non negotiables

34choco  asked:

hcs of the paladins favorite ways to kiss their partner?

A/n: Thank you for requesting again. It means a lot <3. This was meant to go up way earlier, but I’m pretty sleep deprived so I sleep during the day. On another note, Chester Bennington’s death hit me straight in the heart and I’m still pretty sad. Future apologies if this doesn’t seem right. Also, the last headcanon got good feedback! Thanks for that.


Shiro

-He loves to kiss your forehead

-Shiro is a pretty calm person, but when it comes to him leaving you for a mission you get a little scared.

-To calm you down, he kisses your forehead. It’s a thing he does when he’s about to leave too. (It aso soothes him. He likes to know that you’ll be there waiting for him)

Lance

-Lips. (like, it’s pretty much non-negotiable)

Lance is definitely a fan of PDA. So any chance he gets, he kisses you.

-He makes sure to do a long, passionate one before all his missions, whether you go with him or not.

Hunk

-Hunk is a shy but very affectionate person so I’d see him giving knuckle kisses

-When Hunk is sitting around with you, he’d subconsciously take your hand and bring it up to his lips. (sometimes he does it when he’s nervous)

-He also does this when you’re nervous or scared. 

Keith

-Keith is a simple dude. Not to mention pretty reserved. So he likes to kiss your cheek.

-He doesn’t really like people to be around when he shows affection towards you. He doesn’t want people to make fun of him.

-Though, when he’s about to leave for a mission, he doesn’t care if people see. He’d plant a kiss right on your cheek. (he’ll also try to resist the urge to punch Lance in the face for making fun of him)

Pidge

-Eskimo kisses!!

-I feel like you guys started to do this because y’all accidentally booped noses. (and you made the first move to rub her nose)

-And of course before every mission, she’d walk up to you. Usually, you’d have to make the first move to start it and she’d join.

-Also all the other paladins think ya’ll are just adorable like–

lovelybluepanda  asked:

Once you get this, you have to say five things you like about yourself, publicly. Then you have to send this to ten of your favourite followers (non-negotiable, positivity is cool~) 🌈🌈 addition by me: If you don't know what to say i can help ^^ start with the C1 lvl in French

heyyy, thank you for sending me this <3 love the idea

-> I like that I am very patient, calm, and have the ability of letting things go. 

-> I like that I am very positive, I always see the good in things.

-> I like that I am motivated - I want to do a lot of things and I work hard to make them all happen.

-> I like to think that I am very friendly and easy-going, that people rarely feel intimidated by me. I would say that I am a very good conversation partner and I can have a conversation with pretty much anyone! (especially live)

-> I am a good listener! I may not always give the best advice but I genuinely care about other people’s problems and I am always glad to hear them out. 

I’ve been playing Injustice 2 on and off, and am still hilariously terrible at it, but I finally got some epic level 20 helms for The Flash. First priority before putting any of them on: transforming the appearance into one of the other versions that actually showed his face.

For reasons.

Meanwhile, while I’m muttering things at the game like “no, you do not get to cover up Taliesin’s smirk, this is non-negotiable,” I’m also still amused over the fact that Matt had to do full facial capture for a character whose face, as far as I can tell, never gets to be seen. Because…just in case. I guess. Either way, picture me eyeing Deadshot in his full-face mask, thinking, “Matt had to shave for this,” and just kinda chuckling for a while.

astamaisha  asked:

Once you get this you have to say 5 nice things about yourself publicly then send this to your 10 favorite followers. (Non-negotiable, positivity is cool~)💕

I think I’ve done this before? I’m not sure but oh well I’ll do it again bc this is sweet and positive :’) LOVE YOURSELVES! ! (also ty for having me as one of your favs I love yours too :’) ) :

1. My height is great! I wish I was a bit taller but 5′8″ is a good height I love it. [except pants shopping dear god help me nothing fits]

2. My ability to talk easily with people is a help. I have a very warming attitude people say? But since I can relate to and talk about a lot of things people usually say that I’m the easiest to talk to.

3. I can wear/do a lot of things? I like trying a lot of different styles of clothes etc [Im kinda into fashion but not that over-the-top lookin like you could be in Alice in Wonderland stuff] and since I have a decent figure I can usually look good in a lot? Also my hair is super blonde so if I want to dye it I can without heavily damaging it with bleaching.

4. I’m decently smart? [ok @glittergyeom​ would 10/10 disagree bc I mistook a grape for cheese today]  But I make good grades and I’m mostly fluent in Spanish and decently fluent in Korean? [again @glittergyeom would disagree but I’m always too lazy to actually speak them] But when it comes to common sense I have 0 of that so I stick to book smarts :D

5. My ability to make friends of any ages? Since I was raised around a skydiving area when I was little most of my friends were adults so I’m more comfortable with them. But since I started public school I made friends my age and I’m really good with little kids [just bottle up the frustration] because I can play with them.

things you need to hear this exam season

- don’t beat yourself up for struggling even if you’re doing your best
- you are smart and capable so don’t let laziness stop you from achieving your potential
- stop self sabotaging. that tv show can wait. take a break but don’t become your own obstacle to success. get shit done first
- eating right, staying hydrated and sleeping well are non-negotiable. look after yourself
- grades do not define you so be kind to yourself. but do your best and work hard for what you want

The ‘q slur’ tag

Every time I see someone reblog my posts and tag them ‘q slur’ I feel pain. 

I get it: you wanna make your followers comfortable. But did you think about me? How do you think I feel about my identity being called a slur every single day? As if I am something dangerous, traumatic or nsfw just by existing as queer?

I know you don’t think you’re doing harm, but I can feel the hurt, they’re little needles in my queer heart every single day. I’m tired of it. 

I am QUEER. That is non-negotiable. That is where my strength comes from and my rage and my joy. No other term is ever going to describe who I am like ‘queer’. No other term is ever going to be my home like ‘queer’. 

And I refuse to let my home get called a slur every single day when I know the strongest voices behind the ‘queer is a slur’ campaign don’t give a shit about triggers. they’re transphobes and aphobes and biphobes trying to crush to spaces where people can exist without clear labels. They’re the people that want to make my queerness disappear. 

I am Queer. That is my soul. That is my rebellion. That is my solidarity. No ‘gay’ or ‘bi’ or ‘transgender’ label could set my heart aflame like that, could set me free like that, could give me the courage to walk through walls like that. Queer is why I am still here, alive.  Queer is my every breath.

If you don’t respect my identity, why reblog my posts? If you won’t let me be queer without putting ‘slur’ on who I am, just stop reblogging my posts, okay? 

Saturn can be difficult to generate satisfaction or ‘good feelings’ out of. Often the tasks we set with Saturn are admirable goals. But Saturn turns these dreams into concrete and resulting expectation. This is an area of life where failure is not an option. It can make the resonance very harsh and create obstruction through our own fears and self destruction. Saturn accepts nothing less than accomplishment. And when we accomplish his outstanding feats, we are not immediately gratified or rewarded or celebrated. Life seems to go on as normal, all the work we have done seems invalid, so much energy, effort, and pain expressed to feel nothing? I guess that’s the ‘expectation’ quality of Saturn. It’s the internal vision of greatness. Saturn knows our true potential beyond the self consciousness, complexes, and worry. The area of life where Saturn touches can feel like a non negotiable contract.

Saturn in the 1st house: Forced to constantly challenge ferocious critique from the ego, trapping the spirit in caged form, the individual can be forced through isolation and rejection and heartbreak to wake the inner alchemist. Saturn in the 1st is the late bloomer. It takes many years for the ancient spirit to come to grips with its human attributes 

Saturn in the 2nd house: Life, stability, and security can remains in constant fluctuation or threat. It can seem like no matter how hard the individual works, saves, or commits themselves they never catch a break. It can feel as if they are forever sacrificing their own self pleasure 

Saturn in the 3rd house: The individual must pass their exams. And they must do exemplary well - even if it’s not their subject of choice. Saturn in the 3rd has to fight a difficult battle with their own minds and generating focus, self belief, and confidence, academic failure is spirit destroying. And no matter what the score, the forbidding voice in the back of the mind, ‘you should have studied more’ 

Saturn in the 4th house: There can be a constant fight for security, stability, and safety. The individual charters through haunting inner territory to find the lost inner child. And it can seem like no matter how hard they try to nurture the inner child she is unwilling and traumatised, intense inner work is done with Saturn in the 4th and there is typically no one there to see it 

Saturn in the 5th house: The individual wages a battle on the ego, but the swords are raised by the ego. The expression of personality is pressured and bound by insecurity but forced into blinding light to perform a script that seems alien 

Saturn in the 6th house: Honourably committed to larger-than personal causes, the individual works tirelessly in the background, offering heart, mind, and talent to everybody in need of assistance. But they rarely receive commendation or recognition, the work is laborious and thankless 

Saturn in the 7th house: Relationships are commonly demanding, challenging and seemingly unforgiving. The individual may be forced into partnership with intensely difficult or critical people, those who echo their critical inner thoughts out loud as insult and become more isolated as a result, forced to wade through shadowy projections 

Saturn in the 8th house: The physical form and ego grips the spirit in stranglehold, the reticence to enter non physical states such as through meditation, union, enlightenment can be inhibited by the unrelenting fear of ‘letting go’. Often the individual will be expected to manage other people’s resources

Saturn in the 9th house: Achieving academic, theological, philosophical accreditation is vital. The individual faces exceeding pressures undertaking higher education and getting their works out into the world. When they finally graduate, publish the book, or learn the reading there is little or no credit from Saturn 

Saturn in the 10th house: The individual is forced to stare down intimidating and discouraging authority to achieve the remarkable vision set by Saturn. There is pressure to leave an imprint in the world, but the world is unwelcoming 

Saturn in the 11th house: An outsider pretending to be one with everyone, or so they think. The individual is forced to acquire, withhold, and release sacred and higher wisdom that can be mocked or branded by an unready society, the individual must continue to share their truth regardless of its loneliness 

Saturn in the 12th house: There is a powerful contract written in the theme of sacrifice and salvation. The individual’s duty to the collective are severe, the development of spiritual awareness and gnosis can sweep the individual into madness like a riptide. There are intense, invisible obligations undertaken for the spiritual nature of humanity

-C.

15 tips for traveling alone

I recently returned from a four-month trip around Europe. I backpacked to Spain, Portugal, Italy, Croatia, Greece, Hungary, Germany, Norway and The Netherlands, sometimes with my best friend, sometimes with new friends, and sometimes all alone. 

Travelling alone was one of the best experiences of my life. You’ll surprise yourself with your keen intuition, your ability to cope with a new language, your friend-making skills, your geographical bearings and overall just how much you enjoy doing whatever you want, whenever you want - from eating whenever, going wherever and doing whatever you feel like doing. Sometimes I had gelato for breakfast, once I spent six hours in a museum, a few times I slept til midday, I went to a music festival solo and I swam in the ocean morning, noon and dusk. 

But travelling alone can also be problematic and lonely if you’re not properly prepared. Here’s some easy tips that really enriched my experience travelling alone. 

1. Laptop smart
Not only is it exceedingly hard to navigate foreign transport sites from a phone, my laptop proved really valuable to me when I needed precious downtime, which was about once a week. I loaded up a portable hard drive with movies and boxsets so I could retreat into my own little world with my headphones on to watch a movie in bed when I needed a bit of ‘me’ time. 

2. Device smart
- I subscribed to Spotify Premium for $10 a month and built myself some playlists by mood - chill, happy, groovy, pensive. Then I downloaded them, so they were available offline.
- I also downloaded Tripit, an app that links with your email and builds you an automatic itinerary based on your email confirmations.
- I also downloaded Maps.me, an app with offline maps and GPS location so I was never lost. I dropped a (permanent) pin on the location of my accommodation in each city so I always had my bearings. 
- Also make sure your emails are accessible on your phone - I found the Gmail app to be the best option for me, because many of my emails were available offline - valuable when I needed an address or confirmation number, which was a lot!

3. Spend smart
I went with Citibank Australia, who offer a Citibank Plus everyday account with fee-free withdrawals and fee-free transactions anywhere in the world. Shop around your banks and see what deal you can find - don’t just go with your own bank, who might smash you with withdrawal and transaction fees. Every dollar counts when you’re overseas.

4. Insure smart 
This was a non-negotiable. I actually submitted two claims after this trip - one for a lost phone and another for a change of trip. Make sure you know what you’re entitled to before you commit to a policy - valuables up to $1,000 is essential if you’re taking that laptop or smartphone!

5. Pack smart
A few quick tips:
- Don’t take anything that needs ironing. You’ll never wear it, trust me. 
- Bring your runners so you can walk miles during the day. It really made all the difference for me - on days I wore them I could walk up to 30,000 steps without any pain whatsoever. 
- Bring your flip flops for showering. Tinea is rampant in hostel world!
- Bring exercise gear. I always moved from place to place in my exercise gear - it’s easy to sleep in on long haul bus-rides, and you don’t want to wear your 15kg pack with bad shoes - it hurts your ankles!
- Pack, then don’t take half the things you packed. Every little thing is a lot heavier on your back in the blistering heat, trust me. And they have toiletries in other countries too, you know!

6. Disembark smart
- Always carry some cash with you for the country you’re going to - for me, it was mostly euros. It was essential for my commute from the airport, and when I forgot to arm myself with currency, I was left disoriented, tired and wandering around trying to find an ATM while not getting robbed.
- It’s also worth Googling bus or train information before you board your plane, so you know the fastest and cheapest way to your accommodation before you land. Taxis are tempting - but will run your budget dry quickly. 

7. Book smart 
- Book directly through the website, not the compare-sites - it’s cheaper! This includes airlines, bus companies and train websites, and the hostel websites when it comes to booking your accommodation.
- Also, always book your bits and bobs in a private browsing section. Airline websites have algorithms that send the ticket prices up if they log your IP looking at a price a couple times to create a sense of urgency in you.
- But don’t feel like you need to map your whole plan out before you even leave home - I purposefully left gaps in my plan and life filled them in. I stayed with europeans I’d met overseas, travelled with new friends and went to countries that I had no plans on going to, like Norway (one of my favourite countries in the end!) 

8. Backup smart
After every country I backed up my phone to my laptop and my laptop to my hard drive. If you trust the Cloud, backup to there too. It is devastating to lose travel photos - they’re about the most important thing you own when you travel. 

9. Stay smart
- Hostelworld.com is the go-to site for hostels. If I was nervous about my choice, I’d usually book one night in and extend my stay if it felt right. I always read plenty of reviews for each place, particularly taking notice of the location rating. Cleanliness in the bathroom, uncomfortable beds or a tiny kitchen were things I could deal with. A 30 minute commute to the city was something that wore me down pretty quickly.
- Speaking of the kitchen - that ‘free’ shelf in the fridge is your best friend - use it!

10. Be alone smart
- Find a local pub and go and sit at the bar with a good book. Strike up a conversation with the bartender - they are probably bored out of their mind! Bartenders have a wealth of cultural knowledge about their city that you’d never find on Trip Advisor - ask for their hot tips on eating, drinking, shopping and the sights. I asked each bartender to draw all over a fold-up map in each city so I had a visual reference - it helped me pair things together that were close by so I could plan my days better.
- Also, do the walking tour on your first day. They are usually free (the tour guides live on tips) and they are the most useful introduction to a city - not to mention hugely interesting.

11. Commute smart
If you’re wondering if you should walk or get a metro, walk. If you’re wondering whether you should get the metro or a bus, bus. The metro is fast, but you see nothing. 

12. Dress smart
- If you’re spending the day exploring, wear one less thing than you think you need to. It’s awful being hot and sweaty, but easy to speed up if you’re feeling a little nippy. Plus, your thighs will thank you when they can crush steel between your rippling muscles!
- Runners are pretty much always the best option - you’ll double your productivity with them on. 

13. Mini-pack smart
Your daypack should contain:
- headphones
- a book
- a city map (to ask the locals to circle their favourite places on!)
- a knife and fork (plastic, for impromptu lunches in the park or by the water)
- a water bottle. Water is your best friend between all that exercise you didn’t realize you were doing (win!), the salty restaurant meals you’re eating (yum) and the drinking (inevitable). Drink it in litres - otherwise you’ll be perpetually dehydrated and wondering why you feel so tired. 

14. Wash, dry and iron smart
It’s inevitable you’ll have to wash atleast once a week. Face it, pretty boy. Mama aint here to help you now. 
- Every night, wash the underwear you wore that day in the shower. It takes five seconds, stops them from stinking up the place (we all know undies get the most dirty) and fresh undies are one of life’s little pleasures!
- You can iron out major creases by wetting a towel and wiping the clothing while it’s on you (it’ll dry), or bringing the item on a coat hanger into the shower area (the steam makes the creases drop out) 
- Splurge occasionally and get laundry done. Most hostels do it for less than $10, and having fresh clean dry clothing one of those amazing little things that lifts your spirits when you’re out of your comfort zone. 

15. Socialise smart
Talk to people! Everyone is the best version of themselves when they are travelling. Strike up conversations with people you would never usually speak to, especially those travelling alone as well. Ask them their story, compare itineraries, go on adventures together and who knows? You might just make a friend for life. 

Masterlist - Updated 06/16/17

Hamilton

Alexander Hamilton // One Shots

1. Cheap Pants -  College AU

Alexander Hamilton // Series

1. Lunchtime (Part One / Part Two) - “Are you wearing my pants?”

Hercules Mulligan // One Shots

1. Loud Mouth - Hercules has a soft side

2. Changes - “Friends with benefits. Oh, wait. I like you” 

3. Non-Negotiable - “Accidental waving” 

Lafayette // One Shots

1. Love Sick - “Can I kiss you?”

2. Late Night - Coming home drunk

3. Fresh Snow - Snow War

Lafayette // Series

1. Jeopardy (Part One / Part Two) - Friends to maybe something more.

George Washington // One Shots

1. Unreadable - “Wanna bet?” 

Philip Hamilton // One Shots

1. Yo-Yo - Soulmate AU

Philip Hamilton // Series

1. Legacy (Part One / Part Two / Part Three) - “So maybe you’re a fool, headfirst in love / with ink beneath your fingernails. ”

John Laurens // One Shots

1. Overdue - “You’re overdue for this book and I really want it.” 


In the Heights

Usnavi de la Vega // One Shots

1. Smooth Operator - “How long have you been standing there?”

2. Breaks - “I may be an idiot, but I’m your idiot.”

3. Throne - “Do it. I dare you.”

4. Home - Reader is new to Washington Heights


RPF (Real Person Fics)

Okieriete Onaodowan // One Shots

1. My Favorite Cousin - Reader is Anthony’s cousin

2. Peace - Reader owns a bakery/Lin sets them up.

Alex Lacamoire // One Shots

1. Second Date - Lin sets them up.

2. Grand Tour Alex admits he’s never been to San Francisco before, you give him a grand tour.

Lin-Manuel Miranda // One Shots

1. Manhattan - “The one night stand I had is actually my boss.” 

2. Sisterly Love - “I told my family I was in a relationship/fake boyfriend”

3. A Man’s Opinion - “I’m helping you pick out an outfit for your date tonight and I’m totally in love with you.”

4. Slytherin - Reader is an understudy for Eliza

5. Mixtape - Reader is a single mom

6. What’s Next? - Oak plays matchmaker

7. 5 Things - You frequently have one night stands with Lin

8. First Dance - Lin and Reader meet early on in their careers

9. One Cream, Five Sugars - Lin spills coffee on the reader

10. Green, Green Dress - Based off of Green, Green Dress from tick, tick…boom!

11. Embarrassed - Lin is a fan of the Reader

12. Settled - Lin and Reader were college roommates/he invites her to the Tony’s

13. Tell the Kids - Reader is Lin’s assistant on Mary Poppins.

14. Armani Suit Reader is a part of an auction for a date with her.

15. Rehearsals - Reader is the choreographer for Marry Poppins and Lin needs extra help.

16. Drunk HistoryDrunk! Lin confesses something to the reader.

17. Secret Santa - Lin is Reader’s Secret Santa.

18. Christmas Without You - Christmas Eve with Lin

19. First Date - Lin and Reader are set up on a blind date.

20. Cool - Reader is a famous singer that sings a Hamilton song at her concert.

21. Mother Knows BestThe Oscars’ luncheon breeds a new relationship for Lin.

22. One Time… Lin is an upbeat theater camp counselor. Reader is anything but.

23. Side A - Based off of ‘Love is a Mix Tape’ by Rob Sheffield.

24. Parallel Lines Who Meet - Loosely based off of Stephen Sondheim’s Comapny.

25. BacheloretteYou’re starting to question your place in life when you find out your best friend is engaged.

26. Need A RideAnything seems possible in the front seat of your beat up Chevy.

27. We’ll Have TonightNew York City is your own weekend mistress.

28. EverythingProm night with your best friend is the perfect night for Lin to get something off his chest.

29. Love on the Brain - You and Lin toe the line between best friends and soulmates.

30. Rinse and Repeat - A regular customer catches your interest.

31. Hour by Hour A late night attempt to buy pot leaves you with the strange roommate of your dealer.

Lin-Manuel Miranda // Series

1. Backstage / Wedding Plans / Through the Years / Red Lights - Reader is a celebrity and goes to see Hamilton.

2. Impress Me (Part One / Part Two) - Reader conducts an interview with Lin and is also babysitting.

3. Impact (Part One / Part Two) - Reader is married but is in love with Lin.

4. Still Hurting / Rewind - Reader was recently cheated on and has to go on as Eliza.

5. Tells Your Story (Part One / Part Two / Part Three / Part Four / Part Five) - Reader is asked to be a part of the Hamilton Mixtape

6. Snapshots (Part One / Part Two) - Lin and Reader both miss their subway.

7. Only Us (Part One / Part Two) - Reader owns a bookstore Lin often frequents.

8. Bound to Happen (Part One / Part Two / Part Three / Part Four / Part Five / Part Six / Part Seven / Part Eight / Part Nine / Part Ten / Part Eleven) - The chronicles of being Lin’s assistant to maybe something more.

9. Beyond the Sunrise, a collab with @alexanderhamllton (Prologue / Chapter 1 / Chapter 2) - Mixed up orders leads to a new and unexpected person in your life.

Daveed Diggs // One Shots

1. First Sight - Rafa sets them up

Daveed Diggs // Series

1. Street Cred / Noted - “You’re a celebrity I admire but you’re flirting with me?”

Anthony Ramos // One Shots

1. Stars in the Sky - “I’m in love with you, this could ruin everything.”

Jasmine Cephas Jones // One Shots

1. New YorkLoosely based off of ‘San Junipero’ from Black Mirror.

magnemite  asked:

Once you get this, state five things you like about yourself, publicly, and send this to 10 of your favourite followers (non-negotiable) SPREAD POSITIVITY!

1. i like to cook

2. i like meeting new people

#. i am very helpful

4. i believe good things can happen

5. 2017 is looking more great!!

@legitliterallyy @thefruitdragon @choromeki @mikamista @emeraldinkling @jyuushimachuu @musaila @hiyou21 @merodythann @halfpastmonsoon

i remember, back before “catch and release”, there was a particular vein of the “peridot has artificial limbs” theory that i really liked: for whatever reason, peridot couldn’t form a full light body, and so had to have artificial additions so that she could stabilise and form.

and like?? that would have been so cool… like imagine the cgs keep the limb enhancers to examine them, and then steven unbubbles peridot. and peri gets about five feet before her form just starts totally glitching out. it’s mostly her limbs - her feet disappear from under her, her arms keep reverting to stubby bits of light, and while she’s trying to force herself to keep her form together she just can’t.

and steven feels really bad for her, because she can barely move around. she can’t hold things, she trips every five seconds because her legs keep destabilising, and that sort of thing. so he goes to the other gems and is like “hey… so long as we’re keeping her unbubbled… maybe we should give her back her limbs?” and the other cgs agree that this is probably a good idea, but they deactivate her weapons and her flying gear just in case.

peridot is super surprised when they give her back her limb enhancers - being from a cruel planet, she expected that she would be immobilised in one way or another while she was their prisoner. and that’s the start of her beginning to trust steven, because he shows the common decency to let someone have their prosthetics even though that person is a prisoner. and that just would not have happened on homeworld.

and later when peridot joins the crystal gems, she casually reactivates her weapons and flight. “huh? yeah, i could have done that at any time. i just thought it would be more conductive to cooperation if i accepted the implicit terms of our truce. i don’t turn my weapons back on and shoot you, and you don’t put me in a bubble again.”

because like, how cool would that have been? peridot would have been so relateable to pretty much any disabled person watching. amputees, those with general mobility impairments, those with motor control issues, or anyone who needs assistive technology to function in society. and it would have given the message of “assistive technology like screens, prosthetics and the like are important and non-negotiable - you can’t take away someone’s limbs or senses just because you don’t like them!”

anonymous asked:

Help! Do you ever have days where you don't want to write or revise but you know you should? What do you do to get through them?

Oh my.

Okay, so this is a thing that happens. Maybe not to everyone, but it happens to me, and when it does it is almost always for one of two reasons. Each of these reasons has a slightly different solution (there is also a third reason, which we may get into in a minute, but it’s more of a crisis than a reason, so mileage may vary).

Reason number one is, I’m easily distracted and full of thoughts and kind of lazy. So if I’m being that, there is only one solution and it is “Brenna, sit down in front of that screen and make a book, it is your JOB.” It usually works—boredom maxes out after about five minutes of staring at my document file and I start working. And there are some secondary tricks too: I work in coffee shops a lot because I like the background noise. I have big headphones that feel good squeezing my head and fill me with a sense of wellbeing. I find a song and listen to it on repeat. I always drink or eat the same thing. I wear a sweater that I like. (I fall into habits very easily and have learned to use this quality to trick myself into working.)

Reason number two, though. Reason two is that sometimes my brain is empty. I’ve been working too much too fast and not refilling my thoughts and now all the fuel is gone and I’m just grinding metal. Sometimes that means I need to not work and do something mindless, like wash dishes or vacuum or repot houseplants or drive or go outside and dig a hole and then fill it back up. Or sometimes it means I need to not work and go read a book or watch a movie or go to a museum and see things other people made when they were expansive and excited and not out of thoughts. And then, once my brain has had enough food and enough rest, I’m ready again.

Both of these reasons for not writing are totally normal (for me) (for you?) but it’s important to be able to tell the difference, because one is solved by powering through, and one is not. Which brings us to the third crisis reason.

Sometimes, I am on a brutal deadline. Sometimes it’s non-negotiable. Sometimes I have pulled two all-nighters in a row and am staring down the barrel of a third, and I know I’d want to work if I could just have a second where I’m NOT working, but that is only a beautiful dream. This is a problem. You know those people who only ever seem to operate at 100% when under extreme duress?  *raises hand* A weird thing happens where I don’t WANT to work anymore, but the overdrive switch has flipped in my brain, and it will do the work until the job is done, whether I want to or not. And trust me, I DON’T. It is like being dragged through a drippy alligatory swamp by a robot—you’re just like “please, robot, stop moving my legs! This was the actual hardest thing for me to figure out a solution for, because:

1) Deadlines are a part of my job, and sometimes they are quite tight, and the work still has to get done anyway.

2) As much as I absolutely hate it, there is another part of me that likes it.

But I know more now than I used to. Back when I was 23 and completely unwise and taking a course overload in grad school while interning and also working 30 hours a week, I was just like “this is how we live a life!” That is not true. Can you hear me in the back? THAT IS NOT TRUE.

But sometimes you still have to do stuff and there’s a lot of it and you also have very little time to do it in. So let me tell you a deadline secret, it is very important: the answer to Brenna’s acute deadline crisis is, drink water, eat almonds, divide each 24-hour cycle into two discrete sections, allowing for one 3-hour sleep cycle and one 4 to 5-hour one. This is because if you are me, you start to feel like you are not allowed to sleep. This is a lie. And in fact, if you don’t sleep, I promise your work won’t be as good. At very best, it will be pretty weird. Also, drink less coffee. You think you need it, but you don’t.

I realize the answer to this question escalated quickly. Probably just focus on points 1 and 2—telling the difference between when your brain is empty and when it’s just dragging its feet. Unless you are a person who is currently living my 23-year-old life. In which case, you are not just allowed to sleep. Dude, you HAVE TO.

If any of my friends ever want me to pretend to be their boyfriend or husband or whatever, then I’ll happily agree but only if I get to make up and tell the story of how we met. That’s my condition and it’s non-negotiable.

Robb x Female Reader

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randomampersand  asked:

What do you think is the best depiction of the Martian tripods?

Truthfully, I’ve yet to actually see a film version that used the Martian fighting machines’ really terrifying attributes. To me, the really definitive film version of War of the Worlds hasn’t been made yet (the period setting is non-negotiable). The scariest trait of the Martian fighting machines was that they were designed to fight a kind of war based on total extermination, which is something we’re not used to; imagine if a tank were redesigned to kill as many civilians as possible.

For example, George Pal brought their disintegrating heat ray to screen, but not the more viscerally horrifying weapon, the black poison gas they fired from the underside that were used to kill civilians in huge quantities. A few versions had the pseudomuscular tentacles, which were used to kill, crush, tear trees out, and rip humans in half, and are just an eerie, alien image unlike any earthly technology.

The creepiest part of the War of the Worlds, which seldom makes it to film adaptations, was the fact that, at times, it was not just conquest but also an ecological attack, like a red seaweed that eerily glows in the dark that started to grow over the entire countryside and choked the Thames River.

The Martian fighting machines get all the attention, but they were not the only war craft that the Martians brought to Earth in the War of the Worlds. One was a metallic segmented wormlike drilling robot used to dig in the earth, and another was a crablike lifter used to capture and store humans. The Martians did have a heavier than air flying vehicle, but it seems they were mostly used the same way that airplanes were used at the beginning of World War I, for reconnaissance instead of as attack craft.

The Martian flying ships were the closest the book had to having the coppery manta ray craft from George Pal’s War of the Worlds. I can’t fault George Pal for not using the tripod fighting machine in his movie, because in 1897, the potential of flight in war was barely understood. By 1953, we had a better picture of how effectively it could be used, so why not make them flying craft? One of the funniest parts of the War of the Worlds is that it was easier to imagine the existence of Martians than it was to imagine heavier than air travel. That was a little too farfetched to put front and center!

things that should be non-negotiable in the discourse (regardless of side)

i appreciate people have differing opinions, but you can still express your opinion whilst acknowledging the following things (i have included things that i see on both sides):

- ace/aro identities are real and valid identities that often hold a lot of importance to those that have them. disregarding this part of someone’s identity is disrespectful and bad discourse. you can argue for exclusionism without shitting on someone’s identity/saying it isn’t real/saying they shouldn’t tell anyone ever other than their partner.

- claiming lesbian/bi/gay/pan/trans/nb ace/aro people aren’t lgbt is shitty and wrong. if you see someone saying this, call it out.

- cis bi/pan people are just as capable of transphobia as cis gay people/lesbians. don’t pit the “LG” and “BT” against eachother.

- ace/aro people who are exclusionists are still ace/aro. i’ve seen posts claiming that they aren’t and it’s gross. they aren’t traitors to their ace/aro identity, just like lgbt inclusionists are still lgbt and aren’t traitors to their community- attacking peoples’ identities doesn’t do anything to advance the debate, it’s just rude.

- not everyone is comfortable with the q slur, it shouldn’t be used to refer to someone when that person hasn’t given their permission. reclaiming it for yourself and being proud of that is fine! but you don’t have the authority to tell others they have to use it too.

-claiming young children can be asexual is wrong. it ignores the fact that children are still developing and sexualises other children. acknowledging this as a fact isn’t invalidating ace identities, it’s acknowledging that this identity works in a different way to others because it specifically involves sexual attraction. additionally, using the “but then kids can’t be gay!” argument as a response is homophobic.

- to reclaim the q slur, you have to be trans or attracted to the same gender. you can still argue for inclusionism without insisting that ace/aro people can use homophobic/transphobic slurs by virtue of being ace/aro. claiming otherwise is false and offensive.

- referring to non ace people as “sexuals” or “allosexuals” is unacceptable. using this term sexualises that person’s identity without their consent and is often used for people that simply haven’t specified if they’re ace or not- it’s creepy to make speculations about someone’s sexual attraction when they’ve purposefully not made a public comment on it. don’t use these terms, be respectful.

- calling exclusionists TERFs is unacceptable and transphobic. the great majority of us are trans or nb, and this additionally trivialises the problems trans women face in regards to access to medical care and exclusion from women’s spaces. the term “REG” is also transphobic, and other comparisons that have been made such as calling exclusionists nazis/white supremacists/other are vile.

- no one should be wishing death on each other. i’ve seen a post or there that’s said ace/aro people should die, i’ve seen a post here or there that say things like exclusionists should be “shot on sight”. both are unacceptable, both are bad discourse. if you see this, call it out and no platform them if they’re on your side. if it’s the other side then bring it to their attention so it can be dealt with.

- if you’re an exclusionist and you see an ace pride post that’s not discourse related: LEAVE IT ALONE. people can make ace moodboards, etc. if they want to. if it’s just simply someone expressing their identity, leave them be. if you think it’s cringey? fine, you’re entitled to your opinion but you don’t need to hijack their post and announce to them how “”“cringey and embarrassing”“” you think they are.

- don’t spam the tags with shit that shouldn’t be there. exclusionists, don’t put gore/sexual content/hate in the ace positivity tag. if you see this being done then call it out and no platform them. both sides, don’t put discourse in the ace positivity tag. eg. “ACE/ARO PPL AREN’T LGBT LOL!!!” or “CISHET ACES ARE LGBT AND Q*EER”. both are instances of exposing people to discourse when they have come to a tag for positivity. don’t ruin the tag for people who need it, and additionally don’t exclude ace/aro people from your posts because they have a different opinion. positivity should be accessible to everyone regardless of their stance.


*i hope i’ve given a somewhat balanced list highlighting things to be avoided by both sides. if you feel i’ve missed something then feel free to add to this!

NOTE: please don’t put stuff like “whats non negotiable is that aces are/arent lgbt!!!”. it’s immature and it doesn’t achieve anything because this is a post about being respectful and acting appropriately when expressing differences of opinion.

lokthaire  asked:

So I have a question if you're willing to divulge the information (and it's perfectly understandable if you don't wish to!), but a friend and I were having a discussion about reptiles and we got talking about Iguanas and although we were both youngish at the time you would see them EVERYWHERE cheap and being panned as these great animals (to ME Iguanas are a reptile for masochists) but anyways, this lead to us realizing that Tegu are starting to become the new iguana.. 1/2


2/2 they’re starting to become readily available, cheap, and have a cool factor to them. So if possible -and any larger reptile owner feel free to add to this! Would you be willing to tell of what your weekly, monthly, and yearly expenses as well as anything else that popped up that you didn’t expect just to show people that it’s not just a cool looking animal but a potentially and certainly expensive reptile to own? I understand this can be a personal topic and understand not wanting to share.

OH MY GOD I FEEL THE SAME WAY tegus really do not need to become the new iguanas. This is a fantastic question and I’m thrilled to answer it.

SO. Weekly expenses… don’t really work out because a lot of purchases are made in bulk (food, etc.) every month or couple of months, but here’s a basic overview of how much things cost the first year I had her. Well. If I’d done things ideally- remember, I was foolish and tried to free roam her. HAD I done things appropriately with a cage, here’s how much it would have been. As it was, I did end up spending more than this trying to make free roaming work. Which most of the time it absolutely does not and I’m glad I stopped when I did.

Enclosure- I spent about 130ish on the grow tent and another 60ish bucks in materials to fix it up. That is absolutely the cheapest tegu setup you can make, and it’s not ideal for everyone- most enclosures you should plan for the 600+ dollar range. A PVC cage from a place like BeegerBoxes runs about a grand. I buy two 60 dollar lightbulbs a year, plus another 11 for her halogens and 10 for her CHE. The four dome lights cost me about 60 in total. The substrate I use costs 66 bucks every time the entire thing gets changed out. The swimming pool was about 25 and her water dish was I wanna say like… 20? Her big fake log was 35 and… ok I have no idea how much that footstool she stole is, but the crinkle tube was about 10 bucks. 

Total initial setup cost: 527 (in nearly ALL cases it will be more, I just lucked out with the grow tent idea.)

Then there’s vet checks! I needed a carrier, and the one I liked best (has a harness clip, comfy fleece pad, and places for heat packs if necessary) ran me about 35. I spent about 80 a visit and she goes at least once a year.  But wait! She hurt her lip! Add another 200 in followup visits and medication! I keep a few hundred bucks in an emergency savings account for vet visits. That’s non-negotiable. I put that aside in the first year I had her- it’s sitting pretty at 400 plus interest. 

By the end of the first few months, I’d spent about $832. Factoring in the savings account, that’s $1232. That’s not even including Juju OR the nonessentials. All the extra stuff? That cost more.

Then the food. I have some receipts for this- in the first year alone, Kaiju ate about 60 dollars’ worth of rats, about 100 dollars’ worth of reptilinks, and god only knows how much fruits, veggies, fish, and other stuff I could get at the grocery store. Let’s call the annual food bill 240? I might be lowballing that. So by the end of the first year, that puts her at like… $1492. Almost fifteen hundred dollars in the first year alone. Over twelve months, that works out to about $124 a month. Putting that in perspective: that’s about the cost of two additional Comcast bills. It’s like paying for two extra internet connections from a company that sees price gouging as a way of life. Can you afford two extra Comcast bills an entire month for a year? If no, then probably don’t get a tegu.

Now, that does peter down over the years- I don’t start from scratch every summer. But I do change out that bedding four times a year (or more if she doesn’t brumate), and I do buy two new MVBs every year- those are the 60 dollar lightbulbs. And she still eats probably about 300 dollars of food a year. She also gets an annual wellness visit. So that makes the minimum yearly cost about $764 (the ASPCA averages small dogs to be about $580 per year, to put that in perspective) and that’s again not counting extra stuff I buy to make her life more interesting. That’s about $64 a month… which is almost one additional Comcast bill. Can you afford an additional Comcast bill every month for the next 10+ years? Tegus are not cheap pets to maintain; to have a good quality of life, they need some seriously good care. There’s ways to do it cheaper, but if you’re impulse-buying a big reptile, you very likely do not have the know-how to do safely! You can certainly breed and grow much of your own food- that’ll help save money- but that also has initial startup costs, and requires the time and space that a lot of people just don’t have. I’m not saying they aren’t amazing pets- I mean, Juju’s the best thing to ever happen to me- but I am saying that they’re a commitment that shouldn’t be undertaken lightly.

And THEN there’s another monthly cost: Energy bills. Mine are included in my rent so I don’t actually know how much that is. So I can’t be much help there, unfortunately!  But that can get really expensive.

TL,DR: First year? Two extra Comcast bills per month. Rest of her life? One extra Comcast bill per month. If you can’t commit to that, then don’t get a tegu.