needsnotes

Benefits of not being around abusive people:
  • Not having to listen to them
  • Not having to exhaust yourself making them feel good about themselves
  • Not having to listen to lies and twisted re-telling of events
  • Not getting shut down, insulted and humiliated when you try to speak
  • Not having your emotions invalidated and ridiculed
  • Not having everything about you used against you
  • Not being treated like an object or a property
  • Not being yelled and screamed at when you try to stand up for yourself
  • Not having to second guess your every thought and opinion
  • Not having everything you know to be true denied to you constantly
  • Not having to imagine worst case scenarios constantly
  • Not having to bottle up all the fear, pain, and anger
  • Not being self-conscious about your appearance
  • Not having to worry about being degraded, called out or insulted based on your appearance
  • Not being stared at and feeling like you’re being watched and judged no matter what you’re doing
  • Not being glared at and addressed with hatred and scorn
  • Not being forced to compete for attention
  • Not being denied attention
  • Not feeling pathetic and horrible about your needs
  • Not feeling like everyone hates you and you’re unnecessary
  • Liking yourself
  • Loving your body
  • Gaining confidence in yourself
  • Knowing what you can do and how capable you are
  • Being aware of your talents and virtues and feeling proud and content
  • Being able to point out what’s wrong without getting shut down
  • Being able to call anyone out on their shit without getting attacked
  • Being able to express your pain, fear, anger, without getting abused
  • Being accepted
  • Being good enough as you are
  • Being important to yourself and other people
  • Having your feelings and opinions matter
  • Having your point of view matter
  • Having your work and care valued and reciprocated
  • Talking about whatever you feel like talking about
  • Being heard and listened and validated
  • Being allowed to complain and rant and cry 
  • Feeling comfortable asking for what ever you need
  • Feeling entitled to what you need to be alive, healthy, and content
  • Having a clear mind and knowing exactly what is the truth and what isn’t
  • Feeling safe and knowing that nobody is about to attack you

excuse me for not having drawn anything i promised; i am moving and though i probably overestimated my time management skills in general, a lot of other both awesome and horrible things happened alongside it all… oh well ^^; sharing my quick domestic ereri kiss to sate my needs

not heated at all, because they are both beautifully (and self-indulgently) asexual ♡ and they touch lips to pass the time sometimes