shipping frerard and respecting the guys' marriages isn't necessarily exclusive tho like ppl can do both
Ok let’s define this ‘ship’ meaning because apparently there are different versions. (I’m talking in general, not just to you anon)
Personally I think that ‘shipping’ means that you want the two people to be together, right now in the present, no matter the circumstances. Like, Frank and Gerard are in a secret relationship or that they love each other more than they love their wives. You can already see how much this is fucked up. If you can’t see it i’m just gonna remind you that they both have children and have been married for 10 years.
Another meaning could be that you think that these two people look(ed) good together. In this case i can tell you, yes, i agree, they looked very good together, but that’s it. You can think that they had a relationship. HAD. that’s where i can agree. The thing becomes disrespectful when you assume they were and don’t wanna hear about the opposite side. And this side involves both Gerard and Frank too, because if they never clearly stated that they were boyfriends it means that they want to keep it private. This is really important. You can’t expect someone to tell you everything about their lives, no matter how public they already are. If someone wants to keep a part of THEIR lives private the only reasonable thing to do is shut up and keep going with YOUR life. They don’t owe you shit. You’re just a fan and you should only be interested in their music and the small things they might share because they actually want to.
Both Frank and Gerard have shared SO much of their lives. We should be fucking grateful. Certainly continuously harassing them about something so personal as an old relationship is not the right way to repay them for everything they’ve done for us.
All I’m trying to say is that I find it sad that so many people prefer to believe in a relationship that probably didn’t even happen and actually telling the boys about it by writing ‘frerard’ even under posts of their children, instead of appreciating how healthy and amazing their marriages are.
I hope i was clear enough, i mean, if you ship frerard you’re not respecting the guys’ marriages because you’re actually still thinking that they would have a good relationship with someone who is not their wife.