I'm stuck with a controlling person who uses their disability as an excuse to take stuff out on me. I'm not really sure what to do because I have nowhere else to go and it's not physical because I do my best to prevent it from escalating. I'm a little tired of being called abled when I'm at the mercy of a disabled person. I wish people would just stop making each others lives hell.
I wish that too, anon.
Look, I’m sorry if I’m misunderstanding here, but it seems like you’re angry with us for… Calling abled people abled? And being angry we have to face ableism? I’m really, really sorry you’re in this situation, and I really hope you can get out of it.
But an abled person is abled, and I don’t much like your tone. Abled isn’t an insult, it’s a description. It’s a person without a disability. We’re angry, and this entire blog is the reason why. Disabled people are allowed to be angry. Please don’t invalidate our anger. Nobody here is personally attacking you, last I checked. “Abled people suck” isn’t necessarily aimed at one person, it’s very, very similar to “People suck”, just a little more directed. Abled people are a privileged group, and we’re allowed to be angry.
Let me reiterate, I really, really am sorry they treat you like this, and I really want you to be able to get out. We never said disabled people can’t abuse abled people, of course they can.
I don’t really know anything about your situation, so I don’t know what I can suggest to help you. I hope it’s not out of line to direct you to all-about-abuse, who will definitely be more helpful than me here.