nerd culture

And speaking of gross bros thinking of nerd girls like fucking unicorns…

I was actually talking to a female client once about cannon-fannon and how much I love listening to her talk comics, and had a male client interupt us to tell me he has never met a chick that is into comics before, he’s never even heard of a girl being into comics before,  and he has always wanted a nerdy girlfriend and that i absolutely MUST give him her number.

I actually had to explain to him that I wasn’t joking when I said she was out of his league.
Yes, she is incredible, she is beautiful, she is intelligent, successful, highly knowledgeable and enthusiastic about comics, and she’s also not even going to look twice at you because literally all you got is that she fulfills a fantasy of yours.

Yes bro i get it, she’s your ideal girl.
Trust me, she’s a lot of people’s ideal girl. And you’re not even on her radar. You’re not special because you’re into comics. She has a very wide range of potential partners to choose from and ‘never having met a nerdy girl before’ isn’t a good character trait, because it means you know zero women. Or zero women have trusted your creepy ass with the knowledge that they are into comics.


The most concerning part of that entire conversation was his complete inability to grasp the concept that she wouldn’t date him and his insistence that she would.


He insisted that I give her name/number/fb/actually call her and ask her to come to the studio (wtffff???) because he needed to meet her.
And then just could not fathom that I refused.
He seemed to be running on this idea that if she met him, she would like him. For no other reason than that he was into comics and he wanted a nerd girlfriend.

And I was somehow out of line for refusing to give my best freinds deets to this creepy nerdbro because I couldn’t possibly know that she wouldn’t be into him.

He got really upset. 

He was in my studio for 45 mins arguing with me on and off about this and trying to push me into giving her number.

Out. Of. Your. League. Not on your level. Too fucking good for you. Not a possibility. You’ve got nothing she wants. You’re one of literally thousands who would want her. You have nothing to offer her. You tick zero of her boxes. You do not even meet the minimum requirements for me to even ask her.  

NOT 

HAPPENING 

MATE.


This is why women don’t say they’re women in WoW, this is why women don’t say they’re into games irl. This is why women don’t hang out in comics stores. This is why nerd women hide one of these two aspects of themselves when interacting with nerd men.

Because you creepy as FUCK about us.

You want to know my new favorite thing?

Little Kid Nerd Culture.

Little kids have an interpretation of nerd culture that is so pure and happy. Things are awesome or they’re scary, but they’re never boring. They’re never poorly done.

Kids don’t worry about continuity; everything goes by the Rule of Cool. Anything can cross over with anything.

Rainbow Dash and Batman? Awesome. Waluigi and the Footbots from Ninja Turtles? Totally makes sense. Star Wars and Star Trek? Obviously the same world because they both live in space!

Try to tell a kid this guy’s actually a bad guy? Nope! This is the “good guy version”. Didn’t you know? What do you mean Flash can’t fly? Look, he’s flying right now, with his best friends, Spider-man and Ninjago! Later he’s going to race with Sonic the Hedgehog, after they save the Heart of Tafiti.

Earlier, my five year old son and I watched the original Star Wars. His takeaway? Darth Vader is a “really mean guy” because he shot R2D2. Now, he’s playing with Legos and singing “Barry Allen had a little lamb”. I wish I was clever enough to make that up.

Last night, we were watching a movie and my stupid adult brain kept nitpicking little things. Then, I heard my son gasp at a moment that I was so used to I forgot to be shocked, and it brought me right back down to Earth.

I love how he can just enjoy things. I want to try to be like him.

Y’know, as a cis dude, it’s not my place to define what particular sorts of conduct count as transmisogynistic - but I’m totally comfortable asserting that, to the extent that a given conduct is transmisogynistic, the fact that you don’t do it very often doesn’t give you a free pass.

Transmisogyny doesn’t just look like being a cackling cartoon supervillain who spends his every waking moment plotting ways to hurt trans women.

It can also look like being a faux-tolerant nerdbro who’s totally cool with trans women right up until the moment a trans woman crosses him in some way, whereupon he’ll enthusiastically wield the fact that they’re trans against them.

There’s a lot of stuff out there about how being nerdy is mainstream now and you won’t be bullied or ostracized for it anymore but I don’t think that’s entirely true. It’s very conditional. You can like stuff like video games and comic books sure, but still can’t be too enthusiastic, and not about obscure stuff or “”“cringy”“” stuff or academic stuff, and you can’t have other nerdy traits like being socially awkward or clumsy. And a lot of that still overlaps with neurodivergent traits and that’s not a coincidence and it really bothers me that people act like it’s not a problem anymore because mainstream nerd culture does not encompass everything involved with the idea of being a nerd, and there are plenty of traits of that which are still used as an excuse to treat people like shit, even among people who enjoy a lot of nerd culture.

Are you fucking kidding me???? This review full of man tears from TrekMovie just makes me wish that white nerd boys who think like this should be send off into the nearest black hole.

Toxic nerd boy culture needs to be DESTROYED. USS Callister deconstructed it perfectly while being funny at the same time. If your fragile male ego can’t handle it then you are part of the problem.

Thesis: deficiencies in technical execution notwithstanding, the fundamental reason nerdcore sucks is that, insofar as “nerd culture” is a thing, most nerdcore consciously refuses to address it, instead preferring to address a fashionably idealised version of nerd culture that’s fun to fantasise about, but impossible to meaningfully relate to.

The Problem With The Big Bang Theory...

I’ve been meaning to post something about The Big Bang Theory for a while now but it’s taken me ‘till now to really understand what it is about the show that makes me uncomfortable. I’m not exactly a believer in the whole “only write about the things you like, don’t trash the things you don’t” trend which seems to be plaguing comments sections in negative articles lately, but I wanted to be able to really examine why I don’t like TBBT rather than just slagging it off. My main questions being - Why don’t I like this anymore? Why do I feel uncomfortable watching it? And why do I get so annoyed when I see people sing its praises online? The thing which really sparked this post was seeing a raft of comments on Facebook, below the last round of voting in Television Without Pity’s Tubey Awards, claiming The Big Bang Theory to be “the best comedy on TV”. This made me angry so instead of posting an impulsive comment calling out their bad taste which I’d probably regret later, I decided to really analyse why seeing comments like that made me so mad when previously, although I didn’t really love the show, I’d never considered myself as disliking The Big Bang Theory.

Hell, I even have season one on dvd, it’s sitting right between Battlestar Galactica and Bored To Death in my alphabetised collection.

And here, I think, is where my problem with The Big Bang Theory lies…

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As one of Tumblr’s certified geezers (i.e., over the age of thirty), I’m old enough to remember when “jocks versus nerds” was basically the dominant narrative in youth-oriented media. Even today, it has a great deal of currency, even if it’s not quite as omnipresent as once it was.

And yet, looking back at my own youth, and that of my peers, I find myself wondering: where was all this alleged nerd hate? Was “jocks versus nerds” ever a real cultural phenomenon? Or is it all just a huge cultural myth, cynically promulgated by bitter nerds in the entertainment industry in order to explain why they didn’t get laid as much as they would have liked in high school?

Increasingly, I’ve come to suspect that it’s mostly the second one.

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