I want to share this badass new app with you guys. It’s called Mush and it’s totally free for Android and iPhone. So, it’s basically like Tinder for moms who want to find other mom friends to hang out with. It’s got some really cool features and your information like your name, email address, and location are totally customizable if you want more privacy. You create your profile that tells people what kind of activities you and your kids like to do, a little about yourself, how old and how many kids you have, and your city and it lets you search for matches based on any of those criteria. My tags are lgbt mom, outdoors, gardening, arts and crafts, animal lover, yoga machine, blogger, and bookworm. They have tags for adoptive parents, special needs children, preemie parents, single parents, step parents, and multiples. It also has a setting that tells others whether you’re available to hang out or not. I think it’s a really neat app since I’m a young mom and most of my friends don’t have kids and I have no idea how else to meet new people. You can arrange meet ups or play dates for your kids based on your area and what kind for activity you want to do. The Mush “Hub” is like a giant message board where people make posts about basically anything and anyone on the app can read it and respond. There are three parts of it, All (includes updates from the app and posts from all over), Local Chat (which are local posts), and My Activity (which keeps track of all your posts and responses). It’s a pretty new app and from their app description it seems like it’s only gotten traffic in the UK so I, for example, am out here in Idaho and don’t have anyone near me for 200+ miles, but I figured with how many followers that I can share this with and how active the mumblr community is we could populate this app with a ton of awesome people from Tumblr. @momcode want to spread this to your followers and other mumblr blogs? Everyone please reblog and help me spread this!!
Look at those eyes 😍😍
So we tried a little bit of formula yesterday as I’m trying to breastfeed but we’re having a bit of trouble and omg she was up ALL night an constantly spitting up! It was the worst and I’m a little traumatised tbh. No sleep and constantly crying baby = very sad stressed mummy!
She’s been better today back on just breastmilk so that’s a plus!
Can’t believe she’s mine still 💕💕
Things to do for next baby or for someone else's first baby
I have been thinking about things I could have done to make having a newborn easier. This is what I’ve come up with.
1. Don’t freak out if breastfeeding is difficult and the baby struggles. STAY CALM. I’m not certain how much of Wyatt’s bfing struggles came from me being so worked up and stressed out about it. I gave up after 1.5 days of struggling and started pumping and exclusively bottle feeding.
Side note: this was not the end of the world. When he got a little older (two weeks later) and his suck reflex got stronger (we gave a paci and I think that helped a lot), he had ZERO ISSUES going back to the boob.
2. Start pumping in the hospital. They have some amazing pumps there, and it really sets you up for success.
3. Pump AFTER you feed the baby. Ten minutes on each side for the baby, and then pump for 10 minutes.
4. Double pump. Get one of those bras that lets you pump hands free. Other than cutting your pumping time in HALF, you also get more milk if you pump tandem.
5. Bring a moby wrap to the hospital. Do skin to skin in the bed while wearing the baby. The nurses come in so frequently that you don’t actually get to sleep, you stand a better chance of relaxing if the baby is wrapped to you.
6. Have a feeding plan for when you get home. Alternate between you and your SO at night if possible. This was my favorite advantage to pumping bottles. Now that he’s back on the boob exclusively, I only ask my husband to take over a nighttime feeding if it’s like…a dire situation.
7. Buy 1,000 bottles of gas drops. Literally 1,000. And then repeat with gripe water.
8. Remember how everyone laughed at you for making “too many” frozen casseroles and breakfast burritos? Tell them to suck your dick, and make even more next time.
9. When people come to visit, make them do a load of dishes or switch out the laundry. Yes, really. No one comes to hold the baby without doing a chore. I think women downplay the amount of healing you’ll need to do, and that’s me talking after a relatively smooth vaginal delivery with minor tearing. You will bleed like GODDAMN STUCK PIG for atleast 4-6 weeks. And it’s not like a period. It is a WOUND. You are recovering. Do not haul around laundry baskets or stand on your feet to do dishes unless you absolutely have to.
10. Keep the squirt bottle from the hospital to clean your who-ha. They give you one to squirt water on to your vagina after you pee or poop because you can’t wipe you poor mangled vajay.
11. Take as many of the mesh underwear as you can stuff into your hospital bag. You will ruin whatever underwear you put on for the first 2-3 weeks postpartum. Get a pack of depends disposable underwear.
12. This is gross and I’m sorry. But get a trash can for the bathroom with a lid that CLOSES SHUT. The stuff coming out of you on those postpartum pads really stinks. I had a lidded trash can that fit into a cabinet with a door that closed. And the bathroom still had an odor if we didn’t change the trash out every two days.
13. Do not overestimate your ability to hold your pee. Your pelvic floor muscles are FUCKED. If you have to pee, DO NOT wait. You WILL pee on the floor, and that will trigger your postpartum hormones, and you will end up crying in the shower while your significant other cleans your urine off the floor because you can’t bend down to do it yourself. Or so I’ve heard.
14. Hold your baby as much as you want. Do not let people tell you that you’re going to “spoil” your child. Tell them to fuck right off, you can blame it on your hormones later.
15. Lastly, let people help you. I’m not sure why but I had moments where I felt like I shouldn’t need the help. False. FALSE.
T-minus 22 hours until we are checking into L&D for my induction. I’m freaking out! I can’t wait to meet my son. Everything is ready and set up now just trying to figure out how I want to spend this last day with my baby bump. ❤😘
A) This won’t look cute with boobs leaking in every direction. And clever is a stupid word to describe a bra. Even as a parent and supposed adult I don’t feel clever. And I still have a few brain cells left after pregnancy!
B) Where are her boobs?! Even my flat chested friends got boobs when feeding! In my case, I got a quadruple helping of boob.
C) No one, I repeat, NO ONE looks like this after growing a human (or two or three). And no real mom I know has time to look like this and breastfeed. We survive on coffee and sugar for the first six months at least.
CJ’s bathtub finally came in. She had her first real bath tonight and she screamed bloody murder. Meanwhile, her dad think it’s funny (jackass) that I’m freaking out at her screams because I’m a first time parent and he’s been a parent for 10 years.
I didn’t find a single thing funny.
She was so upset that she barely nursed and ended up falling asleep 20 min later.