neither-am-I

Unpopular opinion time
  • Cisgender people aren’t automatically transphobic just because they’re cis.
  • White people aren’t automatically racist because they’re white.
  • Men aren’t automatically misogynistic, rapists or abusers, just because they’re men.
  • Everyone can be racist to everyone else of a different race. Reverse racism doesn’t exist, it’s just racism, everyone is capable of it.
  • Anyone who lies about rape accusations should receive prison time.
  • Everyone is entitled to a proper course of justice in the court of law.
  • Transgender men should be put in men’s prisons, transgender women should be put in women’s prisons.
  • Women can be abusive to their partners. Do not automatically victimise women or say “this motive means that the man deserved it” are you fucked in the head?
  • People who are incapable of looking after their child should not receive custody over the other parent.
  • Feminism is great. Everyone deserves equality, and the proper precautions should be put in place at demonstrations. However, extreme feminism is not great. It gives feminism a bad name. If you go out there shouting “MEN ARE PIGS!” “MEN DESERVE TO DIE!” and all that bullshit, you’re a fucking moron.
  • Transpecies and transrace are not things. You cannot be cat, or a horse or a fucking bunny rabbit. You cannot be black, or Asian or anything else to the race you were born. I’m sorry, but it’s true. Go ahead and call me transphobic (even though I’m not)
  • The amount of genders and sexualities that Tumblr is creating is fucking ridiculous. “Angeligender– A gender found only among angels, that is hard to describe to non-angels. For godkin and angelkin only.” “Lichtgender- A gender represented by a ball of light.” “Zodiacgender– A catch-all gender term that is used to describe when one’s gender is related to a (or their specific) zodiac sign.” I’m sorry, what?? What the fuck? No.
  • There is not 76 fucking genders. Fuck off.
  • If you are transgender male and deliberately present as female, or transgender female and deliberately present as male, and then complain that someone misgendered you, that’s your fault, nobody else’s.
  • NON-BINARY, GENDERFLUID AND AGENDER PEOPLE ARE ENTITLED TO HAVE THEY/THEM PRONOUNS USED TO IDENTIFY THEM.
  • If you are 13 and your boyfriend is 20, I’m sorry, but he’s a paedophile. “Age is just a number” yeah, then prison is just a room.
  • Stalking celebrities to a point where you find out where they live is NOT okay. Stop being a creepy little weirdo and play outside or some shit.
  • You are not edgy because you hate people. You are not edgy for self-diagnosing mental health issues. You are not edgy for self-diagnosing other medical issues. You’re a twat.
Exclusionists are prescriptivists not descriptivists; and that matters

I just came from a conference for LGBTQ+ folks and there was widespread support for aro/ace people. There were entire panels centered around being ace/aro. There were ace/aro flags being sold alongside other LGBTQ+ flags. The language used was inclusive to a spec folks. In the panel on lateral oppression, there was no mention of exclusionist or TERF ideologies (rightfully so). Panelists who were specifically invited to speak spoke freely about them being a spec or about how great they thought the split attraction model was.

If you’re a spec and reading this, just know the exclusionists are not the majority in LGBTQ+ spaces. This is the space that actually exists, not the exclusionary space they misguidedly advocate for.

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Calm before the storm

Sooooo a lot of people asked if I am going to Coachella..

Yes I am!!! I’ll be there to perform on the 15th (first weekend). I’ll be playing a few songs which include 1 or 2 new songs from the album which isn’t even out yet! I’ll play a set from one and half hour so I hope you ready!

I’m still looking for some buddy’s to go with the 14th and 16th.. 😅

Me today: I think I’m finally over being salty about Bioware blatantly not giving a shit about their mlm fans and those who play as mlm ryder - I’ve bought the game already so I should probably try and enjoy it whilst voicing my concerns to the devs in a constructive manner

Me 20 seconds later:

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Our Q&A - lyrics

i dont understand why the fandom is suddenly divided between flinthamilton and silverflint and ppl are abandoning ship like… there might be TWO men in flint’s life now !!!! and here i am expecting either or and you know what im gonna get?!
nothing im gonna get nothing thats what

You ask me
when we are five years old–
“How long does it take
for a person to fall in love?”
And I wrinkle my nose,
and I shrug,
and I stick out my tongue.
Because that isn’t a question
I am interested
in answering.


You ask me
when we are ten years old–
“Do you think people
really fall in love?”
And I take your hand
and compliment your skirt
(though it’s identical to mine).
Because you shouldn’t have to worry
about your parents
when you’re a kid.


You ask me
when we are fifteen years old–
“Don’t I deserve
to fall in love?”
And tears stream down
a beautiful face,
as I brush back strands of soft hair.
Because of a boy who didn’t deserve
such a fiercely gentle
girl in his life.


You ask me
when we are eighteen years old–
“Do you think it’s fun,
to fall in love?”
And I smile, silent,
your side pressed against mine,
my heart warm, but pained.
Because of course, of course it is fun
but sometimes it is just
not yours to have.


You ask me
when we are twenty years old–
“When do you think
we’ll fall in love?”
And my chest is tight
and I say “I’ll let you know.”
And I am lying.
Because I did not tell you, because
you hadn’t fallen
in love yet.


You ask me
when we are thirty years old–
“How long did it take
for you to fall in love?”
And I smile,
as rain thrums steadily,
and your fingers are laced with mine.


And I say,“You asked me,
when we were five years old.”

—  a girl, falling in love.