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@mariarussell26 Yep, and we haven’t been active for nearly a year and a half! We have to also so water tests because we live rurally (which I guess makes sense because we could be active again at anytime?).

When my daughter was still in foster care we had three visits monthly – her social worker, our worker, and then when she was made a crown ward, we also had the adoption worker come. Her birth family also visited every other week.

Here we don’t have any of the crazy social worker drama that you all seem to have. All our workers have been consistent except for one retirement and even that was handled well with them visiting together for two visits before the retirement so we all knew each other and could update the new worker on the case.

Also to be a worker here you must have a Masters in social work. There is no way you would be hired otherwise. It also pays decently. I suspect this is why we have had a great experience?

Since we don’t actually have anything to update our worker with we talk just generally about our lives—her kids, crops (her husband farms and my husband works in the ag sector), my daughter usually wants to show her things etc. Really just a friendly visit.


@casa-la I really had no idea. I suspect so because of those social services? I looked up the statistics for Ontario (my province with a population of 13.6 million) and there are just over 2000 kids in care. I’m not really sure how that measures up to the US.


It does seem like there are many great services available. Apparently there were 121, 000 investigations in 2013 but in the vast number of cases the children were able to remain in the home with only 2000 brought into care. I know my daughter’s birth mom had a lot of support given to her and opportunities to seek help. With free access to health care and generous social assistance (although it could be better—the amount of money where I live would stretch further than it would in local cities) I do think that parents have a good opportunity to work to have their children back in their care.

Also, the social workers here generally really care about the families they work with. You can tell by every interaction you have with them and they way they talk about their families. I think having that kind of support is likely invaluable.


Another reason that I don’t think I’ll get a call soon is that I live rurally where people most often have strong family and community safety nets. I think the social workers are able to find kinship placements the vast majority of the time which is of course the best for the children! When I was taking the PRIDE course at least half the people in my class were kinship parents.


Just looked up my region and there were 257 children in care throughout the year and 62% were discharged within 1 year.  That’s a pretty good statistic I think. Not sure how it compares elsewhere though.

Finally got an offer of full funding to the writing program I want to go to.

SO relieved. Barring any unforeseeable disasters, I have income, time, and workshops to foster my writing for three years.