anonymous asked:

Hey Connor, hope all is well!!! I have a question for you, I'm a 17 year old girl and I'm super scared that I'm out of puberty already and I'm devastated. I feel like I still look, sound and behave like a child while most of my friends are all very mature. I can't put my finger on what makes me feel this way but I don't know what to do I feel so gross

Let’s play a game called “What Did Connor Look Like When he Was 17!?”


oh yeah check that shit out

teeny tiny baby face covered in acne general dork phase Connor

I always looked really young growing up. I didn’t crack 100 lbs until I was 16. People treated me differently. Even though I was intelligent and handled myself well in crazy pressure situations as young as 14/15, I was still the “little brother” of the group. People didn’t take me seriously. No one looked at me in any kind of romantic way during most of high school. I hated it. I hated it so much and I overcompensated by joining in the making fun of me (tons of self-deprecation) and trying extremely hard to be funny and likeable. No one got to see the real me, and the reason is because I lacked confidence in myself. And a lot of that stemmed from me hating how I looked and sounded. 

My junior year, I started finally maturing, but with that came acne. Really really bad acne all over my face. I thought “why me?” all the goddamn time. 

Why am I telling you all of this? Because, and I know it feels ridiculous and untrue, none of it matters in the long run. Everyone develops at different rates. Some early, some late. Some people naturally look younger their whole lives. Some look older. But this is your journey. This is your ride, and no one can take that from you. It’s a sad reality that our physical appearance does contribute to how the world treats us, but it doesn’t have to have any bearing on how you treat yourself. Please be kind to your body. It’s going through a lot during your teenage years. Like, so freaking much. Some weird ass stuff is happening and it’s a miracle it’s able to function at all. Puberty is crazy. Learn to love yourself as you are. It’s so hard, but a little positive reinforcement every day can go a long way.

Oh and hey, from me to you, as a late bloomer/baby face/teeny tiny teenage baby, just wait until you get to the end of your awkward phase. 

you’re gonna

blow minds

And you’re also gonna be a fabulous person, because you built real genuine confidence, the kind that doesn’t care what you look like.