Your gender and identity is in no way “too confusing” or elaborate. You have the right to be you, and you don’t have to let anyone make you feel bad for that. Gender can be hard and beautiful and complicated and an ongoing journey. You might need a dozen labels just to describe it to yourself, and that’s okay! You might only need one, and that’s okay!
You have the right to be the awesome person we all know you are. Embrace your gender. Ignore those who try to beat you down for it. Don’t give them that power over you.
Coming to terms with her sexuality hadn’t exactly been easy, but Alex thought that it had gone well enough and she knows how lucky she is to have so many special people in her life who were nothing but supportive of her.
But most of those people simply accepted her, while Maggie knew exactly what she was going through. “Read up on LGBT+ issues, it’ll be good, Danvers. You’ll see that you aren’t the only one who’s going through all this. You aren’t alone.” Maggie had said, making Alex roll her eyes.
“I know that, Maggie, you’re here. I’m not alone.” she had replied.
“I know, babe, but you need to know that there’s an entire community out there who will support you. You might not feel like it now, but you need more than one person as your safe-net, okay?”
Alex had crossed her arms and huffed stubbornly. “I’m gay, Maggie, I know there are a bunch of other people like me out there… J-Just look at how big our Pride Parade is…”
Maggie had mirrored Alex’s stance, crossing her arms, and narrowing her eyes at her girlfriend. “Okay… But being part of this community is more than just being gay, lesbian, or bi. Babe,” Maggie sighed, “You lived your entire life trying to fit in a box, and now you’re just starting to peek out of it. There’s a whole world of concepts and issues that you probably haven’t even heard of, okay? Just- just read up, educate yourself, and I guarantee you’ll find clarity for things you hadn’t even given too much thought about, alright??”
Reluctantly, Alex had nodded in agreement.
And that’s how she had found herself up until four AM, three nights in row, reading up on sexuality and gender. It felt good; some stories had made Alex cry, others had filled her with hope and joy, and she really did feel a connection with people she had never even met.
A couple of months had passed since then; life had been going as well as you could expect when you deal with bad guys and evil organizations on a daily basis, but everything was worth it, because Alex got to go home to Maggie every night.
“Tough day, babe?” Maggie asked, handing Alex a glass of wine, and giving her a sweet kiss.
Alex kissed Maggie back, and gladly accepted the drink. “Just the usual stuff.” she said, trying to shrug it off.
“C’mon, Ally, you know you can tell me anything.” Maggie said with a smile, but it soon disappeared when she saw Alex frowning at her. “What? Did something really bad happen?” She was getting worried.
“Uh…no… you just…” Alex worried her bottom lip, trying to make sense of her discomfort. “You just…y-you called me Ally…”
Maggie tilted her head, frown still in place, “You don’t like it?”
“I…” God, why was she being so annoying about a nickname? Alex mentally chastised herself, but her stomach had dropped at the new name, and that feeling was just too damn familiar… “It just… It makes me feel the same way when my mother calls me Alexandra… I’m sorry, Maggie, I’m just being a pain. Forget I sai-”
Now, normally, I would just make a list of the advantages that binary people have over people that are outside of the traditional gender binary, but instead, let’s look at the disadvantages of being nonbinary.
1. Not being able to find a restroom/having to choose a binary gender alignment just to take a shit
2. Disrespect from cis and trans peers, no effort to accommodate nb people’s needs
3. Being unable to legally or medically transition
4. Being the butt of jokes (“I’m pepegender and if you don’t respect my pronouns you deserve to die uwu” etc.)
5. Harassment from truscum; because they’re assumed to be “faking trans”
6. Being unnecessarily forced under a gender, repeatedly
Do I really need to talk about this in 2017? Didn’t we just go over this?
and yeah, categorizing bi people as ~*~wanting to be oppressed~*~ and ~*~not deserving of lgbtqiap spaces~*~ and ~*~special snowflakes~*~ is absolutely fucking harmful–especially since it’s a stereotype that is going to get stuck to ALL bi people who participate in bi tumblr, not just the ones you disagree with–because it is going to make it that much more difficult for them to access the resources and support systems that they fucking need.
not to mention the fact that a disproportionate number of bi people who interact with bi tumblr (1) have a mental illness (2) are trans/nb and/or (3) are in high school. as in, are literal children? and these are the groups of people that are going to be MOST vulnerable and MOST in need of support.
@neo-w0lf I just got your reply to my nb!Alex prompt thing and promptly shouted oh god why would you do that. And I just. Am so mad at you. But also so pleased with you?
Seriously tho – do you want the version of Eliza like Alex’s coming out as gay in the show, or do you want the version of Eliza being, not queerphobic, but like… not great/disappointed, like Alex (understandably) feared she would be in the show?
Just tell me which version you were thinking – I mean I’ll be mad at you/love you forever either way but like.