no matter what someone will get hurt

I know a lot of people are worried about the Romeo + Juliet parallels this season, and what I mean for the final episode and I’d be lying if I didn’t say I’m a little on edge about it. But I’m going to completely honest, I don’t think we have to worry about the kill your gays trope rearing it’s ugly head in skam, not after everything they’ve done this season.

Those references were woven into the story to give you an insight into Even’s mind. Even believes you can’t love someone without getting hurt, or destroying everything you built with them, because he believes no one could ever want him because of his mental health issues. And that’s something he’s probably believed for his whole life, no matter what others have told him. And why is that? No one has proven him otherwise, no one has ever made Even feel whole – shown him that there is, in fact light at the end of the tunnel.

Until Isak.

I’m 90% sure Even sent that text as a desperate attempt to prove his own mind wrong, while also saying goodbye at the same time. But Isak didn’t let him down. Isak dead ass ran right across the city to try and get to the boy that he loves.

Isak shattered those images from Even’s mind into a million little pieces, Even has hope now. Even has someone who will love him no matter what.

Even is going nowhere.

Neither is Isak.

When someone cries so hard that it hurts their throat, it is out of frustration or knowing that no matter what you can do or attempt to do can change the situation. When you feel like you need to cry, when you want to just get it out, relieve some of the pressure from the inside - that is true pain. Because no matter how hard you try or how bad you want to, you can’t. That pain just stays in place. Then, if you are lucky, one small tear may escape from those eyes that water constantly. That one tear, that tiny, salty, droplet of moisture is a means of escape. Although it’s just a small tear, it is the heaviest thing in the world. And it doesn’t do a damn thing to fix anything.
—  Chase Brooks
What We Seem to Forget About the Signs
  • Aries: they're really fragile internally, and you really need to handle with care
  • Taurus: they're actually really good at reading people and are very smart, but they keep it in most of the time
  • Gemini: they support you no matter what you do, no matter how many times you change what you want to do, like your own personal cheerleader
  • Cancer: no matter how many times you hurt them, they stick around because they get it and they think they can help you and YOU DON'T DESERVE THEM
  • Leo: they're the type of people to put things back where they belong in the grocery store because they don't want to inconvenience someone
  • Virgo: they're very creative and make some of the best storytellers, and they're definitely not as rigid as people make them out to be
  • Libra: for an air sign, they're also extremely loyal, especially to the people they really care about
  • Scorpio: they just want to have fun and live in a romantic comedy and have a happily ever after but instead the world is a horror movie and it's safer for them to be tough and reserved and suspicious
  • Sagittarius: we seem to forget that you can't mess with them, because their minds are brutally honest and they're a scarily perceptive judge of character
  • Capricorn: they should be dubbed the sexual ones, more so than scorpio, because they're the ones more likely to search for intimacy without an emotional connection
  • Aquarius: they try really hard, all the time, in whatever they do, and they rarely get credit for it; their whole personality is just them trying really hard to hide who they are
  • Pisces: a lot meaner than they're made out to be; not that they're mean in general, but they're meaner than the sweet angels we sometimes see them as

In 2012, blogger Cliff Pervocracy coined the term “missing stair” to describe individuals who pose a danger to others, but are tolerated within a community because everyone is aware of their issues. If you know about a missing stair in an unlit stairwell, you can work around it and avoid it. No one bothers to fix the missing stair because jumping over it works just fine.

But if no one told you that there was a missing stair, and it’s just assumed that you’re aware, it’s all too easy to be hurt.

Every time you allow someone with a known history of harassment to drum for your band, or play at your venue, or come to your party, you’re saying that their presence matters more than other people at the event feeling safe. You’re putting the onus on potential targets to be aware enough to leap over the missing stair, rather than roping off the stairwell with caution tape. And if someone does get hurt, it’s their fault; that’s what happens when you use a shitty, jacked up staircase, dude.

— 

an easy to understand metaphor about why the scumbos should be driven out of communities of all kinds.

from IMAGINING A SAFER SPACE: BUILDING COMMUNITY & ENDING HARASSMENT IN PUNK by Lorena Cupcake

So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that’s not what I actually needed. What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered.
I have found this very useful to think about over the years, and I find that it is a lot easier and more bearable to be sad when you aren’t constantly berating yourself for being sad.
—  John Green

there is a strange feeling that comes when someone you love has hurt you, when you are sitting at home, still loving them and still being broken by what they have done. a bitter feeling. a large feeling in a small body. like claws are removing your marrow. a sad, angry, iron feeling. and love. a terrible and honest love, telling you to forgive again. and again. no matter how bad it gets, it’s better than losing them forever. so you hurt, and the hurt sticks inside of you, and you love, and you watch them destroy you.

When someone cries so hard that it hurts their throat, it is out of frustration or knowing that no matter what you can do or attempt to do can change the situation. When you feel like you need to cry, when you want to just get it out, relieve some of the pressure from the inside - that is true pain. Because no matter how hard you try or how bad you want to, you can’t. That pain just stays in place. Then, if you are lucky, one small tear may escape from those eyes that water constantly. That one tear, that tiny, salty, droplet of moisture is a means of escape. Although it’s just a small tear, it is the heaviest thing in the world. And it doesn’t do a damn thing to fix anything.
—  Chase Brooks
Translation of Ishida Sui’s Tumblr post - 16 Nov 2015

From here. BGM here.

“The Sky Falls”

I had a dream where the sky fell down.

The bloodstains won’t come out, no matter how many times I pour warm water on them, they won’t come out.

Only words begin to dissolve everything, and get stuck in the drain.

And you become unable to forgive yourself, unforgiving.

I had a dream.

A failure of a God

She laughed and squeezed my throat.

It’s always like this.

Only people dull to pain hurt me.

She truly loved me,

Only she didn’t know how to love.

What a stupid God.

My nerves grow strangely and pierce through my skin.

All at once they sing out.

Far away, someone laughs. Soon, it’s not even my voice any more.

My brain becomes transparent, and there’s nothing I can’t see.

On knowing the things you didn’t know, you die.

I had a dream where the sky fell.

A checkerboard sky.

Squashed by it, I died.

Yes, I wished for that.

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Noragami Aragoto || Baby Yato + Heart Realize
↳ No matter what happens, I’ll call your name without fail. You’re the owner of a jagged heart.  Anything you touch gets hurt. You scowl at everything in the world. Your eyes say it, but I’m here. Someone was laughing. So the boundary line was pulled in. If that’s so, I’ll take your hand and take you with me. If you can’t say it, hold my hand tight and don’t let go. I want you to know that you are not alone anymore.  

So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that’s not what I actually needed. What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered. I have found this very useful to think about over the years, and I find that it is a lot easier and more bearable to be sad when you aren’t constantly berating yourself for being sad.
—  John Green
So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that’s not what I actually needed. What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered.
I have found this very useful to think about over the years, and I find that it is a lot easier and more bearable to be sad when you aren’t constantly berating yourself for being sad.
—  John Green

Most people, when talking to you, are only talking to their perception of you.

This may not always be accurate.

Their perception of you is altered by their own history, tendencies, opinions etc.

They will alter their perception of you to fit their reality and feelings.

You have to be okay with this. You may also do it to other people, but try not to.

Remember that memories are not entirely accurate and your mind can and will skew them so that they fit in your chosen paradigm.

I’m saying this because there are people who will not be able to deal with you, no matter what, who seem to remember or recall a completely different person when dealing with you.

Don’t stress. That’s on them. Be you. Don’t aim to hurt feelings. Be nice. Care about people.

But understand that people are going to see you differently than you see you, and sometimes the person that they see is largely someone they made up.

Don’t get bent out of shape about it. It’s just the way things are. You exist beyond someone else’s perception.

I was young. It was just the kind of shit that actresses have to go through. Somebody told me I was fat, that I was going to get fired if I didn’t lose a certain amount of weight. They brought in pictures of me where I was basically naked, and told me to use them as motivation for my diet. It was just that. [Someone brought it up recently] They thought that because of the way my career had gone, it wouldn’t still hurt me. That somehow, after I won an Oscar, I’m above it all. You really still care about that?’’ Yeah. I was a little girl. I was hurt. It doesn’t matter what accolades you get. I know it’ll never happen to me again. If anybody even tries to whisper the word ‘diet’, I’m like,You can go fuck yourself.

Send me a number and I'll write a drabble about my muse's past
  1. (childhood) A great day turns terrible in a matter of moments.
  2. (childhood) A good memory about family or friends.
  3. (childhood) A harsh lesson is learned.
  4. (childhood) Meeting a stranger.
  5. (childhood) The loss of someone or something important.
  6. (young adulthood) A new perspective on the world is gained.
  7. (young adulthood) Reality hits hard and hurts terribly.
  8. (young adulthood) Love, lust, or infatuation.
  9. (young adulthood) An awful, stupid mistake.
  10. (young adulthood) Getting into trouble.
  11. (adulthood) What is ‘family’ to them?
  12. (adulthood) How far have they come?
  13. (adulthood) How far do they personally believe they have to go?
  14. (adulthood) The understanding of another person is achieved.
  15. (adulthood) Will it ever be time to settle?
  16. What does 'trust’ mean?
  17. The farthest distance traveled.
  18. Isolation (self-imposed, even if brief).
  19. Isolation (due to circumstances outside of control, even if brief).
  20. Beliefs are shaken.
  21. Knowledge is shared.
  22. Does 'honesty’ matter?
  23. Value is found in something previously deemed worthless.
  24. A question is asked, either aloud or silently. “What made you this way?”
  25. A serious lie is told.
  26. They have to hide. Quickly.
  27. A personal project is undertaken.
  28. Rules are bent for the greater good.
  29. “Explain yourself.”
  30. Someone dies.
Signs as Lovers or Fighters

Aries: Lover; Fuck with their friends, and you’ll be dead, though.
Taurus: Fighter; For what they believe in.
Gemini: A little bit of both.
Cancer: Lover; A very nuturing person, and normally a behind-the-scenes reverger.
Leo: Lover; Unless someone questions their postion.
Virgo: Lover; Just don’t fuck with their passions.
Libra: Both. On equal bits.
Scorpio: Fighter; Will stand up for what they believe in, no matter the cost.
Saggitarius: Fighter; When someone they love is in trouble, they’ll kill a bitch. Someone insults them, they’ll kill a bitch twice as hard.
Capricorn: Fighter; When emotionally hurt, they tend to get into a very “fight me” mode.
Aquarius: A little bit of both; They go with the wind. Whatever seems to be best for the situation, really.
Pisces: Lover; Too sweet to fight, but will if it is absolutely nessassary. They normally don’t get in that postion though.

What Each Myers-Briggs Type is Like As An Enemy

No matter how likable you are, everyone is bound to make an enemy in life. Each person has a different approach to dealing with someone that they do not get along with. Here is how you might respond to an enemy according to your personality type.

INFJ

Although INFJs can be extremely warm, and tend to avoid harming others, there is a flip side to them. As an enemy INFJs can be extremely manipulative and potentially hurtful. It often takes a great deal of pushing to get an INFJ to reach such a point, but it is possible. They have a strong sense of awareness, and are capable of manipulating others and seeing where their weak points are. As an enemy an INFJ may be very harmful, or they may just shut the person out of their lives as if they never existed. They are one of the most amazing types to have as your advocate, but can make a very spiteful enemy. Some of the most sinister people in history have been typed as INFJ, and also some of the kindest. They are like two sides of a coin, with the potential for greatness- either good or bad.

ENFJ

ENFJs spend most of their time finding ways to make others happy, and caring for their loved ones. Just like every type they are capable of anger and may even hold onto grudges for a long time. The ENFJ may find themselves feeling resentful if someone they have cared for, treats them poorly for a long time. They may be quick to anger if someone hurts one of their loved ones. If they feel someone is their enemy the ENFJ can be very aggressive towards this person. They may find ways to manipulate others into feeling negatively towards that person as well, and are very skilled at doing so. As friends they are caring, but as enemies they can be rather frightening.

INFP

The INFPs worst enemy is often themselves. They are usually harsher on themselves than they are other people. Although they tend to avoid conflict and dislike making enemies, they are capable of it just like any other type. INFPs as enemies often become this way because they see the person as dishonest or immoral in some way. Initially the INFP will probably attempt to avoid this person, and cut them out of their lives. In some cases the INFP will be very passive aggressive towards this person, and find subtle ways of dissing them. They may try to tear down their enemy’s character in front of others, so that people see exactly what the INFP sees. If they outright are aggressive towards an enemy they will probably feel very remorseful afterwards.

ENFP

ENFPs tend to avoid making enemies with most people, since they have a pretty high likability factor. They are very friendly and tend to avoid harboring negative feelings towards others. If someone dislikes the ENFP they will probably feel very shocked and want to try to rectify the situation. They are most likely to try to and force the person to like them, by showing them their very best. It would take a lot for an ENFP to feel aggressive towards someone or feel the desire to harm them. They tend to avoid that sort of reaction and honestly just want to get along with everyone. If it comes to a point where an ENFP feels constantly threatened by someone’s differing morals, they may attempt to turn others against them, but that is a last resort.

INTJ

INTJs as enemies are generally much more subtle. If they have reached a point of feeling like someone is completely against them, they will find a strategic way to attack. They often do not find the need to do this, nor do they find it useful. But if an INTJ does feel the need to make an enemy out of someone, they can do so very well. They are intelligent enough to plan a much more effective way of coming against an enemy. As friends they are logical and helpful, but as enemies that logic is used in a potentially damaging way.

ENTJ

ENTJs can make for very aggressive and resourceful enemies. They may attempt to use intimidation to make their enemies fearful of them. They are skilled at taking charge and if need be can be very good at putting pressure on others. They probably do not see most people as enough of a threat to even consider them an enemy. If they do they are probably very upfront about it, and do not feel a need to hide their dislike of someone.

INTP

INTPs are more likely to avoid someone that they dislike, and often do not enjoy making enemies. A mature INTP will find this pointless, and desire to squash the problem if possible. They are usually not afraid of someone and are definitely willing to stand up for themselves if need be. If someone is constantly causing trouble for them, they may try even harder to agitate this person in an effort to get them to knock it off. INTPs generally feel like they have much better things to occupy their thoughts than coming against an enemy. Their tendency to strive for precision can agitate others easily, but the INTP is not intending to make enemies, they just want to be precise.

ENTP

Being that they are natural debaters, ENTPs may make a few enemies. They are often well-liked and have the ability to change people’s minds about them. If they find they have made a real enemy, the ENTP may try to smooth things over and express to this person that they are a great person to be around. If the relationship is not fixable however, the ENTP may attempt to manipulate their friends into disliking the other person. The ENTP may continue to poke at this person if they don’t come around, which will ultimately make things worse.

ISTJ

ISTJs tend to keep to themselves and strive to fulfill their duties. They often get along with people, and avoid unnecessary conflict. However, if the ISTJ feels like someone is encroaching in on their lives or possibly effecting their chance at a promotion, they may become angry. They are most likely to find subtle and strategic ways to overcome an enemy, instead of outright aggression.

ESTJ

ESTJs enjoy being liked, and will attempt to avoid making enemies out of people. They are very aggressive and do have a tendency to push peoples buttons. ESTJs are rarely afraid of having enemies, and will come at the person outwardly instead of subtly. They will probably attempt to intimidate their enemies into backing down, and will find ways to make them feel physically threatened.

ISFJ

ISFJs are very driven by their need to please others, and will avoid making enemies at all costs. They want to be well received by others, and dislike the idea of having an enemy. ISFJs may have a tendency to hold grudges for a long time if they feel someone has wronged them, but they will attempt to push it aside. Their anger may come out in passive aggressive ways, or they may use guilt manipulation.

ESFJ

ESFJs spend most of their energy on pleasing others, and dislike the idea of making enemies. They will tend to avoid being disliked, but that does not mean they are incapable of making enemies. As an enemy an ESFJ will be most likely to shut someone out of their lives completely. If they are truly angry with someone, they will rant about them to others, but in the end will pretend like that person doesn’t exist. They may use manipulation to tear down their enemy’s character.

ISTP

ISTPs are extremely laid-back and rarely make enemies. They tend to keep to themselves and truly do not find the desire to dislike someone. They probably feel like having an enemy would be a complete waste of their time, and would do their best to avoid that person. If someone continued to bug them, they would probably address it honestly in an attempt to deter that person. In the end the ISTP will ignore the enemy until they go away. If it goes too far they aren’t afraid of getting physical.

ESTP

ESTPs desire to be liked, and usually don’t feel a need for making enemies. If they truly make an enemy out of someone, they will probably attempt to convince themselves they had no choice in the matter. They may talk negatively about that person in an attempt to deter others from liking them. They aren’t at all afraid of conflict, but in the end don’t truly want to make enemies.

ISFP

ISFPs are probably one of the least likely types to make enemies. They dislike conflict and keep to themselves most of the time. ISFPs don’t feel the need to hold grudges and will generally just avoid someone who dislikes them. Instead of addressing the conflict, they will probably just step away from it.

ESFP

ESFPs are fun loving and will usually ignore the presence of an enemy altogether. If they do feel the need to address an enemy, they may resort to petty insults and trashing their name to make them go away.


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No matter what,
I’m thankful that my heart had the ability to love someone that much.
I’m so thankful that I was able to be with him and know that what I was feeling was real, you know?
Of course it hurt when it ended,
But I’m so lucky to have loved someone like that.
Some people never get a chance to feel love that deeply.
I loved someone with every single cell in my body. I really, truly did.
And whether or not he loved me as much as I loved him is irrelevant.
If I loved the wrong person with complete and utter honesty,
Imagine the kind of love I’ll experience with the right one.
—  Thankful
I’m not the strongest person in the world. And I admit that. In years I have been yelled at, emotionally scared, broken, depressed without my parents knowing. I fear gaining weight (I always check that scale, no matter how skinny I am. No matter what my friends tell me.) I fear no acceptance, I fear being hurt once more. I fear being alone, I fear losing others, I fear admitting I love someone then notice they don’t care. I fear thunderstorms, I fear life itself coming in and taking me away. I fear change, and my anxiety. I fear making others unhappy. I fear crying in front of everyone, I fear being weak.
I am tired of feeling the pain! I hate when my heart gets broken. I hate having that confusion period where I don’t know what to say or what to do.
I’m I love but I hate being in love because I know I’m going to be the one who gets hurt quicker and never really heals.
IMPORTANT. PLEASE TAKE NOTE.

Okay. Since the good side of the fandom is hurting a lot right now, and since the bad side is hurting Frankie and the rest of MCR, I think we need this.

Please reblog (no likes, just to make it easier to collect notes) and I will put your URL down in a notebook and give it to Frankie when (if I even get the chance now) I meet him, and I will tell him that each person’s URL in the notebook is someone who loves and supports him no matter what, and that we are all ashamed and sorrier than words can express for the way this disgusting fandom has been treating him. I want him to know that some of us out there feel extremely terribly for this, and that not everyone is against him as it’s starting to seem.

I dunno, this might be a stupid idea. But whether or not it catches on, I’m still going to end up crying in his face about how fucking sorry I am that he’s being treated like this, and how disgusting the people who’re doing it are.

  • Someone: Stop crying they're just animated drawings
  • Me: Please just stop talking. My emotional state balances on these cartoons and if it weren't for them i have absolutely no idea who or where i would be. Amethyst and Sadie make me proud of my stomach bulge, Steven reminds me to stay optomistic no matter what, Mabel reminds me to keep my head held high and to be confident, Star taught me that i can be strong without having to be violent or brash, Pearl reminds me to never give up on a task no matter how embarrassed i feel, Garnet reminded me not to forgive people just because they say they're sorry, but that they need to work their way back up to gaining someones trust back, and these cartoons have taught me extremely meaningful things and my self-esteem and confidence would be nonexistent without them. When the characters get hurt or they get into a bad situation, i feel terrible and actually cry for them because they help me feel better about who i am and when they don't feel good about themselves, i feel sorrow for them. When i see characters again, i remember how much they make me feel better about myself. I'm so sorry you can't comprehend that, so please, stop speaking.