When I had a hospital birth I was misgendered all the way through which was bad enough, but when I'd actually had her and I was laying in the bed bonding with her, the nurses kept walking through and asking my husband "How's Mum doing?" etc etc, even though I'd had top surgery and was very obviously male. So yeah, hospitals suck and I'm glad you're having a home birth (wish I'd had one now).
Oh man that would make me so angry. I’d probably have lost it eventually. There’s one midwife at my community centre who slips up *constantly* and she’s very sweet but she doesn’t seem to try at all and I know for a fact if it’s her on call the night I go into labour I’ll just. Be way beyond politely correcting her. I’ll scream at her if she keeps ‘messing up’ and not bothering to correct herself. Labour is not the time when I’ll be able to be chill about that stuff.
I’m sorry you had such an awful experience mon ami!