never his fault

Okay, listen. Just listen. 

Damian and Tim have a complicated relationship, that’s for sure, but they’re brothers. It’s messy and tangled and not clear cut… but you have to admit, like Tim does not do right by Damian at the beginning of their relationship. This is complicated further by the fact that Damian did try to kill Tim when they first met. Yes, that is definitely Bad. But like… Damian was 10. Not only that but he was abused his whole life. That doesn’t make what he did excusable but it makes it understandable when he begins to change. Like Tim is almost and adult and he hurts a 10 year old out of spite even when it’s clear that the kid is changing.

It’s a complicated situation, but you have to stop pretending that Tim is your perfect little Angel Child and infantilzing him. There’s no Right or Wrong in this scenario, life doesn’t work like that. But Tim is capable of being cruel and he is cruel to Damian during their first years together.

I’m getting really tired of this Damian is A Monster Torturing My Perfect Angel Tim Drake rhetoric. Like Damian is a child and was abused and you need to start factoring that into the equation.

Characteristics of the Narcissist.

These characteristics apply to males and females

1. Self-centered. His/Her needs are paramount.

2. No remorse for mistakes or misdeeds.

3. Unreliable, undependable.

4. Does not care about the consequences of their actions.

5. Projects faults on to others. High blaming behavior; never their fault.

6. Little if any conscience.

7. Insensitive to needs and feelings of others.

8. Has a good front (persona) to impress and exploit others.

9. Low stress tolerance. Easy to anger and rage.

10. People are to be manipulated for their needs.

11. Rationalizes easily. Twists conversation to their gain at other’s expense.  If trapped, keeps talking, changes the subject or gets angry.

12. Pathological lying.

13. Tremendous need to control situations, conversations, others.

14. No real values. Mostly situational.

15. Often perceived as caring and understanding and uses this to manipulate.

16. Angry, mercurial, moods.

17. Uses sex to control

18. Does not share ideas, feelings, emotions.

19. Conversation controller. Must have the first and last word.

20. Is very slow to forgive others. Hangs onto resentment.

21. Secret life. Hides money, friends, activities.

22. Likes annoying others. Likes to create chaos and disrupt for no reason.

23. Moody – switches from nice guy to anger without much provocation.

24. Repeatedly fails to honor financial obligations.

25. Seldom expresses appreciation.

26. Grandiose. Convinced he/she knows more than others and is correct in all he/she does.

27. Lacks ability to see how he/she comes across to others.  Defensive when confronted with his behavior.  Never his/her fault.

28. Can get emotional, tearful. This is about show or frustration rather than sorrow.

29. He/She breaks woman’s or men’s spirits to keep them dependent.

30. Needs threats, intimidations to keep others close to him.

31. Sabotages partner. Wants him/her to be happy only through him/her and to have few or no outside interests and acquaintances.

32. Highly contradictory.

33. Convincing.  Must convince people to side with him/her.

34. Hides his/her real self.  Always “on”

35. Kind only if he/she gets from you what they want.

36. He/She has to be right. He/She has to win. He/She has to look good.

37. He/She announces, not discusses. He/She tells, not asks.

38. Does not discuss openly, has a hidden agenda.

39. Controls money of others but spends freely on himself.

40. Unilateral condition of, “I’m OK and justified so I don’t need to hear your position or ideas”

41. Always feels misunderstood.

42. You feel miserable with this person. This person drains you.

43. Does not listen because they do not care.

44. Their feelings are discussed, not the partners.

45. Is not interested in problem-solving.

46. Very good at reading people, so they can manipulate them.  Sometimes called gaslighting.

now that the hell year is just about over i thought i’d do a little shout out to my friends and mutuals. both those who followed me over from my old blog and the new ones i’ve met here or through twitter. i send my best wishes and hope that 2017 is a far kinder year to each and every one of you. 

a-i @aeducans@aldia, @alexedanvers, @andurile, @arcanebond, @attano, @automatron, @bamwinks, @barenziah, @bikates, @bookerduhwitt, @brenziah, @camorrsthorn, @cassandrapentagay, @chasindcole, @chelldos, @chizuu, @chloeffrazer, @chuckhansen, @clairetemplc, @corvosblink, @cubciri, @eilheart, @emilycaldwin, @emilykxldwin, @ennobaria, @festivefaree7aamari, @freudian, @gayventress, @goodsprings, @great-leviathan@gristol, @gurguts, @haedrian, @hawkeisabelas, @highchaosemily, @houndpits, @housekaldwin, @illrae,

j-z @jindouche, @jjessemccree, @kaldwim, @kaldwins, @kalenhad, @krempuffs, @ladyliadrin, @legmageddon, @lesbianemilykaldwin, @lesbianpiperwrights, @lsabela, @magewardens, @mccreeing, @mellarkish, @mythaelogy, @nefrertiti, @neptunevasilass, @nonbinarybriarmoss, @nostrromo, @oldhroldan, @ominousdeer, @perishx, @plasmarifles, @protectorkaldwin, @roboticbiotic, @scatteredarrow, @scifilesbians, @senuaofficial, @shayera, @sitaradhawan, @skelligers, @skorri, @starry-pidge, @superhuggz, @swordcores, @theladyhawke, @tixiij, @trans-corvo, @varictethras, @vaulthunterexe, @vaylinns, @vhetra, @witchdelilah, @wretchedquintessence, @wrex, @yukiehshirofuku, @zenyattah

alec hirch: its so weird that people like ford!!! after all hes so unlikable and unemotional and disgusting and yet people relate to him??? i cant see why!!!

survivors of abuse and trauma who see themselves in ford:

bc we‘re doing this lately - chaol

I just wanna share my feelings (SHOCKER). They are not pro-Chaol. They are not anti-Chaol. I liked him in ToG and CoM. His chapters bored me in HoF. In QoS he pissed me off. But I never thought it was his fault Nehemia died and I never thought he was abusive (which some people do apparently???)

When he and Celeana had been doing it for like a week and he was thinking marriage, I was kinda…

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But… I love that he’s loyal af to Dorian. Because I heart Dorian. And he’s an incredibly conflicted character whose notions of right and wrong are constantly being challenged. Which is just part of growing up? And I can Relate.

And the thing is, whatever I feel about him now, I’m sure that after his novel I’ll like him more. I think it will just naturally happen when we learn even more about him (I was thinking, maybe we’ll get flashbacks or history? that’d be cool), so… my feeling about Chaol and his novel are like a… 6/10 right now. Favorable, but nearly neutral.

rubyreddemise  asked:

Ok here's my best shot lol, I need a truly fluffy fic please. As you know my emotions have been on the non fun kind of roller coaster this week and reallly need a Prompto day of cuddles. Please include him addressing the depression and emotional roller coaster because it really helps.. hope this request makes some sort of sense..

I hope this is alright for you! Although it may be less fluffy than intended, but I hope you still like it! 

Prompto x Reader
My Everything ~
WC: 1234

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Together At Last.

I hope you enjoy this, this is the first thing I have written in a while since I have been so busy with work and life.. Happy Holidays! 

Receiver: @freeyourheartandsoul

Pairing: Stiles x Reader

Request: I’d love a stiles one.. and any genre is good, I guess? But not like smutty or anything too crazy.

Word Count: 716

Warnings: none

Sorry it’s so short btw, but if you want a part 2 you can totally have one! 

“You’re late again, y/n. You’ve got detention.”

“Seriously? Why? It’s not even my fault!”

“Don’t blame others for your problems, see you after school.”

You walk out of the front office full of rage and there he sat… probably not going to get in trouble as usual. He never did. It was his fault really, it always was. He’s the one who snuck you into the janitors closet before first period almost everyday. How did he never get caught? 

“Hey, y/n You alright?” Stiles voice stirred in the room behind you. His voice was not the one you wanted to hear at that moment. 

You didn’t even turn around, you just kept walking. You made your way to class, and just dreaded the day away. 

“Why didn’t he get in trouble? This is so unfair, I can’t stand him. I thought he liked me…”  You kept thinking that over and over until the final bell rang. 

Walking down the empty hall, you traced your hands along all the lockers. The feel of the cold metal made you shiver. The door to your awaiting punishment was right around the corner, you took the last few steps of what freedom you had left, well at least for an hour. 

Your hand reached out for the doorknob, when suddenly the door flew open, Mr. Thomas welcomed you, and you slowly crept in and made your way to a desk and put in some headphones and drifted off. 

What seemed like moments later, you felt a hand tap you on the shoulder. You were startled  to see Stiles standing above you. 

“Let’s get outta here.” He said to you

“What? Why? I’m mad at you Stiles, why would I go with you?”

He just laughed and reached out for your hand. You stared at it for a moment…

“Hurry, y/n. We don’t have much time. I told Mr. Thomas that someone keyed his car in the parking lot and he will be back any minute..”

“So you lied to get me out of detention?”

“Well, yeah! Now let’s go!!!”

You grabbed his hand and the two of you ran down the hall and out the door. You saw Mr.Thomas making his way back into the school, so the both of you ran through the bushes to hide. As soon as he went inside, you bolted for Stiles’ jeep, and drove off. 

You had no idea where he was taking you, but you didn’t care. You didn’t even care that you were so mad at him all day, you were just happy you were with him in that moment. 

“Hey, y/n.. can I ask you something?” Stiles asked kinda shyly.

“Yeah, of course. What is it?”

“Well, I know that we have been hanging out a lot lately, but since I kinda got you put in detention today… are you mad at me?”

“I was mad, well up until you convinced me to leave with you. Then for some reason I didn’t even care anymore.”

“Good, because I lied to Mr. Thomas about his car just to take you somewhere…”

“Where are you taking me?”

“You’ll see.” He said with a smile. 

Moments later you pulled up to the entrance of the park, when you saw it. There under the gazebo was a picnic set up…

“Is that for me?” You asked Stiles.

“Yeah, I may have actually had this planned for a bit..”

“Planned? What exactly was planned?”

“You getting detention, so I could rescue you and bring you here.”

“Oh, so you got me in trouble for this?”

“I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have lied to you or got you into trouble, but to be fair I talked to the Principle and Mr. Thomas, they helped…”

“But Stiles, you could have just asked me on a date like a normal person!”

“You know I’m not normal, y/n. I’m sorry. Would you like me to take you home?”

“No, I actually think this is kinda sweet, in a totally lame way.”

The two of you got out of the car and walked over to the gazebo and enjoyed the picnic that Stiles had set up for you. By the end of the night the two of you had become more than what you were before. You were official. Together at last. 

John Watson has blamed Sherlock Holmes for the death of Mary. 

He is filled with guilt because he was never able to admit his faults. Mary died thinking John was perfect when John knew, oh, he knew he was far from it. The guilt got to him, he pinned the fault on Sherlock. 

Sherlock Holmes did nothing wrong.

John Watson has pinned his guilt of hurting his own wife on to his best friend.



Memory Lane | Drabble

Min Yoongi x Reader | Drabble

Request: Anonymous- 25 + 26 angst and a little bit fluffy with Yoongi pls 😊❤

Word Count: 1,038 words

25. “I’ve moved on.”

26. “I’ve been in love with you my whole life.”

Min Yoongi was the type of man who had a lot of pride. He would never admit his faults, and he would never go back on his word. When he said something, he meant it.

As you felt the train move from its still position, you looked down at your hand and stared at the line where your engagement ring used to be. You leaned back into the cold seat and pulled your thick coat around you even tighter. You hated cold weather. It reminded you about the time Min Yoongi had proposed to you. He fed you false lies of safety and protection just to later on leave you for some other girl he had on the side.

You remembered the week before he had left. Everything had been fine. Every moment of that week was ingrained in your mind.

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me: i don’t know maybe i’m getting over colin

colin: *gets up from the nycc panel to hug a fan*

colin: *takes a selfie with an 8 year old girl who describes him as gracious and so cool*

colin: *is a total nerd at the live q&a’s*

colin: *looks like a skinny lil youngin’ and reminds me of the days i first began to swoon over him*


anonymous asked:

Fans should also not forget they excuse their fave his own desperate 6-year quest to stay closeted, use and sleep around with women, call out support for homophobic figures on his Twitter (of course, never his fault, always someone else pushing the buttons) and publicly deny/shun the homosexuality fans want to see him embrace. And partake in a scam with a baby which is well into its second year. Whilst y'all still throw money at him. I'd say he and JA are about even.

You and I have exactly one thing in common: neither of us know WTfuck is going on behind the scenes. 

However, I believe a stark difference between the two of us is that I have the ability to think analytically and critically about information that is presented to me. I think that taking Louis_Tomlinson and louist91′s image at face value is tantamount to accepting that Donald Trump is a good president just because Donald Trump says so.

I wrote an article that highlights the difference between Louis Tomlinson’s media image and his actions, which I think outlines most of my opinions on what you’ve crudely stated. It’s here:

Is Louis Tomlinson A Victim of A Character Assassination Campaign?

It actually went viral on Buzzfeed before my profile was suspended for pulling up receipts on Simon Cowell in this article, which I’ve also re-published:

Is Louis Tomlinson’s Bizarre Behaviour Actually Just Him Mocking Simon Cowell?

I think it’s really sad that you not only have such a low opinion of someone who I believe to be one of the kindest and most talented people of our generation, but that you also feel the need to actively slander his name. Most of the points you’ve raised I really can’t dignify with a point by point explanation, but I will not stand by people claiming that he’s not only a womaniser but that he’s also homophobic.

There is an overwhelming amount of precedence for closeting in the entertainment industry and I would bet everything I have that Louis’ closeting isn’t self-imposed. The overwhelming amount of evidence that Louis is not only sick of being in the closet but that he is also proud of the LGBTQ+ community comes down to many things, but one in particular that most people don’t accept as fact enough. 

Again, not at all bothered with wasting too much time on this ask, but should you reconsider your ignorant stance maybe have a look at this: 

If you message me anything like this again I’ll block you immediately. 

11 Tag

@bookcub and @e1odin tagged me, so I took questions from both lists

1. Did you have a book phase you are ashamed of?

Yes. I spent a year really into YA paranormal romance, the kind with dark brooding boyfriends and some mysterious force keeping the two apart.

2. How many books do you have marked as read on goodreads?

Only 56

3. Worst book you ever read?

Rocks Fall, Everyone Dies by Lindsay Ribar. The main character was a jerk, everyone was a flat character, and there was a manic-pixie dream girl. He never recognized his faults, and every time it seemed like he might do something milly redeeming or good for someone else, it ended up being a self-serving dick move. 

4. What are you currently reading?

The Thousand Names by Django Wexler, Learning to Swear in America by  Katie Kennedy, and Good Omens.

5. What character do you look the most like?

The child of Hermione and Luna

6. Do you listen to music while reading? If yes, what kind?

I don’t listen to music while reading. I can’t focus on that many things at once.

7. Any book / series conclusions that disappointed you?

The Fault in Our Stars. Everyone who recommended it to me said it was one of the best books they’d ever read, but I found it kind of underwhelming.  

8. Favourite classic? (if you don’t like classics, then least favourite?)

East of Eden

9. If you could meet any authour, which would you want to meet?

Maggie Stiefvater, or Pat Rothfuss

10. Favourite fictional couple? (canon or not)

Blue and Gansey from the Raven Cycle

11. Who is an author you avidly avoid?

James Patterson. I attribute this to working/volunteering at a library for the past 5 years. Shelving his books is THE WORST, so no I have no interest in ever reading one of his books. 

My questions:

1. What is your favorite genre?

2. Opinion on audiobooks?

3. How often do you reread books?

4. Do you read nonfiction?

5. Favorite (or least bad) book you ever had to read for school?

6. Bookstore or library?

7. Do you read multiple books at a time?

8. How many books on your goodreads to-read shelf?

9. Favorite quote?

10. Are you scared to lend your books to other people?

11. Have you ever met an author? if so, who?

I tag @waves314@kingkilling-and-stormlight , @caughtwithinpages , and @the-name-of-stone . It’s 100% optional