Travel isn’t always pretty. It isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes it hurts, it even breaks your heart. But that’s okay. The journey changes you; it should change you. It leaves marks on your memory, on your consciousness, on your heart, and on your body. You take something with you. Hopefully, you leave something good behind.
If I’m an advocate for anything, it’s to move. As far as you can, as much as you can. Across the ocean, or simply across the river. The extent to which you can walk in someone else’s shoes or at least eat their food, it’s a plus for everybody.
Open your mind, get up off the couch, move.
Anthony Bourdain’s final words in tonight’s No Reservations series finale.
Sensing (Si): Kate likes things “just so.” She has become an expert chef over years of devoted study to the intimate details of cooking, from the slightest tastes to the most sumptuous
presentation. She is so engrained in her “routine” that, until a special guy enters her life, she doesn’t change many of her habits (“I don’t date guys I work with.“; “I don’t eat in the afternoon.”). When confronted with situations in which she has no experience, Kate blanks out – she has no idea how to raise her sister’s kid, and is grateful when others offer advice. It’s hard for her to shift over into a more casual state at home.
Thinking (Te): She likes the efficiency of her kitchen, and is comfortable running the place; she is upset when her boss hires another chef, and assumes he wants her job – so she becomes even more hard-working. She doesn’t like his “easy-going” attitude about cooking, until she realizes cooking can also be fun through interactions with his more laid-back approach. She criticizes him for being fearful and “lazy” in not wanting to run his own restaurant. Her people skills are sometimes not
great; when a problematic customer sends a steak back twice, she offends him and tells him to leave. Kate is good at handling the details of her sister’s funeral and such, but is less sure how to relate to her niece. She admits she can be a “control freak”.
Feeling (Fi): The things that matter most to her, she pursues the hardest. Kate feels threatened at the idea that she might lose her job, or her seniority as chef. She looks down on others who don’t have her strong work-ethic. She has no problem telling her neighbor that she’s not interested in him romantically. She doesn’t like to talk about her feelings, instead using her time in therapy to talk about cooking. Kate becomes very emotional under stress.
Intuition (Ne): She leaps to the wrong conclusion about the new chef – assuming he’s there to take her job,
instead of the fact that he admires her work and wants to learn under her. Kate starts envisioning all kinds of horrible things when her niece goes missing. She is overwhelmed with too much change all at once, but her more playful, romantic side comes out as she loosens up and begins to have fun as a “mom”.
Note: Nick is an SP. Her niece, Zoe, is a Fi-user, and probably a sensor, but it’s hard to tell her type, since she’s in an emotional place.