Not a feel asks
I feel like autistic people often mention struggling with hygiene but for me it is a thing!! of!! top!! importance!! and if I don’t get to shower at least once a day it’s a one way trip to melt down land for me hahaha
-There are a lot of autistics who feel like they have to be completely clean or they will have sensory issues / meltdowns (I’m the same way).
I’ve just realized that whenever I’m happy I get jittery and tap my feet
on the floor, or twitch my body excessively. It that stimming? I’m
sorry I’m new to this.
I discovered the disability community on Tumblr long befor I even considered that I might be autistic, but even then (I dont have any other disabilities, so it’s not like I actually knew that I belonged ther), I identified really strongly with the community. Is that common for undiagnosed autistics?
-Yes, I would think so
I want to be nonverbal, but my parents would always scream at me/punish me if I didn’t answer them as a kid, so now whenever I try to be nonverbal around anyone and they say something to me, I feel like I NEED to respond. But when I am loud, I’m really loud, and my mom would hit me/dad would yell, so what’s the difference? Why can I be loud, but can’t be nonverbal? I hate that I’ve conformed to neurotypical standards
-I’m very sorry you had to go through that. I have the same problem with feeling like I’m required to respond, even if it’s to someone who has no control over me. If it helps, you could tell your friends that you don’t want to talk when you’re nonverbal, so they won’t expect you to. I also give very short responses if my friends speak to me in a way that needs a response after I state I don’t want to speak, and they tend to expect me not to respond as much after that. (As in, they can talk to me but I make it clear I don’t want to talk back)