natural curl pattern

Why are (some) naturals so obsessed with having a visible curl pattern? If you have to overmanipulate, constantly re-style your hair and perform the max hydration method or other methods JUST to achieve a “visible” curl pattern then there’s a problem. The problem is that you still have an issue with how your hair already looks NATURALLY. Consciously or subconsciously, you do not find your kinky hair as attractive as curly hair. I’m not talking about naturals who do braid-outs or twist-outs as low-manipulation styles, I am talking about the naturals who go to extreme lengths just to loosen their curl pattern. Kinky hair with no visible curl pattern is just as beautiful as curly hair with a visible curl pattern. Please remember that.

anyway i just woke up and i just wanna say the natural hair movement being dominated by biracial/racially ambiguous girls with 3a or looser hair is like highkey damaging because even in something designed to help all black girls love their hair in it’s most natural state, there are still standards being upheld to fit in or seem well managed and less unruly and “nappy” and all these products and tips are dedicated to either naturally looser curl patterns aka The Mixed Girl Curl or helping you try to transform your thick ass, kinky ass class 4 whatever letter hair into a looser texture or at least play your shit off as if it’s a loose texture and me and my 4c hair are uncomfortable and that’s that on that good morning and hi i’m annoyed!

PSA for my lovelies with curly hair.

So, I went so long not knowing how to look after my curls and how to make them pretty that I hated them and always put them up or straightened them. So, I thought why not share what I’ve learned.

  1. Use a cotton shirt or a microfiber towel instead of your usual towel (Your hair will be less frizzy and less dry)
  2. Only shampoo your scalp or go the “no-poo” method. (Shampooing all over your head drys your hair out and can ruin your curls)
  3. Only use conditioner on your ends (Putting it all over your hair flattens it)
  4. Only comb your hair when your in the shower, when you put conditioner in (Combing after your shower ruins your curl pattern or combing when your hair is dry will make your hair poofy)
  5. Do not use brushes. Brushes are damaging to curly hair. Finger-comb or use a wide-toothed comb instead. 
  6. Try to blow dry your hair as little as possible, the best thing for curls is to air dry but if you’re in a hurry use a diffuser which minimizes frizz by evenly distributing the heat.
  7. If you have frizz issues get a Frizz cream but don’t overuse it or your hair will be hard, sticky or just gross.
  8. If you can afford it (as it can be expensive) try to not use products with  Silicates, Silicone’s or Sulfates. If you can’t avoid them try to only get Moisturizing/hydrating shampoo and conditioners 
  9. If possible get a satin pillowcase, scarf or cap to put over your hair while you sleep to help keep your curls intact and less frizzy.
  10. Wait till your hair is 100% dry before going to sleep or you WILL ruin your curls. 
  11. Don’t put your hair up in a wrap/towel turban after you wash your hair as it wrecks your natural curl pattern. Instead, wring your hair out over the tub then do the scrunch and squeeze method to get out more water while encouraging your curls. Then use a cotton shirt or microfiber towel to scrunch your hair more.
  12. Get layers in your haircuts the more layers the more bouncy and curly your hair will be, the fewer layers to the more weighed down and less curly your hair will be. 
  13. Do not wash your hair every day, Curly hair tends to be naturally dry and this is damaging. I personally wash mine every 3-4 days and it works for me. 
  14. When your hair is wet is the best time to do anything to it. Once curly hair is dry there is no changing it.
  15. Avoid products with alcohol as they are very drying. 
  16. Don’t use heat. (I haven’t used heat in my hair in 4-5 months and my hair is doing so much better)
  17. Try the pineapple method when going to sleep. Gather all your curls into a loose ponytail at the top of your head. (I recommend not doing this tell you absolutely gonna lay down and go to bed cause for me, I get a headache from sitting up with it. 

Also, check out this video as it was super helpful to me!

Curly hair routine by curlypenny

I hope this helps and any questions you have, send me an ask and I will try my best to answer it :)

Has Your Hair Been Acting Shady?

Mine definitely has in these past few weeks. Living in the northeast ain’t a joke and we have to stay on these season changes maneeee.

One thing I used to always do at the beginning of each season (and clearly I’ve been slacking) was doing a simple DIY protein treatment on my hair. Why? Simple. With new weather, there are new elements your hair has to battle. Now that it’s getting colder, let me help you with keeping you hair (relaxed and natural) together. You don’t have to wait till the weather changes to do this either; if you’re experiencing flimsy curls or suffering from damaged hair, do this once a month for 3 months max. Too much protein can cause breakage and you don’t want that. I don’t want that for y’all. 

Alright, this DIY is simple and cheap because you own these items already! video tut to follow my loves. PROMISE! 

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I love everything about you…

From the natural curl pattern of your hair
To the melanin that sits in your skin
[You are the personification of absolute beauty]
From the confidence in the stride of your walk
To the humbleness of your character
From the taste of your attire
To the antique accents on your neck and fingers
That truly signify your royalty
As a Black Queen

But it is not just your coffee colored coating that captivates me,
That makes me crave every part of you.
It is the powerful aura of graceful profundity you yield
Yet this force is tamed behind the cool and collected curves of your smile.

I love everything about you…
The wounds and wisdom you carry with you
Scattered throughout your portfolio of art
Incorporated into your fashion
Lingering behind your words…

I love everything about you…
Strong enough to move mountains but fragile in my arms
Bold enough to stand up to the beasts of this world but cares for me like a mother.
The way you understand me
Even when I cannot understand myself.

I love everything about you
But you do not exist…


anonymous asked:

plus do you fucking know i long it took me to accept the natural curl pattern of my hair YEARS. You thin its just hair because you've never been told that your hair and the way it grows out of your scalp is a problem. And im gonna need racist ass people and countries to stop using so much black culture, style and everything else until they accept black people period- 3/ p.s sorry i went on a rent this shit got me heated

(3) and oh good lord do not be sorry you worded it so well and kept it real~D