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anonymous asked:

What is caedromantic? Your FAQ won't work on mobile ^^"

Caedromantic

“A feeling that one was previously able to experience a particular kind of attraction (in this case, romantic attraction), but that ability was lost due to trauma or other negative events.”

When something good escapes from your life; such as a job, or the one you thought loved you unconditionally, it can be very painful. It can. And you’re human; you have emotions. You feel things. You cry. You get angry. We all react to negative events differently, but the important thing is that you are able to acknowledge what ever feelings that may arise. Do not sweep them underneath the surface, for you are then ignoring yourself as the human being that you are. You are not a robot. You are not a computer. You’re human; so love yourself enough to nurture your emotions.
—  Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin
Queens of Mewni & Their Cheek Symbol

So, I just thought to make the list of the cheek symbols of the Queens of Mewni for my next analysis (the significance of these cheek symbols). The first column were the image of the queens, second is their cheek symbols, third is symbolism’s meaning I got from the internet, and fourth is what traits I think you needed to get that symbol in the SVTFOE universe (in short, what the symbol signifies). 

SVTFOE Card Suite Symbolism speculation:

Heart - people with this symbol are very lovable and has a distinguishing “charm” that naturally attracts people and come to her side. They prioritize their relationship with others compared to anything else and usually let their heart dictates their action (emotional). They are often found as center of the group

Spade - people with this symbol wields strong and fearsome power, even more powerful than normal and typical queens.

Diamond - people with this symbol have the tendency to take the center of command and shoulder the burden and responsibility by their selves. They dress in jewelry and finery, conducting their selves as befitting of nobility.

Club - people with this symbol have the “common” mindset. They appreciate the values that works for the greater whole of society and hates anything that could destroy the social order they are comfortable and grew up in already.

Color symbolism speculation:

Shades of purple - elegance, nobility, regal

Yellow - bright, lively

Pink - lovely, feminine, 

White - harmony, power, everything (as it is combination of all colors of light. That’s why Moon said you must give everything if you want to “dip down”)


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MBTI Types’ Shadow

“The shadow is a moral problem that challenges the whole ego-personality, for no one can become conscious of the shadow without considerable moral effort. To become conscious of it involves recognizing the dark aspects of the personality as present and real. This act is the essential condition for any kind of self-knowledge.” ~ Carl Jung

ESTP

Flexible and tolerant, they take a pragmatic approach focused on immediate results. Theories and conceptual explanations bore them – they want to act energetically to solve the problem. Focus on the here-and-now, spontaneous, enjoy each moment that they can be active with others. Enjoy material comforts and style. Learn best through doing.

  • ESTP  Shadow: ISTJ.
    Can become stubborn about their perception of the past and fixated on its relation to the present (Si). Can become critical, disgruntled with disorder, illogical, or inefficiency (Te). Rigidly following a belief system or what they personally think is important, with accompanying childish and/or selfish behaviour (Fi). Over-reading between the lines, often misinterpreting someone’s actions and seeing negative intentions where there are none (Ne).

ISTP

Tolerant and flexible, quiet observers until a problem appears, then act quickly to find workable solutions. Analyze what makes things work and readily get through large amounts of data to isolate the core of practical problems. Interested in cause and effect, organize facts using logical principles, value efficiency.

  • ISTP Shadow: ESTJ
    Can become stubborn about organising things and insist on a systematic approach (Te). Prefer not to focus on the past but can be quite critical of past performances and overuse negative experiences to inform decisions (Si). Interpret situations in a naive way, inferring malice where none exists (Ne). Spend money and time on things that are unimportant and care little about the value of things (Fi).

ESFP

Outgoing, friendly, and accepting. Exuberant lovers of life, people, and material comforts. Enjoy working with others to make things happen. Bring common sense and a realistic approach to their work, and make work fun. Flexible and spontaneous, adapt readily to new people and environments. Learn best by trying a new skill with other people.

  • ESFP Shadow: ISFJ
    Can become stubborn about their perception of the past and fixated on its relation to the present (Si). Can be quite critical and disgruntled about the expectations of the group to the point of rebellion and disengaging (Fe). May make statements or believe in ideas that are contradictory and illogical (Ti). Over-reading between the lines, often misinterpreting someone’s actions and seeing negative intentions where there are none (Ne).

ISFP

Quiet, friendly, sensitive, and kind. Enjoy the present moment, what’s going on around them. Like to have their own space and to work within their own time frame. Loyal and committed to their values and to people who are important to them. Dislike disagreements and conflicts, do not force their opinions or values on others.

  • ISFP Shadow: ESFJ
    Stubborn about how others affect them and resist being pulled into being responsible for others feelings and choices (Fe). Prefer not to focus on the past but can be quite critical of past performances and overuse negative experiences to inform decisions (Si). Interpret situations in a naive way, inferring malice where none exists (Ne). Caught up in pointing out others’ inconsistencies, with a dogmatic tendency to adhere to one principle rather than seeing its distinctions (Ti).

ESTJ

Practical, realistic, matter-of-fact. Decisive, quickly move to implement decisions. Organize projects and people to get things done, focus on getting results in the most efficient way possible. Take care of routine details. Have a clear set of logical standards, systematically follow them and want others to also. Forceful in implementing their plans.

  • ESTJ Shadow: ISTP
    Can be stubborn about the models and principles they’ve adopted, categorising everything simplistically and robotically following the principles (Ti). Go on about “facts,” blocking others’ proposed actions, or get caught up in the moment and engage in impulsive behaviour (Se). Envision how something will play out and ignore signs that it won’t work out, foreseeing disaster or nothing at all (Ni). Convinced others don’t like, appreciate, or need them, and over-accommodate others needs (Fe)

ISTJ

Quiet, serious, earn success by thoroughness and dependability. Practical, matter-of-fact, realistic, and responsible. Decide logically what should be done and work toward it steadily, regardless of distractions. Take pleasure in making everything orderly and organized – their work, their home, their life. Value traditions and loyalty.

  • ISTJ Shadow: ESTP
    Stubborn about going on impulse and insist that they have an accurate read of the situation (Se). Prefer not to articulate operating principles and can get stuck in models and frameworks they have learned or adapted (Ti). Over-address others’ concerns and feel disappointment over a false sense of closeness (Fe). Make dire predictions with certainty and mistake deep symbolism as a guidepost for life (Ni).

ESFJ

Warmhearted, conscientious, and cooperative. Want harmony in their environment, work with determination to establish it. Like to work with others to complete tasks accurately and on time. Loyal, follow through even in small matters. Notice what others need in their day-by-day lives and try to provide it. Want to be appreciated for who they are and for what they contribute.

  • ESFJ Shadow: ISFP
    Be stubborn about values as they crusade for a particular cause, turning off people instead of mobilising them (Fi). Go on about “facts,” blocking others’ proposed actions, or get caught up in the moment and engage in impulsive behaviour (Se). Envision how something will play out and ignore signs that it won’t work out, foreseeing disaster or nothing at all (Ni). analyse, lash out if others criticise their logic with emotional arguments, and make subjective arguments (Te).

ISFJ

Quiet, friendly, responsible, and conscientious. Committed and steady in meeting their obligations. Thorough, painstaking, and accurate. Loyal, considerate, notice and remember specifics about people who are important to them, concerned with how others feel. Strive to create an orderly and harmonious environment at work and at home.

  • ISFJ Shadow: ESFP
    Stubborn about going on impulse and insist that they have an accurate read of the situation (Se). Dwell on conflicts in beliefs, being critical, and locking into their desires by bulldozing others (Fi). Spend unnecessary time establishing order, planning, and misguide themselves and others in the process (Te). Make dire predictions with certainty and mistake deep symbolism as a guidepost for life (Ni)

ENTJ

Frank, decisive, assume leadership readily. Quickly see illogical and inefficient procedures and policies, develop and implement comprehensive systems to solve organizational problems. Enjoy long-term planning and goal setting. Usually well informed, well read, enjoy expanding their knowledge and passing it on to others. Forceful in presenting their ideas.

  • ENTJ Shadow: INTP
    Can be stubborn about the models and principles they’ve adopted, categorising everything simplistically and robotically following the principles (Ti). Oblivious to unspoken potentials and get off track with inferences and interconnections (Ne). Cling to what they are used to; repeat themselves in ritualistic fashion (Si). Convinced others don’t like, appreciate, or need them, and over-accommodate others’ needs (Fe).

INTJ

Have original minds and great drive for implementing their ideas and achieving their goals. Quickly see patterns in external events and develop long-range explanatory perspectives. When committed, organize a job and carry it through. Skeptical and independent, have high standards of competence and performance – for themselves and others.

  • INTJ Shadow: ENTP
    Be stubborn about responding to emerging information and locking on to a hidden meaning (Ne). Prefer not to articulate operating principles and can get stuck in models and frameworks they have learned or adapted (Ti). Over-address others’ concerns and feel disappointment over a false sense of closeness (Fe). Get stuck in impressions of how things were and resist change; waste time reviewing the impact of the past (Si).

ENTP

Quick, ingenious, stimulating, alert, and outspoken. Resourceful in solving new and challenging problems. Adept at generating conceptual possibilities and then analyzing them strategically. Good at reading other people. Bored by routine, will seldom do the same thing the same way, apt to turn to one new interest after another.

  • ENTP Shadow: INTJ
    Be stubborn about perceptions of how the future will be, and lock onto a vision that won’t happen (Ni). Can become critical, disgruntled with disorder, illogic, or inefficiency (Te). Rigidly following a belief system or what they personally think is important, with accompanying childish and/or selfish behaviour (Fi). Excessively seek physical stimulation or following the urge to do nothing; zero in on isolated details, acting impulsively on them (Se).

INTP

Seek to develop logical explanations for everything that interests them. Theoretical and abstract, interested more in ideas than in social interaction. Quiet, contained, flexible, and adaptable. Have unusual ability to focus in depth to solve problems in their area of interest. Skeptical, sometimes critical, always analytical.

  • INTP Shadow: ENTJ
    Can become stubborn about organising things and insist on a systematic approach (Te). Indulge negative thoughts of how events will unfold (Ni). Dwell on the perceived “realities” of a situation; act highly impulsively (Se). Spend money and time on things that are unimportant and care little about the value of things (Fi).

ENFJ

Warm, empathetic, responsive, and responsible. Highly attuned to the emotions, needs, and motivations of others. Find potential in everyone, want to help others fulfill their potential. May act as catalysts for individual and group growth. Loyal, responsive to praise and criticism. Sociable, facilitate others in a group, and provide inspiring leadership.

  • ENFJ Shadow: INFP
    Be stubborn about values as they crusade for a particular cause, turning off people instead of mobilising them (Fi). Oblivious to unspoken potentials and get off track with inferences and interconnections (Ne). Cling to what they are used to; repeat themselves in ritualistic fashion (Si). analyse, lash out if others criticise their logic with emotional arguments, and make subjective arguments (Te).

INFJ

Seek meaning and connection in ideas, relationships, and material possessions. Want to understand what motivates people and are insightful about others. Conscientious and committed to their firm values. Develop a clear vision about how best to serve the common good. Organized and decisive in implementing their vision.

  • INFJ Shadow: ENFP
    Be stubborn about responding to emerging information and locking on to a hidden meaning (Ne). Dwell on conflicts in beliefs, being critical, and locking into their desires by bulldozing others (Fi). Spend unnecessary time establishing order, planning, and misguide themselves and others in the process (Te). Get stuck in impressions of how things were and resist change; waste time reviewing the impact of the past (Si)

ENFP

Warmly enthusiastic and imaginative. See life as full of possibilities. Make connections between events and information very quickly, and confidently proceed based on the patterns they see. Want a lot of affirmation from others, and readily give appreciation and support. Spontaneous and flexible, often rely on their ability to improvise and their verbal fluency.

  • ENFP Shadow: INFJ
    Be stubborn about perceptions of how the future will be, and lock onto a vision that won’t happen (Ni). Can be quite critical and disgruntled about the expectations of the group to the point of rebellion and disengaging (Fe). May make statements or believe in ideas that are contradictory and illogical (Ti). Excessively seek physical stimulation or following the urge to do nothing; zero in on isolated details, acting impulsively on them (Se)

INFP

Idealistic, loyal to their values and to people who are important to them. Want an external life that is congruent with their values. Curious, quick to see possibilities, can be catalysts for implementing ideas. Seek to understand people and to help them fulfill their potential. Adaptable, flexible, and accepting unless a value is threatened.

  • INFP Shadow: ENFJ
    Stubborn about how others affect them and resist being pulled into being responsible for others feelings and choices (Fe). Indulge negative thoughts of how events will unfold (Ni). Dwell on the perceived “realities” of a situation; act highly impulsively (Se). Caught up in pointing out others’ inconsistencies, with a dogmatic tendency to adhere to one principle rather than seeing its distinctions (Ti).

Some people are already straying into negative territory of hating on the writers for not initially giving this to us. No they didn’t initially give it to us but right after 2x07 aired they heard our complaints and in the next script they wrote (2x07 came out around the time they were writing 2x17) they put both a before and after sex scene in, something that I’ll note no other couple on the show has gotten, with all other couples getting either only a before sex scene or an after sex scene.

Let’s focus on positivity and the fact that the Shadowhunters writers and show runners have tried to make up for their past errors rather then stewing in negativity about events that have passed. No other show I’ve ever watched has taken fan criticism and actually listened like this. Shadowhunters actually cares about its fans and the people watching the show. You don’t have to sing them high praises but tweeting them shit is only continuing past hate instead of spreading positive messages and letting them know we’re thankful for being heard.

Spiked Skin Glamour

This is a protective/comfort glamour I made for myself to feel tough as shit but still comfortable and warm in my own skin.

This is best to do in the shower, especially after a strong negative event or right before an event that you will need strength for.

Materials:
-Yourself
-Bar soap
-A sigil to match intent (optional)

Start by washing all negativity from yourself as you shower. Wash your hair and visualize all negative thoughts foaming up and washing away with the shampoo. Then take a moment to try to replenish some positivity to replace where those negative thoughts were. To add a physical aspect to this, visualize things that comfort you as you add conditioner to your hair. Then let those absorb into yourself.
After you feel comfortable with you mood or at least as comfortable as you can get, grab a bar of soap and scratch some notches into it. Don’t dig them too deep but make it look rough and bumpy. If you want, you can carve a sigil in too. Then wash your body with the soap, visualizing that your skin takes on the roughness of the soap as you go. Continue until all the ridges and bumps have smoothed. Then as you wash the soap from yourself use the incantation (out loud or in your head):

The outside of my skin is spikes
The inside of it velvet
And anyone/thing that dares to test this
Sure will go through hell for it

The glamour will last as long as you remember it’s there. Go be tough as nails.

i keep seeing this trend of ppl being really insecure about their writing to the point they don’t even consider posting or writing at all. fandom is supposed to be fun and obviously no one wants their fic to be “bad fic” but i think it’s really sad for so many reasons. like writing is fun, writing is expressive, it’s creative, it brings people together… 

so what if your fic isn’t the best? if someone leaves a nasty comment on your fic, delete it and block them. i’m not saying it won’t get to you, but i’m saying it’s probably gonna happen especially for new writers.

and if you are new to writing, you’re probably not gonna be very good at it right away. you may even suck at it for a while. own it. suck at writing. post bad fic to your heart’s content. and i promise you, in time, you’ll start to see improvement in your writing. and if nothing else, you’ll be having fun and making friends because most ppl won’t be assholes and leave horrible comments. most ppl will love that you contributed to their fandom–especially for smaller fandoms and pairings–and most ppl, if they don’t like something, they ignore it 

just remember no one is perfect. writing is a skill and craft, just like drawing, that takes years to hone. if you don’t do it, then you’ll never get better; if you don’t share it, you’ll never be able to get feedback. if it’s something you want to be really good at and maybe follow for a career, find resources to teach yourself and write write write 

but don’t let yourself be so scared that you never write, don’t tell yourself you’ll never be as good-as-so-and-so. don’t strive to be as good as whatever BNF is in your fandom. strive to be as good as you, strive to be the best you can be. own your writing, because its yours not theirs. and guess what, a lot of well known authors are ppl who just got lucky. maybe they’re good, maybe they’re great, maybe they’re just mediocre. at some point they sucked too, at some point no one knew them, and then one day they wrote enough that ppl took notice. but what matters is that they’re writing and having fun

so go write, embrace your bad fics and write because i promise you it will be worth it

2017 #borderlinebrilliance

Hello everyone, I apologize for the lateness of this announcement but as some of you may know, May is BPD Awareness Month and we are going to celebrate it much like we did last year, with a series of #borderlinebrilliance events every Monday in the month of May, starting this weekend on May 1st!

What is #borderlinebrilliance?

#Borderlinebrilliance is an annual series of events in the month of May for the BPD community to celebrate BPD Awareness Month!  The name is inspired by the selfie blog brilliantborderlines which posts selfies of people with BPD. We believe that we as a community should celebrate all the ways that we are brilliant as people, both as a way to feel good about ourselves and as a way to breakdown the stigma against BPD.  It’s a way to say “we are more than our disorder” and also a way to say that having BPD does not make us any less wonderful or worthy of love and respect and celebration.  

BPD Awareness Month in the past has been fairly negative, an event geared towards educating neurotypical individuals and non-borderlines about the harsh realities of living with borderline personality disorder. While awareness is important for people who don’t know much about BPD, it’s just as important, perhaps more so, to encourage acceptance of the disorder and we who have it. We already know how horrible this illness can be–we talk about the realities of living with BPD all the time.  So this time we want to talk about the fact that we are worthy and deserving of love and acceptance and respect, and a huge part of that is finding a way to believe that about ourselves.   We want BPD Awareness Month to be for borderlines as much as it is about borderlines, and here at SBD we are in a position to celebrate our community, to celebrate each other and our achievements, to support each other, and have fun.  

One of the most radical things that so many of us are trying to learn on our personal journeys through life with BPD is self-love. Self-love is the most crucial and most difficult thing to learn and to accept on the path of recovery.  Since many of us may never fully recover from BPD, we have to learn how to love ourselves, BPD and all.  That means finding a way to conceptualize this disorder so that it is more than solely a source of self-hatred.  It’s a way of helping our community find the hope that things can get better and that we do have things worth celebrating, that we are worth celebrating. So on every Monday for the month of May we’ve planned an event where members of our community celebrate and support our brilliant members.

The #borderlinebrilliance Schedule:

Every Monday during May we are going to have a photo event where you are encouraged to post a photo (or two, or three, or however many you’d like!) that connects to that day’s theme/prompt.  The themes are going to be similar to last year’s.  They are:

  • May 1st - Selfie Day!  Post a selfie, ideally one that you feel particularly good about.
  • May 8th - Identity! Post a photo of something that you feel expresses your identity or a component of your identity. This could be artwork, a character you deeply relate to, a poem, a place or an event that is significant to who you are, etc. We want this month to be about self-love, so try to focus on a part of yourself that you like, that you’re proud of, that you respect, etc.
  • May 15th - Mirrors! Post a photo of something that you feel expresses how you relate to the phenomenon of mirroring. This could include traits or characteristics of another person or character that you’ve adopted (even temporarily) into your own identity, a trait/characteristic/mannerism you’re prone to mirror while in the presence of another person, or a trait/characteristic of another person or character that you want to be able to mirror.
  • May 22nd - Black and White! Post a photo that you feel expresses the concept of Black and White.   This could be a black and white photo, a selfie of you wearing black and white, or something more abstract that expresses black and white thinking or extremes.
  • May 29th - Self-Care! We’ll be posting some guides for how to create a Self-Soothe Kit or a Comfort Box, and we’d like people to share photosets of their creations! Practicing self-care is an important part of working towards self-love, so celebrate the ways that you take care of yourself and the things that help you feel better.

When you post your photos or your prompt responses, remember to tag them with #borderlinebrilliance! We’ll be tracking the tag and will reblog tagged posts to this blog so that the community can see them and celebrate them, and encourage each other.

-Your SBD Mod Team

EDIT: For all the members of our community who feel uncomfortable posting photos of themselves for various reasons, that is absolutely valid! I’ve tried to make the prompts (except for the selfie day) things that you don’t necessarily have to take a picture of yourself in order to participate in, and you don’t have to commit to participating in every event so you’re more than welcome to skip the selfie day if that makes you uncomfortable, but we are also totally on board with the people who would rather post artwork or written responses to the prompts instead of photos!

Let’s examine a few important CS moments/milestones:

  • First kiss - In the same episode, we learn Neal is alive.
  • “There’s not a day will go by I won’t think of you.” “Good.” - Separated by a year and a curse in which Emma nearly gets engaged to a flying monkey.
  • Emma tells Killian she’s tired of living in the past and actively flirts with him - his lips have just been cursed by Zelena.
  • The kiss outside Granny’s - Marian reveal a few minutes later that causes Emma to put the brakes on their relationship for the next few episodes.
  • First date - Killian’s “cursed” hand.
  • Emma says “I love you” for the first time - Immediately becomes the Dark One and is transported to another realm.
  • “I DO want a future with you.” - Killian dies a few minutes later and is turned into a Dark One against his wishes.
  • “All sins can be forgiven when someone loves you.” - The entire ending of “Birth” JFC someone hold me.
  • “I love you” in a Nobody Is In Mortal Peril Scenario - They go home and make out for 30 seconds before that fucking dirigible ruins everything.
  • Killian is angsting over whether David will accept him as Emma’s potential husband but eventually gets an enthusiastic “Hell yeah!” from his future father-in-law - Five minutes later he learns he murdered David’s father in cold blood.
  • Killian seeks help and tries to do the right thing and works up the courage to tell Emma - Unplanned proposal because he can see how much she wants it, and keeps a secret 0.25 seconds after Emma says “no secrets.” Is overjoyed that she says yes for approximately three seconds before the Furrowed Brow of Self-Loathing and Awful Secrets returns.

If any of us are salty about current events or negative about prospects for future episodes, this is why.

LET CAPTAIN SWAN LIVE.

workday witchcraft: negativity banishing spell

Hey y’all! This is my first installment in a new series that I’m calling Workday Witchcraft - meant to focus around simple spells you can do in a five-minute bathroom break, with nothing that you wouldn’t find at your desk/in your purse or backpack or whatever bag you generally carry. these are meant to be quick, accessible, and help you out with something that’s going on in your day.

this is a spell to banish any negative events or emotions that you may be having because of work; it requires a pen and a bathroom.

  • take yourself a bathroom break, and make sure you bring a pen with you.
  • lock yourself in a stall. take a medium-length piece of toilet paper; fold it over a couple of times until you have a single square to write on.
  • write down whatever you want to get rid of; that terrible customer, your flighty manager, your IT department getting to your ticket four days after you submitted it. whatever.
  • drop toilet paper in toilet bowl. wait until the ink starts to run.
  • loudly think (or say, if you’re alone and comfortable with that) something along the lines of “With water’s aid, I banish these difficulties.”
  • flush the toilet. go about your day!

I hope this is a useful tool for all of you to have slightly easier days. I recommend doing this one either halfway through your day or after an event so unbearably frustrating that you need a little break.

thanks all, and happy witching!

#52 [Finn Balor]

Requested, #52. “Shh, I promise its all gonna be alright now. I promise.“ (Prompt from here). Requested by @nickysmum1909

Author Note: Pure fluff.

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“Hey, gorgeous.”

Your eyes closed, as a breath slipped past your lips. Hearing your husband’s voice over the phone, calling you by his favorite nickname for you…it was a bittersweet moment, honestly.

“Hey,” you replied, trying to keep a strong tone, your eyes closed. “What are you up to?”

“Just getting to the arena,” Finn answered. “You OK?”

“Stressed,” you admitted, knowing it wasn’t worth it to pretend you were anything but. Finn would be able to tell the second you tried lying, and honestly, you just didn’t have the energy to even attempt a façade.

“What’s goin’ on?”

“…shit day. Shit few days, honestly.”

“Tell me about it.”

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Steven U.

aka “How did Steven go from being a kid with lots to learn to the moral center of the show?”

I’ve decided to take in depth looks at the characters of Steven Universe, their relationships, their developments and the places I think the story line failed them. I decided to start with Steven because he is the main character of Steven Universe. This will likely be a series of posts, which I’ll compile together later. This one will focus solely on Steven as a character, so let us begin.

Pre-Series Steven

Steven Universe is the very first Gem/Human hybrid born approximately 6000 years after the gem wars. His birth meant that his mother could no longer exist, she had to give up her physical form. From that point on Steven was raised by his father Greg Universe presumably in his van until around the time he was 12/13. During this time Steven resided in Beach City and was close to the residents while looking forward to his magical destiny with the Crystal Gems.

So at this point, Steven is this innocent goofball who loves people, music, video games, and food. He doesn’t know a lot about the gems besides they’re magical warriors and they know Rose Quartz. 

Actually, that means that Steven has probably witnessed the gems fighting monsters in Beach City before. Like imagine the magic of seeing these warriors ladies fighting giant monsters, protecting you, your home the world, and you’re supposed to become one of them… That must have been so amazing for him.

Season 1 Steven

So, Season 1 Steven is the Steven we meet in the first episode.

He’s just recently moved in with the gems. He hasn’t learned to use any of his powers yet. Over the course of the first half of the season (the first 26 episodes), Steven learns the ropes of being a Crystal Gem. In almost every episode it’s like Steven vs the problem of the week. 

I think the general tone of the show was done fairly well, because I remember a few people used to get agitated that we were just watching Steven fumble around while the gems were off doing cool stuff. We wanted to be where the gems were and so did Steven. Anyway by the end of this portion he becomes an actual part of the team.

In the second half of Season 1(episodes 27-52), there’s much more focus on Steven and the gems bonding. During these episodes Steven is much more experienced with Gem stuff than he was before. He still has a lot to learn, but he’s got the basics down. He gains a new power, he experiences fusion, and he tries hard to prove that he deserves to be a Crystal Gem. 

In contrast to the first half where he was goofy and didn’t seem to take things as seriously as he should, this Steven is taking this job more seriously while keeping in place his optimism. He seems aware that there is a lot he doesn’t really know about and he’s ready to learn those things.

Season 2 Steven

 At the beginning of Season 2 and throughout the season even, we have a Steven who was negatively impacted by the events of Jailbreak. He wants to cut off his connections with humans because of all the danger and he’s scared. A whole bunch of pressure just collapsed on him. He’s beginning to wonder about his mother and his humanity. Season 2 had a much darker tone than the previous season and that was at least partially because Steven was starting to struggle.

Honestly it’s hard to pinpoint exactly when the shift of Steven becoming the moral center happened, but I feel like it started when Peridot was unbubbled. Steven was Peridot’s introduction to the earth and during this arc the the focus switches from Steven to Peridot while still being in Steven’s point of view. At this point they kind of dropped everything that was building up with Steven to focus on the Cluster situation which is fine, but they didn’t really pick it back up until mid/late season 3.

Season 3 Steven

And I think this where the crew really started to drop the ball with Steven. This is when the world starts to feel like it revolves around Steven. So Steven locates Malachite using his watermelon dream powers, then Steven prevents the cluster from forming by talking it out of it, then Steven convinces Lapis to stay on earth, then Steven convinces Lapis and Peridot to be roommates, then Steven tricks the Rubies. It was even Steven’s idea to bring Pearl on Greg’s trip to Empire city. Steven who is just a kid is suddenly fixing all the problems and giving all the advice.

Then the story remembers the build up from season 2 and tosses him in an arc with Amethyst. Then he bubbles Bismuth and almost immediately after finds out that Rose shattered Pink Diamond.

Season 4 Steven

So far Season 4 Steven has been a continuation of Season 3 Steven. He’s still giving out advice and fixing everyone’s problems with the occasional mention of his problems, but I feel like they kind of lost him. Like they reversed his character development because he seems less mature now then he was in season 2. And I’ve discussed this before so I’ll just quote myself,

Before I end this post, I’d like to take a moment to address a big part of Steven’s portrayal which is his innocence and naivety. I think the story line often treats Steven’s good nature and will to help others as if it’s tied with his innocence and lack of experience and I think that’s part of the reason they avoid addressing the effect these experiences would have on Steven for too long. The writers might be worried that if they go serious for too long than they’ll lose his childlike sense of wonder and his will to help people, but I think that’s not necessarily the case. My favorite quote from Wonder over Yonder is, “The Helper seeks to help because he knows what it’s like to be helpless.”

That is to say, I believe that growing up a bit wouldn’t hinder Steven from being caring or from having fun. I think it’d be a great way to show someone choosing to be kind and enjoy life despite being hurt or realizing the world isn’t as nice as they first thought.

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Guide To Colormancy

Colormancy is using colors and their correspondences for divining purposes. It is a method of divination that I haven’t found too much about on here, so here is a little guide to using colormancy, different techniques, and color correspondences.

Techniques:

There are plenty of different ways to use colormancy, for it is a rather broad form of divination. A few suggestions on what to use:

  • Cards: using colored cards can be a very easy way to use colormancy. You may then use them exactly how you would any form of cartomancy. It is my personal preferred way of using colormancy, mine are about the size of standard tarot cards and I lay them out as if I was doing a Tarot reading.
  • Buttons: putting a bunch of small colored buttons into a bag and pulling them out one at a time or tossing them onto a divination grid is another easy method of colormancy. You could also use colored rocks, beads, crayons, marbles, or anything else small that you can easily pull from a bag.
  • Color Wheel: Simply taking a color wheel and turning it into a spinner and flicking it when you wish to get a fast easy answer is an easy beginner method.
  • Pendulums: If you have a pendulum or necklace this is another easy method. Print out or make a pendulum chart or grid and when asking your questions interpret which color the pendulum swings over.
  • Color Generators: For those who enjoy using technomancy and modern witchcraft you can use random color generator sites to randomize and provide you with the colors in response to you questions. It is also a fast way for witches on the go who have a cellphone.
  • Dice: Rolling a dice with different colored sides is another easy way for beginners in divination and colormancy to start out. If you don’t have a dice with different colored sides you can easily make one by finding a dice you do not mind painting up and paint the sides with either paint or nail polish. You could also, if you are good at arts and crafts, make your own dice from paper and color the sides.

There are numerous other ways to use colormancy of course. Find what works for you best, these were just some easy suggestions.

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anonymous asked:

Sense the SDCC thing, I've been seeing a lot of art and fics that are dragging Kara/Supergirl. Like I get that some people are upset at the actors but the characters have nothing to do with any of this. I started watching the show because I read the comics when I was a kid, I just loved Supergirl as a hero. It's really kind of upsetting. They're treating a character like shit because they don't like something the person who portrays them did.

So this is a long dissection of the current Supergirl fan behavior, but if you’ve been wondering what the hell is going on, you might be interested in reading these concepts.

I understand why you’re upset. I am too, because Kara is such a wonderful character. I don’t think I’ve ever liked a character as much as her.

But there are two things you should realize when seeing this:

1. They never really cared about Kara to being with. Your loved Kara-focused content isn’t changing or leaving, because these people were not making the Kara content. They were likely initially making Supercorp Lena-focused content.

2. It’s not even about her.

I think what a lot of people who are newly joining this SDCC homophobia discussion are missing is that a lot of the most vicious backlash is not from people who are uniquely upset over this issue (though there are certainly people who are- and understandably) but from people who have had consistently overzealous reactions of hate toward actors and characters alike, save their fave (pretty much Katie Mcgrath/Lena Luthor).

On tumblr, and very noticeably in this fandom, there are sections of fans who seem to genuinely enjoy hating things. It’s a sport.

They’re having fun sending the most hurtful things they can think of to actors, and are the quickest to begin making vicious memes and jokes surrounding a negative event, before there has been a consensus within the community of how bad the “sin” was.

The “punishment” begins before the jury is out, and trying to defend those in the situation feels like trying to put a bullet back into a gun after it’s been fired. 

(Maybe it’s more like stepping in front of a bullet, because once these few have decided that the target is guilty, they won’t stop, and anyone who disagrees with them is guilty, too. Blogs and actors alike.)

This is partially why my discussion of the SDCC event had a “are they homophobic” slant (other then that I believe the nature of the event itself- if it was homophobic- hinges on the feeling behind the words, unlike most other instances of homophobia. It’s complicated and some people understandably disagree so far, but it’s really how I see it and I’ll be talking more about it a little later in different posts).

People started calling Melissa and Jeremy homophobic right away. Started targeting Kara as a character. Started “spite shipping” Lena and Reign. 

Or alternative to these options- immediately fan re-casted Kara as someone else to still be able to ship Supercorp. 

From where I stand, if you can so easily let go of this characterization of Kara, you never really cared about her as a character to begin with. If you don’t know that this was The™ person to play Kara Danvers, you’re likely more invested in the role she plays for Lena than for her as herself. 

And regardless of gender, I am uninterested in ships in which one character exists for the sake of another. (Lena existing purely for the sake of Kara’s development squicks me, too)

Recasting a woc as Kara doesn’t sit well with me either, for that reason. It’s a similar concept to how Maggie must exist as her own complex and valued person, apart from Alex, because she is a character of color.

I can’t really read the minds of these people, and I guess I could be wrong, but it’s hard for me to imagine actual Kara fans recasting her in this way.

Essentially, a lot of these people, or at least a very vocal minority, are so quick to accept that something horrible has happened because they want an excuse to hate them. 

They like it. 

Maybe it’s because they’re upset with the way society is and want someone to suffer for it. Maybe it’s because they have unresolved anger in their lives. 

But as it stands, it appears as if these people are using moral rightness and social activism as an excuse to be as mean as they want.

And like @youngbloodbuzz said in the link above, you start to look at their past behaviors in a new light. Were they genuinely upset at characters? Actors? Did they really feel like a travesty was occurring? That someone needed protecting?

Or were they just looking for reasons to call someone a “stupid cunt”?

It’s like they’re genuinely thinking, “It’s okay for me to make fun of someone’s physical appearance, call them intense names, make memes about how horrible they are innately, and send them death threats because they said something problematic once that a lot of people will hear.”

Sometimes they’ll call it “coping”, and maybe some people truly believe that makes it okay. But coping mechanisms are not above reproach.

If I hurt someone because I’m upset about something- even if I hurt someone because they did something wrong- it doesn’t erase the fact that I hurt them. We are still responsible to how we react to bad situations. We are still responsible for not reacting in an overly inflated way. 

Sometimes people will focus on how those that they’re attacking have more of a responsibility to be good people. That they are but mere bloggers, screaming into the void. They can’t possibly be accountable for how they behave. 

“I’m tired of talking about how bad the fans are, we should be focusing on what they did wrong!”

It creates an atmosphere in which an honest mistake from a well known person is much more crucifiable than the purposeful cruelty of the fans. We’re discouraged from criticizing popular blogs because the person they’re attacking has a wider audience and larger consequences for mistakes, as if popular bloggers don’t reach and influence thousands of people and as if we aren’t allowed to shape the way our own community functions.

Meanwhile, people who genuinely value morality and social activism fall prey to this thinking. They’ll even join in on the action, because they think it’s a moral act. 

Rebellion, somehow. Righteous fire. 

It’s a twisted mindset that spreads because people are afraid to be on the wrong side of morality.

Even people who really think the reaction is “too far” are quiet about it because they agree with the fact that what the offending celebrity did was wrong, and see that the level of vitriol for them now is overwhelming.

This is how I imagine that people who believe Melissa and Jeremy’s words to be homophobic but who do not think a couple of mistakes makes someone pure evil are relating to the current tumblr dialogue: 

“Wow this thing was homophobic!”

“Huh, yeah, I agree. Maybe not intentionally, but yeah.”

“That means this person is homophobic!”

“Uh, well, not sure I’d go that far-”

“Oh and look at this other somewhat problematic thing they did a while ago”

“Hmm well that’s bad, but not everyone outside of social activism gets that that’s a bad thing, so I can see-”

“Wow did you hear that this person also has an opinion about the show that I disagree with! What the fuck is wrong with them?”

“Oh. Well I actually agree with them in that situation but-”

“Omg they think that their character is like this! Do they know them at all??? What kind of terrible actor doesn’t know their character?”

“Well that’s a pretty common way that people are reading this character. Just because you-”

“Here’s some conjecture about their personal life that I imagine happened that paints them in a bad light.”

“Well, you don’t know that, but either way you shouldn’t be diving into their personal-”

“Oh and here’s a totally real story from an anon about someone they know who knew this person in the past and says they were a jerk at this one point-”

And it becomes too much. If you don’t really love the actor, really love their character, you either extract yourself from the group or you ignore the opinions you disagree with. 

It becomes quite clear that these people want to feel this way and won’t be changing any time soon.

And the more there seems to be a consensus about the issue, the less willing people are to speak out, for fear of rejection.

The Spiral of Silence theory is a good way to explain it:

To avoid isolation, people tend to refrain from publicly stating their views on controversial matters when they perceive that doing so would attract criticism, scorn, laughter, or other signs of disapproval. 

Conversely, those who sense that their opinions will meet with approval tend to voice them fearlessly and at times vociferously. 

Indeed, speaking out in such a way tends to enhance the threat of isolation faced by supporters of the opposing position, reinforcing their sense of being alone. 

Thus a spiraling process begins, the dominant camp becoming ever louder and more self-confident while the other camp becomes increasingly silent.

Importantly, the spiral of silence occurs only in connection with controversial issues that have a strong moral component. What triggers a person’s fear of isolation is the belief that others will consider him or her not merely mistaken but morally bad. Accordingly, issues that lack a moral component or on which there is general consensus leave no room for a spiral of silence.

Additionally, I believe that if someone does speak out against the (perceived) majority, it is most likely to be someone who is very strongly opposing of it.

A person who believes “It isn’t homophobic at all! They are innocent!” is more likely to voice their disagreements than “Okay I agree with your assessment of the situation but I think maybe we’re being too harsh…”

So the “minority”- who could technically very well be the quiet majority (people with middle-ground opinions just don’t get as many followers)- stays quiet. 

They might even change their minds to agree with the “majority”, over time. 

Believing that the mindset of the group that you belong to is wrong is psychologically uncomfortable, so it is not uncommon for someone to try to adjust their thinking to fit those they feel connected to.

So, eventually, the only people who are speaking at all are those “majorities” who hate these people. Or those who act like they do for notes.

And then this thinking escalates amongst those still talking about it (remember: because it’s fun for them and they want to milk it for as long as possible) and it quickly translates to hating their character, once they’ve temporarily run out of material to be angry with the actor for.

So, back to your concern, how long until, “it’s hard to look at Melissa as Kara right now, because of how I fear she might feel about gay people” becomes something like “Mon-El is abusive, but Kara can choke so whatever” ?

(And on that note, one should consider how much they really wanted to protect Kara Danvers’ characterization from Mon-El’s influence, and how much was just a part of their hate-hobby.)

Maybe it won’t go that far. I hope it doesn’t. I hope people come to their senses about this.

But it’s escalated even since yesterday, when I started making this post. The language being used to describe Melissa when she is speaking normally, about normal things that some people have a difference of opinion on, is abhorrent. 


So if you’re just trying to enjoy fandom in a peaceful and creative way, I encourage you to watch how the people you interact with react when something negative happens.

Are they disheartened? Crushed? Are they considering leaving the show and it’s fandom? Writing serious essays about how they’re hurt?

…Or do they come alive?

Are they incredibly angry, and then making jokes immediately? Memes and edits and creative content more so than they do on a peaceful day? Do you get the sense that they aren’t going anywhere, for a long time, even though they don’t seem to enjoy anything about the show?

Then you might be better off unfollowing them.

Of course, not everyone who makes a joke about negative things is thus enjoying it. It makes people feel better to make light of situations as well as to express anger, and doing so doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re drama-seeking.

And sometimes people slip into the mob more than they would like to have, retrospectively. Say cruel things that they regret later. 

It happens, and tumblr can be a persuasive and pervasive place. 

If you follow someone who initially reblogs some slightly overly hateful things, but who then backs off after the first wave, they probably aren’t the kind of person who is fueled by anger. 

I’ve seen a lot of people I considered to be level-headed get wrapped up in overly aggressive, black and white thinking during the initial reaction to events.

But then sometimes, a couple of weeks later, they’ll post a tentative “Anyone else still wanna kinda like this thing, even though we said it was bad before?” and they’ll get enough approval via reblogs to feel like it’s okay to go back to normal.

Some blogs quietly sort themselves out, in the end.

And if you’re one of those people who goes overboard occasionally, I get it. 

You’re hurt and you didn’t realize that the basis for the fan reaction that you were involved in was morally shallow. That the people you were supporting were not righteously furious, but using righteousness as an excuse to be furious.

But remember the message here: people make mistakes. It’s the patterns that really tell you who they are.

And I think we can be better. Have better patterns, as a group.


In the end, I encourage you to point out when a reaction is too harsh, toward anyone. Even if it’s difficult. Even if you agree that what the person did was pretty bad.

Agreeing that “black and white thinking” is bad can feel like you’re lowering your standards for morality. But I promise, you can still value the things that you value and loathe the things that go against it, without condemning someone’s entire personhood based on a mistake or a handful of mistakes regarding those things.

Even big mistakes.

People are complicated. We are all made up of really good things and really bad things.

It’s easy to believe that someone is wholly bad when they screw up.

The hard part, the part that will ultimately ground you and help you mature, is realizing that someone can have some really bad parts within them and still be good people. (I encourage you to remember that when thinking about yourself, as well.)

The trick is recognizing the difference between when people are making honest mistakes that unintentionally hurt people, and when they’re willfully behaving a certain way because they want to hurt people (or don’t care that they will). 

And further, between when people are lashing out because they’re hurt and when people are inventing hurt to be able to lash out.

These distinctions will help you realize who you can guide or trust to work their issues out on their own when they slip up, and who you should distance yourself from.

Some very vocal portions of the fandom are, unfortunately, the latter.

I had this really involved dream that there was a YOI game revealed, like this kind of life sim thing sort of like Persona but without the fighting? Basically you play as Yuuri training for next year’s Grand Prix but you have to manage his time each day and balance his needs or he’ll burn out. It’s mostly emotional needs, he’s got this happiness/love bar that goes down when he can’t spend much time with Victor (which is sometimes challenging since Victor’s training too), and that causes his performance to suffer (when the bar’s at max he’s like at his ultimate form, when it’s low he’s flubbing all his jumps because relationship woes are distracting him.)

You can increase the happiness bar by spending time with the other people at the rink, or playing with Makkachin or calling Phichit, but obviously going on dates with Victor is the biggest boost. Everyone has a friendship bar too and there are benefits to making everyone extra friendly with Yuuri (Mila might give you tips about good date spots, Yurio will make you katsudon pirozhki which gives Yuuri an energy boost, Yakov will let Yuuri leave practice early sometimes for errands and stuff if you need to.)

Victor’s got his own happiness meter that’s pretty closely tied to Yuuri’s; when one of them is happy, that boosts the other’s mood. If one of them is upset, they’re both going to be hurting. Neglecting their relationship to just focus on skating hurts them both, but luckily there are tons of ways in the game to keep them both happy with their busy schedules. You can look at their schedules to plan dates (different date locations have different benefits), buy flowers and little presents, do considerate things around the apartment, respond correctly in conversations, stuff like that. But there are also negative events that can happen that have to be dealt with, stuff like someone getting sick or hurt and various emotional upsets. Everything can be worked through, but sometimes it can be a challenge.

I wish it was a real game, it was a fun dream and I was sad to wake up.

Sansa’s Psychological ‘Superpower’: Convincing herself shit isn’t quite as bad as it is

Throughout the main narrative and text of ASOIAF, we see Sansa Stark utilize defense mechanisms to survive being beat in front of the court (often enough that almost every member of the kingsguard had done it a few times), being touched by creepy old dudes often, and basically just suffering as a Prisoner of War.  We’re not here to chat about Sansa’s misgivings and mistakes (a young girl, age 11 in the start of AGOT), because there’s nothing to chat about with that - what I am here to chat about is Sansa’s “superpower”, and how it is basically the reason she’s alive.

(It’s not actually a superpower, she’s psychologically trying to ‘safeguard’ herself by pretending that s h i t  i s n ‘ t  b  a d, so just keep reading )

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In all the three panels he appears in this chapter, Kaneki is shown with that same smile. I can’t tell if it’s fake or not, probably not, for as hard as it is to believe it it may actually be that he’s finally believing someone loved him, and yet, this last panel with the centipede gives us a different intake.


He is happy. She is happy. They are looking at her friend’s wedding from afar, and she is happy too. But let us not forget: he is a ghoul and the One Eyed King - this is what the centipede represents. They are hiding and constantly on the run, still in full and massive trouble. Kaneki’s excessive smiles come in contrast to this last image because probably HE IS the one who’s forgetting precisely this. He’s never been well-loved or, to be more exact, he’s never understood when he was. This is a whole new situation for his psyche, and he doesn’t have a definite approach to this yet. Love makes you blind, they say, and that’s just what is happening here.

He said recently to Amon that he was fighting for ghouls simply because there are many amongst ghouls he holds dear, but he was saying this before he realised just how much exactly they hold him dear in return. He may lose his focus. Even coming to this wedding, though watching it from afar, is terribly dangerous: is you misstep you’ll have the whole CCG at your tail. Would another Kaneki have done it? He’s not reckless. Yes, he infiltrated the CCG labs just to save Akira, but had a full-fledged plan.


Things are not well at all. When we read chapters like these we see the pink parts first and foremost. When Touka’s confession appeared in the same chapter where pretty-evil-boy Furuta announced his master plan, it massively overshadowed exactly this. The centipede is a call back to reality and possibly to negatives events. It represents Kaneki’s strength, but also his desire for revenge as he put fought against Jason - and not casually, I deem, Kiyoko’s mutilation at his hands was also revealed in this chapter.


Kaneki is kind. When he first met him, he let Amon go. Yet he harms, even terribly, those who hurt whom he holds dear. Ayato, anyone? Matters not they’re happily in-laws now, it served the purpose to show us a first glimpse of his dark side. As Haise, He wanted to let Tsukiyama go, but to do so, he threw Kanae/Karren down a skyscraper - you can never stop stepping on other people’s corpses: “The world is like an egg: to let something be born, it must be broken.”, As Eto poetically put it. Kiyoko is this chapter is just another metaphorical corpse. Is Kaneki forgetting this heart-wrenching truth?


He can coldly control his cruelty, but at times, he also can’t. And now Touka gives him the ring of her father who lost his mind seeking revenge for her mother. All the while a lovely centipede reminds us that no matter how clear blue the sky is now, this story is, in fact, a tragedy.

“Thoughts in Ice” part 5 by Alex Smith

“Thoughts in ice” is a series I created to represent the temporary nature of the negative thoughts, words, and events that plague our everyday lives.

A few drops of blood were added to each individual letter before freezing to represent the washing away of pain when the letters melt.