The Problem With The Big Bang Theory...

I’ve been meaning to post something about The Big Bang Theory for a while now but it’s taken me ‘till now to really understand what it is about the show that makes me uncomfortable. I’m not exactly a believer in the whole “only write about the things you like, don’t trash the things you don’t” trend which seems to be plaguing comments sections in negative articles lately, but I wanted to be able to really examine why I don’t like TBBT rather than just slagging it off. My main questions being - Why don’t I like this anymore? Why do I feel uncomfortable watching it? And why do I get so annoyed when I see people sing its praises online? The thing which really sparked this post was seeing a raft of comments on Facebook, below the last round of voting in Television Without Pity’s Tubey Awards, claiming The Big Bang Theory to be “the best comedy on TV”. This made me angry so instead of posting an impulsive comment calling out their bad taste which I’d probably regret later, I decided to really analyse why seeing comments like that made me so mad when previously, although I didn’t really love the show, I’d never considered myself as disliking The Big Bang Theory.

Hell, I even have season one on dvd, it’s sitting right between Battlestar Galactica and Bored To Death in my alphabetised collection.

And here, I think, is where my problem with The Big Bang Theory lies…

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And speaking of gross bros thinking of nerd girls like fucking unicorns…

I was actually talking to a female client once about cannon-fannon and how much I love listening to her talk comics, and had a male client interupt us to tell me he has never met a chick that is into comics before, he’s never even heard of a girl being into comics before,  and he has always wanted a nerdy girlfriend and that i absolutely MUST give him her number.

I actually had to explain to him that I wasn’t joking when I said she was out of his league.
Yes, she is incredible, she is beautiful, she is intelligent, successful, highly knowledgeable and enthusiastic about comics, and she’s also not even going to look twice at you because literally all you got is that she fulfills a fantasy of yours.

Yes bro i get it, she’s your ideal girl.
Trust me, she’s a lot of people’s ideal girl. And you’re not even on her radar. You’re not special because you’re into comics. She has a very wide range of potential partners to choose from and ‘never having met a nerdy girl before’ isn’t a good character trait, because it means you know zero women. Or zero women have trusted your creepy ass with the knowledge that they are into comics.


The most concerning part of that entire conversation was his complete inability to grasp the concept that she wouldn’t date him and his insistence that she would.


He insisted that I give her name/number/fb/actually call her and ask her to come to the studio (wtffff???) because he needed to meet her.
And then just could not fathom that I refused.
He seemed to be running on this idea that if she met him, she would like him. For no other reason than that he was into comics and he wanted a nerd girlfriend.

And I was somehow out of line for refusing to give my best freinds deets to this creepy nerdbro because I couldn’t possibly know that she wouldn’t be into him.

He got really upset. 

He was in my studio for 45 mins arguing with me on and off about this and trying to push me into giving her number.

Out. Of. Your. League. Not on your level. Too fucking good for you. Not a possibility. You’ve got nothing she wants. You’re one of literally thousands who would want her. You have nothing to offer her. You tick zero of her boxes. You do not even meet the minimum requirements for me to even ask her.  

NOT 

HAPPENING 

MATE.


This is why women don’t say they’re women in WoW, this is why women don’t say they’re into games irl. This is why women don’t hang out in comics stores. This is why nerd women hide one of these two aspects of themselves when interacting with nerd men.

Because you creepy as FUCK about us.

It’s tough for us nerdly dudes, being so marginalised by popular culture. I mean, sure, we can console ourselves with our six feature-length J R R Tolkien adaptations, staggeringly popular revivals of numerous old school sci-fi properties, multiple critically acclaimed TV shows about cerebral weirdos saving the day with erudition and cleverness, and decade-long dominance of superhero films at the box office, but all that only goes so far, you know?

but can we seriously just talk about something right now

What Rooster teeth is putting on right now is something that has never been done before. Think about it. 

They’re playing video games to a crowd of almost 3,000 people. They’ve filled a stadium-esque venue with cheering fans and are making a show out of it and it’s great. They’re on a fast track to normalizing video gaming and destroying the ‘slob in mom’s basement’ stigma that’s attached to gaming/nerd culture and they’re making into something reminiscent of sports games with equally -if not more so-boisterous, loud, and adoring fans, which is going to quickly attract the attention of the general public. 

They were surfing a gurney while playing surgeon simulator for goodness’ sake, how much better could this be??

The Valkyries, on young girls in comic shops
  • Juliette: A dad came in with his 4 year-old daughter and told her to ask me ("the lady who works here") for recommendations. She did and I showed her a few comics I thought she would like while the dad kind of waited a respectful distance away so that it was really our conversation. Then he said to her "I just want to make sure you know you can always ask the people in the comic book store for recommendations and they'll be happy to talk to you."
  • And all of a sudden I realized that he was making sure his little girl would grow up believing that she is welcome in comic book and nerd spaces instead of feeling like she's an outsider just because she's a girl.
  • PARENTING FTW!!!
  • Christina: That reminds me of the girl who gets $10 for every A on her report card and spends it all on comics.
  • Emily: This reminds me of the dad and daughter who came into my store and bought the American Dream tpb we had. And then proceeded to buy every book with a strong central female character I could think of to recommend. Good parenting.
  • Tracy: There is a family who would always come in on Saturday. The older sister and mom weren't really into comics, but they would walk around with the younger sister and dad while they picked out what they wanted. The young girl always came in and spent her allowance on comics.
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10 Experiences That Every Black Nerd Can Relate To

As if growing up a nerd isn’t hard enough, growing up black and nerdy is a particularly unique experience.

Cliché depictions of blackness in popular culture often neglect the diversity of being black. Black nerds know the struggle of identifying more with Tuvok or Geordi LaForge, rather than rap stars or basketball players. There’s also the challenge of not feeling black enough or nerdy enough for either identity. However, black nerds aren’t one dimensional, and we are clearly aware of the ways race intersects with geek culture.

There are certain moments that every black nerd has had; from that one white friend who only considers you “technically” black to family members don’t quite “get” your interests but love you the same. These 10 illustrations perfectly capture the challenges and joys that come with growing up a black nerd. 

(Original art by Aaron Barksdale)

So, a question, to my fellow male nerds:

What the fuck is wrong with us?

How much longer are we going to be in denial that there’s a thing called “rape culture” and we ought to do something about it?

No, not the straw man that all men are constantly plotting rape, but that we live in an entitlement culture where guys think they need to be having sex with girls in order to be happy and fulfilled. That in a culture that constantly celebrates the narrative of guys trying hard, overcoming challenges, concocting clever ruses and automatically getting a woman thrown at them as a prize as a result, there will always be some guy who crosses the line into committing a violent crime to get what he “deserves,” or get vengeance for being denied it.

To paraphrase the great John Oliver, listen up, fellow self-pitying nerd boys—we are not the victims here. We are not the underdogs. We are not the ones who have our ownership over our bodies and our emotions stepped on constantly by other people’s entitlement. We’re not the ones where one out of six of us will have someone violently attempt to take control of our bodies in our lifetimes.

We are not the lovable nerdy protagonist who’s lovable because he’s the protagonist. We’re not guaranteed to get laid by the hot chick of our dreams as long as we work hard enough at it. There isn’t a team of writers or a studio audience pulling for us to triumph by “getting the girl” in the end. And when our clever ruses and schemes to “get girls” fail, it’s not because the girls are too stupid or too bitchy or too shallow to play by those unwritten rules we’ve absorbed.

It’s because other people’s bodies and other people’s love are not something that can be taken nor even something that can be earned—they can be given freely, by choice, or not.

—  I tried to find my favorite quote from Arthur Chu’s phenomenal Daily Beast piece on male nerd culture, but it’s all great, so go read the whole thing.
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Quirky Superhero Bookshelves by Naama Katan

Naama Katan from Katans Designs creates quirky bookshelves and bookends inspired by the life of a superhero. Drawing inspiration from iconic figures like Wonder Woman and Superman each piece is laser cut, then painted black.

The superhero collection has a floating effect, which gives the impression of a superhero holding a pile of books, preventing them from shattering and falling to the ground. In her shop, Katan also caters to book lovers’ needs by constructing clever bookmarks with a conceptual mind, like a reading lamp or a hippo submerging from the pages of a book. Find them in her Etsy shop.

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