Okay, I'm not a anti, more like neutral? I don't know, but Mon-El is slowly growing on me... Some people said he looked surprised with the slapping and that implied that meant he wasn't abused. But first of all thats bad to say and second, he wasn't surprise. So what are your thoughts about it? And his jokes... They kind of piss me off so I was wondering you could shed some light about it. I really want to understand... And what you think about Rhea and Lena?
Oh hi babe, how are you?
So, this response might be long but maybe it will help you understand him a little bit. I’m not trying to change your mind about the character because you’re entitled to your opinion, but since you asked I’m going to answer truthfully.
1) He didn’t looked surprise
I saw what you are talking about it and I know someone who was triggered by that ridiculous assumption. For someone who’s under that situation, there are a lot of factors that change the response about it. He was talking about setting his people free, about the changes he wanted to make and she greets him with a slap in the face. He wasn’t expecting that. There’s not a manual book in which we categorize what the reaction to abuse is. There’s something called individuality that plays a huge game in it. If you say someone should be surprise to be abuse… Well… You are lessening the issue.
But the truth is. He didn’t even flinched. He didn’t fought back, reacted, he didn’t looked surprise at all. In psychology we call that conditioning. Is like a little mouse… He does what you want him to and get’s rewarded with water, he doesn’t, he get’s punished with the lack of water. This is how behavior works and why is to easy to apply. Behavior can be molded, altered depending on the environment needs. This comes from how much you were put under certain reinforcements/punishments. The more you reinforce someone’s behavior, the better are the chances of the person doing as you wish.
This is what Rhea probably did with him, which explains why he didn’t flinch. He was conditioned already. Do the math and it adds up. This is one of the main reasons both women and men stay in abusive relationships, because their self steam is lessened and because they are conditioned to believe that is normal/understandable.
People say there’s no actual evidence of abuse. But the scene of the dangling magnet. I don’t know if you paid attention, but if you haven’t, that wasn’t the story of a loving mother, it was the story of a mother that would neglect her son left and right. He had no one, his father was too self-centered, his mother is the embodiment of one of the Melanie’s Klein’s categorizations of parenting (and not a good one). He didn’t had a brother, sister, family, no one to look up too. And in all honesty, Mon-El could have reached a psychosis state considering Lacan, Melanie Klein and Bills thoughts about this in particular.
This is in particular something interesting. As you may be aware we all have mechanisms of defense that our ego uses to stay stable. There are the phobic ones - such as regression, projection, and others that I can’t translate to English without losing the essence and meaning -. And there are the formatives - such as sublimation, integration and other ones.
Consider a barrier between ego and id (primal force, life drive). The id wants intense and complete pleasure (nirvana), the ego can’t allow that so that’s why said barrier is that, to prevent the life drive to go out all at once since that one can be very… Destructive. But, sometimes this barrier isn’t strong enough and things go out in form of dreams, chistes and Freudian’s slip (ato falho). Mon-El fits in the second category. He’s the kind of person that needs to build up his defenses so he uses jokes to do so.
Haven’t you met someone that always seem to be so effusive and happy? That one person who’s always joking around and playing? This is that person’s persona acting. This what he does, he deflects from what causes him harm in a attempt to light up the mood but ends up ruining everything. People with social anxiety tend to do that or just block themselves out. And he doesn’t have the first notion of filters, he’s honesty on what he says. (More like a child who’s persona is still building itself), but he also hides with one. The jokes are a way to devoid people outside from seeing hurt and pain, I know because I do it all the time.
3) Rhea and Lena
I think the authors are pushing Lena way to much. Is like they want to force her until she breaks. And she will if things carry on this way. I’m not saying that in a cryptic way I’m saying because there’s only much one can take.
She lost the man she used to love, her friend isn’t who she think she is, Rhea is manipulating her, Lex is locked away. How much can they put on her shoulders without her giving in? Hell, even Barry did!
Is like Bruce would say, either you die a hero or live long enough to see yourself becoming a villain.
She will feel betrayed once again. First by her mother, second by Rhea and by Kara, who is indeed keeping a huge secret from her. Lena has been in a breaking point, if they keep pushing she will break. Everyone does eventually, doesn’t matter how good you convice yourself from being, you will give in sooner or later.
So this might end up as a disaster, really. It has ever chance to be that way and I’ll honestly not be anyway please with it.