The responses to @enoughtohold’s post about how weird straight ppl react to someone casually outing themselves are so telling like they think lgbt ppl constantly do this dramatic ‘I have to tell you something very personal, I am a Homosexual!’ to every new person they meet like do you not understand that everytime I talk about my regular day to day life I have to either say 'my wife/my gf’ or lie??
So here is some advice: if someone you’re close with tells you somewhat formally that they are coming out to you as lgbt then you say 'I’m so glad you felt comfortable sharing that with me, I love you’ and if someone you (clearly) barely know says 'so yeah I have to go in a bit because I’m meeting my <same gender partner>’ you say 'ok cool see you tomorrow’ or whatever. Like someone casually mentioning their gay relationship isn’t the moment to go all out with your ally bullshit, they’re not Coming Out to you they’re just talking about their lives
hogwarts crammer update: ch7 will be out next weekend! this chapter ended up a lot longer than i thought it would be and has required a lot of edits and rewriting, so i want to spend time with it and make sure it is decent and the jokes are good jokes. i know it’s tough waiting on a wip! i appreciate you all hanging with me, that is great! but please stop begging me for an update, it gives me the Stress - i’ve enough of that in my regular life, as i’m sure you relate my dear pals. the love you’ve shown this dumb story adventure has truly made my life great and i very much appreciate it, i hope you continue to enjoy xx
…other people won’t like it. So maybe we shouldn’t do it. And finally, we’re like, ‘Why in the fuck not?’ Lynn Fleetwood, I know you’re out there. Do not tell anybody that you heard that. I do not swear on stage. Ever! I swear in my regular life, but I do not ever swear on stage so I am… Let me apologize for that.
Anyway, I did say basically that. So we just decided, OK, let’s do it, why not? Without using the expletive. So anyway, it’s cool song. I have no idea what in the world at 21, 22 years old what the hell these… That’s not a swear word. That’s just, you know, a place. Um, I think that it’s… I can’t figure out what in the world I wrote it. I must have seen a movie or something that I wrote it about because it’s very interesting, intriguing words. So anyway, here it is, 'Crying in the Night.’
Stevie Nicks, 24 Karat Gold Tour, Washington DC - 14.12.16
Hey sorry to annoy you but I was wondering how to come out as nb to people who are new in my life I'm already out to my friends but I always get worried when someone new enters my life especially if I like them and I don't know how to tell them. Do you have any advice tips on how I could bring it up?
You’re not annoying me in the slightest. You should know that I also struggle with coming out to new people, but if I like them and I want them to be a series regular in my life then I always come out to them as nonbinary. If they are kind of ignorant about it and they wish to cling to their ignorance and reject the fact that you are nonbinary, then the two of you clearly aren’t a good fit. As far as introducing your gender identity into the conversation goes, you have two major things going for you: 1. other people that support you already know and understand it, so you don’t have to feel alone in this 2. opportunities to bring it up happen ALL THE TIME because most people assume other people’s genders– if you think the person seems cool, then try politely correcting them when they misgender you, and that’s likely to begin a dialogue about gender and your identity.