no gender binary

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How To Tell Your Parents That Gender Pronouns Matter
The fact that my progressive parents struggle to integrate nonbinary pronouns into their lexicon is a stark reminder of how much work we need to do.

“So when you learn what pronouns a person uses, please use them. Please don’t question the validity of their pronouns. Please don’t ask them to make your life easier by choosing a different pronoun. If someone like R. was assigned female at birth but doesn’t use the pronouns she/her/hers, please don’t casually lump their identity with mine and refer to us together as “girls.”

Making the small mental shift to use pronouns outside of what we’ve been conditioned to use is a tiny effort on our part relative to the enormous power those words have to make a person feel accepted and affirmed. And at our cores, we need to feel accepted by the people who are closest to us before we can be our best selves and productive members of society.

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anonymous asked:

First of all, I love the recipes you post, (especially the roundups!!) and your blog is amazing. :) I just have one question about something that caught my eye..I noticed that you use non-gendered pronouns when you're talking about animals, such as your cat, and I am curious about why. Of course I am aware that they/them is commonly used for people who wish not to be gendered, but I have never considered the idea of using they/them for companion animals. I'd like to know more about this!

Hi! Thank you! I’m glad you love the blog! I reference non-human animals as they/ them because people use she/ he to reference them based on the non-human animal’s genitalia which reinforces the idea that genitalia equates to gender, which is transphobic/ transmisogynist/ cissexist. I know it comes as a shock to some people but animals don’t have a gender! They just want food and treats and snuggles (sometimes) and they don’t care about the binary. Let’s all kill gender together. xox -thy orion

passive aggressive reminder that more than two genders and transgender people have existed for millennia

reminder that colonialism forced native societies to revert back to their gender assigned at birth or be killed

reminder that there has been Mahu in Hawai’i until it was forcefully taken and colonized by white america

reminder that there were Hijra in South Asia until britain colonized it and forced every Hijra person into concentration camps the same time the german holocaust was happening

reminder that We’Wha was lhamana who served as an Ambassador to the Zuni people in 1886 to Grover Cleveland and was arrested for witch craft

reminder that in ancient Egypt there were people who were transgender and Egyptologists say that it was just people who were “buried wrong”

reminder that there are thousands of societies and cultures lost because of white colonization and we will never hear their stories

reminder that when this isnt taught in school it erases the history of people of color and queer people 

Repeat after me

Everyone deserves to have their name and pronouns respected.

Everyone deserves to have their name and pronouns respected.

Everyone deserves to have their name and pronouns respected.

how to look like a nonbinary person

1. be nonbinary

2. wear what you like

congratulations! you now look nonbinary, because you are nonbinary! heres a lady bug to brighten up your day 🐞

“if you didn’t discover that label/tumblr/the internet, then you wouldn’t have identified with that bullshit gender.”

no, i wouldn’t have. i would have gone through life thinking something was wrong with me and every time someone uses the wrong pronouns/name, i would have felt like throwing up.

but i did discover that label/tumblr/the internet, and i realised that i wasn’t the only person who felt like this, and that made me feel supported and safe and happy in my own skin.

so kindly fuck off.