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I am really tired yall.

Lemme just preface this with saying that I am a writer. I have been writing for most of my life. I have taken actual classes about writing and about what fiction can offer you, me, and people as a whole. I have won an award for something that I wrote. I know and love fiction, be it in written form, graphic novels, or film. It is all so good and complex and it’s something I am passionate about. That said, let’s get into this.

A good majority of the discourse that goes on in most of the fandoms I’m in stem from the idea that violence and forbidden sexual acts in fiction will encourage those actions in reality. It is important to know, firstly, that the only time this happens is when a person is immature enough or not mentally healthy enough to distinguish reality from fiction. Growing up, my parents would often stop horror movies (back when I first started watching them) to ask me questions. To be fair, they were pretty shitty people, but in this one aspect, they were so good about making sure I knew this difference. “You know this is just a movie, right? None of the stuff on the tv is real.” They’d assure before continuing the film.

It’s not real.

Now, half of the stuff I read or watched back then was nowhere near pushing boundaries or making me think critically about society or whatever. However, I knew that what I watched wasn’t real. It was images on a screen. If I don’t like what I’m seeing, I can walk away. It doesn’t have to affect me, personally,  unless I let it.

Now, lets circle back. School. College. I took a writing class that used this book:

Granted, it was a screenwriting class and most of the chapters were about various script formats, but the beginning chapters focused on why we write and why we make the stories we do.

It had a section in it describing how human needs and desires are met through fiction. It detailed those needs in a list. This list:

Please draw your attention to the ones on the list that say that fictions helps people to:

Be purged of unpleasant emotions

To have vicarious but controlled emotional experiences

To confront, in a controlled situation, the horrible and terrible

To explore taboo subjects without guilt

Just because you personal don’t need various forms of ‘taboo’ media, doesn’t mean that others don’t. Media, in all of its forms, is a way for people to explore things safely. It’s an outlet that doesn’t harm anyone and it offers the creator and viewer/reader a safe way of exploring the complexities of situations (or in some cases relationships) that these people do not want to be involved in irl. Because we can distinguish reality from fiction. Because none of us are going out killing people or getting into abusive relationships or fucking our sibling.

While being critical of the media we consume is important and it is vital to dissect the whys of the media being created, there is a line between creating open discussion about these taboos, about the society and personal experiences that makes one need these outlets, and verbally abusing and harassing strangers.

If you want to create a dialogue about media or a ship you don’t agree with, fine. Talk about it. Dissect it. Really dig deep into the human condition and the psychology behind these outlets, but don’t shame people for them to the point of telling them to kill themselves or telling them they are human garbage or what the fuck ever.

Fiction isn’t always meant to be picturesque. It’s not always going to be SFW. If that isn’t your cup of tea, then great. Stop going into the tags of things that make you feel unhealthy. You do you. Keep yourself safe. Stop continuously exposing yourself to content that you can’t swallow. To keep getting involved, to keep harassing people, to keep abusing strangers shows that you don’t give a damn about the content. You need an excuse to bully someone else and indulge in holier-than-thou circle jerks with other people who also have no sense of what fiction is for.

andreil happy fics! ♥

basically, I’ve spent the previous week going through the AFTG tag (yes, I went through all the 1250 works) on ao3, because I needed more content, official or not. and since it was so freaking hard to find some quality happy content™ (bc apparently y'all like to suffer that much —which, to be fair, I should have expected and I can #relate), I thought I could make it easier for anyone else seeking it and share it here! 🎉

so this is a recommendation list with my favorites ones so far; they’re all from ao3, and if you find any of your works there and want me to remove them from this list, just message me and I’ll remove it. if you have any recommendations for me to add here, message me too! ♥ I haven’t read anything from or tumblr just yet, but I plan on doing that later this week.

they’re not all entirely happy and they’re not that happy either, but then again that’d be hard considering the amount of trauma and tragedy the authors have to work with (thanks nora). but!!! they’re happy enough to make it to this post, so yeah! you’ll probably gonna enjoy them.

right now there are more oneshots, canon-ish, mostly set right after TKM or a few years in the future. I might add an AU and multi-chapter category later, so keep checking for updates! and don’t forget to show appreciation for the authors by leaving comments and kudos! ♥

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•dimple kisses
•don’t fight me on this like its a tradition to wake him up by kissing his dimples and he won’t wake up if you don’t do it
•then again you give him dimple kisses everywhere
•who wouldn’t???
•in return he gives you nose kisses
•he’ll give them to you whenever you’re done giving him dimple kisses
•a bunch of food dates
•doesn’t matter what type of food or if you’re on a diet
•if there’s a new place you’re gonna be there with or without him
•when you’re without him then you’ll probably have to tease him by sending pictures but he’ll eventually get you to crack and bring him some take out later that day
•sometimes the other members tag along depending on what it is
•like Winwin and Taeyong tag along to new ice cream places
•Doyoung goes to bbq places with you guys
•Johnny and Mark join you whenever there’s pizza involved
•but other times it will mostly be a cute romantic date
•'get ready, I’m coming in 10 minutes’
•'why, it’s 1 in the fucking morning?’
•'new noodle place and I’m gonna leave you if you’re not ready’
•'I’m always ready for food’
•cooking together is also a thing
•well it was a thing until you messed up Taeyoung’s kitchen so now you only cook at your place
•which is fine but he’s usually there at night and you hate cleaning at night
•better than having Taeyong scold you tho
•you spend most of your days at the dorms with the other boys tho
•rarely spend the night there because of Johnny snoring and complaining
•'ew stop making out, it’s like 2 in the morning’
•'shut up Johnny, you’re just jealous you don’t have anyone to make out with’
•you call him Jeff sometimes just to see his dimples when he smiles at you
•he calls you sweetheart or something cliche because he’s Jung Jaehyun but you don’t really mind
•cheesy pickup lines all day everyday
•'if you were a vegetable you would be a cutecumber’
•'do you have a bandaid because I scraped my knee falling for you’
•'I love you with all my butt. I would say my heart but my butt is bigger’
•'Jaehyun, we’re already dating’
•binge watching shows on Netflix together when you’re not out eating or cooking
•it’s just you, Jaehyun, the blanket and your laptop
•and snacks of course
•kinda like Netflix and Chill but you guys are actually chilling
•most of the times anyways
•now moving onto PDA
•idk I feel like Jaehyun wouldn’t actually do that much until you’re in the dorms or at the privacy of your home
•like he’ll just have his arm over your shoulder if you’re out where strangers can see him
•an occasional kiss whenever he’s feeling extra affectionate
•everything is else is a strict no
•but he’ll attack you with hugs and kisses at the dorms no hesitation
•sometimes if he’s ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) then he’ll stick his hand in your shirt
•like just so he can like draw patterns on your stomach or sides but no where else because he’s a respectable person
•actually I take that back
•very rarely he has his hands on your boob when you sleep but not much you can do about it since he’s fast asleep
•doesn’t really hold hands because he just pulls you in for a hug / cuddle anyways so what’s the point?
•'hey Yoonoh, sing me a song’
•'which one?’
•'never gonna give you up, never gonna let you down, never gonna run around and dessert you’

anonymous asked:

hi! this is a bit of a strange question but i was wondering: how do you deal with fandom frustration? when you love fandom content but frequently feel frustrated by a large portion of the fan base? i'm a fandom baby in a lot of ways and sometimes though i feel like a jerk, it's so hard not to let other people overpower my experience. i love hearing your thoughts on everything in general, but. if you have the time i'd love to hear your thoughts on this as well. hope you have a nice day. :)

hmm! this is a great question and one I’m not 100% sure of how to answer, because for the most part I have had very positive fandom experiences. but when it comes to making your fandom experience as relaxed & fun as possible, here are my tips:

1) accept right now and forever that everyone does fandom differently, and everyone is in fandom for different reasons and to get different things out of it. it doesn’t matter if people don’t ship what you ship. it doesn’t matter if they write stories of which the summary makes you recoil in horror. they are not doing this at you. accept that you are going to do you, and everyone else is going to do themselves, and unless their shit spills over into your personal space (see point 3)) then there is literally no point in trying to control the fannish experience that anyone else is having. fandom’s a large space! there’s room for everyone! 

so the thing to do is:

2) CURATE YOUR FANNISH EXPERIENCE. I’ve been doing this since ye olde days of livejournal and do it even more intensely now. essentially: find the people you like, and the parts of fandom you like, and carve out your own corners where you can hang with like-minded people. you don’t have to be right in the thick of it, reading everything, interacting with everything and everyone. you don’t have to track all the tags which are crammed full of stuff that annoys you. you can take it slowly, and be discerning.

if you want to read meta, find the people who write it and follow them. ditto art. learn to embrace ao3’s excellent search function, and to use a tumblr blacklist. if you want to read fic and are bemoaning the fact that none of it is quite what you want: write your own! enthuse about your ideas on tumblr! leave prompts on kinkmemes! befriend some writers! I have to admit I am still pretty lost when it comes making friends on tumblr because the etiquette is bizarre and variable, but hey: the messaging system exists, askboxes exist, comments on ao3 exist. sure, different people have different levels of openness to making new bosom friends, but nobody minds being engaged. we’re in fandom to be fannish, together. 

3) if people are being jerks in your space, block ‘em. ignore ‘em. delete ‘em. I am not even remotely internet famous enough to be at risk of being deluged by trolls, but on the rare occasions that I’ve engaged in good faith and subsequently decided that I was being concern-trolled, I’ve noped cheerfully out of there. the few accusatory or unpleasant anon (because they’re always anon!) messages that have landed in my inbox, I’ve deleted without batting an eye. sometimes I share it with a friend via chat or email and we have a laugh about it, and that helps settle any residual hurt or irritation that I might feel. I’m a grown fucking woman. I keep a calm sympathetic face while being shouted at, cried on, confided in, manipulated, and projected onto, for a living. and I have zero qualms about policing the boundaries of the spaces I’ve carved out for myself–the fun, creative, relaxing, incredible places–in fandom.

4) manage your entitlement. just remind yourself every so often that nobody owes you the next chapter of that story, or the exact piece of art you want to see, or the paragraph-long comment, or the attention you crave, or the whole-hearted agreement you seek. remember that everyone has their own lives, and you’re never seeing the full picture. be gracious. be kind. try to resist the urge to snipe and snark and finger-point and complain in public; I enjoy a bit of fandom bitching as much as the next person, but I inflict it all on my friends, in chat.

5) the flipside of this is: show appreciation of the things you like. comment on that story. reblog that art with a furious tag spiral of capslock (creators LOVE tag spirals). put together a rec list–this is also a great way to show people what kind of things you like, so people who share your tastes know who to gravitate towards.

if you are frequently frustrated by a large portion of the fanbase, anon, then ask yourself: are you reading the comments? ie. are you making yourself engage with parts of fandom where people have THE WRONG OPINIONS and are writing your beloved characters THE WRONG WAY? if so: just scroll past. don’t read it. unless you really enjoy an argument, don’t feel obliged to reblog it with a detailed explanation of why they’re wrong: you’re gonna frustrate yourself and, yes, maybe end up looking like a jerk. just shrug and move on. maybe this isn’t the corner for you.

I have been following my own advice in this regard for almost 14 years. I’ve kept a handful of enduring and awesome friends from most of the major fandoms I’ve been part of, and I’m still making new ones, and I’ve (mostly) managed to avoid wank. I write what I like, and I read what I like, and I try to communicate generously and enthusiastically with people who are creating the things that I enjoy.

tl;dr - seek out the things that make you feel good, and follow them. weed out the things that make you feel bad, and ignore them. it’s fandom. it can be as serious or unserious as you like, but it IS supposed to be fun.

Cielois Social Media HC’s

okay so modern!au cielois is fave and also social media is fave so ive combined the two so here we go.

- Alois has a tumblr (i mean ofc he does) and he has more sideblogs than friends at this point, one for memes, one for aesthetics and the other 10 million just of saved urls that hes not going to use but wont let anyone else have

- ciel having a tumblr but rarely using it.

- alois having a special “ciel” tag in which he tags everything he thinks ciel would like so he can show the posts to him when they’re lay in bed on their phones

- ciel being the queen of snapchat filters thoughhhhh

- you thought alois was gonna be the snapchat whore? think again. ciel made a snapchat just to look at the filters everyday

- “goddam thing wont recognise my face- THE EARS ARE ON MY NOSE”

- none of them really use twitter, ciel uses it to keep himself updated on news and stuff and alois uses it to tweet indirects about teachers.

- same with facebook

- they use it for group chats and keeping up with whose got beef with who.

- alois having a youtube channel (which has like 200 subscribers or something, not that many) just where he posts all the videos of ciel doing very domestic or cute things 

- instagram is an eh for them, ciel doesn’t have one. well he does but its private, alois has one thats all him and ciel, lizzy and Doll just mucking about.

ill probs have more of these in the morning because its 11pm and im dying from sleepiness so im going just watch tv, ill make a part 2 if anyones interested

Christmas Party Do Over

Pairing: Jensen x Reader
Words:  1090
This is the next part in my Holiday Series

Christmas Party Embarrassment,
New Year’s Kiss,
I Love You,
Just Kiss Me,
Easter Sunday.
I’m A Fool For You
Happy Birthday
Trick Or Treat
I’m Thankful For You

A/N: If you want to be tagged in something, send me an ask.

          “Well, this is different,” Jensen said as you got dressed and ready to go to the Christmas party. You were actually having it on Christmas Eve this year and you were thrilled. You loved Christmas and the whole feeling of it.

           “What?” you asked, looking over at him from where you were straightening the red dress you were wearing.

           “You’re not drunk,” he said.

           “I wasn’t drunk before the party last year,” you said, “I was drunk at the party because of you.”

           “I didn’t force the alcohol down your throat, Sweetheart,” he said, “I can’t help that you were nervous around me.”

           “Well, there’s nothing to worry about. You don’t make me nervous anymore,” you said, turning around to fully face him.

           “You still make me nervous,” Jensen said, walking over to you and putting his hands on your hips.

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GM of Smackdown (Part 3)

Imagine after Dean loses his title to AJ Styles, you create the match for No Mercy between them and John Cena. Backstage, AJ starts to flirt with you, knowing you and Dean are together but Dean doesn’t like it.

Note: I know this is just the story line that happened just recently, but ehhh…. I added a few things to it. Plus, I mean…. if you haven’t read the other parts… YOU’RE the GM here, so… yeah. :)

Special request by an Anonymous follower.

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 I originally posted this on my twitter @/septicrelp so here’s a copy paste here but im adding more from my recent rant. Also I was inspired to make this from someone else i forgot but they probably know who they are already.

Rant under the cut

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Ryota knew of Tengans plans! Danganronpa Episode 11 Analysis!
  • Spoilers Ahead!
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Lets talk about the first few seconds of the episode.

Flashback to HPA and the door being unlocked. Nbd right? Well a few things to note.

  • Tengan atm is currently running the FF, not Kyosuke
  • HPA has been unlocked??

What stuck me as odd was the reference to “HPA being unlocked”?? What does that mean? Well HPA holds more secrets than we are being given I believe. Remember that Jin locked theses students away in a attempt to preserve hope, what if a secret “cure” or something was left inside to fight the despairs? Also, Tengan knew Jin on a more personal level, so it wouldn’t be shocking that Jin told Tengan that he was going to lock something more than just those kids inside the school. Just thoughts though…

And the big OMG moment this episode was that all the killings were suicides!

Firstly, I just want to state that this redeems Ruruka’s character 100%. I know posts have already been made about this but her death was the most brutal because of her guilt like come on guys can we finally lay off her now??

Anyways this is so interesting because later on in the episode Makoto briefly falls to despairs but is saved via juzo. This shows the power of the brainwashing and how it manipulates your thoughts. So tech Monokuma wasn’t lying in d2:gd gameplay because the brainwashing made everyone think these thoughts.

But can we segway for a sec and talk about the monitors? Its a recording.

No one else is gonna at least like talk about this? 

The fact that it is a recording only raised one question. The new DV3 gameplay is going on alongside this current future arc. I mentioned this in this analysis of DV3 but if this is a recording that means the “main” monokuma can’t be present in two locations, so thats why it is a recording. 

The fact that this is important is going to play into the plot of DV3 later on for sure bc the FF can’t come and save them, and maybe they are aware of this?

Okay, back to the main point of this post. Notice how Ryota isn’t all to happy about hearing about the brainwashing?

Sure, he is scarred. His class fell to despair, Chiaki [and now Yukizome] died because of him, and the FF is ruined it seems. We never get Ryota’s NG code, but I have a feeling that his was don’t let anyone find out you are apart of the brainwashing or something to do with the monitors or Tengan and along those lines. (read further down the post for another possibility for the ng code)

And a shocking revelation comes into play. Tengan is a remnant of despair. *cue dramatic music* or at least, according to Kyosuke…

But still, why is Ryota so shocked by this outcome?

Tengan recruited Ryota into the FF. Everything Ryota most likely did, was because Tengan asked him to do it. He is now realizing everything that he was doing was for despair, and that truth is killing him. And makoto is starting to notice this. I also believe that in Kyoko’s notebook, she raised her suspicions on Ryota, and warned makoto via the notebook to keep a close eye on him. Notice that how whenever Ryota freaks out Makoto watches him intently. 

lol then Tengan texts him like wha! Like, how is he getting service underwater?

But the text message from Tengan explains a lot of things…

  1. Ryota’s ng code could be linked to Tengan via his phone. The text messages Ryota receives are orders and he has to follow them. 
  2. This explains why Ryota stuck with Kyoko. Ryota was with Kyoko because Tengan was with her. He had to stay with her for as long as he did because he needed to be with Tengan, not Kyoko like we all thought.
  3. In the 3rd episode, Tengan won’t let Kyoko go alone, stating, “we will go with you”. Why we? Why not just him or Ryota? Ryota would be more than capable to go with Kyoko while, I dunno, Tengan goes and finds Kyosuke maybe?? And when Ryota freaks out about everyone killing each other, he turns to Tengan as he voices his opinions. Maybe he was directing it at him?

My theory is that Tengan told Ryota that the FF must die in order for hope to come about, hence why everyone is a despair in his eyes. Ryota knew all along that Tengan was playing some part in this killing game and followed along because he gave him his own hope when he took him in from the fuck up Junko did to him. 

A Call to (Lay Down) Arms

This is going to be callous and snotty and I honestly don’t care because I’m tired of seeing the writers I love so much get hounded by people who are acting like snotty teenagers who lost the lead in the play or didn’t get to go to Prom with the guy they wanted because, holy shit, he actually already asked a girl he really liked. So. That.

(I would say I’ll probably lose followers for this but I have yet to lose one for speaking my mind so I’m assuming the people that follow me already know and respect that I’m kind of a bitch and I’m a fucking pit bull when it comes to the people I care about on this site.)

Here’s the thing about having a community of writers who you can always count on to bombast you with wonderful, amazing work. They are just that, a community. These are the people that will keyboard smash and headcanon jam and yell at you for making them feel emotion. These are the people that will tell you when you’re being stupid or point out your typing errors BECAUSE THAT HAPPENS A LOT SOMETIMES I JUST GET EXCITED AND I DON’T FUCKING EDIT BECAUSE I JUST WANT TO SHARE IN THE PAIN/HILARITY AND I CAN’T WAIT ANOTHER MOMENT, or nudge you to write more or help you through a bout of writers block because of the crippling realization that there are better writers out there than you and why are you even trying. (Also hey thanks, anons, for blasting these writers with the same bullshit they think about themselves all the time.)

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This ain't reblogging and I'm actually pissed now so

@anti-feminism-pro-cats and everyone else who decided to get all offended and shit without even bothering to see WHY I’m saying what I’m saying and just wanna assume I’m up here trying to be an asshole:

Go ahead and unfollow bro, no fucks given. This has nothing to do with how strong I am or not, it’s that every 5 seconds someone on this site is crying suicide over the tiniest thing, and then tumblr has a fit for a while until it’s no longer trendy and they all move on to the next. Which is fucking disgusting to watch how y'all treat this like a hot new trend, like vultures who just wanna seem oh so caring. Sorry, i call bullshit, yall say whatever the fuck needs to be said at the time because it’s “what you’re spost to say”, therefore its FORCED, GENERIC, AND FAKE. That to me is fucking sick, that people on this site can become over- night sensations by saying they’ll kill themselves. I will not be a part of the mob who fucking pats people on the back for that, I’m not gonna sit here and become a bleeding heart for the same old shit over and over, it’s called being desensatized and oh boy am I. Like fucking newsflash, everyone on this damn site is apparently suicidal, SO HOW THE FUCK ARE YOU HELPING ANYONE BY TURNING THE IDEA INTO SOMETHING WE SHOULD FLOCK TO WITH OPEN ARMS? DO YOU SEE THE MESSAGE YOU SEND EVERY FUCKING TIME THIS HAPPENS? THATS WHY IT KEEPS HAPPENING? YOU PEOPLE MAKE IT SEEM LIKE SOMETHING COOL, TO BE “SO LOVED BY TUMBLR” THAT YOU CAN GET ANONS TO TELL YOU YOURE SPECIAL WHENEVER SHIT DOESNT GO YOUR WAY. I DONT CARE, IVE HAD ENOUGH OF THIS SHIT. I said the SITUATION is dramatic. I didn’t bash the kid at all, unless you consider “he’s doing the panic attack thing now” as some shit when it’s quite literally just what’s happening. How is this different from everything fucking else? Oh, Zamii drew something and got met with hate she no deserve. Oh, this person made #selfieweek a thing and now they’re getting hate they no deserve. Oh this person fucking farted and got met with hate they no deserve. THAT IS FUCKING TUMBLR IN A NUTSHELL, and yes you people look fucking desperate to seem so caring when you’re sitting there making a fucking spectacle out of someone’s possible suicide, I see y'all blowing that tag up. You can honestly think whatever the fuck you want about me, go right ahead, but don’t come at me sideways about some shit just because I’m not over here sobbing my eyes out about it like you are. I’m tired of people trending on here because they threatened suicide, I will not contribute to that sort of message uncritically, you do not get to become a star for something like that and I won’t pretend overwise. Fuck off if you have a problem with it. Do you even know the kid? But you gonna act like you go way back to 1st grade right? You people are so twisted up in “being helpful” that you can’t see when you’re doing the opposite. Fuck off, don’t assume to know shit about why I said this, has nothing to do with “being strong” and everything to do with what’s wrong with tumblr culture, THE ENTIRE POINT OF THIS BLOG SO IF YOU’RE ONLY NOW UNDERSTANDING THAT THEN MAYBE YOU SHOULDN’T HAVE FOLLOWED IN THE FIRST PLACE? You can try and comfort someone without making it a fucking show for us all to watch, and that’s why the fuck I won’t get behind this. Another fucking crusade over fictional characters? 3 words lazily slapped on a t- shirt in ms paint? You’re kidding me. I’m literally unable to sit here and cry about it like y'all seem to want to do all the time, I JUST GOT DONE DOING IT FOR SOMEONE ELSE. AND RIGHT BEFORE THAT, SOMEONE ELSE. I’M SORRY, I DON’T HAVE IT IN ME TO DO IT EVERYDAY and yknow what, if you think this is the first time that I’ve said something like this, then you ain’t paying attention. I quite literally say it every time a story like this goes big, I DON’T think this is a good way to handle the situation, it looks like a publicity stunt and worse it looks like one that works, I do not want some shit like that circulating in some kids head cause “oh my god I could get a hashtag if I kill myself?” Big suicide scandals temporarily spike the rate of suicide, esp when y'all sit up here making hashtags trend, fan art, tagging everyone you know to spam “nice messages” like for fucks sake, no, I won’t do it. Fuck you, don’t pretend to know a fucking thing about me if I ain’t say the shit myself. Reading in between some lines that ain’t even there, I ain’t say shit about being strong so please, fuck right off for this bullshit assumption. Don’t pretend to know my motivations, would have been easier to just fucking ask me, right? “As strong as me” you stupid fuck I’ve been fighting off the desire to die for weeks now, just got done carving up my damn thighs like oh boy, yes im so fucking strong, yes you nailed it, how did you know? You actually don’t know a fucking thing about me or what I’m going through so how about you don’t talk on some shit you know nothing about, don’t fucking insult me just because we don’t see eye to eye on this. Go back to pretending to care about suicidal people with your little hashtags, cause some shit like this is exactly what I fucking mean. The kid cries about it and you all come running, CAUSE IT’S TRENDING, but then you wanna say some shit like this about me just because I don’t broadcast it for the world? Yeah buddy, you’re really showing how much you care about this…or is it you only care because it’s popular? Fucking seems so. Go fuck yourself, don’t pretend to know a thing about my life or what I’m going through. Which, funnily enough, I made a huge post about the day after thanksgiving? Where’s my parade of love and support? Oh right. I didn’t make it a fucking huge dramatic scene so I don’t get one. But you care right? Lmfao, shut your fucking mouth and get the fuck outa here with this mess. -Billy

anonymous asked:


Oh my god, it finally happened. I finally got my first C$ hate Anon :D I honestly thought I’d never see the day. (seriously though, i got more hate back when I was heavily into the elsanna fandom and those were from other elsanna shippers due to fandom drama, but I digress.

Originally posted by bury-me-in-blood

I’m super excited that i got an angry hate anon. I figured it’d happen eventually, but it did? so yay! but first, a few points.

1. that post was properly anti tagged, so either you went trolling through the anti tag, or found it in a more neutral tag, or maybe you were trolling the Swan Queen Tag and decided it would be fun to fuck with someone. why? why waste your time in coming to my safe space and shouting me down for having opinions that different from yours? is that how you get off? is that how you get your jollies? someone needs a hobby.

2. So a death makes it romantic? thats…. actually extremely toxic thinking. so when hook tried to kill emma numerous times back in the enchanted forest, that was romantic? no. death is not romantic. being willing to sacrifice yourself and your happiness for someone else’s is romantic. (Like Regina did with undoing Pan’s curse,giving emma her memories stopping the failsafe, putting herself in harms way with the QoD to save emma, would rather save Emma than her soulmate ETC, ETC.) H00k’s death, actually parallels Daniel and Regina in a lot of ways. including the fact that their female love interests bringing them back ended badly, and all they ended wanting in the end was for them to be happy. Emma has yet to learn that she needs to let h00k die. people have a time, and a place, and h00k’s number came up ages ago. But death does not inherently make it romantic. it is the context of it that might.

3.Yes, I know what Savior means. I’m an english major. I also know that ludicrous is spelled without an ‘I’ C- on your trolling report card nonnie. it means someone who ‘saves.’ sometimes other people, often at the cost of their own happiness, sometimes because they have to, not because they want to. Emma saving Regina though? she was thinking only of regina, not of herself, and not for the town. she had like, 15 seconds, and was filled with adrenaline. she didn’t have time to rationalize to it into (this’ll kill the town.) it was (that’s killing Regina.)  but don’t take my word for it, take the WRITERS OF THE DAMN SHOW, AND EVEN THE SHOW ITSELF, NOT THE ACTORS. 





so the one time she did do something for (herself.) brought back H00k, it blew up in her face, as it is wont to do when we often make decisions without correlating with a third party. So what’s it say about her when decisions she makes for herself blow up in her face? it says she needs better influence and decent people around her to trust, to actually bounce ideas of of. so she doesn’t do something stupid.

4. “Why watch the show if you’re just going to hate on it?’ I’m not hating. I’m still watching. I’m offering constructive criticism. saying ‘this is a bad idea, or maybe it’s just not implemented well. how can we make it better?’ or telling someone when they’re doing something insanely stupid is not a bad thing. 

I’m going to blow your mind here.

telling someone something they do is going to be stupid or bad, given the right context can be a kindness 

because you’re trying to keep them from doing something that could harm themselves or others, or you’re trying to get them to remember that this, this thing or idea of something they did was a bad idea, and you honestly truly WANT for them to get better. to grow as a person. because you have so much faith in them, and hope for them, that you want to sit there, and polish and smooth that diamond as much as possible so that everyone else can see it shine. while others are content with letting it remain unchanged, watching it chip, and crack, because they are unwilling to ‘break.’ or change it. but it’s still all in the context. do you honestly want to do this for them? to make them better / happy? to help others, and them? then that’s the good context. 

compare that to calling someone out, and saying something to them that you know can tear them down in an instant is not acceptable behavior, even in a dark / angry episode. but it happens. but it must be addressed, apologized for, stressed as being a bad thing, and the victim party must be given aftercare to recuperate, feel wanted, needed, loved. and to ensure that this does not end up as emotional abuse,  one must take pre-emptive measures so that if one is ever having an episode again wherin they might cause damage against another person, they can stop themselves from doing such.  an emotional episode is not an apology for hurting someone, it is an excuse. being hurt does not mean you can hurt someone else, regardless of who you are. if you pull that stuff, I expect both A.) an apology, to the victim and others, and B.) at least, trying to redeem yourself by making things right. going out of your way to make things right, willingly.

5.) “your ship will never happen.” Honestly, now would be the best time to do Swan Queen. Pull off a super emotional arc in 5b, fix some plotholes, and then do it because now, honestly


and A&E can be smug cats by saying “we dud what no one expected.” when yeah. they did. because almost everyone else gave up hope on it. but in all honesty, this is about the audience, and the show. I’ve said my bit in criticizing the show (torn down characters, regressed them, gave them negative development.) but yes, I want my ship to be canon, but i also want to be treated respectfully, as an equal. not called ‘delusional.’ or ‘ludicrious.’ kudos by the way for seeing what i see, when the evidence is there. I want to be treated fairly, and to have as much worth as the rest of the fandom, in the fandom.

and finally 

6.) ‘You will regret your time wasted on this fanon.’

not bloody likely. I’ve had the chance to be inspired by, and talk to some of the most interesting people I’ve come across since joining tumblr, and fandoms. I wouldn’t give any of those experiences the dishonor of attributing them as wasted. I’ve been in more than one fandom, and they’ve all helped m,e to process or grow in some way, and in that, they have not be a waste.

but this, answering this anon? this might have been a waste. if only not because it allowed me to unleash a few critical thinking skills.

so with much love from Swan Queen and swen,

fuck right back off to the hole you crawled out of.

                                                                                       Sincerely yours,