no-boys

My dear trans sons, 

This letter goes out to those of you who are tired of positivity posts calling you cute, precious or adorable. 

I understand. We could argue for hours now about how cute is gender-neutral - but it’s not about how comfortable I am with calling you cute, it’s about how comfortable you are with getting called cute. 

If you don’t like to get called cute because it makes you dysphoric, that’s okay. I understand. 

If you don’t like to get called cute because it makes you feel as if people fetishize you or see you as less of a real boy than cis boys, that’s okay. I understand.

If you’re tired of those posts because they’re often aimed at teens and you’re not longer a “cute boy”, you’re a grownup man -  that’s okay. I understand! 

Not all trans boys are “cuties”, not all trans boys love flower crowns and glitter. Trans boy does not translate to “cute girly boy”. You deserve to not be reduced to that. 

Trans boys can be rough. They can be strong. They can be independent, headstrong, though-skinned. They can act aggressive or unemotional. They can dress rugged. They can wear leather jackets and despise bright colours. They can take up space. They can lift weights. They can do or be anything that’s traditionally considered masculine. 

They can be anything but cute. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom 

PS: If you’re a trans boy and you like being called  cute, that’s great, too! This letter is not aimed at you. 

The Not today mv was soooooo underwhelming. Idk, the video seemed messy to me, and in general the whole comeback feels weird and off for some reason? I think it’s bc bts should’ve taken a longer break, whereas now, bighit is just milking their success, and it results in half-assed concepts and songs, below the usual standard of bts IMO (also, when will they learn to lip sync properly lmao?)