no matter how entitled you think you are

I don’t think you understand how hard it must be for Taylor to defend herself, because no matter what she says, there will always be someone who twists it into something bad. Some of you treat her like she’s some invincible human who has no feelings. Some of you constantly pick out everything you dislike about what she does, says, or wears and post it on a social media platform where she could potentially see it. Some of you defend the harsh things you say about Taylor with the statement “I’m entitled to my own opinion,” but that doesn’t make it acceptable to tear someone down. You argue that the media is constantly making Taylor look bad, but some of you do the same thing. Some of you are constantly contradicting yourselves by pushing Taylor to speak up, but once she does, you shut her down. Just because you don’t see things the same way as Taylor does, does not mean her way of seeing things is wrong. She’s human too, she has feelings too. So please can you all just give the girl a break? She doesn’t need to see so much hate directed towards her from the people she loves the most.

i am so baffled by this story about louis ignoring those girls outside his hotel last night and how we’re supposed to think less of him when these girls were literally standing outside his hotel in the middle of the god damn night waiting for him to come back? what was he supposed to do? congratulate them for waiting for him so long? give them hugs and thank them for being the only ones to still stand there when he obviously just wants to get back to his room? and how they’re saying they’re from spain…it doesn’t matter where you’re from, you’re still standing outside his hotel in the middle of the night? i don’t understand this sense of entitlement like…would it suck to have him ignore you, yeah, BUT why would you fucking think standing outside his hotel IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT was a good time to try to meet him like…fuck off, he doesn’t owe you shit.

I…. get really annoyed when I see people talking about how the writers of the show aren’t giving the OQ fandom “any of the things we asked for.”

The TV industry isn’t tumblr, they don’t take requests. They’re not here to write for you, they’re here to tell a story. You like it, or you don’t, but they don’t owe us any particular scene or storyline, no matter how loudly we demand it on social media.

They have not failed to deliver on our list of demands; we don’t have a right to make those demands. We can say “I’d love it if…” but they are in no way obligated to give us those things we love. And I mean, thank God, because it’s not as if the ship all wants the same things anyway. 

We are not entitled to anything as shippers, and thinking that we are does us no favors and only opens the door to bitterness and disappointment. As evidenced by the rash of comments I’ve seen across twitter and tumblr over the last few days about how the show has given away everything we asked for. 

They’re telling their story. Not ours. Theirs.

If you think you’ve been betrayed, it’s not the showrunners who have betrayed you – they never promised you any of the things you asked for. Fandom did. But fandom isn’t in the writers room. They didn’t give away the OQ baby, she didn’t exist outside of fandom. They’re not adamantly refusing to give us a conversation about The Baby Situation – it clearly happened offscreen sometime during Mother, because they went from the despair in the bar to “this is what your visitation is going to look like” and “We’ll get through this together” in the space of an episode (with a very lengthy offscreen car ride in the middle - I don’t think they spent it in stony silence or playing I Spy). The writers didn’t do any of this to us, they just chose not to include that in their story.

And that’s their right. It’s their show. 

TV is not an “ask and ye shall receive” medium.

We are not owed anything. 

PSA on RPing

When it comes to mun’s and their OC’s, the mun’s are the only people that get to choose who they want to RP with. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known them, how much you’ve interacted with them, how much you love their character(s) or whatever makes you think you’re entitled to their OC. If the mun wants to do something creative with their character, they’ll pick when, where and with whom they choose to RP with. Below is a list of things that are unacceptable, in my eyes anyway, and what I would label as a bad RP partner. Some of these things I think most of you should watch out for when picking a partner to RP with.

Things that are NOT okay:

- Being possessive/jealous of mun’s friends
- Being possessive/jealous of OC’s
- Being jealous of someone’s RP and going out of your way to make those individuals feel bad for having fun
- Thinking you’re entitled to a character for such-n-such reasons when you are in fact, not
- Trying to force the mun to change their character based on something you like/want
- Anyone that says they’re just “overly protective” as a way of downplaying their jealous attitude (They’re fictional characters…stop.)
- Making aggressive posts attacking mun’s/mun’s friends because they didn’t want to interact with you (honestly if you resort to attacking them this way you can probably imagine why they don’t want to play with you. Most people don’t like interacting with someone who’s going to act that way.)
- Stalking mun’s on social media sites and messaging them the instant they get online (they know what you want, this is not sneaky or clever).

Things that are okay:
- Having fun

If you’re not having fun and RPing is causing you a lot of stress, either find a new partner or reconsider RPing all together. If you exhibit any of the behavior’s in the “not okay” category above, perhaps RPing is just not meant for you. Work on yourself as a person and realize how damaging your behavior is to those around you as well as yourself.

Also, just to clarify, when I say “jealousy”, I’m talking about people who let their insecurities get ahold of them to the point where they fear someone is taking something away from them. In this case, an OC or a friend. You don’t own people or their characters. No one’s taking anything away from you and if you’re someone who can’t realize that, then you need to dig down inside of you and figure out what’s making you be so spiteful to the people you say that you love. Don’t let your behavior destroy perfectly good friendships. Take a step back and ask yourself if you would like to be treated the same way you’re treating them.

The Other 98 Percent’s outrage seems to imply that their stance on corporate taxation is the following:

You’re not allowed to make money OUTSIDE of the United States, KEEP IT outside of the United States, and therefore pay a different country’s tax rate.

Apparently, no matter where you are in the world, progressives think the citizens of the United States are entitled to your money.

They point to the fact that Wal-Mart earned millions of dollars in Luxembourg as “proof” that something sinister is occurring. What’s more relevant is that firms CAN exist outside the United States, and it’s fairly ridiculous to claim wrongdoing on the part of a firm merely because you don’t get to put your greedy hands on a piece of their foreign earnings.  

How ridiculous. Wal-Mart has firms in Luxembourg. Those firms own stores of their own all through out the world. [1] In other words, liberals in the United States are angry that a store in China earns money, is taxed, sends some of the corporate profit back to its parent company in Luxembourg, where it is taxed again, but then doesn’t magically appear in the Treasury of the United States.

Liberals, do you really think you own the entire world?

The fact that antis are now trying to force coping survivors to keep their content private shows that only they are the only ones who matter.

For some reason they think they have some sort of entitlement, and think they can just tell other survivors how to cope.

no-no-no-no not so fast. You are able to prevent yourself from seeing this content. You are able to blacklist such content and don’t give me that “But blacklisting doesn’t always work!!!!” because now that antis have proved they search the ship tags, I am not gonna take that bullshit excuse anymore because it’s clear that a lot of these people don’t even try to block what they hate. 

They avoid anti community criticism like the plague, but not the shit they hate.
We are not going to allow you, to BELIEVE you have power over other survivors just because you don’t want to see their content.  
How about you do something about the blacklisting something, before you start treating other survivors like crap just because you’re the one who’s bothered. 

I am not going to allow people to silence me. lmao fuck that.
Antis can hate the ship all they fucking want. They can whine, cry, about how there are people who aren’t sucking up to them. 
Really they can do that while just leaving people at their own business. They can throw a tantrum, and whatever, while keeping other people who don’t want to be involved out of it nor forcing their trauma upon those people.

No one is responsible for your trauma/mental health but you. If there are people willing to support you like friends, then okay, that’s different.

But you have no right to force your goddamn trauma on people, or guilt trip them for it. If they want nothing to do with you, then they want nothing to do with you. Especially if they are just some other user online YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW. 

But you also have NO RIGHT, to tell people how they should cope. If you hate it whatever, your own problem. 
There are extensions you can get and if you really don’t want to see it on mobile, then just BUY the fucking app and get it over with. 

Women don’t even realize how controlling they are of men. They don’t even realize that they’re talking over you or cutting you off bc they’re so used to the authority they have over you. They casually, nonchalantly order you to do things and it’s just innocent nobility because they think as a woman the right thing to do is to “take charge of the situation.” Unconsciously they don’t even realize that that means, the woman knows better. They beg you because they’re used to getting what they want. They don’t realize it’s a sense of entitlement they really feel. An unconscious female will always be sexist because she has not yet questioned the natural, assumed authority she’s been given. She will always look down upon men no matter how much she thinks she praises them. Because once she really questions it, she questions everything.

Possessiveness: your partner is not an object

Your boyfriend, girlfriend or partner married or not is NOT yours.

Humans have had the conspicuous habit of trying to own everything; from lands, animals and people. The expression: ‘I’m off the market’? Pet peeve. I mean are you’re objectifying YOURSELF.

Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean your partner is YOURS. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together, it doesn’t matter how much you love each other, it doesn’t matter how great your relationship is. You are in a relationship with a human not an object.

This human regardless of what you may think, has thoughts, abilities, desires, needs and feelings. Many or even most of which you don’t even know about. They have the ability to make decisions without you and act upon them without you.

What does this mean? It means while you may be in an exclusive relationship with rules and expectations, that other person may withdraw from the relationship whenever necessary. They are not obliged to stay with you forever and you are not entitled to make them stay where they don’t want to be. You are also not entitled to tell your partner they may not go certain places, be with certain people or do certain things.

Being in a relationship is a CHOICE.

Many people ask me how I’m so cool, calm
and collected knowing they my boyfriend is a musician and often goes out partying,clubbing, bars and has attractive friends. Well while I’m not setting my situation to be the pinnacle of healthy relationships, we do follow through basic principles that have made our relationship last.

My friends are shocked to find out I do not care what he does, who he’s with and what time he comes back. Just as he choose to be in a relationship with me he is able to take the choice of leaving me, cheating or loving someone else. I will not stop him. It is not my place. It is not my decision. I do not own him. He is a free agent, allowed to do as he pleases as long as he respects me. I know he will not disappoint and if he ever does I won’t hesitate to let him do whatever makes him happy. I also have the ability to make the call of forgiving it moving on. How is this possible, my friends ask. While this may sound detached, it’s not it’s reasonable and allowing healthy habits to flourish. Your relationship must consist of trust. It’s the fundamental piece of the whole wall. Trusting your partner will allow you both to have space and peace of mind.

Why should you consistently call your boyfriend when you know it’s boys night out?Why should you not allow your girlfriend to have guy friends? Why should I be worried that my partner is a musician? Why does your partner have to call you every night? Or check in? Or have to ask or tell you where they are going?Why should you question who’s pictures they like on Facebook, fight over their affection, argue with another person over their crush on your partner?

Doing the above makes your partner bored, exhausted and feel trapped.

As they say you must love in a way your partner feels free.

What the fuck is going on?

Elliot Rodger makes me scared for every woman I love. Guys, we really need to wake the fuck up and realize that we’re not entitled to anything from anyone just for being what you consider nice. 

If you meet a woman on the street and have a nice conversation you’re not entitled to anything.

If you take a woman out to dinner and they really like you, you’re still not entitled to anything.

If you go down on a girl and give her the time of her life, you’re still not fucking entitled to anything.

Get it through your fucking heads, yes means yes and no means no. 

Nobody owes you fucking anything no matter how fucking incredible you think you might be.

I am angry and I am scared that women and girls are being murdered by men who feel they’re entitled to something, who feel these women owe them.

Feminist the fuck up men, because this is fucking bullshit and it needs to end.

I was watching that video of Elliot Rodger and obviously it’s disturbing how entitled the kid is but what shocked me is how poorly he is able to think through his feelings of frustration and anger. I mean you can say he’s crazy and I wouldn’t disagree but the way that craziness manifests itself is through this unbelievably clumsy thinking. He is claiming that everyone having sex but him is unfair. He talks about fairness! The basis of his anger is obviously this insane sense of entitlement and frustration, but when he expresses his thoughts on his situation, he actually keeps relying on the notion of fairness. Think how poor your thinking skills are if your justification for killing random people is you’re angry about unfairness.

No matter how lonely and frustrated you are, it seems like you would have to at least suspect that you yourself were to blame for the situation. When I get lonely I feel bad about myself not angry at everyone else for making me “rot in loneliness” to use this guy’s words. It’s not that weird to me that this guy protects his ego by blaming everyone else for how he feels but it is really shocking to me how unconvincing his arguments for blaming everyone else actually are.

We expect evil to seem alien, remote, cold. This guy is obvious, sad, and shockingly familiar. He’s a common type but an especially poorly built one.

It’s not that he doesn’t understand morality or doesn’t have love in his heart, he does. But he feels shitty and has no social skills to change his situation, no ability to assess and respond to his own emotions, and no ability to question his own thoughts. Insanity in this case doesn’t involve wild and crazy visions and beliefs, just simple, obviously flimsy arguments about why this guy feels the way he does. What’s missing is basic common sense. Just the smallest amount would have made so much difference. But I guess that’s what crazy is like sometimes? Surprisingly boring and despite its large consequences, somehow surprisingly small.

This guy’s fake laugh too. Goodness. What a disconnect exists between how he imagines he will be seen and how he actually looks to the world. And you can just hear that disconnect in the guy’s horrible fake laugh.

My last thing about watching this 7 minute video is kind of horrible to admit. Like 5 minutes into the video, I’d been listening to this guy and been horrified and disturbed and was sort of numb to it at that point and then the kids is talking about how much he hates everyone and he says “I HATE YOU, SEXUALLY ACTIVE MEN!” and I laughed. I laughed out loud watching this killer’s manifesto. Man, maybe that makes me a bad person but there is an absurdity in this guy that he is so oblivious to. He is angry at all sexually active men. I mean, Jesus. I laughed. I couldn’t help it.

Don’t fucking coddle people if they’re being an ass.

I don’t care how oppressed someone is, you don’t fucking excuse them telling people to “kill themselves” or calling others “scum” or just being a dickhead to anyone no matter what.

1) you are enabling them
2) there’s not excuse for being an asshole, don’t let them think there is.

I constantly see where someone from a marginalized group will attack others for absolutely 0 reasons and everyone’s like “no they are from x group they have angry let them take it out on this person people are ragdolls they can take it uwu”
like. no.
Don’t pull that shit, dude.

it isn’t how the world fucking works. 
people aren’t punching bags, go get some coping skills you absolutely entitled jerkbags.

@ tucutes & anti-"truscum":

you are entitled to your opinions, but so are we. making posts like “truscum have no say in trans matters!!”, or publicly freaking out (ie, posting on tumblr) if/when you find out someone you know is a transmedicalist, etc. is really hurtful & creates an unsafe space for trans people with differing opinions (even people who aren’t necessarily “truscum”). it discourages independent thought and, quite frankly, is immature. before you make that post like “ugh I found out I followed a tru/s//cu/m, how gross”, think through the kind of message you’re sending to your followers. that’s all.

anonymous asked:

If you were to write an article entitled "How To Become a Tolkien Nerd", what main topics and pointers would you give?

Hey anon, that’s a very interesting question.

Well first I’d tell you we have to consider two kinds of public: the one who likes reading and the one who doesn’t.

Let’s start with the one who likes reading:

Read the books. You can start with The Hobbit, The Lord of the Rings or The Silmarillion, it doesn’t matter. Do not start with Unfinished Tales, you’ll get confused. 

I think if you do that the nerdiness will come to you naturally.

Let’s take my example. When I read The Lord of the Rings I was constantly worried that the book would end too soon. I didn’t want it to end. At the end of The Two Towers I literally closed the book because I didn’t want the book to end (of course I just kept it closed for 2 minutes). It was the best book ever and as soon as it ended I’d be lost. And when I first put my hands on The Lord I had no access to internet, I didn’t know about The Hobbit or The Silmarillion or anything. Of course as soon as I started reading The Lord I found out there was another book related, The Hobbit. That was better. Then, here in Brazil, they published a magazine called “The Fantastic World of J. R. R. Tolkien” and there I first read about Melkor and the First Age and that there was a book about all that and I was

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It was one of the happiest days of my life. I mean it. And then when I went to buy The Hobbit they didn’t have it but they had Unfinished Tales and The Silmarillion. For some unknown reason I decided to read UT first… bad bad bad decision but oh boy I’d do it again because that made all the difference for my perception of The Silmarillion. I read The Hobbit after all that. All that in two months while re-reading The Lord all the time.

My point here, anon, is that as soon as you put your hands on a Tolkien, you’re doomed in the best way possible. It doesn’t matter which one. I suggest The Lord first because there you’ll have your interest awaken and you’ll want to know more about the elves and also the hobbits and the dwarves and Sauron and Eärendil and Beren and Luthien and then you know you can learn about all that and more with other books so BAM! before you know it you are among the twelve books of HoME crying because there isn’t another 12 books with more information about Middle-earth. You’ll be calling everything precious and calling your dog Glaurung, going to Oxford to visit Tolkien’s grave, giving up your space engineering dream to go study literature just because of Tolkien and you’ll love everything he writes even if it’s not about Middle-earth and you’ll spend every single penny you have on books and movies and tiny figures of characters and oh well… as I said, you’re doomed.

How to become a Tolkien nerd, you ask? Just read one of his books.

Oh but I don’t like reading Mirane, then I’ll never be a Tolkien nerd?

Well no you still can be a Tolkien nerd without reading it (I am not familiar with the concept of not liking reading but I know people are different and that is a thing in the world).

Watch the movies. If you like it and talk about it with other people you’ll probably hear from someone “oh there are so much more about those stories” and then they will tell you some and you’ll get really interested (for sure!) and maybe you’ll even consider reading and maybe you’ll read it and like the thing and before you know… doomed.

Maybe you don’t have what it takes to read a whole 1200 pages book but you are okay with short articles on the internet so you go to Tolkien Gateway or any other Tolkien sites and read more about Elrond and find out about his father and the Silmarils and Fëanor and the Valar and BAM! doomed.

And of course there are the audio books if you absolutely can’t or don’t want to read at all.

It does not matter how you put your feet on Middle-earth but as soon as you do, you’re a Tolkien nerd, my friend.

Sure, you can come to Middle-earth by the back door, maybe reading a linguistic essay by Tolkien and hearing he also wrote fiction. Or maybe you bought that nice looking book for your children called Mr. Bliss or Roverandom and then noticed that this fella Tolkien is a very good writer and you want to read more things he wrote. Maybe you read his literary essays and saw that he was a person who knew what he was talking about and you wanted to read his fictional stories. But the thing is, when a deep, beautiful soul like Tolkien touches your heart through his words you will never not be a Tolkien nerd again.

I am sorry if this is too long and confusing and it doesn’t answer your question but I honestly believe that all it takes to become a Tolkien nerd is to meet Tolkien. And he is in everything he ever wrote.

anonymous asked:

Saw your posts in Seb's tags. This is going to shock you but Seb is a human being. Humans sometimes react without checking with their PR person. You don't understand why he did it now? Maybe that's because you have no idea what's going on in his life. He hurt the fans' feelings? Fans obviously hurt his feelings. But that doesn't matter, right? It's not like he's a real person, is it? You are clearly the type of fan whose sense of entitlement causes drama like this. Get over yourself.

You know, it continues to baffle me how needlessly petty and hateful people can be, that they feel the need to be so insensitive and aggressive when you see an opinion you don’t agree with. You’d at least think that when people are going to come bash you with their opinion they’d at least be bright enough to quote you properly. Or, I don’t know, do it off anonymous at least. Oh well. C'est la vie.

Ok honey here we go-
I said nothing about PR. I said, in fact, I understood seb’s frame of mind and why he did it. I have not idolised him or placed him on a pedestal, sent his girlfriend hate, felt like I was “entitled” to details about his life or instigated drama, so you’re kinda reaching here bby.
I stated how much of a fan I am, and how much I understood where he was coming from, but disagreed with his methods of communication, which seemed uncalled for, PR team or not. (Why couldn’t he just post that himself? Still gets the message across, and isn’t confrontational or targeting anyone in particular! What a thought!)

Margarita was being targeted months ago and the hate has since died down, and he was absolutely silent, which sometimes celebrities have to be due to said PR teams or not wanting to add fuel to the fire. But now, he chooses to absolutely gO OFF at a fan who merely reposted an article, with captions of support, that SOMEONE ELSE WROTE. Margarita getting hate is unacceptable, and the fans that do that are just kind of sad and pathetic. But a gossip article about your relationship status with another famous person is sort of how this whole Hollywood thing has worked for like the whole 21st century. Every famous person gets gossiped about like that in the tabloids. Justin is cheating on Selena, Kim and Kanye getting a divorce, Brad having an affair with Jennifer Aniston this whole time, Lady Gaga actually a man, blah blah blah. It’s everywhere. Is it ok? No. But it comes with the territory. And while I would’ve been totally on board with him standing up for Margarita when she was getting hate (because that’s personal and confrontational and ridiculous and he would be confronting people who are actually in the wrong), that’s not what he did. He wrote an angry message on a fans account, a fan who was merely tweeting words of support in response to, yet again, someone else’s article. That would be like me yelling at a newsstand guy for selling magazines with gossip. Sebastian’s gripe is with the journalist who wrote the article, or with a group of people in the Standom who could easily have been schooled in an indirect post. His problem isn’t with some teenager on Instagram who was just??? Being a supportive fan??? So forgive me, dear anon, if I think that it was uncalled for.

I hate drama. I don’t feel “entitled” to anything about sebs personal life. I just think he’s funny and acts good and is real sweet with his fans. I love his stupid face, but I can recognise that he’s a grown ass man, and he could’ve handled this better. I am a fan. I’m still a fan. And I hope that poor girl who posted the photo is ok.