybe you need to give yourself some time to assess your gender identity and see if you have any underlying feelings related to transness that perhaps you are missing.
a lot of trans/non-binary people start off with being uncomfortable with pronouns but still thinking they’re cis. then it can evolve into starting to feel uncomfortable with being perceived as their assigned gender at birth.
theres a good chance you could be non-binary! there are a wealth of non-binary identities that you could look into, but don’t pressure yourself. i’m not saying you’re trans. thats up to you to realise about yourself. but from experience, a lot of trans/non-binary people start out like you, finding discomfort in pronouns.
so, spend some time with yourself and try to assess how you feel. look into non-binary identites. don’t force anything on yourself. ask some close friends to use they/them to see how it feels.
goodluck, nonny! feel free to keep me updated!