natural birth control method for women

anonymous asked:

Question! Just so you know I am pro-choice if that affects how you answer. I am just wondering why the pro-life movement is so focused on making abortion illegal when we know women will still have them. Why not focus on reducing the number of women who need abortions? Raising awareness for birth control, fixing the foster care system, addressing child abuse and domestic violence and rape which all contribute to why a women may feel abortion is her only choice. Pro choicers would def be on board

Most people who are not in the pro-life movement only really see stereotypes and the extreme fringes. Having been in the pro-life movement for four years now, I’ve seen a very different side of it. The vast majority of pro-life people, especially those active in pro-life organizations, are doing most of what you’re saying.

Almost every pro-lifer would happily vote for a representative who promised to make abortion illegal. That said, we know that our ultimate goal is to make abortion unthinkable. Banning abortion will help, but it won’t be the end of our work. I believe we will abolish abortion in my lifetime, but I hope to live a long life, and I don’t think it’s going to happen tomorrow, this year, or maybe even this decade.

In the meantime, pro-lifers are working to provide for families in need, care for children in the foster care system (I actually know a lot of pro-lifers who have adopted and/or are foster parents), and raise awareness for issues like domestic violence, child abuse, homelessness/poverty, and so on.

Many pro-lifers have issues with most forms of birth control for a few different reasons, but this is actually a matter of controversy in pro-life circles. Most pro-lifers agree that birth control is not the magic solution to the abortion problem, and promote natural family planning (which can be more effective than oral contraceptives or barrier methods) and/or abstinence as an alternative that achieves the same goal of preventing unplanned pregnancies. 

We also recognize the need for quality health care for women and families. At the same time that we were calling for the defunding of Planned Parenthood in the wake of the Center for Medical Progress undercover videos, pro-life groups came together to create a directory of community health resources for those who were in need of affordable care or who were worried about losing the non-abortion services they received from Planned Parenthood. 

We also have a separate directory for those in crisis pregnancies who need resources and support in order to choose life for their child (There are other national directories, but this is my favorite for ease of access and accuracy of information). Many community pro-life organizations also have their own directories of resources in their area, which are more comprehensive. For instance, here’s the directory for central Texas, where I live. It includes medical resources, counseling and support, housing, and material support. The website also has information for those seeking adoption information, family planning help, miscarriage support, post-abortion support, and general OB/GYN healthcare.

The ideal pro-life world is one where preborn children are treated the same as born children under the law, making it illegal to kill them. In addition, mothers and fathers are supported and encouraged as they care for their children, and they have access to the resources they need. The foster system is streamlined to put children in loving homes faster (either their original home if possible, or with an adoptive family). Young women are given accurate information about their reproductive system, their natural fertility, and the accuracy rate and risks of various pregnancy-prevention options, including science-based natural family planning methods. Those in crisis pregnancies are given accurate information about their pregnancy and their child’s development. They are connected with the support and resources they need whether they choose to parent or to place their child for adoption. They are provided with safe housing and support if they need to leave an abusive or dangerous situation. High schools and colleges have supportive policies in place that help pregnant and parenting students finish their education and pursue their academic and career goals. 

We want to create a world where women don’t feel that they need abortion. If we do this in addition to making abortion illegal, we will make abortion an illegal procedure that women don’t need and that everyone knows will kill a human child. This will make abortion unthinkable.

Will it still happen? Of course. Children of all ages are still murdered in this country by various means. We are shocked when this happens, but we know it will happen again, despite the fact that it is illegal. We don’t use this as a reason to legalize the killing of children. Instead, we let it spur us to do more to keep children and families safe. 

A few facts about sex, pregnancy, and childbirth for writers who use historical settings

Note: These facts focus primarily on Christianized American and European culture. Before applying a fact to a culture outside of that sphere, it’d be a good idea to check.

  • Reliable birth control didn’t exist until the late 1800s, but it didn’t become accessible outside of the very wealthy and well-connected until the 1910s in Europe and 1920s in the US (and even later in other parts of the world). These “reliable methods” were all variants of the cervical cup, the ancestor to the diaphragm.
  • Despite the fact the rhythm method/natural family planning requires no technology other than a calendar, it was developed after the cervical cap. The reason is that it took doctors a very long time to figure out that a) women were least fertile during menstruation, b) women ovulated exactly once per menstrual cycle, c) ovulation tends to happen at approximately the same time relative to menstrual periods. The rhythm method was first promoted in 1930 by a Dutch doctor.
  • Along with there not being reliable birth control until recently, safe abortion was nonexistent (unless you count that particular plant in ancient Rome that died out, but I’ll pass that one by). A desperate woman wouldn’t have to look hard to find someone who could perform an abortion, but her chances of surviving weren’t great, and her chances of having another baby afterwards were slim.
  • Because women didn’t have an explanation for how exactly pregnancy started until the 1920s (when two doctors discovered independently that ovulation tends to happen at the same time relative to the menstrual cycle), women generally didn’t know when they’d gotten pregnant or when they were likely to give birth. All the historical medical manuals are extremely vague on pregnancy milestones for this reason. Additionally, many women didn’t consider themselves truly pregnant until the “quickening” around five months. This was due to several factors, inconsistent timing among them, but also because miscarriages were pretty common and other medical conditions (including stress) could cause symptoms that could make a woman think she was pregnant.
  • The vast majority of women over the course of history had no risk of being treated “like an invalid” during pregnancy. Pregnancy was considered a normal, healthy part of a woman’s life, something that would happen many times during her youth and middling years. It wasn’t a time to take it easy; in fact, early medical manuals stress that being active during pregnancy is a good thing that produces healthy, strong babies.
  • Until the 1960s/1970s, labor and delivery was a woman-only zone (with the possible exception of a male doctor). The father would either be outside, at the neighbors’, at the pub…but he would definitely be nowhere near the delivery room during the birth, because he’d just be in the way…probably literally, in most cases, because most women gave birth in their houses, and your average woman–a farmer’s wife, or a craftsman’s wife–wouldn’t have a large room to give birth in. Instead, a woman would expect her friends to come support her, women who’d already survived childbirth, and perhaps her mother if she lived nearby. Having the father attend the birth of his child didn’t become a thing until women started giving birth in hospitals where there’s space for the father to stand (and, arguably, the fact that women were less likely to live near enough for their mothers to be there).
  • Unless a woman was having a doctor attending her birth, she most likely would have given birth in a standing or squatting position, possibly using a birthing stool (a special chair without a seat for the baby to descend through). Lying on one’s back didn’t pop up as a birthing position until doctors became regular attendees to labor, because it mean the doctor wouldn’t have to get on the floor to examine the progress of labor.
  • It wasn’t labor that was the biggest danger to expectant women; it was postpartum infection, better known as “childbed fever” historically. These infections were usually caused by birth attendants having bacteria-ridden hands and tended to kill within two weeks of birth. Doctors knew it was transferred via midwife and doctor even as early as the 1790s, but it wasn’t understood why until germ theory became accepted. It couldn’t be treated until antibiotics were introduced in the 1930s.
A Dystopian Rant

Heyyyyyyyyy I’m back with more complaints about things, but this time it’s about dystopian novels:

  1. Dystopian, Apocalyptic, and Post Apocalyptic Are Not the Same
  2. Stop With All These Factions
  3. Choosing Day
  4. Only the Country of the Author
  5. Modern Social Values Revert
  6. The Entire Government
  7. The Main Character is Different
  8. The Omnipotent Government is Evil
  9. There Is No Middle
  10. Baby Machines
  11. No Free Will

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anonymous asked:

Does the pill make you gain weight?

Yes it’s pumped with unnatural unhealthy hormones. It’s like steroids for women. Weight gain aside, it’s not something women should be on. Unless you have a severe rare illness and need it for life or death, opt out for natural methods, and choose different more effective forms of preventing pregnancy, like condoms which also protect you from STD’s when birth control doesn’t. ❤️

I always cringe when well-meaning Catholics say, “I don’t use birth control because fertility is a gift!” or something like that.  People who do not know about the different methods and their effectiveness back away thinking, “But I don’t want to have 20 kids!” because they assume that in order to make “fertility a gift” you have to let loose and not plan your family.

I mean, yeah, NFP isn’t birth control; but parading this fact around isn’t going to educate others on why it isn’t like typical birth control.  Instead of saying “I don’t use birth control”, say, “I use the Billings Method to prevent pregnancy instead of artificial birth control.  Once my spouse and I are ready, we can then use this method to time intercourse for conception.  I’ve even used Billings to help pinpoint and find solutions to problems in my menstrual health.”

Doesn’t that sound more interesting and thought-provoking than “NO TO BIRTH CONTROLLLL!!!”

We can’t just say “We don’t use birth control!!!!” because not only does it give the wrong impression to a population largely ignorant of the high effectiveness of NFP, but it rubs people the wrong way.  Many people are using birth control for intensely personal and sensitive reasons, and what they hear is, “Have baby after baby or you’re a selfish jerk, to hell with you and your health.”

NFP is so much more than birth control.  It can space pregnancies, prevent them completely, help increase the odds of achieving a pregnancy, and it does so much in empowering women to take charge and make more wholesome choices for their gynecological health.  It’s practically a mindset, a lifestyle or cultural aspect for some, and you don’t see that in other methods.  But you can’t express this truth by saying “I don’t use birth control!!!” 

Use intelligent conversations, not misleading, quick one-liners.

(Of course, the secular crowd that uses NFP (or, as they call it, Fertility Awareness) refer to it as “natural birth control”, which is lumped in with “natural” spermicides, rhythm methods, and even things like “vegan condoms”.  I suppose they get more out of a conversation with this language though I cringe at “natural birth control” as well, haha.)