no one owns us

Before I begin sharing this Tarot spread, please check the safe space tags at the bottom of this post before proceeding to ensure that this is safe for you to read. There are some Tarot spreads that we craft for ourselves in privacy, to help unlock and illuminate a pathway for our troubles to be resolved, and then there are the Tarot spreads we have created that seem to have a life of their own, ones that speak to us in such a way that they need to be shared with others. This Tarot spread is one I’ve kept hidden from the world and my blog simply because it unearths a pain my heart hates to relive but the outcome of this spread is always the same, a healing that soothes my soul and a reminder that I am a survivor. This spread was created after I was sexually abused as a way to help me cope. I was angry, lost and unsure of what to do to give my life meaning again. I created this spread as a way to heal, to take back control of my life, my body and to remind myself that I am not at fault. It is my greatest hope that this spread can help those who are or have been in a similar position as I am or be used as a starting point for their own healing. I wish this spread was available for me back then, when the only thing in my life that didn’t judge me harshly for what happened to me was my Tarot deck.  

Position One:
How can I validate my experiences?
Being someone who has dealt with sexual abuse, my experiences were often trivialized by others or I was made to feel that what happened to me was less than what it was, creating for me feelings of shame and isolation. This position provides reassurance that what you experienced was real and not okay.

Position Two:
How is this experience affecting me?
Because the people I told, minimized my abuse, I started thinking that it also wasn’t a big deal. I convinced myself that I could move on easily and not let it affect me but deep down there was still a growing toxin of hurt within me. This position brings light to how the abuse is affecting you in your life. It provides some clarity of some of the pain and feelings you may be suppressing.

Position Three:
How can I let go of the blame?
One thing that I did a lot when dealing with this abuse was shift blame to myself. I found every excuse for why it was my fault and why I might have deserved it. This position helps you see that what happened to you wasn’t your fault and that you are not the blame for the abuse you endured.

Position Four:
How can I start to heal?
It took me awhile to get to this step. Healing is ugly and vicious and it isn’t easy at all. I became comfortable being broken that I didn’t know what else to be anymore and then one day I grew tired of allowing my abuser to control my life and it was with that realization that I knew I needed to do something to heal. This position gives you a starting point or first step to help heal and free yourself from the abuse.

Position Five:
What support do I need?
I quickly realized I couldn’t heal on my own, no matter how hard I tried. I needed resources that I didn’t have and seeking out those resources were incredibly scary but so worthwhile in the end. This position showcases any external support and resources to look into in regards to your healing. This could be support groups, trusted friends, therapy, etc.


Post Notes:
Please do not remove the captions.
Spread: Survivor Of Abuse by @tarotprose
Copyright
:  © Ivan Ambrose 2017
Safe Space Tags: Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Rape, Victim Blaming
Spread Disclaimer: This is my own personal spread. I am not a medical professional, nor claim to be, nor do I suggest this spread to be used in replace of medical treatment. This is just what helps me and I wanted to share it with others.
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anonymous asked:

If they really are rooming, I bet they will never show it since there will most likely be only one king sized bed. In my opinion it's either this or if everyone has their own rooms, one of them will be used for storage and hanging out and the other will basically be the actual bedroom

If they do share any info it’s probably just JM being like “oh look this is my new room” with JK standing in the background and we can see that one king size but nothing is ever addressed further lol

Anons, a year ago...

To my last two Anons
Lets review what happened December 2016
You have missed in your narrative Tay was all the time in London a few details. 

You have to change your story a little bit, let me help you: 

The begining of December Tay went for a few days in LA. A few days before her bday, she went back to Nashville… Not that hard to confirm timing because she used her own jet (the big one, her dad used the little one at that time), then following your narrative 
Tay teleported in London for her bday, 🎂 not using either of her jets
Next sighting was a week later when she magically appeared back in Nashville before Xmas and had a party at Andrea’s house with Abi and Lily A’s family, again not using either of her own jets. ✈
Then she went on Dec. 26 to surprise Grandpa veteran suddenly using her big bird, it is well documented, that after that she used the possibility to go to Lou *to visit her cousins* 

Now the most interesting part in your narrative - while her jet flew here and there inside United States with all her family on board, she teleported herself back to London for a party on NYE. 🎆 

I’ll say your scenario is very very possible… after all Tay is world’s best known “illusionist” 😊

PS The only times she doesn’t use her own jets to travel over the Atlantic is when her bigger jet is on repair. There wasn’t such thing last December.

THE  FIVE  TIMES  YOU CAUGHT  BUCKY  BLUSHING

“ “I don’t think you realize the amount of self-control I have to use around you…” he said quietlypart 4

After everything we’ve done in the last twelve hours, you’re still blushing because of me?part 5

The fluff of this series made me melt. The prospect that Bucky Barnes blushes like mad makes my heart flutter and full -because after everything he’s gone through, that simple innocence may still be buried inside of him. This is my gift for @mindingmyownbusiness as I was your secret Santa. I used the moment where the reader decided to test her theory when she wanted to make her infamous pancakes, and the sweet moment during the movie night part would not leave me alone. I hope you like this (if not, pls just tell me so i could perhaps make another one for you)

**I do not own any of the images used. full credits to the owners**

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Porthos & Athos in ep. 2x10

A big round of applause for Porthos!                                                                  

For being a milathos shipper and sending Athos off to the right direction!

Bonus points:managing all that by simply giving him ONE LOOK!;-)                    *no words needed - basically he just used Athos’ own “stare-tactic” on him!*

As a writer, you should try to give your villains plausible motivations, backstories, etc. A villain is much more interesting if they think they’re the hero of their own story.

As a DM, this is still great advice in theory but in practice you should ABSOLUTELY NEVER DO THIS because your players will discover your villains’ tragic backstory, look at their motivation and find it sound, and end up adopting the villains, going rogue from the Celestial Intervention Agency to avenge the wrongs done said villains and ensure their freedom, accidentally kidnapping the President, and plunging Gallifrey into a civil war.

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I envy people who are good at keeping Sans on model because personally, nah

One of the risks of being quiet is that other people can fill your silence with their own interpretation: You’re bored. You’re depressed. You’re shy. You’re stuck up. You’re judgmental. When others can’t read us, they write their own story—not always one we choose or that’s true to who we are.
—  Sophia Dembling
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So we laugh about “it’s high noon” but listen. Matt Mercer voiced Shigure from Fire Emblem Fates, and I don’t think you guys realize how lovely his singing voice is and how well it fits Yusuke.

Akira is tortured every day.