i disagree that it talks about hip hop culture as being fundamentally wrong, mostly because hip hop is only mentioned twice throughout the entirety of same love; “If I was gay, I would think hip-hop hates me” and “A word rooted in hate, yet our genre still ignores it”. my interpretation has always been that rather than condemning hip hop as fundamentally wrong, he’s against the homophobia that’s prevalent in it. same love is written from ben’s perspective as a straight white rapper coming from a christian background. hip hop is mentioned because that’s the culture that he is involved in and identifies with, but the majority of the song deals with religion and this sort of institutionalised homophobia, “And God loves all his children, is somehow forgotten / But we paraphrase a book written thirty-five-hundred years ago.”
that being said, i do agree with you that, as you said, it’s up to a specific culture to change on its own. and it’s very problematic to have a person on the outside, who hasn’t had the same experiences and thus can’t understand them, to be talking about it. and it’s even more problematic that we live in a society where the straight white dude talking about homophobia in hip hop is recognised and lauded whereas anyone else who had tried to do the same almost certainly wouldn’t be.
and i guess to conclude, my interpretation of same love is definitely informed by my experiences as a white female. i’ve always seen it as empowering and inspiring, and have been able to focus on aspects like ben’s dealing with religion. but coming from a different context, i can definitely understand how you would see it as condescending and patronising.