When people pull the “Rey survived on Jakku and didn’t become a murder” as a tactic to downplay the canon life time child grooming Ben went through, I can’t help but be really creeped out or just kinda sick. If Snoke had targeted Rey instead of Ben it’s not hard to see a likely circumstance with Snoke dangling the carrot of acceptance, answers, power and control for her too. It’s also not hard to imagine Rey eventually succumbing to these temptations.
Desperation opens the door for users/abusers. I know the idea that feeling sympathy for Kylo Ren/Ben Solo is just way too drastic and despicable for some people, but please let’s not pretend having space Voldemort target you is so easy. We will always have to accept the wrongs that Kylo has done, but never again am I going to feel bad for wanting to see him get better or change his fate.