Jewish women are the number one authorities on how Jewish men wield misogyny. It is not an issue of our religion being regressive or misogynist, it is an issue of men using whatever culture / ideology etc they can get their hands on as a lens for their misogyny. The day I let a goyische feminist come trampling into my culture and my religion, spew their unnuanced interpretations that are devoid of context and understanding, tell me how oppressed I am, spread antisemitic hate speech, and talk over me on my own experiences, is the day I die. Jewish women must and will be the foundation of our revolutionary liberation from misogyny. Jewish women will be the voices speaking up about how men do us wrong within our own religion and cultures. Not you. Us. If you really want to help us, listen to us. You are not our mouthpieces or better interpreters of our lives than we are.
not enough people are willing to talk about the fact that, due to conditioning, same gender attraction is uncomfortable, volatile, scary and guilty territory for a lot of wlw. that a lot of wlw feel it would be easier to date men, and feel repulsed by their own attraction to women.
too many people don’t understand that just reblogging a ton of “if you’re more comfortable/happy with women you probably aren’t straight! go you!” posts can really alienate questioning wlw who don’t necessarily feel that comfort and happiness yet and feel more shame and awkwardness. not to say that those posts aren’t good, because they are, but when they’re the only perspective/experience expressed, it’s negligent.
can’t afford to have presents be a part of their tradition
have to deal with goyim saying “Jews basically get xmas for 8 so lucky!!”
don’t feel bad. do whatever you normally do. light your candles, make your latkes and sufganiyot, play dreidel, sing songs, pray, remember, have fun with your family or friends or yourself, whoever you’re with. remember that the concept of nightly presents on chanukkah were heavily popularized in America and other xtian centric countries due to xtians associating chanukkah with xmas and commercializing it that way, you are not obligated to be able to give presents to everyone every night.
also a note to non Jewish folks (by the way this is ok for you to reblog): chanukkah presents, if they are part of a family’s tradition at all, are in many families small things like new pencils or a piece of candy or a book, not large xmas type presents. and there are also lots of Jewish homes in which presents are not a tradition, & many homes in which they cannot be due to lack of money. chanukkah is not ‘the 8 days of Jewish xmas’ , it has been unfortunately marketed that way. it is a minor religious festival & major cultural one celebrated by many religious and secular Jews. and it is not about 8 days of presents.
darren is an extroverted person, which means he can talk and joke and interact with a line of 389483 fans and not feel drained and exhausted by it. that’s cool and awesome for his fans, but not all actors are like that, so don’t criticize the ones who don’t put themselves in a situation that would be overwhelming and uncomfortable for them, please and thank you.
tom hiddleston and benedict cumberbatch are probably two of the worst things to ever happen to me because goddamn them and their pleasing faces and voices and kind hearts and stupid cheekbones and those smiles and butts and how they basically shit rainbows and goddammit i just really, really want a tom hiddleston or a benedict cumberbatch.
@men just letting u all know that lesbians are not your sexual challenge. lesbians are not just the “extra hard” option in whatever kind of game you think dating is. when you hit on lesbians not only do you sound creepy and predatory, you sound fucking embarrassing.
steve goes to visit young kids at school so he can talk to them about history and his time in the war as he always likes to do, and one day, just as he’s about to leave, a lil boy calls out to him and says, “wait!! mr. captain america sir could you maybe tell us about your friend bucky?”
steve smiles so sweetly, and gets this look in his eye that only seems to appear when he’s talking about bucky. “of course buddy what would you like to know?”
this leads to steve spending an extra unscheduled hour and a half telling stories about bucky, and the things they used to do when they were kids. by the end, all the kids clap with excitement, the same lil boy even shouts that bucky is his hero.
steve gets such a kick out of this, he goes straight home to tell bucky all about it. he tries his hardest to convince him to go w him next time, “come on buck, the kids love you! you have to come, i’ll even let you tell some embarrassing stories about me.”
bucky ofc is reluctant, but in the end he agrees to go. he gets rly nervous on the way there, so nervous in fact that even his metal fingers begin to fidget. but as soon as he steps in the classroom, the kids cheer, and his nervousness disappears. they all rush up to him, squealing about his cool his metal arm is and how he’s such a hero. bucky gets overwhelmed w lots of happiness and love and he nearly cries as the kids hug him. at one point he looks to steve, who has that usual twinkle of affection in his eyes, and smiles super wide, while mouthing a ‘thank you.’