So everyone is always asking me for book recommendations so I decided to make a master post of books (Most are YA books because a large majority of people on here read them). Each book is linked to the goodreads page for it (for series I linked you to the first book) and next to it are the main genres.
So I recently finished reading Lundy Bancroft’s “Why Does He Do That?” and he has a whole section on signs that a relationship/partner (since this list applies to any gender, but men are far and away the biggest abusers) might become abusive. He mentions that everyone should be taught these signs before they reach dating age and I agree, but school systems suck at this, so I’m putting his list (paraphrased by me) onto tumblr. Please share!
1) He speaks disrespectfully about his former partners
Note: Almost all accusations of abuse turn out to be true. Any previous accusations of abuse are a huge red flag!
2)He is disrespectful towards you, or puts you on a pedestal–either way, he fails to respect the real you as a human being
3)He does favors for you that you don’t want or puts on such a show of generosity that it makes you uncomfortable
4)He is controlling
5)He is possessive
6)Nothing is ever his fault
7)He is self-centered
8)He abuses drugs or alcohol (Note: substance abuse does not cause abuse, these are two separate problems that single person can have–Bancroft notes that there does not even seem to be a real correlation between the two)
9) He pressures you for sex
10)He gets serious too quickly about the relationship
11)He intimidates you when he is angry (gets too close, in your face, pushes, blocks your way, claims he’s “just trying to make you listen,” raises fist, shouts you down, makes you flinch, drives recklessly, makes threatening comments–ex; you don’t want to see me get REALLY angry–punches walls/kicks doors, throws things–anything that makes you feel fear)
12)He has double standards
13)He has negative attitudes towards women (even if–especially if–he says “You aren’t like OTHER women”)
14)He treats you differently around other people
15)He appears to be attracted to vulnerability (is drawn to women significantly younger than him, to women coming out of abusive childhoods/relationships, with poor health, suffered losses, the man paints himself as a rescuer)
One does not simply “make tea”; there is a procedure that is both practiced and recognized worldwide. Want to make an excellent cup of tea? Follow me, kids.
The first rule is always to use fresh water – for the best flavor, the water should be well oxygenated, and the more times you boil the same water, the less oxygen it contains. If you want to be super fancy as fuck, filter the water before boiling or even better, use bottled water that gives the results you want (some have more minerals and salts than others and these come out in the flavor).
The most common rule of thumb is to use 1-2 teaspoons per 230 ml (8 oz) cup and adjust according to preference. Bulkier leaf teas will need a greater volume per serving than small, dense leaves.
Loose leaves in a teapot or mug allow for maximum freedom for the leaves to unfurl, and a more flavorful cup. If the tea infuses for longer than its ideal time, it can become bitter (and we don’t want that, now, do we?). You can avoid this by using a basket filter (they come in cup and teapot sizes) or a tea “sock” or bag and removing the infused leaves mess-free and quickly. Tea balls and mesh infusers do a similar job, but don’t allow the same degree of circulation and honestly, they’re a pain in the ass to use. The basket filter is what I use.
Remember that tea leaves are just delicate plants and that your boiling water (100°C) (212 °F) actually scorches the tea. When tea leaves get scorched, they release a lot of tannins (which makes your tea bitter). Different kinds of teas need to be steeped at different temperatures. If you don’t have a fancy tea kettle, you can cool your water accordingly.
Now kids, I’m gonna put this simply… tea is a lot like weed (it’s picked, it’s oxidized, it’s rolled, it’s dried, it’s aged, and it makes you feel fucking great)
Let’s start at the tree. The leaves you steep were most probably picked in Spring/Summer. These leaves were picked by hand by wonderful people out in a field somewhere that worked long hours to bring you that single cup of tea (thank them). When you steep a teabag, however, those were all machine picked.
After the leaves are picked, they start to wilt. The amount of time your leaves left to wilt changes the flavor. During that time, the leaves are left out in the sun. Green teas, however, are not left to wilt at all and they go straight to the factory.
After they’re wilted, the leaves are then put in a huge bamboo tray and they’re tossed. This activates enzymes in the leaves and gives them more flavor.
Oxidation or fermentation
Not all teas are oxidized, but if they are, they are spread out in a climate-controlled environment for a certain amount of time (sometimes the leaves are also agitated), and the oxidation process will make the leaves darker. Oxidation has a big influence on the depth of taste and is an extremely important part of the process; it needs to be done perfectly. The oxidation process also explains why Black teas for example are much darker than Green teas.
Oxidation needs to be stopped at the desired level for the type of tea, and this is achieved by steaming the leaves in a wok, which deactivates the oxidative enzymes.
Before the final drying, the tea leaves are rolled and formed by hand. Leaves can be rolled into spirals, kneaded and rolled into pellets, or in the case of some oolong teas, rolled into spheres or half spheres.
Drying or firing
Leaves are stacked in hot-air rack dryers, or spread out and exposed to the natural heat of the sun. In this way the moisture content of the leaves is reduced and the leaves become “dry”.
TYPES OF TEA
So, I know that feeling when you go into a tea shop and you’re like, “holy shit; there are so many different kinds of teas, what the fuck do I choose?” Well, my friends, I’m here so that you need never feel hopeless again.
Okay, so, usually the tins in the tea shops have colors on them (6 different colors). That’s because there are only 6 different kinds of teas that originate from the Camellia Sinensis “bush” or “plant”.
These 6 different kinds are: White, Green, Black, Yellow, Oolong, and Puerh.
Produced in: China
Produced in: China, Japan, India
Produced in: India, Sri Lanka, Kenya
Produced in: China
Produced in: China or Taiwan
Produced in: China
I’ll keep adding to this when I think of more stuff, I hope you’ve taken something from this. Love you. <3
So I got asked how I did these edits and I’m not good at explaining non-visually, so I decided a tutorial with pictures and shit would be best. Turns out I’m not so good at that either but I did it just for you anon. So here we go
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