6 Lessons I Learned From Quitting My Job

Six years ago I woke up fairly blurry eyed and slightly tired, probably just like you did now, showered, dressed and hopped into a cab to work reading on my blackberry. But I wasn’t reading the daily news or my emails, but rather notes I had written for myself on what I was going to say when I quit.

Six years ago today I quit my job as VP on the Fixed Income trading floor of Morgan Stanley. It was the scariest day of my life; I felt like vomiting throughout the entire morning meeting, I voice was shaking as I asked my bosses for time to speak, and my hands were sweaty waterworks under the table as I explained that after seven years I was parting ways to start my own wellness lifestyle business – I.AM.YOU..

It took a few hours, as they did not seem to believe that I was actually leaving the firm and kept enticing me to stay, but ultimately I left my badge on my desk with the six computer screens, and walked out of the building, a half a dozen high heals and workout outfits from under my desk in tote, and a massive smile smothering my face.

In honor of my six year quitting anniversary, I am sharing the six most important lessons I have learned from quitting and venturing on this new path….. a path that has been more rewarding, and challenging, than I ever could have imagined… Hopefully it inspired you to do chase your dreams, too!

1. It is Not Meant to be Easy.
Hollywood, and famed bloggers, paint quitting as this unbelievably easy, joyous experience. But that is not always the case. I had a seven year career, a recent promotion, a solid salary, benefits, and years of prior intense education and future career growth on the line. Leaving that behind for the vast unknown was gut wrenching. And it had all the right to be. Do not feel weak or guilty if quitting is daunting – it means you are believing in yourself, everything you have created in the past, and everything you hope to engender in the future.

2. You Need to Have a Plan.
That said, you need to have a plan. Nine times out of ten, people come to me for business coaching inspired by my story and wanting to quit their jobs, which is great – but when I ask what there plan is, they do not necessarily have one, which is dangerous. If you quit without a plan life is going to be very, very challenging. I knew exactly what I wanted to create – a 360 degree lifestyle brand and new lens for wellness based on yoga, nourishment, mindset and music. Before I quit I mapped out my business plan, designed my brand, had a logo, flushed out the target market, made a prelim web design, and modeled potential revenues and profits. Things have of course changed along the way, but having a plan has allowed me to achieve my goals much faster, and ensured that I stay the course, which as much fun and integrity as profits.

3. Every Industry has its own Quirks, and You need to Learn Them.
Wall Street is its own world, a world in which if you say a trade is ‘done,’ it is done, and there is absolutely no going back on it. Suddenly I entered the wellness world, where everything was and is much more grey, and much more wishy washy, which initially drove me bonkers, until I realized that each industry has its own way of doing business. You need to observe, learn, and adapt to their ways, or else you will go crazy, and quite frankly, not succeed. For me that has meant learning about the yoga world in a whole new way, nutrition, events, digital media, and publishing, to name a few. Figure out the playing field, get your team together, and go play ball.

4.. Do Not Feel Guilty About Down Time.
This one has, and still is, so hard for me. When I quit I started to fill my days the same way I filled my Wall Street days. 12-18 hours of work, be they teaching, writing, general business, instant email responses, or other projects. Yet, until recently, I always felt guilty when I had down time, even if it was just an hour. Now I embrace these moments as time to foster my creativity and engender new thoughts and developments for I.AM.YOU., which has helped my career and business grow to whole new levels. Down time is ok!

5. The Highs are HIGH and the Lows are Garth Brooks Low.
No matter what you do when you decide to quit, there will be good days and bad days. But the chances are, because you will be outside the structure of where you were before, they will feel extreme. I have cried more in my six years of entrepreneurship than my I did my entire seven years on Wall Street trading floor, and that as almost always the only female. Life outside the box is no joke! Just remember that whatever it is, good or bad, it will pass. Then put it in the context of the big picture, take a deep breathe, and focus on the next thing. That way the lows will not seem as dooming and the highs will not steer you off course, and you may even be smiling all, or most, of the time.

6. You Control Your Destiny.

You are the only person who will determine your success or failure; you are the only person who can shape your future. It is up to you, and you alone. Which is awesome, and daunting. I take a moment every day to say thank you to life for everything it has given me, and then hit the pavement running. You can, and will, create your ideal self and career in your ideal world, just remember to be patient, think about the big picture, and never stop hustling.


I sat gobsmacked and terrified watching the TV, as I saw the lottery numbers were read out. One by one matching the set of numbers I’d written in my dream diary.

I didn’t win, because I didn’t enter.

To believe they were real would have given credence to the second entry in the book and I didn’t want to believe that, but now I had no choice.

I sat in the chair gripping the small handgun in my sweaty hands, staring at the front door, waiting for my wife to return from work.

anonymous asked:

jimin's reaction when don't make him hold your hand bc it's pasmado h AHAHAHAAHAHHAHA

hahahaha you’re request made me laugh

pasmado” = having sweaty palms

Jimin would chuckle amusedly at your reason and would just grab your hand and lock your fingers with his, refusing to let go.

“Jimin!” you protest as you try to take your hand away.

Aish! Just let me hold your hand jagiya~” he pouts, though a smile keeps protruding from his lips, amused by your insistence to let go.

“But my hands are sweaty and they’re icky–”

“I don’t care if your hands are sweaty. I’m holding your hand.” he says sternly, giving your cheek a kiss which makes you blush.  With a sigh, you let him hold your hand…defeated. XD

She wore my jacket this day we went to the cat cafe because it was raining and I didn’t want her to ruin her hair.
She skipped school to go to the cafe with me and all the cats liked her more than me and I was a little jealous but then a one eyed cat started licking my hand and then licked hers and we stayed put letting this cat lick our hand for nearly an hour.
We held hands the entire day and I said to her ‘it’s really shit because my hands get so sweaty easily haha’ and she laughed at me and called me gross but continued to hold my hand.
She said she wished we were dating again but I didn’t want her to go through what we had gone through previous times, so I suggested she be happy and we could just be friends. She nearly cried. She thanked me for thinking about her well being.
I remember she bought me lunch because I had no money and then I said 'at Supanova you have to buy me lunch!’ She laughed and nodded and said 'of course I will!’ and then we joked about how she never bought me anything and I bought her stuff, but I was dirt poor and she had a lot of money. We laughed about it and I told her not to worry.
She admitted she stole the 'peace sign in front of my face style of selfies’ because it was cute way to hide your face when you want to take a selfie but don’t look good. I told her she always looked good and she kissed me on the cheek. It was the only time I ever consciously felt myself blush. I’ve never blushed before.
I took off my beanie for the first time that day in the short 5 hours we spent together and she marvelled at my hair and asked if she could scratch my head. I said 'of course, you don’t even have to ask!’ and then she started playing with my hair. We sat in the middle of Melbourne Central with my head on her shoulder and her fingers through my atomic turquoise hair. She said it was her favourite colour on me. She said my hair was really really soft. Then she pointed out a stain on the shirt she liked on me best.
A small collection of photos from this day floods me with tiny memories that once seemed insignificant, but now I desperately try to recreate moments lost in time; moments I took for granted.

I’m really realizing

Norman is not a beating around the bush kinda guy

he’s kinda nervous but get him running and he’ll talk your ear off on what he wants and how he feels. When him and dipper are kinda showing signs of maybe being a thing he fucking goes for it with those big soft baby blue and he knows Dipper fucking falls for it like an idiot

they’re on a hunt and He just bluntly sighs and goes

“Dipper can we take a minute and just hold hands this is painfully boring and I’m cold and you’ve dragged me out like 3 miles fucking ridiculous to not offer your hand are you serious I might fight you take my hand you disgusting sweaty jerk.”



Hi, I’m Taylor (she/her or they/them) 20-years-old, and I have a lot of super fun visible and invisible chronic illnesses. I’m also like allergic to almost every medication in the pharmacy and have anxiety and panic disorder, but let me tell you about some of my lesser known fun medical mysteries.

Raynaud’s phenomenon: a circulatory disorder that cuts off blood supply to my extremities; most severely my hands. This causes color changes, numbness, swelling, and makes basic tasks like typing and writing and walking long distances in the cold very difficult to do!

Hyperhidrosis: a condition that causes excessive sweating! I actually got held after school kindergarten because my teacher kept yelling at me for pouring water on my desk… when it was actually just my hands doing their sweaty thing. 

Paradox Vocal Fold Movement: often occurring alongside chronic asthma and caused by viruses or untreated acid reflux, this condition causes vocal cords to close when they should open - like during breathing!

Alongside these, I have: chronic migraines, a constant hand/arm tremor, asthma, chronic pain/fibromylagia, chronic fatigue, and rheumatology reports that are indicating what I and my internist like to call “Likely Lupus” but they’re holding out on “official diagnosis” because of the lovely mysteries of undifferentiated/mixed connective tissue diseases

Happy #NoShameDay out there to all my fellow disabled friends. You all rock and I’m amazed every day by how hard you all fight against everyday ableism 

I feel really bad for not being the person who bleeds out love for others. I feel really bad for having moments of lost and unsteadiness. I feel really bad.
I hate it when my hands get sweaty from nervousness because I’m always screwing some thing up. I hate when I say the wrong thing. I hate thinking I have to keep my mouth shut forever when I do say something wrong and people don’t reply. I hate how my brain keeps bugging me with something I don’t want to think about.
I hate how I always tell my self never again but I do it again.
Forcing myself to just keep going because maybe I will be able to shine brighter for others that need a light.
Anyways yeah, here’s selfie along with how I feel right now.

cutiepoppers answered your post: sup. how it do?

My spindle and roving came in today! Almost got into a fight with some random jerk stranger so I’m happy to have my mind elsewhere T^T Why are people so rude these days?

!!!!!! pix plz *v* you’re making me want to pick up my spindle again. it’s sitting right here on my coffeetable being all “notice me!” and i probably should before it gets hot and my hands get too sweaty to spin.

sry someone was rude to you, what did they say/do?

(bonus points for vogue knitting and my swift in the background)

anonymous asked:

everytime i see the guy i like, i actually feel overwhelmed? as in i'm pretty sure it's not the run of the mill butterflies. my hands get real sweaty, and my stomach hurts so much that i start to feel nauseous. i know your not a doctor or a therapist but any advice? i don't even get the courage to talk to this guy before i have to run to the bathroom or dry off my hands on my jeans haha. annnd we're in high school so i physically see him at least once a day.

You’re just hyping yourself out because of a super crush. Talk to a good friend about this, and let them hold you accountable. Sometimes we need a push to talk to cute people. Cute people are intimidating sometimes. But you should talk to him and give it a shot.

i love when I’m on at the same time as taylor because my hands get sweaty and my heart starts speeding up and my hopes rise that she’ll do something to me… And even when she doesn’t, I know she just makes so many Swifties lose their chill and die with no warning.

I just love how much taylorswift loves us.