It’s really important for older desi girls to support young and naive desi girls, even the girls with hairy arms and upper lips, the ones with unkempt monobrows and visible happy trails, girls who get nervous talking to strangers, the ones who aren’t fashion savvy in an eastern or western sense, girls who wear clothes too big or too small, girls who aren’t good at STEM fields, girls who can’t dance bhangra or garba, whose makeup is all wrong, who use Fair & Lovely because they’ve internalized a lot of shit, girls who use haldi and chandan for the same reason, girls who eat rice with their hands, girl who don’t do extracurriculars, girls with thick accents, ALL OF THEM.
Ultimately, it doesn’t matter whether the things they’re doing are for political statements, or because their families are restrictive, or because they want to. We have to support our younger desi sisters even when they’re not conforming to the “tumblr aesthetic” or when they’re not socially conscious. We are the ones who have to teach them.
I know there’s a lot of pressure on us to have the ultimate “cool” squad of desi girls so non-desi folks can’t say shit about us and at least we fit in somewhere. But more often then not, this leaves young and vulnerable girls who feel/look unattractive or awkward too intimidated to approach us and they get left out.
So support young desi girls. Give them a positive role model who understands them. It’s a scary and isolating world. Be there for them.