ME AND @redclassiclook JUST MET EACH OTHER THROUGH YOU. WE ARE BOTH FROM ST LOUIS, BOTH HAVE BLOND HAIR, BOTH HAVE GREEN EYES (ONLY 2% OF THE WORLD HAS GREEN EYES) BOTH HAVE NAMES THAT START WITH ‘M’ AND BOTH HAVE HAD BLACK AND WHITE CATS, BOTH HAVE BEEN TO THE SAME COLLEGE, BOTH WORK AT A TYPE OF DAYCARE AND WE ARE JUST NOW MEETING WTF????!!!!!
M-spec people can refer to themselves as gay if they want to. Whether it feels more comfortable for them or it’s more convenient than having to explain a more complex identity, whatever reason it is they are allowed. It is not appropriation, it is not them stealing gay/lesbian culture, it is them making use of a term that gets used as an umbrella term including them anyway.
M-spec people are also allowed to not want to refer to themselves as or be called gay. They are allowed to be uncomfortable with how gay is used as an umbrella term for so much in the community. And they (and anyone else who gets put under that umbrella) are allowed to talk about erasure of their identity without people going “well actually you’re being erased by people in your community calling themselves gay so don’t you dare complain about a lack of visibility when this is clearly your fault”