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So I started this morning finding out Marc read that horrid open letter that 🍏 wrote. The one calling Felicity abusive and shitting on season 4 and blah blah. Of course I jump on the defense and then get into some spats. And then I see these tweets and you can imagine my anger. I’m sorry but WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK??!! WOMEN ARE NOT PLAY THINGS! We are not one dimensional! FELICITY SMOAK IS NOT COMIC RELIEF 2kFOREVER!! She’s a multi-faceted complex character yes with flaws but who is strong and stands up for herself and loves herself! She’s a fantastic role model for women of all ages and even men. When you agree to marrying someone you don’t settle for being on the outside of the relationship. You don’t settle for not being complete EQUALS in all aspects of your life. You are a team and make decisions TOGETHER! Felicity was the wronged party in this situation!! I get feeling sorry for Oliver! He has suffered so much and loves and wants her so much. And he’s hard to resist! But imagine how much we love him and multiply it for Felicity’s love and see how hard it was for her to walk away. The show will always be more sympathetic to Oliver’s struggles because it’s his story, but it doesn’t make him right at all. He was wrong. Simply put. period. But that’s not even the whole story with the total sexist ideal of what Felicity should be to Oliver. Apparently all she is good for is throwing a funny one liner in every now and then and only cheerleading and praising Oliver 24\7. FUCK THAT. Sorry she’s not fitting into your one dimensional sexist box for a women’s purpose. She is not that and that is one of the million reasons why Oliver loves her. Because she stands up to him. She’s makes him better and helps him grow. She doesn’t accept that he is a killer or just a damaged man. She’s always known he’s capable of more and has helped him reached that potential. But it comes to a point he has to stand on his own. Season 3 and 4 have only made my love for Felicity grow even more and more. She is the reason I started watching arrow and I loved her from the start. I would not be watching if she wasn’t on the show. I was drawn in by her humor and stayed for the strong women underneath the humor. She’s complex and amazing. I love her funny one liners and I love her great speeches like “don’t fight to die, fight to live”. She’s a hero and a badass.
I don’t even know if I have it in me to deal with the last two tweets. People accusing Felicity of ABUSING OLIVER! And belittling him and having tantrums. Like I can’t argue with such delusion. And stop using a real mental illness to hate on a fictional character. It’s gross. Apparently if Felicity isn’t worshipping the ground Oliver walks on and taking his apology and easily forgiving him for breaking them and just being submissive to his every demand and suicide mission, she’s abusive? Yeah ok…
I don’t care if you don’t like Felicity. She’s fictional and no one is universally liked! NO ONE. But to spout this sexist and delusional bulllshit, I won’t stand for.

End rant.


(Despite the fandom crazy, I did have a great day with my family. Happy Easter yall)

I really don’t get guys who are sexist douchebags.

Like seriously; when I ask a girl out and she says she’s not interested, I thank her anyway and apologize if I’ve made her uncomfortable.

But I mean, even though she said no, I still want her to feel like I’m at least a potential friend. I still want her to view me in a friendly, respective way just as I do her. Why the hell would you ever start insulting a girl when she’s turned you down, that just proves her right in thinking that you’re one of the last people she’d want to go out with.

Some people of my gender are just such…fucktards.

I am so sorry.

Guys saying they hate when girls wear push up bras because it’s “false advertisement” shut the hell up I’m not advertising anything you’re objectifying my body

A Why I Need Feminism Story

So today while biking to school some guy stuck his head out the window and yelled “Damn baby!” at me. And a few weeks ago I was biking and some guy made this weird whistling grunt noise at me. And it got me thinking about how guys probably don’t realize the negativity actions like that breed. They must leave the situation thinking that they have given us a compliment.
They don’t realize that as soon as that happens I wonder what I did to deserve this negative attention. Maybe I shouldn’t be wearing shorts in this 91 degree weather while I fucking bike to school? Oh, wait that’s really fucking dumb and showing the skin of my god damned legs is not me asking to be made a spectacle of.
They don’t realize that being yelled at on a busy road while biking gives you a mini fucking heart attack.
They don’t realize that that weird whistle grunt they just did instantly makes me look around to see if there are other people because who knows- maybe you’re dangerous.
And that’s the problem. Despite the fact that in both scenarios I promptly gave these men the middle finger as many women would, men just don’t realize that their attention is inappropriate because they have never had to be constantly afraid of being raped, or murdered, and haven’t been made uncomfortable on a daily basis or been told to wear different clothes. Hell, if they’re hot walking down the street they can just take their whole shirt right off and not hear a peep. And I guess that that’s called privilege.

“Male privilege is “I have a boyfriend” being the only thing that can actually stop someone from hitting on you because they respect another man more than they respect your rejection/lack of interest.”


The Sociological Cinema

There was actually research that was done that found that women who used an “I have a boyfriend/husband” excuse to reject unwanted sexual attention and harassment by their bosses were more likely to be left alone than those who used any other excuse (including “I’m not interested”)

Because men respect another man’s property (and that’s how they see us) than a woman’s autonomy.

Source: queerintersectional