no matter what gender you are

what’s the deal with people getting pissy about the genders of fictional creatures? who freaking cares if that gardevoir is a dude or that machamp is a chick or whatever it doesn’t freaking matter they’re pokemon they’re fictional just let people view these fictional creatures however they want it’s not going to hurt anyone

New Pride Colors

Recently Phili has come up with a new pride flag with the colors black and brown to be more inclusive of LGBT people of color. Instead of ROYGBV we have BBROYGBV.
Here’s the thing. The lgbt community has nothing to do with color. No matter what you are included. The brown and black are not needed. Your race has nothing to do with gender or sexual identity. The rainbow flag created by Gilbert Baker (who died in March 2017) is a piece of history and perfect on its own.
This might get some people angry but hear me out. The flag stands for everyone in the community, whether you are black, white, brown, purple, neon, anything. The flag is not about race but about a community coming together due to shared differences on sexuality and gender identity. We are all represented under that flag no matter what your skin color is.

how could people be so dumb?!? why is it you business who somebody loves or what gender they identify? why are people so rude? honestly the fact that our world has come to this is distgusting IF YOU WANT TO MARRY A DUDE OR A LADY THAN GO AHEAD. IF YOU ARE NOT COMFORTABLE BEING MALE OR FEMALE THEN CHANGE. NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. just know that just cause some idiot behind a screen says it’s dumb doesn’t mean it’s true! 🏳️‍🌈❤️💛💚💙💜🖤

eene-fangirl  asked:

If AKA meant to have EddEddy as canon what does it do for you in representational matters? What message were they trying to send out?

It’s against the show’s spirit to expect an intentional message, particularly in this case because EddEddy seemed to begin as the cartoon tradition of gags defying conformity for the hell of it, a simple challenge to censors and sensibilities that took on more meaning as gender and sexuality started receiving more serious public discussion.  While I don’t think the studio’s interest in EddEddy comes from a deeply thoughtful place (at its most meta, I think this ship says more about Danny being in love with himself than anything else), I think the point of not having a message and keeping so much information vague is seeing how the subconscious elements of the art add up to create meaning.  

Something that hooked me onto EddEddy is how it uses typical “will they/won’t they” dynamics and blatantly suggestive interactions to test TV limits, but in not being able to say anything about it, they also normalize the relationship by not making it exclusively romantic.  I see a lot of people who don’t like EddEddy who simultaneously exaggerate its sappiness yet complain about it not being sappy enough to justify being interpreted as a romance, but that uncertainty is exactly what makes it valuable.  If EddEddy played out exactly the same except with one as a boy and one as a girl, with it never being openly labeled as anything more than a friendship where they casually straddle each other in public, ending with them holding hands and gazing at each other, you KNOW the fandom would be all about that tension and whether or not they ever opened their damn eyes, it would just be the next logical question.

anonymous asked:

I identify as genderfluid, but I'd like to be more physically masculine. I want a masculine name, a flat chest, etc. Even when I feel like a girl, I'm still more comfortable with male pronouns. Is this typical for a genderfluid person, or is there a gender that describes what I'm experiencing better than genderfluid? I'm afab, by the way.

If you feel that genderfluid fits you then you’re genderfluid!! No matter how you present, no matter your pronouns, no matter anything else, you’re completely valid as genderfluid!!

anonymous asked:

I had lots of nooreva feels today. When i think about them getting together, I can see Eva as, for once, the confident one of the two, she talks about what she feels more and she experiences you know, it's canon that she's not scared of kissing everyone doesn't matter the gender. Noora has a complicated past and she's way more reserved when it comes to relationships. Her infamous first boyfriend was horrible, yes, and she's without a doubt attracted to girls too but

she’s like insecure about it, what if all these feelings she has for girls only arise because she’s fucking scared of men? Then she meets Eva, who looks at her like she’s the sun and can’t speak Spanish for shit and has a warm smile, and later she finds out she’s super soft and gentle. Noora realizes it doesn’t really matter what she likes, she will figure that out at some point, and that things should be taken minute by minute (thank you isak) and for now all she knows is that

Eva is right there being loving, caring and she makes her feel safe unlike everyone else in her life. There is a moment when Noora decides to let down her strong confidence facade whit Eva, she’s not really sure at first, what if once Eva realizes she’s actually broken inside she doesn’t like her as much? But then Eva likes her even more, cause yes, Noora looks always amazing and indestructible, but inside she’s a soft girl who was strong enough to get up even after life was horrible to her.


omg, this is so cute and how it should have happened. And honestly Eva of course first saw Noora as this strong no-distructebal girl, but can you imagine how much it would mean to her as she slowly sees Noora unravel more and tell Eva about her past. Just them drinking tea and cuddling together and Noora says something like “this is my mom’s favorite tea” and it really shouldn’t be a big deal but it is to Eva cause she has never heard much about Noora’s parents and Eva don’t ask any more questions cuz she doesn’t want to pressure Noora. But Eva collects those little facts about Noora and her life and it is almost likes it shapes a beautiful mosaic in her mind and each time Noora tells her something new it grows and makes more sense.


Small comment minute by minute speech was first given by Sonja to Isak.

Ace Love💜

Hey listen, you might not always see support and sometimes it sucks because of the discourse™…but I want you to know something:
You are not broken
You belong
You are amazing (am-ace-ing😏)
No matter your sex drive
Or your romantic orientation
If your het-ace aro-ace or pan-ace etc
Or your gender identity
I could do this all day listing of all the ways you could be wonderful!
Just remember no matter what anyone says you are loved and supported
If you haven’t, You will find people who love and support you for you
I mean I will be one because my messages and ask box is always open for love and support
For those looking for a sign or a beacon of hope, here it is.
I promise you it gets better and the people who matter will accept you, support you and love you!
Asexuality is valid and real!
I love you all you amazing aces
-💜Shae

Why all of the Disney princesses are awesome

Snow White

- was a survivor of attempted murder, and was resilient to not let that horrid and traumatizing event bring her down or let it ruin her life

- was a victim of emotional abuse, and didn’t let the abuse get to her

- would save a baby bird from danger and make sure it found it’s parents

- knows how to hold a rocking party with friends

Cinderella

- survivor of emotional abuse from her stepmom and stepsisters for many years, and stayed kind towards others

- despite her family treating her so wrongly and poorly, she just wanted to spend a night with them and have fun with them, and just be like a normal family “ Prince Charming, who “ ?????

- she’s sassy as fuck “ Well I don’t want to interrupt their “music lesson “ during her stepsisters bad singing

- even though she had a short time to be at the ball, she was grateful for the opportunity anyways

Aurora

- Gives up her happiness, to perform her duty as a princess for her kingdom and her kingdom’s future and knows that she must do her job as a princess. That’s pretty brave and selfless.

- that gorgeous blonde curly hair !!!!

Ariel

- she’s the first Princess that goes forward to make her dreams come true, rather than just wishing, hoping and waiting.

- she’s adventurous, curious, loves to explore, learn about new things and new cultures and new world

- she’s the first Princess to save her love interest, but once, but twice

Belle

- different, odd and a misfit from the common crowd and gives no fucks

- “ Women shouldn’t read “ Well shut the fuck up, I’m going to do what I love and enjoy anyways.

- takes no bullshit. You are a asshole ? Got no time for that. She’s outtie.

- sees the good within people, but is also isn’t naive, she knows that some people are just plain monsters, through and through.

Jasmine

- will stand up for her rights, and won’t be pushed around

- is quick, sharp, intelligent and a fast learner

-wants to learn more about the outside world and her people

-if you try and lie to her or manipulate her or treat her like she’s a fool, she’s not having that shit

Pocahontas

-will fight for her people, her family, her world, her home, her culture

- she’s the first princess to save the day, not the guy, not a male sidekick, she’s the one the saves the day, while Snow had the Dwarfs, Cinderella had her mice friends, Aurora had Prince Phillip, Ariel had Eric, and Jasmine had Aladdin. ( Belle is debatable imo )

- loves the earth and nature and will protect it from harm

Mulan

- she saves China, I mean, come on

- she never gives up, no matter what. If she fails, she will just try even harder to succeed and will find a way on how can succeed.

- brave, determined, strong mentally and physically, a kind friend

-teaches girls that it’s okay if you haven’t found yourself yet- if you don’t give up, one day you will, and you will conquer

- pushes gender norms

- another female princess that saves the day, not her male love interest, or sidekicks, is also the first princess to defeat the villian in battle, like a previous male character like Phillip or Eric would

Tiana

- is hard-working, and never gives up on her dreams, and will work hard to get there

- teaches that dreams are done by sweating your butt off, giving up on fun sometimes, sometimes having to work more than one job, than just wishing and hoping, you have to take action, and make that dream happen

-ambitious and smart and realistic

- teaches that you shouldn’t take a short-cut, find a lazy option, cheat or gamble your way to success, the only to get there is through hard work and effort

- again,another badass princess that saves the day on her own

Rapunzel

- is kind to everybody

- is cheerful, positive, warm and supportive towards others, even people who seem “scary “, she knows inside, that we all have dreams

-is brave enough to step outside her  zone and new and strange places and territories

- anger her by harming one of her loved ones and she will fucking tear you apart

- a talented artist

Anna and Elsa

- teaches girls that family love is just as important than romance love, if not more so

- Anna goes through a abusive relationship and isn’t put off love forever, she learns her lesson, doesn’t let Hans bad treatment of her ruin her or let her become a toxic person, like he was, and moves on with a better man, and a healthier relationship

- Elsa goes through basically being locked up with lack of other human contact, fearing her powers and fearing what other people think of, to come out as better and stronger person

- Elsa teaches that sometimes its best not let what others think of you, and just say “ fuck it “ and just be yourself and be free

- Anna teaches the difference between a unhealthy relationship (whirlwind romance,quickly trusting people, getting into a deep relationship with somebody you don’t even know )  and healthy one ( somebody who gives you his jacket when you are cold, holds you close when you are scared, is worried about your well-being, getting to know somebody first before leaping in, somebody who asks for your consent before kissing you, will do anything to make sure you are safe and okay )

Moana

- will do anything for her island and people and make sure they’ll all okay

- her leadership skills are A++

- no “ you are forced to marry this boy so you can become his queen”, BS, Moana is the future leader

- is brave to fear the unknown waters, learn new skills, and battle monsters

- is understanding, and understands why somebody acts the way that they do

- is extremely independent


in short, they are all awesome, even the three originals.

anonymous asked:

I was fine as a child, I was never bothered by gender, it wasn't something I noticed or was bothered by until I started developing breasts. I remember thinking "I want these cut off" Now I'm 16 and I think I'm as non-binary but I have a massive massive swing towards being masculine. I'm so worried about how people perceive me and how people perceive non binary people that I think I've started hating myself+people who identify as non binary. I feel like a fraud and I'm so anxious about this. Help

Hello anon, please know that you’re always valid no matter what. It’s completely okay to question your gender and experience dysphoria. I recommend finding what makes you the most comfortable like clothing, pronouns, name, etc. before deciding on a label you might want to use.

anonymous asked:

Hi Alice, odd question but: Do you believe asexuals belong in the LGBT community? I have a friend who identifies this way, but as a trans girl, I'm struggling to understand how she has to go through the same things as an LGBT person by being asexual. And struggle aside, I don't even see how asexuality is THAT different from heterosexuality, just with more... hesitation!? Maybe this sounds rude, but I know you've written about asexual people etc, and I wondered what you thought. No shade intended

Hi there. I’m glad you reached out to me about this because you must have really upset your friend by saying stuff like this to them.

It’s easy to see why not only cishet people, but also LGBT+ people, think that asexuality is fake. The world is awash with sex and sexual attraction. It’s everywhere. And everyone is supposed to want it and feel it. It’s so extremely normalised that the idea that someone could be literally UNABLE to feel sexual attraction is, to many people, absolutely bizarre and a joke.

Even if you acknowledge that asexuality is real, it’s also easy to see why you would be so quick to reject and get angry at asexual people who call themselves LGBT+. Because asexual people are not like you, are they. Unless they are trans, asexuals don’t have gender troubles, and unless they experience same-gender romantic attraction, asexuals don’t experience same-gender attraction! Lesbian, bi, gay etc people can all be joined together in their experience of same gender attraction, and all trans folks, binary and non binary, can be joined together in their experience of feeing a disconnect from their assigned birth gender.

The result? No one wants asexuals near them. People can’t relate. No one else feels the way asexuals do and people don’t think they should be part of the group. They’re not the same as you.

But oh god, they are not allowed in the cishet club either.

The first thing you need to try and unlearn is that asexuality is in any way similar to heterosexuality. It’s not. It’s so, so fucking not. It’s painful how different it feels to be asexual compared to being heterosexual. Telling an ace person that asexuality isn’t ‘THAT different from heterosexuality’ is about as accurate as saying being gay isn’t ‘THAT different from heterosexuality’. Being asexual means you do not experience sexual attraction, ever. EVER. And while that might seem easy to you, it’s an extremely painful and terrifying thing to learn about yourself, in a world where everyone is expected to have an array of sexual experiences, fall in love, get married, and anyone who doesn’t do that is strange and a freak.

Learning you are asexual can be terrifying. When you realise you’ve never had a crush, when all your friends have had ten each, you are terrified. When you pass the age where people have started dating and having sex and you still feel nothing - NOTHING - you are terrified. When you think about ever falling in love and the idea disgusts you, or you think about falling in love and you crave it, god you CRAVE it, but you know you can’t ever feel that, you are terrified. When you realise you will never be able to enjoy a normal romantic/sexual relationship, the ones full of passion like you see in the movies, and people will reject you because you can’t fancy them in that way, and there’s a higher chance for you than anyone else that you will simply die alone, without love, without children - you are terrified.

You think being ace is the same as heterosexuality? You think it’s an easy thing to learn about yourself? Explain the terror, then. I’m all ears.

The fact you see asexuality as 'hesitation’ is really horrifying to me. Asexuals aren’t attracted to the opposite gender but 'hesitant’ to act on it. Asexuals DO NOT feel attraction. To anyone. It’s not a choice. It’s not a way of life. It’s not the same as celibacy out of choice, or being a 'prude’, or waiting till marriage. It is ingrained in you, just like being gay is, just like being trans is. It is a part of you that no matter how hard you try to will it away, no matter how hard you try to persuade yourself otherwise, you cannot help it. You DO NOT feel attracted to ANYONE.

And in saying all this, I fully acknowledge that asexuals do not experience the extent of oppression that other LGBT+ folks do. There are no laws regarding asexuality. Lesbian, gay, bi, trans, and other LGBT+ folks no doubt experience a higher level and intensity of systematic oppression to asexuals, more frequently go through hard experiences due to their orientation or gender. But since when did being LGBT+ become a competition for 'who’s the most oppressed’? Is that what LGBT+ is? You’re only allowed in the club if you’re 'oppressed enough’? If you’re 'gay enough’? If you’re 'trans enough’?

If you need persuading that asexuals do experience their own form of oppression, though, consider the number of asexuals who are coerced into sex in order to 'fix’ them. Consider the emotional pain that I have already discussed, of feeling that there is something fundamentally wrong and gross about you because you feel attracted to no one. Consider the number of asexuals who are hounded or emotionally abused by their families for failing to find partners. Consider the number of asexuals who force themselves to have sexual experiences, because it is the norm, because they don’t even know what asexuality is, because THEY think that they are just 'hesitant’, despite finding sex disgusting and feeling no desire to do it. Do you really think asexuals are just running around, free and happy and content in who they are? They aren’t. I’m not.

So go ahead. Cast aside asexuals if you want. Call them attention-seeking, call them special snowflakes. Ignore the pain they feel. Make them go through it alone, in pain, terrified of what they are. Why on earth would the LGBT+ community be a place to support people like that!?

Messages like the one you have just sent me gives me further reason to never talk about that part of myself. To just sit and cry about it at home day after day because I do not like myself. Because I feel that nobody will accept me or understand who I am. I could list the number of things people have said to me to discredit and laugh at this part of myself, but it’s people like you who make me embarrassed to talk about it, too scared to own a label and talk about it freely and openly.

I thought, going into this, that the LGBT+ community was one of total respect, understanding, and empathy. I learnt pretty quickly that it is not.

I send love to your asexual friend. I really, really do.

Disclaimer: I am very aware of the nuances of asexuality, of the differences between romantic/aesthetic/sexual attraction, but sadly it seems that many people can’t even grasp the basic concept of asexuality, so I don’t quite think they’re ready for that yet.

1. Go to a party and stay sober. Listen to the way your drunk classmates talk when they don’t plan to remember tonight when they wake up. Never talk about these experiences, just keep them for yourself.
2. Start driving in one direction on the highway after school one day, pretending like you’re running away. Blast bad pop music and sing along. Stop in the suburbs when your mom calls you to come home, but buy your little brother a cupcake before you turn back around.
3. Kiss your best friend. It doesn’t matter what sexuality or gender you are or they are. It doesn’t matter if it’s a peck or you escalate to tongue. You’ll laugh about it later, but it will always make you smile just for the memory.
4. Smoke a cigarette. Let it burn your throat. Cough, loudly.
5. Take a stand for something you believe in. When half your school laughs at you, take it with pride. Someone agrees, even if they’re too scared to say so.
6. Make enemies. Make the kind of mistakes that cause your life to implode. Lose everyone and everything to these mistakes. Only when you fall will you find out that you can pick yourself back up.
7. Sit on someone’s roof and talk for hours. Forget about dinner and tell your origin stories. Let your guard down while the dog barks below. Talk about god. Listen.
8. Steal Bourbon from your parents’ liquor cabinet and put it in a water bottle beneath your bathroom sink. Spike your tea with it when you think you’ve hit rock bottom. Pour the whole thing down the drain when it’s too strong for you.
9. Become a stereotype. Buy a record player and combat boots. Wear all black. Dye your hair bright blue and get your ear pierced three times. Don’t care when people laugh at you.
10. Make wishes at 11:11. Wear your pajamas backwards in the hopes of a snow day. Look for answers at the bottom of a bottle. Pretend writing things on your arms makes you special. Believe in anything. Believe in everything. Open every book and look around every corner. You’ll never look like this or move like this or think like this again. Enjoy it while it lasts or hate every second. But feel. Feel every damn thing.
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Happy Valentine’s Day, Tumblr. 💖

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Mehcad Brooks story time!

So today I met Mehcad at Heroes and Villains Fan Fest in London. It was hot and everyone was under a glass roof, Melissa and Chris cancelled the day before the event, a lot of people were a bit moody and Mehcad showed up half an hour late to his signing. We were told he had food poisoning, poor guy. 

But boy was he worth the wait. 

As soon as he arrived he changed the mood. He was a ball of light. He hugged everyone he could and kept apologizing for being late, going down the line and giving people hugs and high fives. I had a VIP pass and was the only VIP pass waiting so I was one of the first ones to go and get my autograph and picture.

I told him that as a trans man who is transitioning one of the things I struggled with was finding positive male role models who embodied a positive masculinity, being strong but sensitive and leaving room for women and femininity, and that James represented that for me and was one of the first characters who did. His response was beyond humbled. He thanked me, probably gave me three or four more hugs and told me how much it meant to him to be putting that energy out there, then he asked if he could take a picture with me. I laughed and said that I had bought one, and he said but I want to take it with you on my phone. So we did. He took the pic himself (bless those long arms) then took a couple with my phone as well. He asked if it was ok to share my story and I said of course, that I’m very open and out and proud, and he thanked me because he felt it was so important and he was so floored by it. 

A little later was his panel. Due to the other Supergirl guests cancelling he was alone. From the moment he stepped out he was full of light and energy in spite of having food poisoning. You would never have known. There was a sign language interpreter there and he was trying to learn the things she was signing during his questions, made everyone feel special and welcome, made sure every child that stepped up to ask a question was given a round of applause, and when a girl came up to thank him for what he was doing for the people of Manchester (he’s giving away free autographed 8x10s to anyone from Manchester who sees him this weekend) he asked if she was from there and she said yes, so he said “come up here” and gave her the biggest and longest hug. 

He told some funny stories, and at the very end when someone asked how he feels about the show being political, he said he doesn’t think it is, he thinks it’s about inclusion and hope and light, that it doesn’t matter who you are, a black man can be an iconic comic book character and you can love any gender, and he doesn’t think that’s politics, he just thinks it’s right, and as he was saying it he made contact with me in the audience and smiled and winked at me. It was honestly so touching. 

He was also asked about what he thought of Mon El’s backstory, and he pretended his mic had cut off LMAO. You could tell he was ready to pop off about slavery, but he wanted to keep things light and positive, which was exactly what people needed, to be honest.

Mehcad Brooks, everyone.

My dear trans boys, 

You’re allowed to be “stereotypically male”. 

You’re allowed to have interests or hobbies that are considered stereotypically male. 

You’re allowed to dress or present yourself in a way that is considered stereotypically male.

You’re not “overdoing it”. You’re not “reinforcing outdated gender roles”. It’s not necessarily “toxic masculinity”. 

You don’t need to be proof that trans boys can be soft or pink or cute. Your life is not a political essay on social gender roles. It’s about what makes you feel happy and comfortable with yourself - and if that’s things that are “stereotypical”, then nobody gets to judge you for that. 

That applies no matter if you’ve identified as a trans man for years or are only just starting to discover your gender identity (or starting to question if you might be a trans boy!). 

 With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom 

things u don't need to be non binary or genderfluid

- an androgynous face

- flat chest

- a neutrally pitched voice

- white. your skin colour, your heritage, your culture, they are parts of u to be as proud of as your gender identity, and though you may not see yourself represented the way white nb/gf people are - please, please know that it makes you no less valid, no less real.

u just need to know that who u are is real, recognise that ur identity is ur identity, no matter what the outsides say, no matter who tries to dictate to you who u are/what that identity is.

who you are is who you are, and that is completely valid.

Protips

-Dont think too much about your decision
-dont let fear or other people’s actions /judgement around/about you change you.
-hug your friends
-BE SELFISH IF YOU NEED TO BE SELFISH
-BE KIND IF YOU WANT TO BE KIND
-pet every living thing except humans (with some exceptions).
-Do the things that make you happy.
-Try to find beauty around you.
- don’t be too hard on yourself.
- Appreciate every little achievement you make.
-get a little close to your family, try to get to know them.
-Get away from your family if they are not good for you. Just good vibes.
-cry every time you need to cry
-you are enough, embrace yourself.
-eat ice cream every time you want to eat ice cream.
-go to downtown and just get lost walking around.
-Pet All Dogs you see .
-take your pet to an adventure(If you don’t have a pet take your friend pet to an adventure)
-go on a date with yourself. DO SOMETHING NICE FOR YOURSELF.
-hug your friends.
-take all the “me time” you need.
-hold hands with your friends no matter what.
-Really.hold.hands.with.your.friends.
-Get dressed in fancy clothes with your friends and take a nice photo
-hug your friends just bc you can.
-smile .
- don’t be Alone when you can be with someone who loves you.
-go outside
-go inside
-go to big adventures
-go to small adventures
-dye your hair
-love yourself
-eat
-cosplay your favorite gay character
-cosplay your favorite straight character
-cosplay something of any gender/orientation
- bake some cookies
-bake some blue cookies
-run as fast as you can
-scream as loud as you can
-go to concerts from your favorite bands
-get to college and study something you love
-learn a different lenguage.
-Become a volunteer.
-Go to the supermarket with your friends just to hang out.
-Watch a romantic movie with your pet.
-read.
-read more.
-dont be afraid of being different.
- don’t be a jerk to people who look “normal”.
- don’t be a jerk.
- help someone.
-help someone, again and again but not bc I’m telling you bc u want!
- GO TO A WAFFLE’S FANCY RESTAURANT.