change your look!! even if you can’t afford a major wardrobe renovation, you can do some small things to start new!! trash or donate any clothes that don’t fit or that you don’t wear, and visit secondhand stores to find some cute pieces in a style you like, or save up for a higher quality statement piece
plan ahead!! use your phone’s calendar (or buy a planner, if you prefer physical items) and plan out your year. use it to keep yourself on a schedule and to try and stay organized
make healthier choices both physically and emotionally. try to keep your sleep schedule fairly normal, drink more water, find a way to exercise. drop toxic people, recognize your value, don’t waste time on anything that won’t better you as a person
pick up a hobby! or two or three or four. whether it’s something athletic, something creative, or just something fun, put yourself into a hobby!! bonus: you’ll have a go-to answer for job application questions
and remember, if you can’t stick with it, if you slip back into old habits, that’s okay!! you can reinvent yourself at any time, whether it’s january first or halfway through the year
a new year offers many things; it symbolizes a new beginning, a chance to take on a new mindset and reinvent yourself. but dear, even if you stumble, even if you fall back into old habits - don’t give up. you can improve yourself at any time
i know i’ve been super mia recently but school was crazy busy and then there were the holidays and stuff but i’m back! i’m usually not really one for new year’s resolutions, but i’ve been thinking of making for for 2018 so @thank-yew‘s suggestion was perfect! i’ll be sharing my resolutions and some resolution suggestions if you’re looking for any resolution inspiration! xoxo, m
1. have my middle split by the end of the year (stretch at least 3x a week)
2. draw/letter at least once a week
3. drink more water!!!
4. moisturize after every shower + apply lip balm at least every day (i have really dry skin + lips whoops)
5. exercise (outside of dance rehearsal) at least once a week
6. read at least 1 book a month (tb to when i’d read 1 book almost every day)
GENERAL RESOLUTION SUGGESTIONS:
- drink more water
- eat healthier (more specific goals: eat more fruits/vegetables, eat less fried food, eat fewer sweets)
- take your vitamins every day (vitamins are good for you!)
- exercise more (specific goals: 30 min of yoga/pilates every other day, run # of miles a week, # of crunches every day etc)
- meditate every day when you get up/before bed
- journal every day when you get up/before bed (or even every week)
- turn off all electronics 30 min before bed
- wake up/go to sleep at a certain time every day
- save # of dollars a week/month (you could use it for purchase to reward yourself, a trip you’d like to take, or just to have in case of emergencies)
- clean your room/desk once a week
- read # of books a month
- take 30 minutes of “me time” at least once a week
- create less waste (fewer takeout boxes/plastic bottles/plastic utensils etc)
- cook a new recipe (or just cook) once a week/month
- start studying/reviewing for a big test 2 weeks in advance
- make flashcards/review notes the day after the lecture (or you could wait a week for example if you feel like relearning after a while is more helpful)
- file away old homeworks/tests when you get them back instead of just tossing them somewhere random
- keep your notes organized in a designated binder/notebook for each class
- annotate/correct your homeworks + tests when you get them back using *your thought process* instead of just copying from a key
- form a study group in the first few weeks of class for each class
- don’t be afraid to ask for help (go to office hours, peer tutoring etc)
- start your homework asap (or at least look over it so the amount of work required for it doesn’t surprise you the night before its due)
- watch tv shows/read books in your target language (ex: one of each a month)
- interact with your target language (flashcards, duolingo, talk to someone) at least once a week
- open your bujo at least once a day (and yes this is something i struggle with)
- sketch once a day/week
- try a daily/weekly art challenge
- try a daily/weekly lettering challenge
- review your bujo set-ups/spreads once a week/month and change what isn’t working
- draw something new/out of your comfort zone at least once a week/month
things to learn (practice them once a day/week):
- coding (java, python, c++ etc)
- CAD (fusion or solidworks)
- an instrument (ukulele, piano, guitar, etc)
- sculpting (w/ polymer or full on ceramics)
- the adobe creative suite (photoshop, illustrator, indesign, audition etc)
- dance (ballet, jazz, tap, ballroom, hip hop)
- needle felting
- a new language
** there are so many resources online to help you learn so honestly all you need is the internet and some determination!
don’t use social media as an outlet for every single negative emotion you experience. it does no one any good and you’ve already learned that those feelings pass quickly enough. no need to flaunt them unnecessarily.
do use social media for inspiration and as a source of positivity. post about good things, don’t reblog/retweet “relatable depression content”. comment more. interact. like/save/download things you love and look at them every so often.
don’t waste your time so much. stop endless scrolling sessions on various apps. stop pitying yourself.
do use your free time. find the motivation to create again; draw and write like you used to. read books. last year wasn’t a good year for that. do better.
don’t cancel every plan. don’t say “no” all the time to things you might enjoy. don’t flunk out at the last second. you don’t need every single weekend to “recharge” that’s a lie you tell yourself.
do choose who to spend time on. invest into those that invest in you. make space for your friends if none opens up automatically. make an effort. let yourself be moderately guilt-tripped into committing for once. socialising with the right people has never hurt you.
don’t get worked up about small things you cannot change. it’s scary not to be in control but sometimes you simply cannot be. yes, you may be disappointed you failed that exam or stressed about that meeting but that’s no reason to shut down.
do find healthy ways to cope with disappointment, stress and anxiety. you know all too well that this cannot go on. get help. you deserve it,
don’t just stay in your little bubble of comfort. or rather, don’t let it stay this small. you won’t find adventure where you’ve already looked.
do take some risks. make the first step, make a fool of yourself. in moderation, pushing yourself is good for you.
at some point you have to sit with yourself and learn who you are. you have to take responsibility for the way you’ve been treating yourself and the way you’ve allowed others to break you down. you have to go back to wherever you abandoned your love for self - thinking that someone’s love for you is more important than your own - and pick you back up! you have to ask yourself, “why do I treat others better than I treat my own self?” then you have to accept yourself.. because at the end of the day, the only person who’s forced to deal with the broken pieces of you, is you. don’t fault yourself for any of the past - just accept who you are today. accept your truths, your hurt, and your heart. and finally, you have to love YOU. love every piece of you - and never ever let anyone come in and damage you again. Heal your heart and Protect yourself better.