is messy, and develops over time, and rooted in friendship, first and foremost. It’s a much more grown-up way of looking at a relationship, and it’s a relationship that we often don’t explore in these kinds of shows, and that’s part of the fun of it for us: getting to see as these characters get older, can they establish true, intimate and connected relationships with each other? DE fans said that The young love at first sight = stelena. Powerful Passionate = delena. Real life love = steroline
But where is this true, intimate and connected relationship, though? WHERE IS IT? I’m genuinely asking.
First of all, what DErs and SCers refuse and I mean this, they refuse to understand, Stefan and Elena evolve past love at first sight. Their relationship doesn’t stay as young love, their relationship wasn’t even young love to begin with, their relationship started very intimate and very profound and it actually just gets more profound with each season, hell with each episode. They continuously shift and figure out more aspects about one another.
Damon and Elena cannot have an actual conversation that goes somewhere because they are so scared by honesty
Damon continuously lies to her:
(this is when he still doesn’t tell her about the cure)
Elena doesn’t talk to Damon about her problems, she talks to Stefan and then Stefan tells her to talk to Damon:
Damon doesn’t talk to Elena about his problems, he talks to Bonnie:
Damon and Elena only really talk about having lots of sex:
and then they have lots of sex
but that’s not powerful and passionate love. Powerful and passionate love is being able to fight compulsion for each other:
loving and trusting each other so intrinsically that the other person can lead you out of your darkness:
like the SE love was that“our love can move mountains” kind of love, it did the impossible and as a really great bonus, they had really great sex:
Caroline and Stefan are never on the same page. Ever. In build-up, in the will-they-won’t-they, that worked, in an actual relationship it is a fundamental issue that they’re never truly communicating until it’s too late.
In season 7, Stefan deluded himself into thinking that Caroline wouldn’t want to be a part of the twins’ lives and Caroline didn’t want to tell Stefan that she actually wanted to be. Klaus and Damon had to tell Stefan he was being stupid. Stefan had to ask Lily for advice on how to handle the situation. In season 6 when he didn’t know what he was feeling, that’s fine, but when you’re in a relationship, you should know how to communicate with your girlfriend. Caroline relied on Alaric and Stefan relied on Valerie and then when Stefan left, Caroline got engaged and that didn’t need to happen. It’s the 21st Century, she did not need to get engaged to the father of her children, their situation is bizarre anyway, they have gemini twins who were sent to Caroline’s womb without her consent, she is a vampire, Alaric was a hunter turned original vampire turned human adventurer for the supernatural, so it’s not like they’re a conventional, traditionalist family.
And then in season 8, Caroline has to tell Stefan to rely on her when it comes to Damon, we never evolve past this point of Caroline telling Stefan to open himself up
and then Caroline suspends their engagement while she looks for her kids. She doesn’t feel like she can rely on him and be a team with him when it comes to her children because their priorities are different and these are important priorities, which carries from season 7.
They’re never really a family.
There’s Stefan’s life and Caroline’s life running parallel to each other but never connecting, not really.
Then when Stefan sells his soul for her children, she does the bare minimum to get him back. That isn’t an adult relationship, they don’t know how to work together, they don’t know how to be together, everything is a miscommunication, everything is an argument, they’re continuously trying to teach each other how to love one another
and it never sticks for more than a moment and that moment is usually in the morning before life actually begins and that isn’t a problem with Stelena:
AU - Last Tango in Holby City - Continued Everyone has gotten over their
sapphic angst -everyone except Kate, she was fine from the start. Now, after
finally finding a gap in all the schedules, a double-date has been planned. The
double-date was obviously Kate’s idea, but Bernie was secretly very involved as
well- not that she’d every admit that to Serena. During the planning of the
infamous double-date, Bernie has been going on about how nice it would be to
have a week-end of together with Serena, as they’re always busy. Kate, with the
assistance of Caroline, has planned a week-end for them as an anniversary gift
-allowing Caroline to find out what Kate would like. Serena tries saving her
blushes by complaining about how she was planning to relax in the bath all
week-end and “guzzle Shiraz until I can’t find the bottle anymore” ; not that anyone is falling for it. Caroline even
threatens to buy up all the Shiraz in town if she refuses, which Kate thinks is
a marvellous idea and gives Bernie a good giggle. They end up discussing their
respective ex-husbands. John is a major source of entertainment of course, with
Bernie threatening to set Serena on her husband being a close second. Caroline
dryly comments that Marcus had much more success setting Serena on Bernie, as
Bernie turns bright red Kate adds “not so macho now”.
Thoughts Going Through My Head During Crooked Kingdom
PART ONE: FORSAKEN
1. Wylan you are a part of the crew, get your shit together! 2. Yo I forgot Wylan looked like Kuwei 3. Wylan coming to Jesper’s defense <3 4. WYLAN THINKING ABOUT JESPER YASSSS WESPER ALL THE WAY 5. KAZ! FINALLY! 6. Damn what is he gonna do to that girl? Oh at least he didn’t kill her. 7. MATTHIAS! 8. Jesper and Nina flirting their way through town would be something I would pay for 9. They get it: WHY WONT HE JUST ADMIT HE WANTS HER BACK??!?! 10. Oh no Jesper’s dad! They’re gonna use him to hurt Jesper aren’t they? 11. INEJ! OH MY GOSH GUYS IM NOT READY!!! (I had to breathe before this chapter) 12. “She was Inej Ghafa and she would not quiver like a rabbit in a snare” YASS DAMN RIGHT GURL 13. “I may not have Kaz’s devious mind, but I am a dangerous girl.” QUEEN 14. NOT HER LEGS NOT HER LEGS NO NO NO NO NO NO 15. That chapter was so intense…KAZ IS COMING INEJ DONT LOSE HOPE. VAN ECK
PART TWO: A KILLING WIND
16. Jesper introducing wylan to his dad :D 17. OMG THIS FIGHT SCENE! “Do you want to shake hands again?” LOOL 18. Wylan coming to save the day 19. WESPER FLIRTING 20. Nina and Matthias so cute. <3 21. Awwww everyone is protecting Jesper 22. I’m like super worried about Nina rn… 23. HOW DID SHE DO THAT? 24. “Most of your friends wont survive this night” STAHP 25. Did she really doubt KAZ FUCKING BREKKER? 26. Lol at Jesper being so surprised every time wylan says something dark 27. I LOVE IT WHEN KAZ ASKS A QUESTION AND THEN EVERYONE GIVES HILARIOUS ANSWERS 28. Their bantering is BACK and I love it 29. Jesper asking about wylan to alys lol 30. Awww Matthias is actually such a cinnamon roll 31. Yo I can’t stand Nina and Matthias fighting. 32. Shit its all going to hell isn’t it? 33. KAZ’S POV FINALLY - I need to know his thoughts as he’s saving Inej 34. KAZNEJ TEAMWORK MAKES ME SO HAPPY 35. Jesper Fahey - killing me softly with every cute thing he says to Wylan/every time he calls him “merchling” 36. Nina is such a badass I love her
PART THREE: BRICK BY BRICK
37. THE TENSION BETWEEN KAZNEJ IS KILLING ME 38. SQUAD IS BACK TOGETHER I LOVE IT 39. The Wyvil lol 40. OMG HES FLIRTING WITH WYLAN AND WYLANS BLUSHING AND IM DEAD 41. “Do not lick Wyvil. Does someone want to write that down?” 42. Inej and Jesper noticing wylan having a scheming face. I love their friendship 43. OMG INEJ BESTED KAZ FUCKING BREKKER AND HE LOVED IT 44. OMG BE STILL MY HEART: “ I would come for you. And even if I couldn’t walk, I’d crawl to you and no matter how broken we were, we’d fight our way out together-knives drawn, pistols blazing. Because that’s what we do. We never stop fighting” 45. Nina and inej together again! Also WAFFLES 46. Nina and Matthias together <3 47. OMG OMG OMG ZOYA YAAASSSSS I LOVE HER MAN SHES THE BEST 48. Why am I not surprised that Wylan’s dad tried to have him killed? He’s an asshole. 49. OHMYGODHISMOTHERISALIVE?? 50. “Lets go steal all my dad’s money” YAASSS WYLAN YOU DESERVE THIS 51. GENYAS HERE TOO 52. OMG MATTHIAS AND NINA ARE SO FREAKING CUTE! AND HE IS SAYING BEAUTIFUL THINGS TO HER! MAKE OUT! NOW! DO IT! 53. “I think you’d flirt with a date palm if it would pay you any attention” NEW SHIP: NINA AND THE DATE PALM 54. *SQUEALS FOREVER* FINALLY!!!! BENN WAITING FOR THAT KISS FOREVER (imagine what would happen if there was a Wesper kiss or a Kaznej one OMG) 55. Lol Zoya is SO annoyed rn. Genya gets it tho. 56. TAMAR! 57. THEY ARE HAVING A COMPETITION ON THE PRICE ON EACH ONE OF THEIR HEADS. 58. “There are many kinds of sickness” OMG IS JESPERS GAMBLING BECAUSE HE WAS SUPPRESSING HIS GRISHA POWERS?!??! 59. Jespers figuring it out.
PART FOUR: THE UNEXPECTED VISITOR
60. “I’m going to eat twice as much cake” I love Nina 61. “Philosopher crook” I love that 62. “Strontium chloride, my favorite” I think we all know why ;) 63. Who is this bitch messing with Inej?!?!?! 64. OMG Nina can raise the DEAD! I love it! IS THIS WHY THE CARD HAS HER HOLDING A SKULL TOO?!??! 65. THAT LOOK BETWEEN KAZ AND INEJ 66. WYLAN!!!! EVERYONES OKAY! 67. LOL ON INEJ AND NINA CALLING EACH OTHER OUT 68. “Lets not say things we don’t mean” HE KNOWS THAT SHE WOULDNT PICK HIM OVER WAFFLES 69. Oh Shit EVERYONES after them 70. STOP FIGHTING YOU TWO 71. OMG! TWO OF THE MOST BADASS PEOPLE EVER AND THEY ACT LIKE SCOLDED KIDS WHEN JESPERS FARMER DAD YELLS AT THEM 72. LLEWELLYN
PART FIVE: KINGS AND QUEENS
73. OMG I WAS RIGHT ABOUT HIS SICKNESS 74. OHMYFUCKINGGODWHYYYY???? WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT LEIGH????? THATS NOT FUNNY!!!! I WAS ABOUT TO SCREAM CUZ WESPER BUT NO!!!!! 75. AWWWWWW YIIIISSS MAKING PLANS! 76. HE BOUGHT HER OUT OF HER CONTRACT! IM GOING TO CRY 77. THIS SCENE IS SO INTENSE 78. “IF YOU EVER CARED ABOUT ME AT ALL” YO KAZ STAHP SHE LOVES YOU. I’M SO UPSET NOW. 79. OMG YAAAAASSSSS DONT MESS WITH KAZ FUCKING BREKKER BITCHES! KING OF THEIVES, LEADER OF THE DREGS 80. Wesper getting back together :) 81. Aye it’s Genya and Zoya. 82. FOX FACED MAN??!??!?!?!?!? STURMHUND STURMHUND ITS NIKOLAI FUCKING LANTSOV THIS IS NOT A DRILL YAAAAAAASSSSSSSSS 83. “A pirate?” PRIVATEER GET YOUR FACTS STRAIGHT JESPER 84. WYLANS FACE IS BACK 85. WESPER KISS AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH MY BABIES MY LITTLE CINNAMON ROLLS <3 <3 86. “Only a fool would.” I SEE YOU THROWING SHADE NINA 87. Kaz knows about Nikolai and I love it 88. “Let’s go show them they picked the wrong damn fight.” YAAASSSS 89. What are they up to? 90. Is them bursting in the distraction?
PART SIX: ACTION AND ECHO
91. Van Eck is going down! 92. Nina is QUEEN OF MOURNING I LOVE IT 93. Inej finally beat that bitch! Good cuz she was coming after my baby Inej and my baby Nikolai. 94. Jesper can control bullets. THATS SO COOL 95. PEKKA FUCKING ROLLINS BROUGHT TO HIS FUCKING KNEES I LOVE IT 96. INEJ DID YOU REALLY DOUBT KAZ? 97. OHMYGODWASMATTHIASSHOT 98. LIGHTNING YES SCIENCE MOTHERFUCKERS
99. MATTHIAS NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO GOD NO THIS BETTER NOT BE REAL. NOPE I DONT BELIEVE IT NOT LIKE THIS. NO I CANT DAMMIT I FUCKING KNEW THIS WOULD HAPPEN TO HIM TOO
100. Kaz forgiving Jesper is so awesome 101. LOL DONT MESS WITH WYLANS BAE KUWEI 102. Kaz got her a ship and named it The Wraith how perfect 103. HE BROUGHT BACK HER FAMILY 104. ITS OVER? IM DEAD