i'm so tired of you dumbasses uses his fucking mental illness as a fucking excuse for fucking everything. he's a fucking manipulator and liar just accept jt
his mental illness is not an “excuse”. it is a reason. his mental illness is not our scapegoat. it is our connection to him. we all know what it feels like to be in his shoes. we don’t go into a relationship to hide something from the people we love or to intentionally manipulate or hurt them. to imply otherwise is pretty “fucking” ableist.
maybe i can grant you being angry at even. maybe, and it really is a hard maybe. but if you think this makes him a terrible person, if you think this means his and isak’s relationship isn’t built on love and trust, then maybe i should refer you to the passe på meg clip again, where isak refused to clue even in on what he did in /his/ past, and even not once pushed him into it.
neither of them are saints, most likely. but neither of them are liars or manipulative people and neither of them would do anything to intentionally hurt the other. even feels ashamed of what he did and who he is, and i can guarantee you you have never felt even an ounce of what he probably feels. and i cannot begin to explain to you the guilt that comes with the knowledge you have to hide something about your life from the ones you love out of shame. but you sometimes feel like you do.
he’s not manipulating isak, the same way isak isn’t manipulating him for not telling him he broke his best friend and his girlfriend up (and then told her not to tell his best friend, which comes back to the subject of shame), the same way neither of them are innocent of being flawed. to think they won’t stand by each other after everything they’ve been through, to think they won’t protect each other – even if it’s by omitting a part of their lives they’re most ashamed of – is very ignorant of you, my love.
and that’s all i’ll be saying about that. please leave your anger and prejudice at the door, and help yourself to the unfollow button, because this is, and always will be, a safe place for both even bech næsheim and isak valtersen.